Yes it was wrong. How do you think his kid would feel that he couldn’t see his dad? Or your kids feel if their dad did that to them? If you need a break or some quiet book a hotel room. I’m glad your boyfriend stood up for his kid.
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If he’s a good dad he will leave your ass.
How many times do we say “we want the dads in our kids lives” but when they do it’s such an inconvenience? 
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I could never be with someone like you if I were a boy. I’m glad he chose his child.
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Your gross. And very very wrong. Thank God he picked his child over you. You’re disgusting to even try and have him pick you over his damn kid .
Well how would you feel if your ex had a girlfriend that asked him not to take his kids on the weekend?
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Is this a serious question? Surely a full grown adult with children of her own couldn’t be this selfish.
I dont blame him for walking out. You need to sort out your priorities.
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Good for your boyfriend! You are Indeed asking him to pick you over his child. I’d have packed my stuff to leave as well.
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This is a joke, right?! You sound like a real bitch…
You could ask maybe for just one day but not all the weekends off.
I don’t think you are wrong presay but maybe wrong wording. Instead of saying not having your son, maybe try and compromise with of instead of having your son come this weekend would you be able to work out having him on your day off during the week? That way we can have a day to ourselves without kids but you still get a day with him.??
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Dont have space for 5kids but yet your knocked up with another one🤦♀️wow maybe you should think about getting your tubes cut burnt an tied so you dont have anymore kids
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Yes ummm you shouldnt have got with him then or even got pregnant.
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Yeah I’d be mad. You chose to date someone with children and build a family. You chose to take on that responsibility automatically when you date someone with kids. There is no “break” or “time off from parenting. Also if you kids live with you it’s like saying your kids are more important than his and deserve your time more which isn’t right.
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Congratulations on being pregnant. !!Remember your emotions are up and down. Asking your boyfriend for one day for the two of you is not unreasonable. Blended families are difficult. Perhaps you can look at a calendar together and pick a day that can work for both of you. The fact that his son wants to move in with your family is a testament of your character. He feels love and accepted. I hope your boyfriend understands where you are coming from. Not out selfish attitude but a desired to reconnect and be nourished. Have a beautiful night.
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Kids come first period. When ur a parent u get no alone time!!!
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Yes, you were wrong…You could ask him if he knows of someone who could baby sit for a few hours so you two could have some time together.
You’re not smart 
if he told you not to take your kids for a day you’d probably be pissed too. He doesn’t deserve you. He deserves someone who’s gonna love his kids like their own. I said what I said. If you don’t want his kid around then you shouldn’t be with him at all. You literally told him that his kid doesn’t mean shit to you. I’d have packed my stuff and left too. He doesn’t deserve you
So why did you get pregnant if you don’t have the ‘space’ and he already had a son that wanted to live there? Are you gonna put the baby out bc you don’t have ‘space’ you can get a babysitter if you wanted time together…
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You knew when you met him he had a child. Time to grow up and accept responsibilities.
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When I first met ( now my husband ) he already had a son and I didn’t interfere with him getting his child . If they wanted just their time together I wouldn’t even come around on their weekends because that was all the time he would get , just talk to him , apologize . If he feels he has to choose he will and that’s probably why he left . He will always pick his child , as he should plus it is fathers day weekend . I can imagine how stressful it is with kids and that many but that’s still his kid he only gets to see sometimes so if he feels cornered he’s gunna get upset and mad . If y’all are serious and plan to be wether the mother is involved or not that’s still a step you have to take and understand what position he’s in .
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Although i think you went about it the wrong way, I get it. We have ours set up where we have all the kids the same weekend and then a weekend to ourselves. Our baby mama/daddy are on board as well. And yes we do plan some weekends when only his kids are here so he can spend time with them alone
I LOVE that he chose his child. No room for 5 kids? Honestly what’s the difference between 4 and 5? You sound like you’d treat him like a red headed step child…
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You’re not wrong for wanting the time alone together. But I would maybe ask for one day a month and not for him to give up every weekend with his son. He did the right thing by leaving. He can’t chose you over his son. Every once in a while it would be ok to have alone time, you deserve that.
I’d suggest getting a sitter for a few hours as opposed to skipping his parenting time completely. Or request off during the week when he’s off if you can and get a sitter for the other children. There’s NOTHING wrong with asking for alone time every once in a while, especially with 4 children and another on the way.
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Sounds like he was already looking for a reason to leave.
Does he offer to watch your children when your not there also? As parents there will always be sacrifices for our children 
Everyone on here is ridiculous. You’re 7 months pregnant it’s not selfish to need a day. I think maybe his son should be there but he needs to tend to him. There’s nothing selfish needing a break.
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If he doesn’t want to even try working with you and just packs his things then let him go you don’t need someone who’s going to be that selfish After all you’ve done for him
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You’re wrong. That’s his kid and only gets to see him on the weekends. It is ABSOLUTELY wrong of you to ask him not to spend time with his son.
You have your kids all the time, it’s UTTERLY selfish of you to ask him not to have his the little time he gets with him. You knew he had a son when you got together with him.
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Space or not you made a commitment to that child when u got with your boyfriend so you make room regardless get bunk beds
Imagine if your kid asked to live with you and your boyfriend said he didn’t have room for them… wow
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Wow. Despite the actual question for him to leave with his stuff for this nonsense; I mean well its not nonsense but anyways for him to leave for such a tiny thing instead of communicating it with you together or working out a solution just makes me think you got pregnant by a damn kid. That is so ignorant if he packed up and left for this if thats his child you are carrying!! 
Sorry, but you’re in the wrong here…if you don’t have the space then you make do with what you have until you find a bigger place together…being with someone who already has a child means you’re taking that child on as your own…& Vice versa …the children deserve nothing less
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Honestly if you’re that worried about it why not see if your children can stay gone longer? You have your children live with you and he inly gets certain time with him…I’m sorry but the day you started dating him you signed up to take on his son too. Good for him for choosing his son! The kid wants to live with you? Either make room or move, find a damn way. You get to have your kids live there, why shouldn’t he get that?
I think your wrong, he should be able to take his son and y’all can get a baby sitter and go out for a little bit together. You knew he had a kid when you started dating him. Although I’m not in a situation like this I am 9 months pregnant with a 2.5 year old and I would never ask this.
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that is the best thing be could have ever done!! you dont deserce him! ur a horrible stepmother. to begin with ur saying “his son, my kids” just right there u dont see his son as yours like it should be. and then why should your kids live with you but not his?? bcz u dont have space? so why did u get pregnant.what ur doing is disgusting as a human being its not the child’s fault.
You were wrong. 100 percent he did the right thing in telling you he wont pick you over his son. If you want a day together you need to sit and plan it together not just demand one weekend all of a sudden that he not take his kid, who he only sees once a week…
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Maybe suggest getting a babysitter every once in awhile when he has his son. Then he doesn’t have to give up any extra time. Y’all can go out for date
I would also. Never pick anyone over your kids. I don’t blame him. Sorry not sorry.
I would’ve asked him to switch a day that week, not just not to have him on the weekends at all. Could you imagine going without seeing your children? I couldn’t.
I don’t think you’re being selfish at all honestly
You’re 7 months pregnant
He could have changed his day to Something else
But he’s a guy and you’ll have to apologize
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Some of you women are just dumb and so judgmental SHES not wrong she’s tired and pregnant & works a lot she wants time with her man so what one day won’t hurt anyone! She’s not saying she doesn’t want his son over anymore or he can’t come over she saying can she have a break which she’s in-tilted too! Moms do a lot of work & chores to take care of kids & she’s pregnant so give her a break why is that bad??? Some women on her are so damn negative! Like all of y’all are perfect & don’t need a day to relax and chill lol! Y’all crack me up! All you have to do is talk to your man and let him know like babe we need a day for us every now & then without the kids nothing wrong with that! Talk to your man don’t listen to anyone negative talking shit because a lot of women on here are childish and negative acting like they never get tired or go through life! Remember opinions are like assholes everyone has one! Fuck em! Talk to your man and come up with something both of y’all are happy with compromise. And if you don’t like what I said then your the negative idiot I’m talking about! Lol and I don’t care!
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Good on him you won’t let the kid live with you which means during the week shared custody right and now you don’t want the kid coming over on the weekends so when is he meant to see his kid
Wow girl! You aren’t the girl for him if you aren’t prepared to be that kids other mother.
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Wow! Just wow! Children ALWAYS come first. They don’t ask to be here. I would assume you knew he had that child prior to him moving in and prior to you getting pregnant, therefore you should know that child is his responsibility as much as your children are yours. I’m super impressed with the way he handled that situation. He should storm out. He should leave. That means his children take priority in life just as they should. You appear to be very selfish and child like. I am married and unlike you I don’t “get a break”. I have my children every day. I even quit my job to keep them out of day care because of their health. I had them and they are my responsibility and I own that. Sounds like your boyfriend feels the same way about his.
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Wow how selfish and horrible.
Again you’re not in the wrong. It’s your house. You’re seven months pregnant. You take care of your kids and he leaves that responsibility on you when he is there. There is nothing selfish about needing a break or wanting a day to spend with him. He’s a piece of shit for just walking out especially since you are pregnant with HIS child. Personally don’t let him back in until he’s ready to act like a grown up. Also there is nothing wrong with not wanting MORE kids in a already filled home with a new baby. Fuck these Karens saying otherwise.
100% wrong. He already only gets one day & now you want him to cut it down?
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Ugh people she wants ONE weekend off… I don’t blame her ! Not even one weekend , just a day …
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She was asking for 1 day…to spend a day with just him before the baby comes…come on people…Smh…
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I’m sorry but yes you are wrong you’re very wrong.
He was right to get upset that’s his son, when you decided to be with someone who had kids, guess what babygirl you make a commitment to that child
That baby obviously loves you because he asked to move in with you and his dad, asking for one day off yeah I understand, but guess what, that’s what bedtime is for, that’s the only time I get a break
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You have 3 children and enough room to bring another baby into the world with him but not enough room to let his son live with you? I’d be upset starting there THEN you don’t want him there every other Saturday? I’d probably pack my bags too.
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I would have left too. He’s 100% in the right on this and kudos to him for being a good father.
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He smart then kids come first u just dint skip a weekend with kid and u dont have roo. For son but u do for another baby
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Well, when his next girlfriend asks him to decline the child you’re pregnant with now a visit you know he’ll choose his kids. 
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You knew he had a son before he got you pregnant and parenting is a full time job!
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When you chose to be with someone who already has children, you are suppose to love that child and take care of them as your own. I feel you are way left on this one and would have been upset myself if my significant other asked to skip a visit when I only have limited visits with my child.
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Why couldn’t you go out on sunday? He gets kid only Saturday so sunday you both should be kid free every other weekend, no? Or did i read the days off wrong🤔
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Selfish !! And what would he tell that kid? Sorry…she is not in the mood to see you today?
And you dont have room for extra kid but you are pregnant? What a shame!!
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You’re in the wrong that’s his child. If he only gets that child on weekends then when do you expect him to see him
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My kids father would freak out if I would say that. He gets his daughter every other weekend. Usually he picks her up and goes by his moms because his sisters kids are there for the weekend also and I’m home with my 3 kids myself. I get very frustrated to where I’d tel him to come over with her or I would go visit there. But you can’t suggest he doesn’t pick his kid up. That’s his child no way would he do that. I never have a break ever ever ever it’s comes with being a parent. If you want alone time u should call a family member or a babysitter to watch the kids for a few hours and go out or something. You will never have a break. Ever. So don’t even think about it lol do what mostly everyone does and call a parent or someone to babysit.
You asked for 1 day and he packed his shit? Dude LEAVE. Don’t let him back. What a little prick lol.
Yes you were absolutely wrong in my opinion. He’s obviously a great dad because he chose his child over you. He will every single time if you make him choose. He only gets 1 day a week with his son. You should rearrange your schedule to have a day with him on a different day instead of asking him to give up his 1 day he sees his son. Kids should always come first
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I think he’s over reacting. You werent telling him to choose, you were simply asking for a date night. Clearly you didn’t explain it well enough for him. But I also wouldn’t stay with someone who clearly doesn’t think about his pregnant girlfriends feelings.
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Yup- totally out of line and good for him! Kids come first.
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Sounds like a good dad!
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Good for him! You knew what you were getting into! It’s not fair for him not to see his son on his only day of the week! Selfish!!!
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If you dont want the added work/stress hire a babysitter or have a parent or relative watch him. You ARE allowed a break. You SHOULD get quality alone time with hubs. But you cant not get the kid. Hire a sitter 
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To the people saying “oh come on it’s just one day”…yeah the ONE DAY that his baby boy looks forward to ALL week to spend with his Dad and family!!!
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Good for your BF ! His child needs his father ! Very selfish of you to ask him to put his child second .
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He only gets his son one day. Yes you are definitely wrong.
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It’s a package deal when you walk into a relationship with children from another relationship! My now husband and I got together when my son was 10yrs old. I was divorced for 3 yrs before I met my wonderful man of 20yrs. My son that is now turning 31yrs old loves his 2nd Dad with all his heart! And he put us thru alot in his teenage years! But he was always there! So, you knew what the deal was. It’s all or none. Just my opinion.
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I dont see anything wrong with her wanting a break she pregnant works all week and her 3 kids go to their dads on the weekends. She stated that her bf gets a day off during the week and a day off on the weekend i dont see anything wrong with her asking if this one day they can spend together before the baby comes and they have no time together. Like she said she works all week and is pregnant and her weeke ds are her break but she doesn’t get that because then she is taking care of the bf son on her days off. She never said she didnt want his son there at all she just asked for a day to spend with him. Excuse her for wanting a break from all the kids not just hers
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I feel bad for all of these Karens kids 
so if his only days off are during the week and Sundays and he has his kid on Saturdays then who is watching him on Saturday? Oh that’s right, HER. Morons
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Yes you were wrong. Good for dad sticking up for his child.
Girl, when you’re dating a parent their kids become your family too.
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So, you think she is in the wrong when she is the one having to care of the kid when he is there? Wtf? It’s his kid and he pretty much wants her to babysit while he works or does whatever. It sounds like he isn’t for you…Not that he wouldn’t not see his kid, but that he thinks you should be the one taking care of his kid. You probably shouldn’t be dating someone with kids which is why I wouldn’t marry a man with kids.
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There are 7 days in a week and you are asking him for a date day on the one and only day he sees his kid? That’s just wrong.
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You have no right to ask him not to take HIS kid… If you didn’t wanna deal with that you should have dated someone with no kids. His child should not have to suffer because you are knocked up I said what I said
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Yes, you are wrong. You knew your boyfriend came with a son. I applaud him for choosing his son first. Get over yourself. Children come first. I don’t care about the situation.
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At least you asked…he didn’t have to overreact. Maybe the communication could have been better. Next time ask if y’all can arrange a day alone with no kids
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So you wanted to change days that his son comes? If I were you, I’d stop doing those things that he should be doing for his child. Sounds like he is taking you for granted. Tell him it’s your day of rest from your kids and he is in charge of worrying about the shopping and meals on the one day a week that you get off. I had to do that with my boyfriend. It was always up in the air if his kids were coming or not and I got tired of being the one worried about shopping and cooking when there were never any real plans or they get changed last minute. I cook for the rest of us the rest of the time but I can have a plan ahead of time. Don’t ever make him choose because that is wrong. Make him be the one responsible though. Maybe he will gain a better understanding of why you need the day off.
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Wrong!!
Regardless of the weekend you were wrong…but damn!! This is Fathers day Weekend coming up.
Good for him. You are definitely wrong for asking him not to have his son. He gets his son one day a week?? And you want him to give that up for you?? That’s really unfair and awful of you to even ask.
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Is he there for your kids all week? Does he complain to you about your 3 other kids? Blended families are tough, but when you decide to be with someone with kids thats the deal. My husband adopted my oldest son. And although his kids live about an hour and a half away, I understand the importance of their relationship. Its a two way street.
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You’re pregnant and work full-time. You deserve some kid-free time before you have your baby.
Yes and no. You could have worded it different instead of just asking for him to not get his kid. You could have said you would like to do something with just the 2 of you. And left it there. But he over reacted by up and leaving instead of talking about it. The last alone time me and mine have had was sometime in December.
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I didn’t even read the rest of this post. Just the “was I wrong to ask my boyfriend not to take his son this weekend”
YES YOU WERE WRONG.
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You were wrong! His child will always come before you.
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The boyfriend is an asshole. I understand kids come first, my daughter comes before everything, but asking for ONE day was not wrong of you. Anyone who thinks this clearly doesn’t know how to juggle a romantic relationship along with parenthood. However, you could ask that he picks his kid up at a different time instead of not being able to pick him up at all that day.
So he puts up with your kids but you can’t with his? I’d leave your ass. That’s a real man for standing up for his son instead of kissing your ass.
He gets to see his son once a week. Kids are a package deal, in my opinion. You should have dated someone who does not have children if this is an issue for you.
Also, if you need a break can’t your boyfriend and his son go do something together while you stay home and rest for a few hours?
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Asking for his son not to come over for father’s day weekend?? Prolly not the best timing… 
But maybe the communication was just off between you guys… Also… Why does he get his son on a day he doesn’t have off?? Maybe asking him to try and get things switched to his day off was what you were trying to ask??
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Wow… wtf were you gonna do if y’all got married?? He made the right decision here…
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You fucked up and I would have done the same thing as him. YOU KNEW HE HAD A CHILD. If you needed a “break” you should have found a man without kids. I literally cannot stand women like this and I hope for his sake and his child’s, he stays gone.
He clearly overreacted… geez he just want a free babysitter
Wow. Shows what kind of mother you are.
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Let’s not forget it is FATHER’S DAY WEEKEND. 
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Why not him have his kid on Sundays and then Saturdays can be date night? Since he’s off on Sundays, it would make more sense for his son to visit him on sundays instead.
If you are with him, his kids are your kids now …PERIOD. I honestly can’t believe this post 
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