How do you go about a family trying to take my mother’s house? In my case, my brother and sister-in-law moved in so they wouldn’t be homeless. They are really bad at spending money and in debt. Keep in mind they get loads of money monthly, and it goes down the drain, and now they want their name added in the deed. Please help. My sister-in-law has another baby daddy that is always asking for money/child support. If something happens, can they try taking the house? Can her other baby daddies get any say in the house if her name is in the deed?
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What can I do about my family trying to take my mothers house?
Go and speak to a lawyer that can help you because every state differs .
Only the power of attorney can make the choices as for your sister n laws other babies daddy can not legally take the house bc they arent legally married… even with her name begin on the deed… if i was you i would see legal help
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Unless they’re named in your mothers will, then the answer is no.
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Take your mother to an attorney. That’s what we did and nobody got anything for being greedy
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There would be No reason to put the sister in Law in the Deed. I can understand Your Brother but Not her. Things may Come to an end with there relationship or go sour and her name being on the deed can make things complicated. Im sorry but it would be a Solid No for her being put on.
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From experience Seek legal advice especially since your brother has a baby by her.That baby is a heir.
Better to be safe than sorry
Seek attorney get the answers from them…I wouldn’t put her name on it…they could get divorce etc not worth the headache I would say
If they’re in debt, I’d be worried that they’re going to borrow money against the house… which could then leave your mother without her own property!
Don’t put the sister in law on the deed give them 30 day eviction notice so they can go put their own name on their own shit!!!
They can claim squatter’s rights So please seek legal advice
Seek a lawyer to save your mum from them
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What can I do about my family trying to take my mothers house?
Go talk to a lawyer who can answer your questions and has knowledge. Most provide a free consultation.
Go to court plain and simple call a lawyer
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If they get added to the deed then it is their house if your mother-in-law dies … cut and dry.
I would think it depends on the state you live in. I would also be worried about bankruptcy if they are so far in debt.
Go to a lawyer and see what can be done.
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whos name is on the house now? wouldnt it be their call, also if they get put on the deed wouldnt they have to pay taxes etc. ?
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If your parents don’t have a will then yes your siblings are just as entitled to it as you are, if not more because they can prove residency. If it is willed to you then no she can’t touch it.
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Is your mother still alive?
Who is on the deed to the house?
Is there a mortgage on the house?
If your mother has passed who was the executor of her will & estate, that is the only person that can take control of the house if not a mortgage on it. I just went through this issue last year with my grandparents house. Definitely seek a lawyers advice.
Adding to the deed makes them part owner
Dangerous move… it depend of the law of the land concerning inheritance. Customary law differs everywhere. Consult with a good lawyer and he will know how best to assist you.
Is your mom if sound mind? If she is, there is nothing you can do. I would encourage her to make a will though, so she can dictate what happens to the house in the long run.
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I would put the responsible daughter on it or in trust that only blood family gets anything
What’s your mother’s Will say? That’s what it will go off of. If there’s no will, it will be tied up in probate after her death. If their name goes on the deed, then it’s not just your mother’s house. Why would their names go on the deed?
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Contact an attorney asap for mom. She needs protection. If their name goes on house, they will get it if mom dies for sure. But they will able to get loans, etc against it now.
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Your Mother needs a will with all her children on it
Do not add her. R u dumb. She is not a blood relation
Fist is to make a will
be as it may this is really a good question…
The house should only pertain the the person on the deed, your mom can also make sure that in her will she states specifically who the house will go to if she was to perish. Bow getting them out of the house is another thing, that might have to be a court issue
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You need an estate attorney, not Facebook.
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Sounds like they’re trying to take her for a ride… Get to a soliicitor fast… I know a lady who’s brother put his name on his mums mortgage to 'do her a favour then got in debt and lost the house and the mum had to move out of her long time home… Heartbreaking… They’re up to something that’s for sure
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This would best be discussed with a lawyer
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Talk to legal aide can get free legal aide -advice in most cities
Become her power of attorney…
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What can I do about my family trying to take my mothers house?
Get a lawyer. Find out what is in the will and whose name is on the deed.
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That sounds like a nightmare situation and your best bet is a lawyer asap
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Get a good lawyer asap
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Get a lawyer and go with your mom to get YOUR name on the deed. And definitely don’t let them get any type of mortgage on the house.
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Get a lawyer. My mom set it up to sell the house and split the money among us kids. Maybe doing that would give them enough to get a place to live.
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Do not put anyone else on the deed…
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Whose name is the deed in? They can not just go into a courthouse and put their name on a deed, someone has to add them or sign the deed to them. Is your mom still alive or deceased? Did the house go to ‘all kids’ upon her death? If so then the kids will have a say in who lives in the home.
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No nothing can be done with her baby daddies that’s not her house but get a lawyer cause they can pull squatter rights or whatever her will said if no will need a lawyer to set up an agreement for them to live there its civil court matter
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If you are concerned your sister and her spouse are trying to financially exploit your mother to get her house you should contact Adult Protective Services in your state and file a report. They can investigate the situation and help ensure your mother’s assets are protected.
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Well if your mom is in her right mind and adds them then it’s their house too. You can’t do anything. If your mom dies and leaves no will it would be split between the heirs. Y’all prob will have to buy each other out or sell it.
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i agree get a lawyer do not put anyone eles on your mothers deed for if they spend money like you say and there name is on the deed a lean can be put on your mothers house and so on that is your mothers sercurity not theres and she could lose it if there name goes on and also they could do more damage then good… its your mothers not theres. My mother too has it to sell house and the money gets devided if one of us dont want to buy the other two out or if your mom wants to sell it that is HER’S for her living not for them.
A friend of mine just went through something similar. His mother left the house to him in her will but his aunts name is on the deed so now the aunt is getting the house.
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Don’t do it you will get screwed
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I mean they can’t just go and add their name just because they want to. Your mom would have to be the one to do it.
Do not put anyone els on that deed
Because if you do they can take that right out from under you so fast
Keep it in your name if there is a accident have a written one on who you would like the house to go to incase something happens
Sounds like your inlaws are greedy
And don’t care about the sentimental property
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No… if there’s no will everything goes to her estate… After all debts are paid everything is split between her children…
Do Not put their name on the Deed.
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Your mom can go up to deed office and put names on it after her death, I did that, put my 3 daughters names on it…
no they have no right to want the house sorry but they want it so they can sell it so they well have money no dont let them have there name on nothing
Get a lawyer asap… my inlaws had a similar situation and it was a nightmare. My mother inlaws siblings tried to take everything and sell it. It is a process but you have to protect your parent. She had to get a lawyer and make it clear she wasn’t going to allow anyone to take advantage of her dad including family.
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It’s up to your mom, if she puts there names on the house then thats her choice. They can’t just do it without her permission.
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Is your mom alive? If so they need her permission to put their name on it. If not then the house &, assets she left behind goes to who she willed them to or in order of next of kin. If there’s no WILL at the time of her passing yes it will be easy for your brother to take over the house. He already lives there, has established residency there. You can sue him. It would be upto a judge. There’s so many senarios from the judge saying it’s theirs. To him ordering that your name also be added to the title & decisions regarding it be mutual ( 2nd mortgage, renovating, selling it, renting it etc). He can order your brother to give you half the value, sell your half to you or that it’s sold & profit spilt. My advise to you is to sit down with mom (if possible) & ask her what she wants done with the house & other property. Hire a lawyer to do a WILL. Have her keep it updated. The problem with my mom’s WILL is that it was almost 20 years old. I had to hire a lawyer for everything even to cremate & bury her according to her wishes.
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Leave their names out of it. There is no reason for it.
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If your mom is still alive they cant do that without her permission/signing paperwork. Is your mom in declining mental/physical health? If so they might use this to their advantage and get her to sign it. If not your mom needs to go see a lawyer ASAP to make sure she has a will to spell out what happens when she passes.
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Just no. Tell your mom not to put her name on anything.
Then tell your mom to go file an eviction notice and have them served by a sheriff. Simple as that.
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What does your mom think about this??? You left that part out.
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Ask an attorney. Not Facebook.
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U can always contest the will
Take your mom to an attorney who specializes in the elderly. Set up a trust. Believe me it makes life SO much easier. It will state what she wants. Just make sure you fund it. Put everything in the trusts name including the car.
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Make sure they don’t talk your mom into getting a reverse mortgage on the house.
You mentioned money being a problem with your sister.
I would take your mom and consult a lawyer ASAP.
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Get a lawyer probate lawyer so he can help you with everything you lawyer will help you kick them out of the house 
becuz I have to do that I hired a probate lawyer did your mom has a will and trust . I am going though it right now my lawyer dove everything for me
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You should get a POA written up and that way they will need YOUR permission. This would only work if your mother is in declining health mentally or physically and needs an advocate.
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If you don’t want the house should something happen then stay out of it. However, your mom should have a will or estate already set up. Ask about that and then ask her to go that route and not adding them now. Because if they’re on it then should something happen they could tell you & any other siblings you may have that you cant come in the house to go through your mother’s belongings.
Too much drama im your family. Obviously i recoginize it well
My best advise wash your hands of it
Toxic familys never stop
Will give you ulcers and break your heart
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We really need more information to answer this. Is your mother still living? If your mother is still living it is really all up to her. Ownership would only extend to who she adds to the property now, or to whomever she leaves it to in her will. Personally, if I were her, I would put it in a trust with strict parameters as to what could be done with it and with any monies earned from it. You would have to get with an attorney for that though.
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You need to get your mom to put this house in an irrevocable trust. If mom wants to leave this house to you and your brother then y’all two would have to fight about it after her death. There’s alot of factors that go into play here and you need to know if you’re in a tenancy in common or a joint tenancy state, who currently owns the house, and what her will, if she has one, is laid out. Also some states have a rights of survivorship law. You need to know your states laws and the current situation with your moms will and that can only be done by talking to someone familiar with real estate laws and probate in your state
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If your mom is in a nursing home, an attorney will go there to have her fill out paperwork. If she has passed, a motion should have been filed with the court to sell the home. They will have no choice but to move out. I just did this with my brother’s home and his son did not want to move out, but was not paying the mortgage.
Try and see if your mom would make you power of attorney
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Do not let them put their name on the deed ! Your mom could end up homeless
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Lol her baby daddy that other baby daddy … lol just the way youre talking … definetly something sus about you.
I work for Medicaid, if your mom is nearing the age of needing long term care consult an elder law attorney ASAP. If they are taking her money/ trying to take her house it could cause big problems if she needs Medicaid to pay for a nursing home in the next 5 years.
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I’d get a lawyer because Facebook isn’t the place to ask about legal matters as they’re different in every state… what one state rule is another may not be the same. There are lawyers that take monthly payments that don’t make you pay all at once, but sounds like your mom needs to assign someone she trusts as her power of attorney incase something does happen, then the power of attorney makes the decisions.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What can I do about my family trying to take my mothers house?
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Find an estate attorney for your mom to draw up a will. Maybe have her put the house in a trust so they can’t coerce her into deeding it to them.
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I would get in touch with a lawyer and if your mother is of sound mind ask her about making you executive of the will. That way any changes you are to be made aware of, such as them manipulating her to put them on the deed to the house. And of course if you see or hear anything that makes you worried for her well being call adult protective services ASAP!
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Get an attorney and check the laws in your state
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Have your mom get a living trust and put who she’s giving it to and make stipulations that she doesn’t want anyone else to have it it’s better than a will
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it depends on the law in your state…usually it goes to the immediate family, if there is no will. That would include brother, as well as you, and other siblings. In laws are usually not included. consult a lawyer,please!
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I would consult with a lawyer and if your mother has passed and there’s a will that isn’t being abided by you can contest it. If she’s still among us and allows them to live there and puts them on the deed to the home assuming it’s paid in full once that happens yes he can take anything she’s attached to including the family home. GET LEGAL HELP !!!
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My moms house is in her name as a living estate and it goes to me when she is gone. We did that 15 years ago.
Squatters right does exist.
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Adult protective services help my mother in elder abuse case. They are great in getting right people envoled.
You need to get a lawyer. None of the strangers on the internet can help you with this. PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS FROM THE INTERNET PEOPLE.
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If the deeds are in your mothers name it’s your mother that has to agree to put them on. Get your mom to seek a lawyer and also make sure your mother has a Last Will.
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Definitely contact a lawyer. Your mom could have deed transferred upon death to several different parties which might solve the problem of them living there. My mom did that so my sister and I both instantly owned her house- all very clear cut and avoided probate.
Too many factors, how many children does she have, what state does she live in, does she have any debt. Get an attorney
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Your mom is a living trust dividing or giving her property and hold on to whoever she wants to put a lawyer needs to do it good luck
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Get a lawyer now! This will not end well if you don’t!
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You should report them for elder abuse, they are trying to steal her house!! Take her to a attorney and have a trust done, so nobody can take her house!!
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Take your mom to an attorney NOW.
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DON’T PUT THEM ON THE DEED!
It will be hard enough getting these squatters out of the house as it is!
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