In some states (Iowa for one) if his name is on the deed she gets half Check with a lawyer Senior centers may be able to help mom with this Good luck
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Don’t put them on the deed. Especially if they are horrible at spending money. Don’t do it.
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Call a law.ter ASAP. Do not hesitate one more minute. Call the State Department of Social Services they will have a department that deals with elder abuse. Those folks will be able to direct you to an attorney that is expert in dealing with elder abuse issues.
Do this as soon as their offices open at 8:00 am.
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See a lawyer asap !! What ever it cost now will be a hell of a lot cheaper of what it may cost you later. Learn from my mistakes 
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Did she leave a will, or executor of her property? Get yourself an attorney! Cannot stand deadbeats waiting in the background to come out like roaches at night expecting something, when they have not contributed a dam thing:rage:
Laws vary from state to state. In Pa even if not paying rent they have to leagally evict them. That being said the executor of the will should charge rent. Even if the point is not to make money but to cover expenses and taxes. Been there done this. Had a cousin renting my grandmothers house. What a mess! My mom wound up selling it cause she couldn’t deal with the stress and covering expense out of her pocket. Luckily she was to negotiate with the biller and avoided late fees but paid 3 months.
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In no circumstances let them add their name to the deeds.
If they get loads of money monthly, why would they be homeless? I would get a lawyer ASAP if you are guardian for mom legally they can do nothing to make you put your brothers name on deed. Plz get a lawyer and get them out!!! Keep an eye on banking accounts and jewelry!!! They do tend to grow legs!! Personal experience sadly
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Don’t delay. Run to an attorneys office and seek help. Do not put your brother or your sister-in-law on the deed. You cannot trust anyone and that includes your family on the deed but your MOM. With their credit habits you are only asking for trouble. Don’t talk to them until you have seen a lawyer.
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Do not add her name to the Deed, if your Mother is still alive you need a form called Summary of Administration with will. She can designate who gets the property. If she can’t decide she needs to leave it to both of you after her death or add your names to the Deed Now. It can’t be mortgaged or sold if your name is on the deed without notifications. These forms are usually located on The Clerk of courts website. In Florida it’s the 17th District clerk of courts. Not sure where you are it may require a little research. If you go to an Attorney they want $3000 to file 1 document. Do it yourself.
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The sister-in-law should not be on it at all!! Because she has no rights……
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Call Adult Protective Services. Located in Jamaica. Ask their advice. They help adults who can’t protect themselves.
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Make sure she doesn’t sign anything without you seeing it first.
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Sounds like elder abuse to me lawyer up
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If mom is still alive she could give e it to them if its paid for. If a mortgage is owed no one can get it. If she’s dead I hope there is a will if not probate will step in. Missed payments will cause foreclosure
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That’s daily issue in middle east society and culture , so I suspected some how the person did that post is from middle east , by the way if u are in USA they can’t do anything about it , law with your mom not with them so they can’t force her to adding thier name on deed , so sorry for your mom , my God helping her for what she is going through
You need a lawyer ASAP. The laws around the states are different
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This is up to your mom. Unless she is not fit to figure it out.
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Don’t let them move in!! Don’t let them put their name on the deed!! Get an attorney for your mother ASAP!! It is elder abuse and they are trying to take advantage of her!! OMG!! This is happening all the time. You need to call social services on them if nothing else because they have probably already got you mother abused enough that she believes this is the best thing for her. And you are totally jealous of them and that you are against your mother. It all will be coming down the road if it hasn’t already started. These people have the same motive. And once they are in the house you can’t have them removed, it is near impossible. They prey on the elderly and they get in and start stealing from their bank accounts and make them think they are crazy until the elderly end up dying from the stress. I will be praying for you. But get social services involved and an attorney ASAP!!
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An older person will grab a homeless family member easily for company comfort or help when they are in decline rather then go to a facility. This actually is not that uncommon. I know someone who grabbed the lost sheep out of rehab. Nothing but woes etc and impossible to make member move for years for sale. Not such an uncommon tale
Family is sister brother mother father.
In-laws is not part of family. That in law has their share on their family side…
I would suggest try to get rid of them. If your mom dies and they are staying there, they might claim!
Hope you have a bill of sale in your name? Or a written Will stating it was left to you? Be sure to probate the WILL
Your state will have an “Adult Protective Services” department. You can alert them to the possibility of financial abuse by your family. They will open a case and at least do a brief investigation. Social workers coming to the house to interview your mother may be enough to scare your brother from doing anything underhanded. A case on record will help, if an attorney has to take action. Keep in mind that if there is still a mortgage on the house, no one can be added to the deed unless they can qualify to be on the mortgage also. An additional action you can take is to have your mother declared financially incompetent and take control of her finances. If an investigation shows that your brother has been living off your mother, this might be a possibility. In my case I found out that my elderly parents were giving away money indiscriminately and lending their car to strangers! I threatened them with declaring incompetency and they stopped doing it.
If their name is on the deed debt collectors can put a lien on the house.
See a lawyer yesterday. Esp if your mother is a vulnerable elderly adult. See if your state or locality has an agency for protection from elder abuse. Do not delay. This kind of parasites move fast.
If your mom adds them and dies, you can demand your share of inheritance which they can’t pay apparently. Then you can force it to auction, any sibling can. At least they can’t take it for free from the rest of the heirs. Get a lawyer
Is there a will? Her will should say who it will belong to after she is gone. If they are still there after your mom passes and they aren’t on the will but you are, you can ask them to leave.
The baby daddies have no claims period. But the main question here is going to be weather or not your mom is in her right state of mind if it is determined she is then the choice will be up to her on who she leaves the house to in her will or puts their names on the dead. If she is not the yall need to get a lawyer and go infront of a judge and get her a power of attorney over her affairs someone who can help her make decisions but not just because you think things should be given to to or go a certain way because at the end of the day it’s still hers. I went through this with my mother who I took care of for 3 yrs before she passed away.
Two things. Get a lawyer. Next call Adult Protective Services in your area. This is potentially elder abuse.
It’s so sad when it comes to mom and dad’s money. Greed takes over.
You mother needs to do a will. And needs to boot them out.
I wouldn’t add her name to it if you have say in it at all. Yall don’t need thst money draining drama at all officially or otherwise
Get an attorney and get them for being squatters and elderly abuse do mot put their name on deed or they will sell house and get half
No put her name in deed . Get a trustworthy person. So your sister can be protected from herself and others. Beware of everyone
If your mother is still alive get a estate plan set up.
You need a real estate lawyer
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Is she still married or was she married as her spouse may have a share in it or the house may go to him if she passes away. Is there a will and if so - who is the executor - ask them about the will and estate and who is named in the will as heirs. Is your brother caring for your mom and what is your role? you don’t mention if the house is paid off or what kind of bills there are and who pays the bills for upkeep of the house. Who buys the food and cooks and is your mom capable of caring for herself?
This is a legal matter. See an attorney.
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get then out asap , whatever it takes , make them move
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If is in your they can not take it, throw them out
Who legally owns the property?
Refuse and or put yours and your brothers names only.
Please consult a lawyer as soon as possible for your mother’s sake as well as yours.
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Sounds like you need an an attorney
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Get a Lawyer pronto. You need strong legal advice on your side.
How is the house deeded, in trust?
ATTORNEY ASAP to assist your Mom with safeguarding her security both financially and possibly physically!
Whats your mother’s take on this is she not able to care for herself
Mentally. If not who’s her power of attorney.
You need to see a lawyer asap
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You need an attorney !!!
You need to consult a lawyer I know you’re right
Become mom’s legal guardian.
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Talk to a lawyer ASAP. Facebook is fun but it is not here to give legal advice!!
Get an attorney for God’s sake.
Talk to a lawyer not on fb for advice.
I’ve witnessed this. A complete stranger ends up with the house.
Lawyer up. Talk to them and mom.
Call adult protective services
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Do not add them to the deed!!! Under no circumstances!
See and attorney ASAP
Lawyer, its elder abuse,
Hire a real estate lawyer
You need an attorney not Facebook
Call elder abuse hotline
Get a elder attorney NOW
Report them for elderly abuse. They are clearly taking advantage of her!!
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Wow what a predicament.Do not put her or thrir names on the deed
DO NOT TALK ON INTERNET! Now that you have be aware of spam calls.
Get. Lawyer and a will.
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they sound like squatters, and squatters DO get rights,talk to a property asap!
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DO NOT let them get any attachments to the property!!!
Laws against elder abuse.if you believe she’s being taken advantage of its time to contact a lawyer or someone from a center thag helps with elder abuse. Maybe a elder abuse hotline would be a place to start.
Great advise here, follow it or live to regret it.
No one but mom on deed
Get an Attorney ASAP
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This just happen to my kids. My mom put the oldest grandchild in control. But, my mother started having dementia, not remembering to pay Bill’s etc… So I was coming to care of her when I retired. So my sister started to care for her until time. But, she started bitching about money. They set her for mom to spend at sister house. It wasn’t going her way. They went to a lawyer drawn up papers and send my son and mom lawyer. So my daughter picked up mom. Brought her back. Take took her to lawyer. They fixed it so that won’t happen. I got my job and moved back to care for it. So lawyer yes. Sooner
You need a lawyer not Facebook
Whatever the name is on the title owns it. What you need to do is go to court and get the power of the estate.
Whoever has the title has to name you as the one to get it
Or you go get a quick deed which is better.
Sale it problem salved
Nasty …make sure the house is in the family trust listing blood line only : mothers biological kids : mothers biological grandkids :adopted whangaied iligitimate whanau can live at the property if biological family agree n must still pay rent n upkeep gardens n maintenance …
Secure your future n save your assets being taken by outsiders …goodluck get it in writing
yikes. why are there many dad-like leeches in the world. many ppl who think like my fam. im disgusted.
helping ppl who rly need help is one thing, helping ppl who dont deserve help is another thing.
Tell your mom to put you and your brother on the deed…
…actually im also totally creeped out. bc these ppl are rly creepy. theyll drain your bank account n then doing narc projection, telling ppl that you are the leech, you are the golddigger. ppl like this will ruin your life*. run.
*im speaking from personal experience. ive met wayyy too many ppl like this before.
Not the same, but my husband’s oldest brother moved into his mom’s house and when she died her will stated everything was ti be distributed in 3rds. She had 3 sons. He ended up squatting and took most of everything in the house that was to be sold and put it in storage. The middle brother ended up taking him to court twice and the sheriff’s deputies came and evicted his sorry ass out. My husband and I bought the house he couldn’t pay the storage fees and lost everything that the 3 of them should of been entitled to. P.S. don’t let your mother give them a credit card for just in case. He ran up a $16,000.00 credit and it came out if her estate. ASSHOLE!
Baby daddies and baby mommas have zero rights
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GOD DONT LET THAT HAPPEN!! IT happened to my MIL and they couldn’t pay the mortgage or wouldn’t. Now they are losing the house.
Time to kick them out
Time to see a lawyer
WRONG FORUM,if your asking FB advise ur SUNK
Hire a lawyer asap now
Fuck family they be the first to fuck u
Time to get a lawyer.
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Get a lawyer. You really need one. A lawyer experienced in family or elderly law would be good. Ask around for one with a good reputation.
This could be elder abuse, also ask mother in law to not sign anything.
If there is no will and your mother has passed, you definitely need to get an attorney. If your mother is still alive, she needs to make a will and you need to speak to an attorney.
Oldest child I believe has the say if their is no will. Not 100% sure though
Sorry but I wouldn’t allow my sibling to put their spouses name on our parents house. I mean maybe they’ll marriage will last but just on the chance that it won’t it’s a no from me. If your mom doesn’t have a will it’s normally split so your brother will automatically get half. Whether he’s in debt or not isn’t a reason he shouldn’t get his part. Like I would push to become power of attorney to make sure that didn’t happen. Make sure your mom doesn’t sign anything alone.
Hire an “elder law” attorney asap for proper guidance.
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There are laws against elder abuse. If you feel she is being taken advantage of, get her a lawyer.
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Talk to a good attorney. Sounds like you may want to see about appointing someone to be a guardian over mom’s finances.