Every parent is entitled to a day off, ffs everyone jumping down your throat. Your not selfish for asking for one weekend off having no kids. I think hes selfish for not even making a day where he can spend with you, what people seem to forget is shes heavily pregnant, works long hours all week. I understand completely
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I’d say NTA if it was 1 weekend, but the post says “weekends”, such as more than one. So yeah, you wrong.
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Yeah you shouldn’t have asked that but it sounded like he also overreacted. I would think when you asked that it would have been a discussion not just pick up and move out. It’s hard to have a break when you have kids.
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You’re excluding his child in a way you dont exclude your own.if you didn’t have room for 5 kids you should have reconsidered your pregnancy as then you would have had plenty of space to accommodate his son.
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Yes, your completely in the wrong. I understand your tired, don’t have room, want some alone time, what the fuck ever but if that’s the case you shouldn’t have got with this man who already has a son and then proceeded to lay down and make another baby with him knowing there’s already 4 kids in the picture that you can’t handle or don’t have room for. If I asked my fiance to not see his daughter for even 1 day a week then I would except the same thing to happen to me and I’m 36 weeks pregnant with our first kid together. The kids always come first. He did the right thing.
Your gross. He only gets his kid one day a week. And to top it off THIS WEEKEND IS FATHERS DAY. Good for him for leaving and choosing his kid over you.
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You seem like a bitch to be honest. If he only gets his kid one day a week why would you ask him not to take him? Smh
Yeah you’re wrong. If you want to spend time alone and 5 kids are involved you need to plan that in advance. I don’t know what kind of work you guys do but maybe you can each take a vacation day or a PTO day during the week and spend the day together? You gotta make those arrangements in and and find sitters for a few hours. I get where you’re coming from. It’s important to have alone time as a couple. But his kid should be a priority to him.
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Extremely selfish. You knew he had a child before you guys got together. You can’t expect him to cancel seeing his son for you. Effectively you are making him choose between you or his son. I’d be pissed off too.
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Yes. You do not come first.
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He gets his son ONCE a week and you want him to give that day up? Hell nah. I’d be pissed too. And it would make him look bad to baby mama and cause all kinds of problems. Don’t step to a man with kids if you can’t handle it. Considering you have kids as well, I would think you would understand.
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Ok im gonna go the other way. No its not wrong to ask for 1 day. Sorry not sorry.
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Every other weekend? He probably looks forward to them weekends with his kid. I wouldn’t expect my significant other to ask me not to take my kid. I’d be mad too. Kids come first. I’m sorry but you should’ve expected no alone time from the start of having kids. My opinion
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I hope we’re all being Punk’d!!! I have no words…
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Really that’s what you signed up for when you get with some one that had kids that child becomes yours as well !!! Shame on you
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I’d of left too. That’s his son. You can’t ask him to do that. Any right person would pick their kid. It would be different if he lived with you( the kid) but he doesn’t.
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Yes you are in the wrong bc it’s his time with his son so he does feel like your asking him to choose he lives with you he sees you every day and if you told him his son couldn’t live with you it’s even worst how would you feel if he said he didn’t want to live with your kids
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I get needing a break!! Especially pregnant, but it is Father’s day.prolly not the best weekend for that
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Kids what can you say. Go find him. Suck it up cupcake.
I feel the need to clarify? You asked for one weekend alone or asked for him not to take him at all? One weekend sure have a break but All weekends? How would you feel not being able to see your children?
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Why not hang out on Sundays? Saturdays are his only days w his kid while you have them 5 days a week. Maybe you could’ve communicated that you wanted a day for the 2 of you a little better.
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I almost called you outta your name. I cannot!!
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Well. He’s a stand up guy. Good for him. Can’t have just your kids.
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Girl your so wrong on this, his son asks to move in your having his lil bro or lil sis let that poor baby move in with you guys make room for him let him share a room with your kids.
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You should’ve asked him to take his son on the Sunday that he is off from work and not Saturdays. When you met him he had this child so you have to accept he will be around his dad and you forever… if you want alone time take a walk by yourself and let him take care of his child . Hope you dont still feel this way when your new baby comes . I’m hoping it’s just hormonal
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Yes you were wrong.
Find time for just you two on the weekday evenings.
He only gets his kid on the weekends.
Thats very selfish of you pregnant or not
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Would you be pissed if he asked you to let your kids go to their dads more often so you guys could have time together?
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As soon as children are involved your wants and needs do not come first at all ever 
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Would you be pissed if your kids fathers gf asked him to not take his kids so they could have alone time? If your answer is yes, apologize to your man.
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I never would ask my husband not to get his kids… I always pushed for him to get them more. We have children of our own together & both have previous.
Pregnant or not; 40 hour plus work week; whatever the case…
I would never!
Have your ex keep your 3 if there’s an issue. Js
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It’s Father’s Day weekend. I don’t think it was a good time to ask. Maybe plan for next weekend in advance. But also, could he pick him up and he spends a few hours at his paternal grandparents while you go on a date and pick him up when you’re done? That seems like a way he could see his son for Father’s Day and you get a night together.
Would you be upset if he asked you to not have your kids over? I bet you would be upset. You can find a babysitter for a few hours and do a date night. Honestly once you have kids you are a parent 1st, before anything else.
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I would of maybe asked if he could of switched his day for one of his days off and started with you just wanted time with your BF.
Good on him for picking his kid. You see your kids EVERYDAY he sees his once a week let him have his time with his kid 
if you didn’t have room for 5 kids you should have reconsidered having a baby because his son is family too
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I would act the same exact way he did. You can’t make him choose when to be a parent with the little time he gets to see his child. Plan am alone day some other day when it’s not his time with his kid.
Good for dad. 
The kids come first.
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I have 4 kids with my ex. My husband has 1 child. And I’m 7 months pregnant.
He gets his daughter every single weekend… Even when my kids are at their dad’s house… .i hate it but I deal. That’s his kid. That’s been the arrangement sense before we moved in togather. I deal with it.
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Did you ask just for one day or for him to just straight up not get him? Also how did you approach the situation?? I find it hard to believe that you just asked him if you and him could have one day together and he left over that!? I can understand wanting one kid free day for the two of you but the way you approached it would probably play a huge role in how he responded. Your post also doesn’t make it clear if you asked for just one day or what? Plan ahead, ask him to plan a day for just the two of you some how. Or how about you don’t take your kids so you can have an evening together? Like I said approach often makes a world of difference.
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You’re a pathetic girlfriend for even having to ask this. Of course you’re wrong. As a mother yourself, you should understand limited time with your children.
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His son comes first and if you can’t deal with that then you have no business being with him. Grow up because children come first whether they are yours or his.
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That is beyond wrong of you! I do not blame him for leaving. That is his SON! His love, devotion and time needs to go to his child.
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You are 100% in the wrong
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You are sooooo wrong! You sound like you don’t like his kid, so why are you with him? And you are about to have a child together? Would you ever ask him not to pick up and care for the child you have together??? You need to accept the blended family that you have and love his child the same as your own or just walk away now before you scar his child for life. It’s a package deal just like everyone else said, and it’s disgusting that you are a mother that had the audacity to ask a father to leave their child. What is wrong with you woman???!!!
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I’d never ask for something like that, what if it was the other way around?! I’d pack my shit and leave too
If a man asked me the same I would be long gone and not even doubt that decision…
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Let him ask you not to have your kids over… I’ll see how that makes you feel…
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Wow…sounds like you need to figure out a birth control that works. Rude
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Whoa. You’re rude. Sorry lady. But, you dont do that. Why dont you go away for the the weekend alone?
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100% wrong, how would you feel if he was inconvenienced by your children and didn’t want them around because he wanted alone time to chill?? You give that right up when you have kids, just saying.
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I would pack my things and leave too. He barely gets to see he kid. Figure out a sitter on his day off during the week. Also if you can’t handle being step mom and helping care his child maybe you shouldn’t be with him.
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I think if she’s the one that’s looking after the little boy when he comes and the dad isn’t then she’s well within her rights to have a break! She’s 7 months pregnant works 40 hours a week and her own kids were not there…it’s one day jeez
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Gosh you’re a keeper 
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You’re pathetic and selfish
Yeah. I’d leave too. Don’t ask if I won’t get my child during my parenting time. And then you complain about having to watch him and say “if he wants to play with MY kids” sorry dear, those are his step siblings now. But you don’t see it that way apparently. You are trying to exclude him it seems. You knew he had a child when y’all got together. And you go pregnant knowing that too. You do know, that he may have the choice where to live when he is older. And he may choose to live with his dad. So, I’d say start making accommodations now. and get over whatever you’ve got going on in your soul.
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The fact that you resent a child so much is a red flag. I’m glad he left.
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That would not happen it’s his kid? I can’t imagine not seeing my kids for a few days let alone a week I’m sure it’s really hard on him. And like you said baby coming anyways so get used to it.
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You’re clueless ? Stop being Selfish and accept the fact that having children means less time for yourselves. Being a parent is hard but being a selfish parent is not cool. Even though you’re pregnant, YOU are expected to treat every single Child in your family with respect.
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I completely understand where you are coming from . No dont feel bad
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He was smart. Never ask someone to choose you over the kid. That’s very rude
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You’re 100% in the wrong. He’s a GREAT man and father for not letting that happen. His kid comes first, ALWAYS. Just like your kids should ALWAYS come first to you.
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I think the way you put it was totally wrong. Instead of asking him to NOT see his child for a weekend instead of hey, you wanna see if we can get a sitter for a couple hours should have been the way to go. I am proud of him for looking out for his child instead of catering to you and your wishes. Relationships with children are just that kids! All day every day. If you wanted peace and quiet you should have never had children.
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Nope your not wrong at all. Everyone needs a break and their is zero reason he can’t take his kid on the weekends your kids are home instead of every sat. Especially if your the one caring for said kid. Its not like you said hey don’t ever take his kid. Its 1 day for God sake. If he left over that instead of sitting down with you and coming to a compromise that works for both you him and all kids then he was just waiting for an time to get pissy and leave tell him bye boy.
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I think it’s ok to ask.for a day, get a new man
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You already have 3 kids of your own!!
Surely you knew when you had them that they were a fully time job?? Or did you plan to have part custody so you could have your alone time?
That’s so rude to say his kid can’t come over.
Why don’t you go somewhere to have your kid free time? He shouldn’t choose you over his kids.
How would you feel if he did it to this baby that you are expecting together?
Wow…
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Nah your selfish I sees his kid very little and ur asking him to drop that for u Jesus girl get over yourself
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Yeah girl, you better delete this post before they tear you alive, bc you are by far wrong!
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What about afternoons??? What about getting a sitter for a couple of hours? What about doing something at night at home while their asleep?
You damn right you’re wrong! Because you have lots of other options to chose from besides telling him not to get his son.
Why do we always blame the step mom doing everything and not wanting to instead of the piece of shit lazy ass dad ?
You are most definitely in the wrong
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Let alone it’s Father’s Day weekend. You rude as hell
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The girl doesn’t have her own kids this weekend and her bf works Saturday when he has his kid there for she is the one who has to watch him is what I got out of it. He needs to take his kid when he isn’t working to spend time with him. He’s not coming over to hang out with her I’d be annoyed if my daughter went to her dad’s n spent no time with him but with his gf JS! I don’t think your in the wrong
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Yea that was wrong he only sees his son on weekends. I would of done the same thing ,
No you’re not wrong to express yourself to your PARTNER, he’s not in the wrong to be upset, but to pack up his things and leave is excessive and a huge red flag. This could have easily been a simple discussion. It’s disgusting seeing so many people shaming you for this. Tsk tsk.
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It is not the step moms job to raise the kid while both parent do whatever the hell they want
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You were very very wrong to ask that.
Wish I could send my kids off with their father whenever I needed a “break”. Too bad I’m married to him and we live together.
But seriously, that was pretty terrible for you to suggest a thing. You obviously dont want anything to do with his kid since you wouldnt even consider having him live with you.
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Why not give your kids to the ex husband for a day?? Not for your boyfriend to give up on the one day he gets to see his kid. You sound selfish AF
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Wow. Uh you pretty much did. You dont get to cut into his parenting time for time alone. Plan a day off when he’s off and doesnt have his kid. Or genius moveget a sitter for a couple hours. That this kid and if it was reversed youd leave too
I don’t blame you for wanting one day alone before the baby comes! Now every weekend would be selfish. But you shouldn’t have chose Father’s Day weekend and maybe just worded it differently so he didn’t feel attacked.
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Wow you’re pregnant and heartless. Why even be with a man with other children if you can’t expect to be a mother to his children. You sound selfish
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I would have left too.
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Wow. You are so far in the wrong lane that no wonder there was a crash. You are dating a father. He should want to spend time with his child and you are a shit head for trying to make him choose.
Ask your kids dad to come take your kids for the day on his one random day off during the week. Idk I get where hes coming from…he only sees his kid once a week for a day…I get where it’s hard to find alone time to since his day Is every Saturday not every other…but he barely sees his kid…be sees you every single day even if there are kids also present …we dont all get to send our kids away to have alone time…matter fact most couples who have children dont get even a saturday every now n then to spend alone time…I know I have my kids 24/7 I’m lucky if I get a trip to the grocery store without at least 2 of em tagging along …consider yourself blessed that your kids dad takes your kids every other weekend cuz if he didnt you’d understand that normal parents dont get breaks like that. Had you stayed with your exs who would be taking your kids for that alone time? Lol
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No you’re not wrong everyone in this comment is freaking imbeciles and don’t understand what you’re trying to say because reading is fundamental .you have a right to have a break apparently you take care of his kid all the time and you have three kids of your own and you work 40 hours a week and your 7 months pregnant yeah you were not wrong you deserve a break .if you wanted to have alone time with your man you had a right to if he wants to walk away so be it
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You are INCREDIBLY wrong. I get that you wanted a day free for just you two, but he gets his child ONE day a week. You don’t get to ask him to give that up.
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You should have never asked that. I don’t blame him for leaving. That was an asshole move. Imagine that the shoe was on the other foot? Wouldn’t that piss you off too?
WOW selfish much .I would leave you too
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** B~I~T~C~H ** How dare you?
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There’s clearly more issues than just this if he packed and left. It also depends how you went about it.
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Well maybe ease into the idea and explain why. He’s right. He should see his son as often as he wants. Living you was where that happens.That’s a good thing he is active with his son.I guess you should not be considering marriage or long term stuff if an additional child is going to cause issues.
You don’t pick and chose when u are a parent from the day kid is born you are parent so he is right to pick his kid over you. Yes we all need time to ourselves but that’s his child who he spends only small time with anyway. You are being selfish to be honest. And people saying that you are heavily pregnant… Thats more of a reason in my eyes that you should be helping him spend time with his son before another child is born and takes more time away and change in routine for everyone. Be more considerate of your partners feelings as a parent or don’t get with a man who has kids. End of. You can’t pick and chose when your a parent. I’m actually shocked at this
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You’re an ass, he sounds like a solid dude/dad to pack his stuff and call you out.
Of course your in the wrong! I have 2 kids of my own and the mom has asked the dad to have him live full time with us. Did i say no? Of course not. Im also off on the weekends and we barely have a day to ourselves except at night when the kids are asleep. No room for anymore kids but youre pregnant?
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Yes u was in the wrong
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Yeah you are in the wrong. If you have your kids all week and he gets one day on the weekend with his kid how can you even ask him to not have his son. Even for one day. You guys live together. You see each other everyday and he sees his son 1 day… nah I’m with the boyfriend. That was way wrong.
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I’d leave too. Good for him putting his child first.
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Yea, completely unacceptable. I’d be damned if my boyfriend told me to not spend time with my kids because he wants to spend time with me. As a mother yourself, you should already understand that children come first.
Its fathers day, and you want him to not pick up his son… pick another weekend and get a sitter, but don’t tell him not to take his son on fathers day.
He did the right thing that’s a good father. You should never pick a person over your child
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Good for him for choosing his kid and leaving.
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