Move on. It’s not about the food. He just needed an out
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So he came home and you left, then you left the next night as well. Where were your 3 children while you were at the bar and casino? Did you leave your 3 children with him? Cuz if so, that’s a little weird
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If his kid is eating it at the house in front of your kids then yes he’s in the wrong and if this is something he does often he’s going to continue to do it because he doesn’t see a problem with it.
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If he brought it home and they ate in front of the kids and you sure be mad but if they got it while they were already out and had some time together bonding don’t see the big deal but sounds like he’s done.
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He did nothing wrong by buying his son McD’s while he was out w his son. Should all the kids been w him and he only buys for his son, then yes, he would have been wrong.
Also, while you went out to play darts and to the casino, who looked after the kids? I’m assuming him?
You’re upset about food, and in response, you leave him w YOUR kids to go to a bar? - I would have grabbed my kids and grabbed food for us.
He already left, he choose his son over the relationship. As he should have done.
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Move out over a meal hmm 
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No he was wrong! Fair enough if he was out with his kid and only bought his kid food…but if his son brought the McDonald’s home and he was eating it in front of your kids and they didn’t have one that’s not right in my opinion
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If ya’ll living together as a family you def weren’t wrong. But i would just move on as it appears he has. That’s so extreme to just pack up and leave and not talk.
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No!!! U were NOT wrong!!! This cannot b the real reason he’s moving out!!!
If they were eating in the car before arriving home, then it’s ok. But if you are buying dinner and you bring it home… dude buy that 20$ pack of nuggets. If not Move along.
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This guy has been wanting to move for awhile… I think this solidified it…
why didn’t you get your kids McDonald’s?
Did he eat it in front of your kids?
So many questions…
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Imagine if you fed your kids and not his son when he was there he would be fuming and rightly so. Did he buy it and came home to eat it as he might of brought it on the eat and being far from home he thought of thought he to cold by time he got back x
You are definitely not wrong! And it would be perhaps a mistake if you hadn’t already specifically told him that upsets you. He definitely should have gotten all the kids something, or no one.
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Hell yeah he should have got your kids food and the fact that he didn’t like Boy bye 
let him go… he’s a boyyyy not a man! Bc a real man would never do that! Pff
So he’s leaving you over clown meat?
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He sees his kid 8 days a month and you’re mad he got him McDonald’s. You couldn’t get McDonald’s for your own kids knowing he doesn’t get to see his kid that often? Then you presumably leave him with your kids not once, but twice to go to a bar and casino. Sounds exhausting for him to have to walk on eggshells while spending time with his child just to avoid conflict. Conflict that could be avoided if you just decided to do something with your own kids when he’s out with his. Tbh I think he’s dodging a bullet by leaving.
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Wow looks like he was looking for a way out and took it. Move on. He apparently wanted to leave and he did. Someone who truly loves you wouldn’t leave that easily
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I think it would be kind if he offered. I don’t necessarily think it should be expected. You mentioned he was a hour away from home. I also think one on one time with your kids is good to do.
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You aren’t wrong for the situation with the kids but maybe you shouldn’t have went to the bar and casino either, innocent or not. Sorry but if I’m fighting with my s/o a bar is the last place in going to go and I would be mad to if my man done that too, you talk things out not leave. If you need to cool down, take a walk or go to another room. Jmo
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He can’t be perfect… but his kid worked or was good while he worked… he can have a special outting where his kid feels special… but I agree if the kid were to eat it in front of my kids then we would have to discuss how its unfair… if its money I’ll gladly pay you back for my kids meals… but this seems different… like he doesn’t need all the drama of 3 live in kids and being told how to treat his kid all the time. He misses his kid… let him have his 8 days be drama free or less drama at least.
Sounds like you both don’t need each other.
His son was probably hungry. They went to work together, so they had dinner together.
You went to the bar one night and then the casino the next?
It sounds like he was looking for an excuse to leave the relationship, and you were looking for an excuse to go and have a night out without kids.
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If he brought the food home and his kid ate it while your kids were there then yes, that wasn’t very nice of him.
But also you leaving 2 nights in a row I’m sure didn’t help the situation at all either. I think the lack of communication (you said you didn’t talk) was also something that could of definitely been worked on.
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He is allowed to have food with his kid. You got mad, went to the bar, went to the casino. Sounds like he’s tired of the drama.
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Yeah in my opinion you were wrong. He gets his kid only a week out-of the month. He had been with him all day and stopped to get him food. Not like he had your kids with him when he stopped for food. Also you decided to be spiteful and go out two nights in a row and I assume leave him home with your kids to watch… I don’t blame him for leaving. His kid is his priority…
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Look my fiance raises my 3 sons as his own. He has a daughter that we don’t see very often. When she is here, the rules are a bit different. If he let’s her get away with things, he has to let the boys get away with the same BUT if he flat out told them he was taking her to McDonald’s and not them this time it would be absolutely fine. Do yoy get angry when he does stuff for your kids when his isn’t around? No. Blended families are hard for adults but even harder for kids. Let that man have his time with his kiddo ESPECIALLY if he is already doing everything for your kids. All 3 of my kids get special time with him, why shouldn’t his actual flesh and blood? You sound like an asshole
He’s literally packed his shit and left, rather than talk about it, I wouldn’t waste anymore time on him, personally. As for the whole situation, if he brought it to eat in front of everyone I would have been mad because thats rude, but if he just grabbed it on the way home and ate in the car it’s whatever, I wouldn’t have cared.
you both have issues
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If he bought the food and it was eaten at home in front of the other children, it was wrong. If he bought it and it was eaten on the way home, it’s okay if the child was hungry
So, you got mad, left him with all the children and went play darts until you cooled down. You didn’t talk the next day, so you leave him again with the children, go to the casino and come home to him packing. He is done! You need to move on.
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So instead of working things out with him and talking about your problems you went to the bar and casino?
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You don’t love him, your in love with the idea of being a Married couple without being married, but from alot of the posts I’ve seen on here, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! GROW UP learn to love your self first, and quit depending on others to make you happy, he had been looking for a way out and you gave it to him…let it go move on!!!
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If he and the kid had a hour ride home and the kid was going to be late for dinner I think you were wrong . But honestly if I had a argument with my girlfriend and for the next two nights she was out at the bar and casino I would pack my stuff too
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You both sound like you’re handling this very immaturely. Two immature people will definitely not make it work unless you guys learn to grow up and work on the relationship together. If he’s moving out it’s already over and probably has been for awhile…
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Girl move on. If he’s not ready to accept your kids after a year and can’t even buy them a little 4 dollar happy meal move tf on. Because first off it’s rude af to eat in anyone face! If one kid eats they all eat the same thing. If he didn’t have the money or want to buy your kids food he could’ve parked sat in the car and had his son finish his food before coming back. You dodge a bullet don’t beg don’t question him nothing be happy your kids aren’t being singled out you shouldn’t miss someone who isn’t accepting or loving of your kids
Your biggest mistake was living together. That never, ever works Gods way and the right way.
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I guess its different strokes for different folks, If his child ate the said food before getting there then you had no right getting upset. The child was at his job all day so I am assuming the child had not ate all day so he was probably hungry to where your children were at home assessible to the food at home. Also you got mad and left your children there at the house I am guessing with him while you went out and partied…
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No he didn’t because he didn’t do in front of your children but it wouldn’t have hurt him to bring some home for them . And you went out to casino and bar the next day what did you expect .I don’t blame him he’s sounds like he’s had enough of all the drama move on hold your head up highenjoy your children wait till someone comes along who will treat you all the same
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You shamed a man for having 1 on 1 time with a kid he only sees 8 days out of the month. That leaves 22 days for him to enter act with your kids 1 on 1 without his son. I ain’t picking sides. I am just saying what happened.
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I have a Brady Bunch family & feel like the people that complain about this are the type of people that buy every kid a gift for every child’s b-day 
Like teach your damn kids that not everything in life is equal. My husband takes my stepkids on one of one dates while the rest of us are at home. And that’s quite all right. The kids all know they’ll have their turn. Whether with me or him. Y’all be throwing your “loves” away for the dumbest sh*t. Also, if your kids are there full time, did you leave them with him when you stormed out? Because if so, that’s weird given what you’re complaining about.
Households with kids should treat all kids equal; that being said he might not have thought the other kids were hungry or honestly just been ignorant of that hurting their feelings and it could be approached calmly and nicely. Like hey next time would you please bring food for the rest of the kids? They feel a little left out and I’d really appreciate it.
At this point I’d let it go, that’s a huge overreaction to an easily solved misunderstanding on both parts.
My live in boyfriend of over five years moved out over a fight over a garden hose. A garden hose. I’m sure he’d been planning anyway and used it as an excuse. The fact that you both have different views says it all. If he shared your views about the kids there wouldn’t have been an argument to begin with. Find someone who shares your views.
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He bought his son food you said he only gets his son 8 days a month so maybe he wanted to do something with JUST his kid who he barely sees 
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If he bought his kid food then brought it home to eat then yes I would of reacted the same as there’s other kids there aswell would of been selfish to do that but on the other hand if he was an hour away and ate it while they were out then no I don’t see the problem in that as I’ve done this myself when we have my partners kids if we’re out and get something while we’re out we don’t bring anything home for my son but if we new we were bringing it home then yes I’d of brought something back for my son also as you can’t treat one child without the other but by his reaction don’t think he wants the relationship to work anyway if he’s left over a situation like this
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If he pack his shit a move out over not buy kids food then y’all alreadygot bigger problems and the food issue ain’t it. Sounds like it was already over and that was the final straw.
I don’t think it’s about the food it’s how you dealt with it. You got mad and you guys didn’t really talk and get to core of the issue which is that it hurts you and your innocent children. The going out after to a bar and a casino is what made him want to leave. It was immature even if it was innocent. You don’t leave like that after an argument. It’s just not cool until it’s resolved. I think I might’ve made the decision to leave too after that.
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He’s was wrong
But you were wrong for going to the bar and the casino he prob thought you got drunk and cheated
Idk but when my husband and I have a disagreement neither of us ever resort to the bar or going out with friends in spite of everything
But I’m super sensitive about my kids and I would be so pissed off he thinks it’s ok to buy one child McDonald’s and not the rest
McDonald’s is a treat for kids and they could’ve easily got jealous and felt left out
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What?! You’re mad he fed his while he was at work? THEN instead of talking about it like an adult you left not once but twice…
He should run, run far far away! I hope he sticks to his guns and finds peace because it’s clearly not in your house.
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I don’t think he was wrong 
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Sounds like he just wanted 1:1 time with this child, nothing wrong with that
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You are the asshole. You left the man with your three kids while you went out and did your thing and your mad because he treated his son to one damn happy Meal. Get over yourself.
Totally wrong to expect him to buy McDonald’s for your THREE kids. He has one, of course you treat him the same. He treated his son to McDonald’s for going to work with him and doing a good job. Wow. I can see why he left
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All of my kids share the same mother and father. They get their own things sometimes 
I don’t see the problem with it especially since he only gets so many days. He wants to make it special. You have the mindset of everyone gets a trophy. He was fine getting his kid a special meal. Its not like he brought home nuggets and showed them to your kids and said, “Haha you don’t get any!”
Then after a fight you ran off twice as though you didn’t care to even try to fix what was going on. Sorry hun but you’re in the wrong here.
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Were your children in the car at the time of going to mcas?
If it’s a meal on the run I don’t see a problem unless they brought meals home and ate in front of everyone!
Then I’d be furious but to up go pub your dumping your children of to him to babysit.
That’s wrong he didn’t enter the relationship to be a babysitter at a drop if a hat!
That may have bipped him off as well.
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Like seriously he picked it up while they were out together. Each and every kid gets there own moments, don’t take that from them.
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I woulda left ya too 
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You have a bigger problem than him just buying your kids food. It seems like he’s very disrespectful and he doesn’t take how you feel into consideration. You also need to talk about problems that arise instead of going out days in a row and not dealing with the issue at hand. He left because both of you were selfish. 
If he wants to leave let him go. He has shown you who he truly is - believe him.
Both immature to have an adult relationship- sorry. 
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You’re in the wrongs here honestly. He barely sees his kid, he took him to work which was an hour away, I’m sure his son was hungry and I’m sure y’all got food at home where your kids were probably eating all day. Then you go out that night without solving the issue completely? I would have packed my things too.
No one’s gonna be mad at me for feeding my kid then leave that night to do other things.
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I’m not trying to be rude, but it sounds like you left A LOT out of this story and are giving us something EXTREMELY one sided.
If he bought his son home and his son ate the food IN FRONT of your kids, then yea that’s shitty. But it sounds like he just spent a day with his son and his son ate on the way home. They just had a fun day together, he doesn’t see his son that often…
I’m assuming you left your kids with him that night to go play darts and to go to the casino the next night?
If you’re in a fight and leave to go to the bar alone, it sounds like you were doing it out of spite and trying to make him jealous or something.
Idk this whole thing sounds fishy and like there’s so much left out.
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Damn. I have five kids today I bought the one that was out with me food and not the others because they weren’t with us. I guess I’m awful.
Your both in the wrong lol
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So you started an argument over mcds that he grabs his son to eat on his drive home or did his son eat 8t at the house, doesn’t matter it is still a stupid thing to fight about over a take out meal, you made it out to be like he doesn’t include your kids in nothing, ever and then you go to the bar instead of talking calmly to get how you feel out and then do it the next day, how else is he to take it, I would feel like you don’t want me anymore too. Sounds like ypu messed this one up and he wants out cause if you are freaking over fast food I can imagine what other small crap you freak out about. He had moved on and now you need to as well
He fed his kid after he took his kid to work with him— and only has him 8 days a month… then you go out that night and the night after? seriously?
Honestly he choose his child, his own happiness before you and you going out to party. He’s not wrong. You are.
Also who watched your kids when you went out two nights in a row? Who fed them? Did you take them with you?
I’ve heard the same line from quite a few men and women “went to the bar to cool down and play darts/pool. It was innocent.” When you automatically state “it was innocent” — usually it isn’t.
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Y’all should have discussed things like this and many, many other things Before you moved in together, would have alleviated so many problems in the future
You & the bf should sit down now and discuss parenting decisions before they arrive so your on the same page
yes they weren with him. if they were out with them that would be totally different
He should include yours too or get out especially if it’s your house
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No you weren’t, be glad he’s gone
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If he brought the food home and didn’t offer it buy your kids any then yes, it is a problem. If they stopped on the way home then maybe he wanted one on one time and was rewarding the child for going to work with him. Leaving to go out, without solving the issue was pretty immature.
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I think you were just expressing your true feelings. It could be that although he had feelings for you, a ready-made family just turned out to be too much for his level of maturity. He leaped before he looked so to speak. Heartbreak is hard. But you can look at it this way. Now the playing field is clear for you to meet someone who would include your kids for Mickey D’s and who would be willing to ride the ups and downs of being a stepparent. He’s out there somewhere. For now, one foot in front of the other. ( I knew a guy that would call ahead and see if anybody else wanted anything on his way home, they are out there).
That was a huge red flag and you need to move on
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If they ate out then he shouldn’t get your kids food. BUT if they brought it back to the house, all kids should have gotten food.
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I mean you really didn’t discuss the issue at hand with him…and took off to go to bars and casinos. All because he bought his baby McDonald’s that he sees 8 days a month. Maybe his child was having a hard time/day and he was being a dad and made it better with a happy meal…which there’s nothing wrong with? And you handled your anger like a teenager and took off. If I was him I would have taken off too…
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Your kids weren’t even with him. He was out with his son and his son got a treat, there’s literally nothing wrong with that. If he had had all the kids and only his son got something then there would be a problem. Personally, I think if you hadn’t run off to the bar and casino the issue wouldn’t have escalated to him leaving, but that’s just my 2 cents.
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Seems there is more to the story that it escalated to that point.
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Could’ve ended with a simple “hey honey, do you mind stopping back out to McDonald’s for my kids for me?”
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I don’t blame him for moving out !!! 8 days a month he bought his kid McDonald’s for Christ sake !!! Big deal get over your self !!! Then you argue and you take off 2 nights in a row and go out !!! I would have moved out too … you acted childish
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If he got the food and came home with it and ate McDonald while ur kids didn’t get any definitely be upset with him. Especially if u do for his child. U were not wrong for being mad at about the food but he probably left bc u went out both night when y’all both just got into it & he prob wanted to get out and cool off too but couldn’t because he not only had his kid but ur 3 too. I think y’all were both wrong but for different reasons but he was wrong about feeding his kid only for sure. And you’ve already talked to him about that and he did it again. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was treating ur children different when ur not around. Move on
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You better of with out him
He gets his son 8 DAYS out of the month. Did you ever think maybe those stupid McDonald’s trips just them two are a nice way for THEM to bond?? Also, did you leave your kids home with him when you went to the bar then the casino?
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Is this real? Or were you just looking for something to bitch about?
You both sound very petty and not ready for kids or a relationship so I would suggest you focus on raising your children the best you can.
No, you have every right to be mad… because you are mad, he is punishing you, that is how it works in his mind. Take the big stuff, invite friends and light it up!
Personally if he’s that quick to pull the plug, it might be best before anyone gets anymore attached. I feel like you should fight for the relationship if you really want it and it seems like he might not… plus you don’t want to have to walk on eggshells to “prevent” him from leaving again.
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I would say it wasn’t about the food. I think he was on his way out to begin with and that was the excuse
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Nope not wrong it was wrong to bring that home infront of your kids he could have stayed there with his son while he ate that would not fly in my house its all the kids get it or none at all
I don’t think you’re in the wrong, especially if you always include his son and you live together. Just needs to be a conversation. It is what it is and if something as little as that makes him run, then I’d be done and let it go.
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He was out with his son he probably didn’t eat and your kids were home where they can eat. Personally it’s not something I’d ever do but it was probably innocent. Men don’t think about that stuff
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Sounds like there’s more to the story…yes, he absolutely should have bought all the kids a meal if his son was going to be eating his in front of them. If it was something he was eating on the way in, no. That’s not inappropriate. Maybe you leaving off to the bar and casino pissed him off?
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male privilege is causing him to lose you! good riddance…let him move back w his mommie…
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Yea move on. Why would you want to be with someone who plays games with you by intention leaving your kids out. He’s trash.
I think you going out instead of trying to fix things was the biggest issue here
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If I was taking just my kid to visit a friend while he spent time with his kids and I got my kid food, that’s one thing but if I brought the food home, you buy for everyone. It’s basic curiosity.
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There is obviously a bigger issue, than this
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To be fair it was most likely bonding time for them. He’s allowed to spend one on one time with his kid.
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There is so much more relevant info missing. Did he get his son food, bring it home and eat it? Was it a meal time? Was it reasonable of him to believe the kids at home would be eating something else. I have 4 kids. If I’m out with one kid I’m buying that one kid food. I’m not buying all the kids food, the ones at home can eat at home.
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If you cant buy for all dont get anything no you were not wrong
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Definitely shouldn’t have went to the bar. If he loves you he’ll be back. It costs alot more for 4 kids than one. Maybe he could have had the kid eat it before he got back
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Sounds like he got food for his kid and they ate it on the way home??.. If so then what is the big deal? I always treat my kids to something a little special when I only have one with me
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Leave i don’t think you need a bunch of strangers to tell you tbh.
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Girl….this ain’t about McDonald’s….he’s done with you and it ain’t cuz he bought his son McDonald’s….you might of had bigger problems than you realized.
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Sounds like he wanted to go and u gave him his way out. I’d let him go. If meant to be I will get back together. Yes he should include ur kids. That is wrong. He got u with 3 kids. Sounds like he can’t Handel it. Go on living ur best life and enjoy it.
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Did he bring his kid home and let him eat the food in front of your kids or eat it before they got home? If it was that he brought him home and let him eat in front of your children then that’s not fair at all I’d be pissed too. But if not and they are out b4 coming home then I think you are out of line.
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