I let my kids take 2 mental health days a year. Just like us grown ups, kids can go through tough times too. We all need to decompress from time to time.
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Nope mental health is important!! I applaude you!!
Nope⌠not wrong at all. If your child gets anxiety over doing programs, itâs best to keep your child home. Forcing him to perform in public, when he clearly doesnât like to, can be traumatizing. You did good. 
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I would have kept him home too.
There were times when.I just decided they needed a mental health day
As parent with a child that has adhd, dmdd, and anxiety. In past years my son would have meltdowns before school I tried everything to get him to school. Fighting to get in the car ( him punching, kicking and biting me in the process). Pulling him out the car ( looking like a mom beating her child) having a truancy office pick him up. Only to get a call two hours later the school was sending him home because they couldnât deal with him. Sometimes the fight is not worth the hassle. I did this every day for 3 years. We ended up moving 3 years ago and the new school has made such a difference in how he feels about school (still hates it but goes to see his friends). I am not saying you are wrong for letting him stay home, but talk to him and see if itâs just the anxiety of the program or if he is being picked on⌠bullying was a big issues at my sonâs old school and why he wont go.
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You went with your gut! You know your child and you made your decision based on them and their emotions! Never doubt that and never let anyone second guess your instinct!
Maybe talk it through with his teacher though for future events that may cause the same emotions and see if some changes can be made and implemented to make the situation easier should it arise again-for whatever the reason meltdowns are hard and take a lot out of everyone!
You go super mum 
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Programs/performances are not fun for children especially if they are getting drilled daily. I would make him go still. Expect him to at least stand there because children have to build upon uncomfortable experiences to overcome more challenges as they get older. Fast forward next year, expect him to sing. Fast forward a couple of years⌠âI know you donât want to present in front of your class, but remember last year and the year before? You stood in front of a 100 people at the Christmas program. You didnât want to do it, but you made it. Your class only has 20 people. You can make it through your class presentation, just like the class performance.â
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To each their own 
with my oldest, absolutely I would keep him home. Knowing him and factoring his puzzle pieces Iâd side with he has a legit reason for his feelingsâŚThat being said, my youngestâŚGod love himâŚhe works the system and works it well when he wants to lol Iâd most likely send him. You know your kiddo best, trust in that 
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If your child was an adult then I would say they need to learn to deal. Life is not always going to conform to their needs or issues. But your child is not an adult heâs a child. Not everything is black and white when it comes to children. If your child had signed up for this then I would say yes you need to enforce guidance that they move forward with it but it sounds like this was a school function that all the children in the class had to participate in. Just because some children may excel at it doesnât mean that all children will be comfortable. Do what is best for your child youâre his mother you know it is best donât question yourself it sounds to me like you have your childâs best interest at heart and thatâs most of the battle hang in there Mom youâre doing just fine
NO your a good mom.point⌠end
Only you know the answer to that. You are his momma. You did what you felt was right for your son. You donât need anyone to approve. Keep on doing whatâs best for your child.
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You know your child better than anyone else! My youngest son has horrible anxietyâŚespecially in social situations. After years of stomachs aches and throwing up almost daily I decided to homeschool. Lots of people think I was wrong but my son is happier & healthier than ever. He is ever 2 years ahead of the kids he went to public school with academically now. So you do whatâs best for your child and your situationâŚunless it becomes an issue with truancy itâs no one elseâs business
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I think you have to go with your gut as a mom, period. Iâm about to pull my kindergartener out of school COMPLETELY for anxiety and other health issues, and homeschool. No offense to people that think differently than me, but I grew up with that âwell they just gotta learn to dealâ mentality and in my opinion it is a flawed way of thinking if you donât really be careful. I was practically born with anxiety. What helps me now, at 33 and still anxious/depressed is doing things when/how Iâm comfortable and being allowed to prepare ahead of time. I agree that we all have to cope with things but real coping eventually deals with those emotions and not just ignoring your anxieties. Being forced to do things without actually giving someone the time and preparation they need helps no one.
If he does not do this on a regular basis then no you are not wrong. No reason to make him so unhappy and uncomfortable this close to Christmas. Just tell him this canât be a habit. Then find ways he is comfortable with to get him use to group activities.
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Taking a mental health day is absolutely OK! And good for you for paying attention and knowing something just wasnât right. You know your kids better than anyone. Sorry it was a rough day but he will appreciate it. Kids get stressed and have bad days tooâŚitâs not just mama
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Good job Mom! Your childâs mental health is most important!
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NO! A motherâs intuition I hope your baby feels so much better afterwards! Great job mama! Hugs from Chicago 
Doing his own thing can lead to other things depending on his age slot of work goes into these Christmas things so hopefully you gave the school a bit of notice he will no what to do every time he doesnât want to do something
Nope. Iâve read a story where this mom kept her son home because he was depressed. Weeks later he felt well enough to go back. You stop a lot when you actually listen to your kids.
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Kids get stressed too just like us. If we need a day then they need a day.
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Itâs called a mental health day 
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I was forced to do performances it just made my anxiety grow into a bigger problem, well done mama 
Jennifer Carter-Smith
How old is he? If hes under 10 id say its no big deal to just keep him home