What advice would you give a nervous new mom about to give birth?

Just think of the joy that comes out of this! Just know you will not regret this! Deep breaths and positive thoughts! Just know your in good hands and once it’s done you’ll be glad you did it! Try not to overthink it. Millions of woman go through it and it’s incredible!

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You’re going to be scared until you’re in labor. For me, once active labor started I just knew what to do. I felt more calm and excited! It really helps having a good support person in the room with you as well. You’ll do great momma! Congratulations And good luck!

Listen to your body . It was meant to do this . Ask lots of questions . Ask and ask until you feel informed and comfortable. Your body was made for this ! You’ll know what needs to be done in the moment and you’ll do it . :heart:

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Just breathe, you’ll fall right into motherhood. Everyone will have advice n their 2 cents. Everything you do will be wrong in someone eyes, remember it’s your baby & you know what’s best!

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Every labour & birth is different so do what you feel is best for you & your baby & body if you want pain relief take it if you don’t refuse it it’s your body & your baby you decide i’ve had 3 1st was completely natural with only gas & air 2nd & 3rd i was induced for medical reasons 2nd i didn’t hav gas & air until after she was born, having your baby in your arms regardless of how the baby comes in to the world is the most precious feeling in the world & absolutely nothing can or will compare to it & every 1 is as precious as the 1st good luck mama you can do this try not worry to much about it you’ll make yourself ill & won’t help you or your baby regardless of how you feel at the moment x

Don’t think about everyones experience or story they told you about. I told myself I don’t really know how it’s going to go but I’ll just let birth run it’s course and every step through this journey I’ll try my best to stay calm and remind yourself you have doctors and nurses helping you out. You’re gona meet that baby at the end & be overjoyed you won’t give a damn abt the pain

Trust your instincts, the dishes will be ok. Let trusted people help. It’s ok to say no if you don’t want something done.

Trust your body‼️ and listen to it, and you WILL know when you go into labor I know you think well how but you’ll just have that gut feeling. You got this mama and your body was made for this and if anythingngoes wrong and you need medical interventions trust your medical team to. Its hard but the less stress the best‼️

You have nothing to prove to anyone. If you want drugs or an Epidural - do it. No one brags about getting through an appendectomy without anesthesia. It’s stupid that we’ve made painful childbirth a virtue. And …you’re going to be awesome at this!!!

I literally just kept reminding myself the pain won’t last forever its temporary and when they put that beautiful baby in your arms you forget it all

I didn’t go in with a birth plan for any of mine and honestly I think that’s the best plan. Do whatever you feel is best

Just remember, women have been doing this since the beginning of time, some things you really will ‘just know’…all the advice in the world may or may not work…in the end what’s works for you, and your family is all that matters. Try everything, keep what you like, toss what you don’t…any most of the time you don’t need the specific branded baby item that does one thing. :wink: you got this!

Please do hypnobirthing, i was absolutely petrified of giving birth. From the moment I found out I was pregnant I was shitting myself for the whole forty weeks and convinced it was going to be horrendous and that I would probably die in Labour (no exaggeration, I have a massive needle phobia and hate any medical stuff in general) Using hypnobirthing, I felt so calm and in control during Labour even when things started to go wrong I managed to keep my mind, and not panic. I don’t think I would’ve coped otherwise. Even when my son was in distress, I stayed calm and knew instinctively that we would be okay and we were :smiley: afterwards I honestly felt like a superhero who could take on the world. Your body will do what it needs to do, in fact a woman’s body can give birth even if she’s not conscious, so you don’t even really need to do anything extra, just keep control of your mind. Good luck xxx

You will more than likely poop while pushing lol. Don’t freak out, doctors and nurses don’t even care :rofl::rofl:

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Once you get those real contractions, all you want is everything to be over with. So don’t think to much about it because in labor you won’t have time to think about anything except GET THIS BABY OUT SAFE & HEALTHY lol . You’ll be alright.

I remember starting to freak out and my friend of mine said ‘just remember you don’t need to be a martyr, if it hurts, have the drugs, thats what they are there for!’

It’s gonna feel like alot of pressure in your vagina and rectum, nobody told me about that and it freaked me out, yelling is frowned upon in the delivery room- no grabbing the dad by the collar and yelling YOU DID THIS TO MEEEEEEEEE!!! in between pushes. Have you taken Lamaze?? YOU SHOULD. or at least go on you tube and learn the breathing exercises, it helps alot to have a coach also learn the breathing techniques, focusing on their face in between pushes was a lifesaver for me

My first born - labor two hours, pushed out in 8 minutes. Back labor on and off about 12 hours prior. Scariest part is not knowing, don’t freak yourself out. Any mother would tell you the pain is well worth the reward. Once you hear your baby, nothing else matters.

Go with the flow and trust your doctor and don’t be afraid to tell them no to something they suggest if you really don’t want to do it. This is what I did for both my deliveries and they both went pretty smoothly I would say

Breathe. And pay attention to what your body is telling you. Feel everything your body is doing and you’ll know what to do. Most importantly breathe.

You will be fine. It’s a natural thing in life. You will be so in love with your baby. The doctors are nurse’s know what they’re doing. Just keep thinking good thoughts.

Your body was designed for having babies. You’ve got this and don’t forget to breathe! <3

No medals for being a martyr.The gas and air is good and the epidural is really good

Oh how exciting, you are going to be a Mum, and a gorgeous baby will be born and you will experience love like you never thought you had, enjoy every pain, every push and look what is at the end, your beautiful baby, congratulations to you :two_hearts:

Eat before you to the hospital lol.
It’ll all be okay. Just deep breaths and focus on the positives.

only advice that worked for me was to get into that animalistic mentality like if horses and cows can do it, I sure as shit can do it too :heart: also laying on your back was difficult for me 28 hours in labor but she came when i turned to my side and she just slipped out lol

They say your body forgets the pain…and so we have more. It’s true. It’s so worth the day of uncomfortable….with some pain. It’s simply worth it.

Expect the unexpected… a plan is great but in the end your baby is gonna show up how they want / need to.

STAND your ground, you have rights. Don’t let the nurses bully you into doing what THEY would do.

You want to give birth squatting, sitting, standing, in doggy position? DO IT. If there are no issues of course and if you do not have epidural

Do what makes YOU comfortable. If you want the lights dim, DIM those lights, if you want music put that music on, if you want to yell on the top of your lungs DO IT.

Cause your the one going through labor not them, and honestly I wouldn’t care if I was up in there laboring and heard another mama giving birth, cause it’s not a walk in the park.

ALWAYS ask questions.

Why are we giving me this?

Is baby doing alright?

Is there anything you could recommend for me to do before labor gets going?

If you want no one to say a word to you tell them.

If you just want the drs there to watch you and you do it on your own you can.

Don’t fall for THEIR ways.

You do you mama.

My labor was awful with my first, currently pregnant with my 2nd and boy is it going to be different.

My Dr was high on meth when he delivered my son, the nurses were in my face to “get me mad” so I would push but I was pushing just fine. They were mean and nasty toward me and completely took advantage of me and the situation, treated me like I was stupid since I was a first time mom.

DONT LET THEM make you feel dumb

Its worth it. But sleep when the baby is sleeping.

Your body is capable of AMAZING things even when you feel like you are not.

No turning back now just bear down and get it over with holding the baby is the best part

That first cry makes it all worth it. :sparkling_heart: and don’t forget to breathe :purple_heart: good luck mama :blue_heart:

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Pick your battles and take a million pictures, the time goes so fast :yellow_heart:

  1. Find Your Own Rythm as you inhale, slowly and steadily, pause for hold your breath, and then exhale in the same way. (2) Establish and Enforce Your Boundaries Now. (3) Learn to Savor the Flavor of “NO.” (4) Touching You and/or Baby is at Your Discretion. Some folks have “Negative Energy.” (5) Personal Experience is More Valuable than opinion, or “what So-and-So’s friend/cousin/etc.” People who have not actually been through The Experience have No Experience! (6) Write In A Journal. (7) Designate Your Baby Team Now: God Parents, Babysitters, Emergency Specialists, etc. That way, Everybody has a Role, and they know Your Boundaries. Hope this helps You. Congratulations! You Are An Excellent Mother, and A Very Wise Woman. Trust Your Instincts Always. Prepare Your Nest, and Be Ready to Protect Yourself and Your Family. :heart::pray:t3::dove:

Epidural is a life saver!

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Enjoy it! The feeling you get right after birth is addicting! You will do fantastic! Just relax and enjoy the ride

Breathe and stay calm. Once you see your baby it will be worth it.

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I had 3 and wanted one everytime! There nothing that compares to seeing your baby for first time :heart::blue_heart::purple_heart:

Breathe. This is going to be the best time of your life :heart: make sure you have your support system right by you and be in good spirits girl.

Remember these words “I want the epidural”

Push like you’re pooping!! Huge life saving advice

Go with the flow. No expectations. Healthy mom and baby are #1

stay in the moment. One breath in, one breath out.

Pain is temporary n you forget about it once you hold em

Ur body is made for this purpose. Listen to ur body.

I have had 6, no epidural and all natural❤
You’ve got this!!

Just go with it. Nothing can prepare you. Trust your doctors

Be sure to go to the bathroom before active labor…the baby will literally push everything out of you :flushed::scream::sweat_smile:

It’s all just gonna happen, you’re going to listen to the staff and it will all be ok! Don’t freak :blush:

When the contractions are coming, PANT. Pant hard. it truly helps.

Just breath. Ask for help. You will need it.It is an exhausting process. Things may happen that are out of your control. So breath and breathe some more. Everything that happens and all the pain, all goes away once that baby is in your arms and you are loving on it. Enjoy it. Good luck. You got this momma :heart:

I am not a mom, but I hope to be one day. Just wanted to say you are all absolute warriors :purple_heart:

I was the same way but right before birth you’re just so ready to get that baby out, you’ll do almost anything lol. I had good pain medication and an epidural so I didn’t feel a thing. It was actually pretty great!

Focus on breathing and knowing it will be over soon

It doesn’t last forever, that’s the one thing you’ve got to stick with. Breathe all the way, and don’t yell with pushing as much as you’ll really want to - you’ll tire yourself out more! I was in so much denial until labor, the baby has got to come out one way or another :sweat_smile:

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Talk. Dont let anyone talk over you. Make your opinion known

Relax, it all comes natural. Enjoy the whole experience, motherhood is a gift. :revolving_hearts:

Listen to your body.
Coached pushing isn’t as effective as when you feel the urge to push.
Remember a birth plan is great, but baby will have their own plan, prepare to go with the flow.
Be proud of yourself however you deliver, you brought life into the world!

I was nervous about the pain but epidural made it very easy for me

Breathe and know that it’s all worth it!

Breath and it is all worth it.

The worst part about labor is anticipating it. Once there, your mind and body know what to do.:revolving_hearts: If it was that awful, nobody would have more than one child.

The pushing isn’t the hard part-it’s all the contractions before it. I literally just kept telling myself-“there is an end to this…”

Epidural. You’ll do fine! Piece of cake :blossom:

All I can say is when they say push, push like u r pooping. I wish someone would be explained that to me, would’ve made the first easier for me.

If you feel the urge to poop, poop.

Also-plans are great but this is not something you can control. The only solid plan should be to deliver the baby however that’s going to happen.

It really isn’t that bad.

That baby is comming out no matter what, just go with the flow

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Push like you’re pooping. Best advice my mom gave me

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Happy thoughts you’re about to meet the love of your life. The pain is temporary and it all goes away after​:hugs: Goodluck and congratulations :heart:

It’s gotta come out either way.

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Breathe…just breathe! You got this, once that baby gets placed on your chest it will all be worth it!

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Stay calm it makes it go by so much quicker. Breathe at a normal pace. If you get the epidural don’t add extra meds to it, it will make your anxiety go up and possibly cause a panic attack (it did for me twice) Make sure they monitor your blood pressure. It will be painful and messy but worth it in the end. Ive done it 6 times. You’ll do great. Congrats

it’s a little too late to turn back now- acceptance of what’s to come definitely helped me. you’re completely out of control over what’s going to happen throughout your process. just try and breathe and take it step by step.

It got in there it has to come out! Epidurals are fabulous! To be fair I had the crappiest pregnancy ever I just wanted it to be over! :joy::joy::joy:

Dont focus on the pain, focus on getting through it, it lasts maybe 30 sec and then you have a few minutes to relax.

I had two traumatic births so I’m no help. I did survive and so did the babies. I would say to let your body do its thing, and DONT have doctors intervene unless absolutely necessary

Bring 1 outfit you think will be way too small and one you’d think would be way too big. By my third I realized they’d come home in premie

You may not want the epidural or pain meds, I didn’t. Get them contractions are the worst pain. Samuel Black any more advice?

Trust your body and trust your baby. You’re body was created to birth. You will get through this, and be rewarded with meeting your baby💕 best of luck Mama.

That the nerves go out the window when it’s time. I can’t explain it… you become a freaking warrior :heart:

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The first time is wicked scary, BUT my advise is this…don’t get an epidural be in the moment, and tell them u want to help pull ur baby out. Its the best feeling ever. Then lay the baby right on ur chest. This is the most beautiful memory u will ever make, and honestly it may come natural to u on what to do. Best of luck and congratulations!!! I’ve got baby fever like a mo fo

You’re a woman. Your body is made to do this!! You’ll always get scared no matter how many babies you’re gonna have. But once you see your baby, all of those crazy thoughts go away and you’ll be in love. It is so worth it.
Eat while in labor. Your uterus is a muscle it needs to be nourished. It will push baby out itself. You just need to breathe and relax and know this will be over soon.

Breathe. Trust yourself. Trust your body.

listen and trust your dr.

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Darrian Leigh here’s a good thread for you :purple_heart:

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The end result is amazing!!

Don’t do it. It’s a trap.

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Take the drugs! They’re magic i swear to God! If you cooperate with the person putting it in your back and its done correctly you feel absolutely nothing! After I got the epidural I slept through 7 hrs of my labor! I swear its magic!!!

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The nurses will help you EVERY step of the way!

It isn’t as bad as you may think. Just remember you are being blessed with a child of God. Trust in him. The pain you may have is worth it.

Look how many have done it…I said if they can…so can I!
You’ll do fine…keep positive!

Just stay focused and you will forget all about it once your baby is born :two_hearts: good luck mama

Your body is absolutely amazing and made to do this. Trust the process and don’t be afraid of the pain. It’s all part of it. Remember to breath. The more you tense up the harder it will be. Make sure you have someone with you who knows you well enough to know how to help you stay calm and focused. You CAN do this! And don’t worry about your birth plan if you have…take it minute by minute.

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I just had my second baby a week ago and I was nervous again to do it all over. I had a good birth my first but my epidural didn’t work the greatest. With my second everything worked and was much faster this time around. It’s nerve racking for sure but you just have to remember our bodies know what they are doing and try not to stress. It comes and goes so quick and it’s worth going through birth to meet that special baby. Pamper yourself now, go for walks to help relieve your stress. Congratulations and I hope everything goes as planned for you too :blush:

Advice for when the little one is eating baby foods and to hopefully make you laugh… don’t feed the child baby food that is all the same color. I apparently loved sweet potatoes and other orange things. At one point my mother rushed me to the dr since she though I was sick since I was turning slightly orange. The dr told her to feed me other colors and I would be fine. I told a friend this warning a few yrs ago when she had her little one… told her my mom accidentally dyed me orange… so what does she do? The same thing my mother did, right down to rushing the child to the dr. My mom and I just laughed at her and she was like I was even warned and I still dyed my kid! lol!

Stay positive and keep in ur head that soon you get to meet ur sweet baby