You hella dumb for this one.
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You’re pathetic for even asking him. That His child and he should always choose his son before all. You don’t have space for a 5th child as you say,but you’re pregnant with another child. He has a right to be pissed and it’s not freaking rocket science to make time for each other around one kid… he does sleep right? Poor kid.
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You could have or should have asked him to get his son on Sunday the day that he’s off to spend time with him in this case switch days to Sunday since it’s father’s day so you and him could have the night together. I think most of these comments are not really getting what it is that you want.
That poor kid prob feel like the odd one out. Just the way you phrased him when describing the situation. A family is unity. Sounds like you got ur self a keeper. The way he stands up for his son is what he will do with your child on the way.
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Let me guess, you are going to try and use this baby as a pawn in your relationship.
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Yes y’all need a break but I agree a sitter would of done just fine
You damn right you are wrong. You dont ask someone to not get their child PERIOD
We all get you wanted alone time but it was wrong to ask. What if it was him asking you to not see your children. You need to also look at it in his perspective. So sad he would like to live with you guys full time and you didn’t even want him at least one day. 
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I know that you didn’t mean any harm in the statement and boyfriend should have conversated with you instead of getting mad and leaving
Get. A. Baby. Sitter.
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If u can’t handle being with someone who has other children n only sees them at weekends and just cos it doesn’t fit in with ur plans …ur not with the right person…round of applause to ur boyfriend for putting his child first i would do exactly the same. How would u feel if he told u to send ur kids away on his day off during the week u would be livid
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Being a parent is a 24 hour job. If he takes his kid for the weekend find a baby sitter. If you want alone time. Your not in the wrong for asking. And he isn’t in the wrong for over reacting. But if you wanted alone time, you shouldn’t have so many kids.
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Y’all need to quit giving her Hell. She asked him for ONE day. One.
I’m sure between work, pregnancy and the kids she’s exhausted and needs a night with just him. Y’all are acting like she’s asked him to quit seeing him altogether.
We are ALL moms and unfortunately sometimes we all need a down day.
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I have five kids all the time so idk about that day off stuff, that was far and few between for us but I can tell you I would never give up time with my child if I didn’t have them living with me all the time for anyone or anything . Just my thoughts oh and Father’s Day is this
Next weekend so he should be with his kid I think but to each their own.
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He works Saturdays & that’s the day he gets him? He’s not getting him to parent him. He’s getting him for you to parent his child. You have the right to your personal time. He doesn’t have the right to make you be his child’s babysitter. It’s good he moved out. I’m assuming he doesn’t take his kid on Saturdays now since he doesn’t have a babysitter.
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You sound like a selfish b***h tbh 💁…its his son…get over yourself…I’m sure you knew he had this child before y’all moved in together so if you wasn’t ready for it you should have thought it through more smdh
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Wow. Don’t blame the guy at all. And, it is fucking father’s day wkend!
You gotta lot of growing up to do. My ex from yrs ago had a daughter who we took every other wkend. Guess who drove back and forth sometimes over 3 hrs round trip to get her while he worked, or took care of her while he worked literally ALL wkend. She would see him for barely any time…but damn that time they got to spend together meant the fucking world to both of them!!
Karma is a bitch. I sincerely hope that your kids with your ex get the worst step mother ever. You deserve to feel the pain that I’m sure his child does with you.
Maybe if you had specifically said, I’m just tired and would love a day with just us before the new baby gets here, maybe even just for half of the day. I mean geeze people, the woman takes care of 4 children and is 7 months pregnant. It is commendable that he was so against not being with his son when he had the opportunity and had commit to that, but I think there could have been more conversation before he packed up and left. That seems dramatic.
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Isn’t this weekend Father’s Day? Wow! Asking a dad to forfeit Father’s Day weekend is sad
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If you need one day to take a break I don’t see the problem, especially when your kiddos are with dad for the day and you only have one child. Also if he’s working he’s not there with him regardless so I don’t see the issue, he should want you to relax. It’s important to relax a lil bit while your pregnant, especially that far along and with his child. Stress isn’t good on the baby. My pregnancies are HARD and having three kiddos to care for while pregnant is difficult especially during the lockdown when grandma may not be a call away anymore.
Yes it’s a lot of work but u chose this, u chose him and his kid as a package deal and you should treat his kid as your own. Saying he can’t have “his kid” over is wrong of u. I also applaud him for sticking up for himself and his child. Ask him to help out a little more but don’t put him in a position to choose
Hell of a man I wish my ex husband had the balls I’m sorry but you’re wrong
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Would you not get your child? Can you think of any reason in this world that you would allow anyone to say you shouldn’t get your child. WTF is wrong with people??? My God you should do nothing but ENCOURAGE this man to get his child EVERY CHANCE HE CAN. Did you even think of the child im sure that baby wants to see his daddy
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Good for him for picking his child first no matter what.
I get needing a break and wanting a day just the two of you, but perhaps that could have been phrased as “I’m tired and I’d love a day just us before the baby comes, can we plan one?”
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He has ONE Kid and you have 3 or 4 I’m not sure but if the shoe was on the other foot is woman would be bashing him hard so be grateful he’s dealing with your multiple children when you only have to deal with one of his . Good luck to both of you and I’m glad he didn’t just let you bully him .
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I’d pack my bags and leave you too. Cruel.
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I’d of had the same reaction as the boyfriend. Send your kids to their father on a day he doesn’t have his son. You can’t ask someone to give up a their time with their child for you. What are you gonna do when you can’t send the baby away
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Did you even stop to think that maybe that little boy wants to be with his daddy on father’s day???
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Your boyfriend is awesome. His son comes before you.
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You walked in the relationship knowing he had a child. Not the child’s fault nor should the child have to miss out on dad time because you can’t handle being a stepmother.
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He sees his kid one day a week & you’re trying to take that away from him? His son and the child you will share soon come before anything, they come before you and your needs/wants. If you need a break which I understand, (as a pregnant mom and stepmom myself) then go out for day alone and come back better then you left. A man should never be put in the position to choose one or the other and maybe you didn’t realize at the time but that is exactly the choice you gave him. His son seems like he likes you and likes being at your house, you need to embrace that and embrace your blended family.
Don’t listen to all these haters… it’s not like you were trying to get him to stop seeing his kid, you’re just wanting a day where y’all can spend time together alone and focus on each other… EVERY RELATIONSHIP needs that once in a while to stay as strong as it possibly can so no I absolutely don’t think you were wrong just for asking for one day together… I’m sorry but if he left that quickly without really discussing where you’re coming from and trying to come to a compromise or solution then sound like he was looking for any reason to leave… that just my opinion… wish you the best of luck sweetie❤
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Wtf is wrong with you!? He has his son 1 day a week, and you actually asked him NOT to have him?? I would have done the same as he did, but i would not be returning.
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I personally would have not asked my boyfriend that. I understand you’re a busy women , 7 months pregnant & want some time with your boyfriend . But the man only gets 4 days out of the month with his son… & asking him to take more time away from the very little time he gets with him already is selfish in my opinion … you never mentioned it , so I’m assuming your boyfriend has never asked an absurd favor involving your guys children , so why would you ? Hes with around your children too . If you
Have a problem caring for his child while he’s there , maybe that’s something you should have sit down and explained to him that your just worn out .
The thing I personally find most selfish tho , is the son wanting to move there & you denying because your children already live there & you don’t have “room”… now if tables were turned & that was your child wouldn’t you think you would have felt very hurt / disappointment from your significant other ?
I’m not trying to sound rude here, just being honest as I’m a step mom as well to a beautiful little girl that I care for and love just like I do my biological children, and I never once thought of asking my s/o that . Thats what sitters are for , so you guys can have a “date NIGHT with out kids.
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All I’m gonna say is GOOD ON HIM! If you wanted a break without kids and he has his son, then you should find a way for YOU to have a break instead of asking him to forfeit time with his son. That’s a good man for choosing time with his son.
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That is cruel, how could you do that, does he stop you from having your children? Does he make you pick him over your children? Why can’t you have 5 kids in the house?
I don’t think you are wrong I have had SO ask me to leave my little one for the night with my parents so we could have a night alone it’s just one day it’s not like you told him you don’t want his son around
You noted he has Sunday off work. Why couldn’t yous do something sunday after his son was to leave. If he only sees his son on saturday nights/sunday then why tf would you ask to take his 1 day with his child away considering said child only sees him 4 times a month then… seems pretty selfish weather it’s to enjoy time alone together or not. Pick a day he don’t have his kid. You don’t see him asking you not to take your kids. Smh. Maybe involve both yours and his kids into a family date thing. Never ask a parent not to take their child and be like “am i wrong?” like ugh yes your wrong.
So proud of your bf for putting his child first. You should also next time. I’d have left you and took my shit that moment you asked.
Jesus she wants a “date night” with her fella…(not fatherdays ) how many would get a babysitter or ask a relative to look after the child/ren to go out with friends or doing nights out… once in a while is fair enough not like shes out dumping her kids on whoever and getting wasted.
People need to have that 1-1 relationship time where its not mum and dad for a few hours.
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Also, isn’t it Father’s Day weekend…? Weird you would choose this weekend of alll weekends to ask him to ditch his kid… for you…
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You asked him not to take his Son on the weekends and in the end you said you just wanted to spend one day with him before your Baby arrives 
… you dont have room for his Son but you have room for Baby on the way … 
As a Parent yourself, you should know better . Yes, you were in the wrong, if you wanted some alone time with him, just be straight up with him that thats what you want so you can mutually plan a time to do that - but dont be a sook and tell him that he cant see his Son . Thats a hell no, so you should understand why he packed up and left … yes, as Parents we eventually need a break and spend time with our partners but just dont bring it up like that to him . You really needed to think that over before you approached him like that … but anyway, all the best!
Honestly…GOOD FOR HIM!!!
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Rude. He has one little boy, he sees on a weekend .
And if you can’t handle your kids and his kid why in the actual hell are you pregnant again?! You have room to make for your child with him but not the child he had before you came along? You sound like a real douche waffle. Sorry not sorry.
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Wow. Just wow. I’m divorced and have my son full time and my daughter 50/50 and even I know parents don’t get a break. How rude to ask him to choose.
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He made a child, that he sees once a week…and you need a break? Maybe his son’s mother needs a break? She gets one day a week…maybe his son needs to see his dad…he gets one day a week. I hope this is just hormones for you.
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Yeah, you were dead ass wrong.
Kudos to your boyfriend!!! This is the level all dads need to strive for!!! KIDS COME FIRST! DONT DATE A SINGLE PARENT IF YOU ARENT PREPARED TO TAKE ON THE PACKAGE DEAL! #sorrynotsorry
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Glad he was man enough to pack his shit and go. I would too if I were him.
Not another poor little baby coming into a terrible mixed up relationships.
Oh stop having babies…stop letting guys move in…
Get on with looking after your kids.
Alone time doesnt come anymore.
Oh poor kids.
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You’re way wrong. You see noon every day. His child, sees him one day. And you’re asking him to give up that one day with his child. And not see his child for basically 2 weeks? He also deals with your multiple children daily until they go to their dads. If you didn’t wanna deal with kids 24/7 and when you didn’t have your kids, you shouldn’t have got with someone who had a child with someone else. He’s completely right, you have no right to ask him to give up any time with his child, especially when he only gets 1 day a week as is. What if he asked you to give up your time with your kids?
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Can you not spend time alone on the day he’s not there since you have sat and sunday off?
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I would never pick a man over my child. I wouldn’t expect a father to pick a woman over his. Plus, he only gets every Saturday with his son.
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Good for him. He shouldn’t have to pick his kid over you and if you didn’t have room for all of the kids you should have thought before and used birth control. If it’s a date night you want, schedule it in advance and find a sitter for your kids and his. Plan it out with his kids mom and your kids dad. Sorry girl.
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Good for him. He’s a good dad 
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She never asked him to pick his son or his son , i so get where your coming from im in a similar boat , my son sees his dad 3 weekends out of a month and the weekend we have him my hubby doesnt have his daughter, how is communication with the boys mom would she consider switching a saturday for a Sunday once a month, its not to much to ask, i honestly hope things work out for you
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Awesome man!!! He did the right thing!!! You want him to be around yours and of course your new one but want him to cut back on the one day a week he has his wow smh. What if he asked you to have your kids live with there father or since he has one he only wants to deal with one of yours.
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I completely understand that you wanted one day to yourself with him maybe sit down and say look I only want to spend one day with you a date night or something like that don’t say like you did it’s a bit hard hey put it a date night is fine having fun with your partner is absolutely fine she’s not asking him to end because he has a child she’s asking because she wants one day with him only let’s that is totally understandable hopefully you can sit down with him hun and just say I would love a date night or a date day going to the movies together before we have this little one is that ok if we get a babysitter or something like that she’s not asking him to give up his child
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Kids before ANYONE else! You shoulda thought before you spoke in my opinion. Father’s Day weekend is about kids being with their DADS so if he comes back you need to make sure you swallow your pride and you apologize to HIM.
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Yea ouch. Your attitude is like you’re doing too much for his son as is. Turning away his son could easily ruin it for you guys altogether. Time to step up or let him go to someone who will!
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Yeah. You’re wrong. It is Father’s Day weekend. He deserves to see his son.
If you want alone time with your boyfriend, then you need to figure something out during the week when you do see each other.
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Its not wrong to ask for one single day… but not like every weekend… if he is already getting limited time with his kid that should be 100% top priority… If he were to miss or reschedule a day it should be VERY few and far between… He should ABSOLUTELY have the option to have his kid living there as well… I dont care if room is limited… Make room… Find. New place!
So let me get this straight you expect him to deal with your kids 90% of the time but you can’t deal with his son for a weekend ? How selfish are you lol. It’s his child I would have packed and left your ass to . His kid comes before anyone even YOU ; you can’t ask him to give up the only time he has with his child , I can’t imagine ever giving someone that ultimatum.
No, you are not WRONG! When u all met, I’m sure u all went on dates without any kids n it’s normal for couples to date continuously. Well when the baby gets here, leave it on him and take u a personal break, since he doesn’t want alone time without kids! I’m sure he’s going to love being overly suffocated by a newborn!
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I’m so proud of your boyfriend! Not many dads put their kid first.
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Oh, i thought he only had his son 1 day out of the weekend, but i think you’re saying you watch his son saturday and he spends time with his kid all sunday? What if you go on a date and get a sitter.
I sure hope all of you people calling her selfish don’t ever leave your children with babysitters to go on dates with your significant other & never did in the past or do in the future take a baby moon, since technically that’s all this mama was asking for or voicing a need for.
On the other hand though, the way you refer to your bf’s child & the way he reacted to you voicing a feeling or need seems to show that you’re both not completely prepared for a blended family…
It’s not all black & white, wrong or right in matters like this one, it’s about balancing things out for the well being of everyone that is a part of the family you both are creating together.
From personal experience I would suggest family counseling.
Parenting & Marriage are both very hard in general, when you have to add blending families together to create one household it’s never something simple.
Expectations & boundaries need to be discussed & set from the get go otherwise you’ll both just be creating resentments towards each other and/or towards kiddos who at the end of the day never asked to have any part in any of it.
Wishing y’all the very best!
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Can he move in and ask your kids to leave? Get over yourself all you did was put your kids over his. All kids should be equal. Period. Yall need a day find care for all kids not just his.
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Amen to your boyfriend,
I understand what you ment by asking for just one weekend but he only gets that day with his son, my son goes to his dads on the weekend and if his girlfriend forced him to not have him firstly my son would literally think his daddy doesn’t love him anymore and would be so sad. That day is there day to bond and spend together please let him have that day and sort out another day maybe put your kids in childcare or something and a day off work just a day and spend that day doing something special. That day he has with his son is so important
I am currently pregnant with my boyfriend and have my own kids we never get time together alone anymore,
He doesnt have any other kids but if he did his kid would always come first being a parent you should know how important they are kids always come first before our own wants and needs it doesn’t matter how selfish we want to be , being a parent is the most selfless commitment we sign up to. It’s our job to give our everything to our children.
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The man gets one day a week with his kid and you want to take that away from him? How about sending yours away for a day off, instead of denying him his one day?
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I would have left too! You can’t ask him not to see his child
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I’m lucky my boyfriend don’t ask me to not have my children around any time at all. He takes care of them and doesn’t go on how he takes care of them. I’d walk out too if that were me.
It’s Fathers day on Sunday. He should be with his son.
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Good for him. You sound fucking awful.
If he only gets his son 2 days out of the week I can understand why he’d be upset. That’s his son. Why not pay a babysitter for the night instead?
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Kids come first! Good job dad!
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Hang on…you have a baby on the way but you don’t have room for his kid? Sounds there is more to this than you are actually telling. Instead of asking him not to see his kid cos you need a rest which is selfish, you should’ve asked him to take them out for the day.
And what a great dad he is to put his child first!
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Yes you are 100% wrong
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Uhhhhhhhhh. Youre 100% wrong. How do you have your own kids and not understand that? You can ask him to be more involved but like… thats his kid
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How would you feel if he told you he did not want your kids during the week?
Unpopular opinion:
I don’t think you’re wrong for this at all. You’re just asking for ONE day with just him. Relationships need that. Maybe try to approach it differently. Help him understand that you’re tired & want some time before a new baby enters your home. I would plan to have one day each month just you & him. Then a different day each month plan to have all kids together.
Then a different day each month let him have time with just his kid & you just your kids.
Also remember that y’all are now a blended family. It’s hard but such a blessing. Hope this helps 
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Would it possible to compromise and maybe find a babysitter so y’all can go out for dinner and a movie or something?
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Seems like theres a lot of pandemic anger in this post …Im not even going comment just know a lot of you need to be slapped …I hope all you parents who have a partners stay together because some of you would be sad puppys as single parents
You shouldn’t have gotten into a relationship with someone who has a child if you weren’t ready to also have said child. The way I was raised, if you get into a relationship with someone that already has kids, those are your kids to love and care for as well.
Stop picking favorites, or let him stay gone.
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That’s good of him as a dad, but I also understand why you wanted a day with him alone but girl I also got to tell you, if this is the issue why in the world are y’all having another baby? Without sounding like a complete bitch, you might wanna discuss birth control after you deliver.
I’m gonna get so many ugly comments. I can already see it
Yes. You were wrong. You asked for opinions.
So it’s ok for your bf to have your kids but the you’re moaning about him having his. Poor boy
You were a mad bitch!
I was under the impression this was a supportive Mom group where we would support other moms. Quite frankly, some of you are ABSOLUTELY disgusting and choose to bother a PREGNANT mother when she is asking for advice?!? What in the actual fuck is wrong with you people???
real dad right there!!! 
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I would say you’re wrong to think time with his son is less important. He lives with you. Not his son. This weekend is also father’s day. How dare you ask him to spend it away from his kid
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This is all so much. First off where 3 eat 5 eat. People freak out about more kids but you honestly can make room for them all. Your choosing not to and the fifth one in the equation is the one in your belly not your step son because he was already in the picture when you chose to start this relationship. How is it okay that he lives with your 3 children but his living with you wouldn’t work. Now you are entitled to be tired and want alone time and if you get that time off with your kids it’s not wrong to want alone time from one that isn’t yours as well especially if your the one watching him. But since he deals with yours more than you with his and you see yours more than he sees his I think it makes sense why he took offense to it. It would of been better to ask for a babysitter or for you to agree on a day that is ideal for both without offending him since he doesn’t see his son often. It’s also not your obligation to watch him but think about that when he’s living with you and your kids and what kind of relationship or help you ask of him to your kids who also aren’t his. You gotta look at it both ways and how you will approach it. But In the end it’s definitely normal to want alone time and a break from the kids especially pregnant and almost ready for a new baby in the home. Means busy busy busy and not so much rest.
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Actually you did, and hates off to him for being an awesome dad. How would you feel if he told you there was no space for one of your children?. Or he didn’t want your kids there?. It shouldn’t be mine and yours it should be ours. Have kids share a room, boys together and girls together. There is always ways to make it work.
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Honestly, yeah. That’s messed up.
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Is this a joke? Like are you looking just to hit a nerve with people?? Dumb ass question of course you’re in the wrong.
why did you get with a man who has a kid if you “don’t have room for him”? childish.
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Sunday is Father’s Day!
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So glad the boyfriend stuck up for his child! When you have kids whether they’re yours or not, they come first, always.
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Damn girl you ducked up
I understand where you’re coming from but to ask him to
Give up the little bit of time he has with his child is unfair to him and his son. Would you give up weekends with your kids if that was all you had ?
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