You did the right thing. He needs to be more understanding of the situation. You had no way to contact him. Put it back on him, he’s out of line on this.
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You did the right thing. One day he will feel the need to help someone and you’ll be the understanding spouse and he will be happy that you have that heart. I see why he feels that way, and you are blessed to have the military to assist in the end. Hugs, love, and prayers sent your way and to the other woman’s way.
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I see both sides but I still think he is overreacting saying he wants nothing to do with you over it.
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Sounds like he was looking for an out. Get rid of him.
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Probably would have gone over better had he had the ability to chime in.
In this snapshot of your life yes it looks like he’s being a bit over protective and over reacted. Unless!!! This is an on going pattern. If the op has a habit of giving away things “to help others”, brought strangers in her home, sent money to people to the point her "helping " others are put her family at risk then its a problem.
But if this is the only time. Op knew her and it was for a short period of time, until mom got there, then you did the right thing.
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You did a lovely thing and your heart was in the right place never apologise for being a kind human being . Ignore the shitty comments and in time hopefully Ur hubby comes around . I would have done the same if U were in your position. This world needs more caring souls
What an ass. Share what you have. Give to those in need. The only problem was that the dude bitched. Think about that you helped a pregnant woman that had no place to go. She did well. You did well. The only problem was that the dude bitched! Wow. And how can he accuse you of only thinking about yourself. You opened your door to a needy person. Wow.
No you showed kindness, please don’t feel guilty let him sulk a bit if he still plays up for a couple of days then there is something wrong with him he needs to show compassion to a human being, is he a soldier too didn’t he agree in his promise to help others…
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He was unreachable, she had an emergency & needed temporary shelter. He’s either unreasonable, or using it as an excuse for whatever…
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No you weren’t wrong. He, on the other hand, seems to have some issues
No good deed goes unpunished sadly. He needs to open his eyes and see you helped someone that didn’t have it at the moment. Being pregnant is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman’s life. You did the right thing.
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Yes you tried to contact him and should be understanding about the situation. I can understand where he is coming from. The situation is temporary and you did a good thing helping this woman out. He should be thankful it wasn’t another man honestly.
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I see both sides of the story. And I think his overreacting could even be from something her husband said to your husband. Apologize for not communicating before hand with him.
Where was the chain of command? This army guy was not allowed to kick her out. Obviously the chain of command didn’t know. He should be in trouble for this especially with her pregnant.
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I Would have done what you did! Right or wrong it’s called being sympathetic being compassionate and having a heart and I don’t think God would find anything wrong with that it’s time for you to evaluate your situation and don’t ever get pushed around by anybody!
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I understand his concern but I don’t agree with it. If that makes sense. He fell in love with you for your loving nature now why fault you got it?
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I think you did the right thing. But at the same time how long has she been there and when is her mom supposed to be coming to get her?
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To me sounds like he’s using this as an excuse to get out of y’all’s relationship. Jmo considering he surely knew of your caring nature when he married you. Because it’s not like you didn’t try to get ahold of him to begin with. Sounds like he has some major issues
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You did a good thing. The right thing? I dunno if there’s a right and wrong in this decision because everyone thinks differently and has different fears(eg. her hurting someone) but, you did a GOOD thing. Now, to you saying there’s no phone and no contact to ask him his opinion. So … how was he suppose to let you know he’d be coming home early?
Maybe he wanted to surprise you and have some alone time and was puuuumped to see you, then his welcome home wasn’t as he planned. I mean … girl… he left his family to be safe with you while he went and made the country or a country safe for everyone. He trusted you to hold down the fort, ya know? I still am not saying what you did was wrong. It wasn’t. You made a conscious decision to help another woman and soon to be mom out. I think his problem of wanting nothing to do with you is deeper rooted. Just doesn’t seem like a reaction for letting a human stay in your home. Plus if you left and took the kids he wouldn’t be able to control anything and kniw west’s happening, you could let 30 Homeless stay under same roof as your children… so, personally, I think you need to ask him what his real issues are. You being inconsiderate of others around you ( not my words, his) I think it’s just a smaller portion, he figured he’d use it as a get free card. OR I’m wrong and there’s his own personal reason like a army thing and her being a army wife 
I know there are goings they must follow socially … I believe. but you did do a good thing for her 
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Military has a way of training people to cut off attachment to their emotions. While much needed, it is frustrating for those who have to love this trained mindset.
Not sure if you are at all religious, but my military husbands background comes to a screeching stop, when I remind him my faith calls on me to love like Jesus and open my home to the needy.
We had something very similar happen and the safety aspect came up.
I said I pray everyday for protection. I could die crossing the street to check the mail. My faith does not call on me to lock myself inside and hide from fear. I walk this world with my Shepard, and if it’s my time than so be it.
‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’”
Jesus speaking in the book of Matthew.
You don’t have to be religious, but you can remind him you are the sweet and he is the strong. You need both of your strengths for a strong family unit!!
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Maybe your husband and her husband are actually together and that’s why he is acting like a total knob.
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Sounds to me that she out ranked u an his boss found out she was at ur house!
No. He is stupid and obviously incapable of empathy.
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There are military laws were he can get in trouble for even you taking the wife in. Technically he may have abandoned her but by law she still get her benefits etc. It can turn into a sticky situation. I get you were trying to do the right thing but she did not have to leave her home. Being in the military and abandoning your pregnant wife is a big no no. She need to look into it herself.
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I think you did the right thing. You couldn’t contact him and b you helped another human in need.
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No, your not wrong, he’s a jerk!
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If you were this woman, wouldn’t he want someone to take care of you?
What an odd reaction, could be looking for an excuse to get out of the marriage? Seems strange he would go off like this otherwise.
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No you are not wrong, is he looking for an excuse ?
You did the right thing. Stand up for yourself or else anything you do could set him off. Maybe he is tired of taking orders from people and wanted to take it out on you! Bottom line is you searched your soul and it told you to care for others. Bless you. Don’t back down. He should be thankful he has you holding down the fort.
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If he is usually an understanding person, give home a little time. From experience with spouses and long field times, they are worn out, angry, frustrated. If he is usually a jerk then you have some decisions to make.
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Sounds like he’s making an excuse to get out of marriage