Did y’all not ever get licks in school? From the principal? With a wooden paddle? Boy oh boy, these comments are insane…
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You should never hit/spank a child when you’re angry, frustrated or both! That said, if you didn’t leave any marks on his butt I don’t think CPS will remove him. You need to take him to counseling like yesterday to see why the attitude.
If they felt your son was in any danger they would of just shown up without you knowing and the school would of never sent him home. Sorry you are going threw this momma. Praying for you and your son. Keep your head up.
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Seems to me like you took everything away, and there was no way for that kid to win and we only know your story. He seems to be acting out, and seems strange that this would be the one isolated time when it’s that bad. I’d say be honest with your self remember your son is human and there could be more going on. Don’t forget to ask yourself what could I do better. Also I don’t care what the comments say keep your hands off your baby. I don’t believe for one second this is the one isolated time you ever hit him. Some people will say I was hit I was fine, but that’s them and I was hit with the belt and I wasn’t fine I lead a life of fear of feeling how I felt and I was never a leader amongst other things. But that’s just me. Numerous studies show hitting has adverse reactions. At the end of the day JUST BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. Don’t forget to ask what could I do better a lot of parents are unable to do that blaming the kid is way easier. Your baby is acting out for a reason even if he is just being a jerk. CPS can help you and offer parenting classes.
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Yall are literally acting like she hit him with a baseball bat. Smh. Calm the hell down. She clearly learned from that mistake which is why shes asking for advice. Yall are terrible.
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Spare the rod spoil the child.
It’s biblical
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To answer your question- I believe you may face some sanctions because if I’m not mistaken, it is not allowed to use an object to hit your kids even under the guise of discipline. An open hand is the rule of thumb. They will do interviews, a home inspection, request doctor and counseling records.
Has he been tested for autism? Adhd? These are things that kids with that do not understand behaviors. They don’t understand what they done wrong and no matter what they don’t understand when you take things away etc … you have to use a different strategy. You have to use cask behaviors and rewards. Like if he starts talking better and doing more chores he gets money or to pick a movie out or game… not everything has to be handled by taking away our whopping especially if they have one of the things I mentioned.
Go and get him tested for ADHD.
Everything you have mentioned is exactly adhd. If you don’t understand it fully google it and you’ll be surprised.
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I would just give him to cps since he called them give him a taste of his own medicine and see if he gets at better treatment with them since he told on u it may hurt u some ur child don’t care about nothing but how he is going to control u after u punish him !!!
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If your child is truly the problem and baited the school into contacting CPS for him to try and make you back down, go enroll him in the Buckner School so he can see how good he has it. You will get a completely different kid back. I would also have the conversation about his disrespect to you with the CPS person in front of him and have her tell you very clearly in front of him what you are obligated to provide as a parent. Very clearly spell it out in front of your child with this woman that you have to provide food, running water and a roof but anything else is a luxury. No Nikes, no cell phones, no internet, no gaming consoles, no tv, nothing. And have her confirm he can be spanked with your hand in front of him. Then also ask her in front of him what kids typically experience in foster care. If your child thinks they will have it better somewhere else because they have no clue what being in the system would be like, use that time with the CPS worker to try and educate him.
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I got my ass whooped with a belt back in the days and I know what abuse is and she’s not even close I think she did great these kids now a days think there running the show if you don’t whoop there butt now it will be a problem later we are the parents not the friends all you nice parents better wake up can’t help Billy when he’s already in jail cus you thought it was cool to not spank him so stop bashing her she clearly said she’s had it and the kids not listening what about when he disrespects and hits her next whats you solution then and people wonder why this generation is messed up just go along with what they need and comply im sure your doing great
Every state and worker is different but I’ve been told by social workers I personally know that in most places they don’t consider it abuse unless there is a mark that lasts 24+ hours. Everyone and every situation is different, keep in mind there are several other factors they will low key be scoping out such as living conditions and demeanor of child when they interview them. Don’t let these judgy comments get to you. It’s not your fault you’re trying to raise a decent human and sometimes that shit gets rough!
Maybe you should’ve thought of the consequences before you hit him w/the belt. There are more effective ways to parent then beating your child. You are causing more harm then good. I hope the cps worker is hard on you!!
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I used to believe all that no spanking nonsense till I actually picked up a Bible actually audio Bible 
cps is bologna 
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Just a thought …if he thinks cps is so great, let him go to foster care until he’s ready to live by your rules and stop making things up.
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Sure. Don’t spank your kid. Go get him diagnosed for ADHD, which is already overly diagnosed and dope him up on psychiatric meds. If they felt your son was in danger, they wouldn’t let him go home with you. It honestly sounds like you just don’t know how to properly punish your child and that’s why he thinks he can run all over everyone.
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I quite often wonder if parenting classes will help me with my 10 year old. I came from a very abusive home and every child is different. Some of us are tough and get over abuse. Others it can cause anxiety abd depression. So first of all, understand your child. He told someone because although he may have a been wrong and is defiant. …he is scared and he does not trust you. Keep being consistent with him, and while your being consistent let him know your trying to help him and you won’t hit him anymore. I am guilty of spanking my kids, but uts very rare and when I do I feel bad. It’s hard to tell your kids…I hit you because I love you but don’t let anyone else do this to you. It’s a contradiction and can be confusing. I wish you the best and I hope you get the help you need.
Also, if as parents we don’t teach our kids, when they are adults the system will. So I totally get how u feel.
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Belt is abuse I hope you get into trouble they might take him
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Wow! These comments. That’s what is wrong with the world today. Parents can’t discipline our kids without getting in trouble for it. I wish my dad would have hit me with a belt… Hell I got hit wherever and with whatever he could find. I grew up to respect people, I have 7 kids I birthed and 9 grandkids. Cps in Texas told my dad spanking a child isn’t illegal. Hit them on the bottom only and with a bare hand. We are now forced to raise children who assume they can and should be given everything and have to not earn nothing. I don’t spank my kids but I sure am not going reward them for disrespect or not doing what they are told.
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Your son is right that’s child abuse.I don’t have much sympathy for you sorry and you swung 3x for gods sake.I hope you get some help and have learnt your lesson.You say you’re scared imagine how your son feels
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I know it seems scary but I think you will be fine. They will probably just come in make sure he’s being fed has a place to sleep and talk to you for a bit. It probably won’t go any further than that.
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I guess it depends on the state, but I know someone that whipped her son with a belt at the school in the principles office and cps was not called. I don’t personally do this but it’s sad to say some of these entitled, disrespectful kids need it. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
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you hit your ten year old with a belt? why would you do that to another human being. i dont know about cps but in uk thats assult
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Take al his games and crush them in the street or pawn them. Thats ridiculous he said that and he def knows better. I would never give his stuff back. I would break it right in front of him. No u wasn’t in the wrong for whooping his butt. That’s what is wrong wit kids these days.
Do you get hit when your disrespectful at work? At the store? Hitting doesn’t solve anything. We preach to our kids how horrible hitting is and then you turn around and do it?
How about talk to your kid and ask him what is going on and how you can help fix these “out bursts”
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There’s a big difference between discipline and abuse. I used to get hit with anything that was in arms reach and etc. Everyone has different parenting skills.
Would u ever let anyone whip you with a belt? No you fkn wouldn’t!!! This is abuse
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He might have something like ADHD or Autism or something else…get him checked instead of punishing him…punishing isn’t always good to handle bad behavior.
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You can legally smack your child with an open hand, not above the shoulder or below the knee. Abuse is using a belt, wooden spoon etc
First of all 10 years old is way too young to have a cell phone. I believe he feels entitled at his young age. Second of all I think it would be any lawyers advice not to speak to CPS and not let them in your home. Before you meet with them you need to call a lawyer. And I hate to say it but the best thing that could happen to your son is maybe to go into the foster care system and find out he has it really good at home. I’m sorry this is happening to you it sounds to me like you’re trying to discipline your child. We are required to put a roof over their head clothes on their body and food in their tummies and nothing else. And that’s all I would do for him if I were you
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Dealing with my 12 yr old son being out of control and have went through all the steps as well. Hang in there. Not going to say it will get better since all situations are different but hoping it works out for you. Dealing with DHS atm as well for whooping. I am completely honest with them and have all the records from councilors, agencies and police records from him pulling bs to show that I have literally tried EVERYTHING. Best thing to do is not let it stress u anymore then you already are.
I am a social worker for my state and I hear the challenges you’re having. First let me say this, you mind set on how you discipline have to change, if you go into the meeting with CPS with that mindset it will shows all the red flags in your parenting, an allegation from the school about you frustratedly beating your child is a concern, next sounds like there are a lot more going on with your child and your focus is punishment instead of trying to figure out what’s really going. My advice is change your focus from punishment to how to better assist your child. CPS may not see an issue and just safety plan it and provide the resources needed but if you go in talking to them like you’re here worst case scenario they will open an in home case and provide the resources to help with the behaviors and to be honest it sounds like you can used the help.
You can benefit from parenting classes, family first, family therapy, and even complete a few assessments for you and him. Your anger towards the child is a huge red flag and there’s only frustration in your tone and no love. So you hitting him with the belt while frustrated and angry is a concern because you can’t gage how hard you are hitting him.
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It is different by state; however, most states do not allow parents to punish their children with belts or objects. The majority will allow parents to spank their children with a hand on the bottom as long as there are no red marks or bruises and it is not done in anger. It still is not considered the best form of discipline by any means, and it may still be risky as far as losing custody of your child. My assessment in your situation is that you will have an investigation opened and will be found charged for child abuse, especially if there were any marks or bruises. You will be assigned a caseworker and will be required to complete services in order to keep him in your care and to close your case. If there are any other red flags when the caseworker comes to meet with you, your child could be removed to protective custody. However, this does not appear to be an immediate risk because they are normally required to meet with you and remove the child within 72 hours if there is an immediate concern of harm to the child.
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You hit him for saying no? Sounds like you need some lessons on how to actually talk and deal with children being children. Show them some respect and you get respect back. If you don’t want to do something is someone going to smack you? Treat people how you want to be treated
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I’m gonna answer her actual question first. Tell her exactly that. If you have proof of the therapy and can show more proof on the other stuff do it. Game systems phone all of it show her where you have taken it. They will want to follow up and make sure everything you tell them is how it actually is. I have a friend who has two children that do stuff like he is doing. He situation is different but she has a social worker who had been along for the ride if you will and eventually that social worker came to telling her to use the same method you used. So if it all checks out you shouldn’t have much trouble from them. Now then bc y’all’s comments hit a nerve so here I go read it or don’t… You were not in the wrong to spank him. Even if omg 
it was a belt…BIG DEAL……you didn’t abuse him you were disciplining him with one of the last things you thought might fix this issue with following rules and authority. Y’all saying a whooping is a beating is beyond me. She is seriously facing the possibility that she could lose her son and other kids if she has them because he is so hell bent on acting out, getting his way, or proving a point. She explains in detail how she has tried it the “gentle parent” way and none of it has made an impact on the behavior.
I feel for her because in the pursuit of rasing her child to be a decent human who can abide laws and rules (like the rest of us) she is being cast out to be a child abuser because she used a belt. If so then lock my parents up too and most of y’all’s.
Y’all so quick to run to his defense…go read that again. Seriously, look go look at what he told the school. Her defense is where you should be running. Kids should no be shown that lying, manipulation, and being vindictive gets them that end result… Kids aren’t perfect hell neither are we but that’s part of being a parent. Sorry but the guide book from point A to point B isn’t a straight line, each and every child is different and hers is too! When she’s basically begging and pleading for him to act right and taking every possible act to avoid spanking him, sometimes that’s all that is left. Yea Yea ik “there’s more she could have done”, guess what it ain’t any of our business how her household is ran. -and pause- bc i didn’t say anything about beating a child with fists or leaving welps on them don’t take it to extreme ok. And no we can’t tell if that whooping made an impact on the choices he will make but we know what didn’t make the impact needed for him to change😬 y’all’s way. I hope this works out good for her and her families sake. Being alienated for spanking him is wrong. Wrong for most of y’all, the school, and the social worker. But don’t take it from me take it from the only lesson her child will learn from this if she receives the punishment and not him. Let that marinate and sink in. He CAN lie. He CAN say what ever he wants. He CAN get even. He CAN get away with it. Apply that mindset of this 10 year old to 25 year old him. Does it sound like someone you want out there in the world. I swear if we could just let parents, parent again without being told they we’re wrong about everything they are doing kids wouldn’t turn into such crappy adults. I ain’t saying punch and slap and leave marks and bruises all over them either. Not every kid from ‘back when I was a kid’ got abused. I was spanked and I love and respect both of my parents no they weren’t my best friends, news flash, they weren’t supposed to be. I was supposed to follow their rules. I was supposed to mind them when they asked something of me. I was taught the rules and why they were there. If I jumped on beds, hit my brother, said bad words and did bad things there we’re consequences why because those things can hurt me or others. No I didn’t just get a whooping i was sat down and had it explained to me that because of my own actions i had to face my consequences and now I don’t do bad things because I know it’s not a belt waiting for me this time, i won’t be asked several times and gently talked there’s a judge and depending on how bad it was a jail or prison.
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Omg… if you’re wondering what went wrong with the world, this comment thread would be a good place to start. Babe, you’re fine… just be open and honest, encourage your son to be the same. The school was just following mandatory reporting protocol… sucks, but its in place for a reason. You know, for ACTUAL abuse 
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What to expect from cps is they are going to ask u what’s going on and why did u do that with the belt? It’s legal to spank child open hand and a few swats and don’t leave a mark. But it’s child abuse when it comes to the belt. Have you thought about getting a case worker for ur child or counseling for him? If they don’t take him you will have a case for like 30 days. Either way they are going to make u do stuff like parenting classes and etc.
First ignore everyone dissing you for using a belt. It is okay to discipline your child, but find a way to give positive incentives for positive choices and negative consequences for negative choices. Belt route did not work in our home. We do squats, laps, sit chair to chair face to face. And more.
Sounds like your kiddo is actively seeking negative attention for whatever reason. I’d find him therapy. He may need some behavioral modification not only to help him with coping, but to help you to teach him to cope. AND cps will probably want you to have him assessed by one of their therapists as well and continued therapy either outsourced or in school (my kiddos schools have a mental health therapist visit once a week).
Also even if you had hit him in the face which you say you didn’t. Either way. Go get you a therapist. You need someone to talk to about how to help you and clearly vent there & not in this group.
If cps finds this occurrence not okay they will more than likely have you complete x-amount of parenting classes. Or worst case they will want to assign a family member or friend as a guardian allium for him till you complete everything that is asked of you.
Also in my state dss has a rule you can use the belt, but so long as it’s above the knee and below the waist and doesn’t linger for three days.
Mom of a child with severe ADHD who also use to hide weeks of homework and sought negative attention and has seasonal depression. He’s artistic, has straight As on his own choosing, is in a gifted and talented program and beta-club now.
And another child with oppositional defiance disorder who use to abuse me, but now with behavioral modification she’s learned and we’ve taught her to find other healthy outlets.
I’ve had my own run ins with dss and cps.
Get ontop of a care plan for you and your baby.
No parent is perfect, but keep pushing, keep praying, keep trying different healthy ways to raise your baby.
Positive thoughts, prayers and vibes to you and yours.
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It’s not going to be a big deal…just tell them what happened and the case will be dropped. They have to do the investigation.
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You’re in for one hell of a ride, let me tell you. If he has any marks or bruises of any kind they are going to blame you for them, saying you beat your child. Doesn’t matter where they came from. Doesn’t matter if your child tells them over and over again he’s from a loving home and isn’t abused. Those kidnappers will claim every imperfection on his body is “because you beat him” and they will remove him and have you criminally charged. We went through this and my husband was charged, 20 years for reckless bodily injury. My kids came home from the weekend at a friend’s house with some bruises and one of my kids had a bruise on his back from where he had fallen about a week prior (he’s clumsy due to muscle disease) and when they found out the kids also got a spanking over the weekend, they ran with it and blamed him for every single mark they had. The caseworker refused to interview the friend who had them all weekend, and she doctored pictures and medical reports. I got the copies out of the file and copies straight from the doctor’s office and they are completely different. Those people will go to any length possible to steal your child for a profit. You need to hire an attorney now. You’re going to need one.
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You can whoop ur kid, as long as u don’t leave any marks.
Sounds like he may have underlying issues going on. Me personally I have never laid a hand on my child but I know ppl who have for same reasons or absolutely no reason at all. And most of these ppl commenting apparently were angels when growing up🙄 ppl my age and older were smacked with hands, belts, wooden spoon, etc across the butt growing up…… this day in age everyone thinks it’s abuse. Depending where you live dcs/cps will make sure he’s not being abused and keep an assessment open for 45 day and if they don’t find abuse they will close it. It’s not even a case at least where I live that’s how they handle stuff……
My brother & his wife were involved with CPS years ago due to something my neice said about my brother’s wife. It took 3 long years to get CPS completely out of their lives because his wife is arrogant, condescending, and very resistant to any suggestions that they gave her. She acted like she was above their suggestions and superior to the case worker and that did NOT work in her favor or my brother’s favor. It made them look at her as an adversary. So because of all that I have some knowledge on how it works. They’re going to come into your home & check your refrigerator to make sure you have food, check the environment obviously to make sure it’s reasonably clean & safe for children. They’ll make sure you have running water in your bathrooms, that your toilets flush, etc… They’ll want to see his bedroom and at 10 they’ll likely want him to have his own room or at least only be sharing with boys. They want him to have his own bed obviously. They’ll talk to you, your husband, your kids, and ask questions not only pertaining to discipline, but questions about drug & alcohol use. Odds are that unless he has actual marks from the abuse, they won’t remove him. They are never ok with you using anything to hit your child besides an open hand on the bottom, obviously within reason. You’ll probably have to sign something that states that you will not abuse your child or use anything like a belt to discipline him. They may deem it necessary for you to take counseling, anger management or to complete parenting classes. If the situation is exactly like you said it was amd there are no other red flags, they likely won’t remove him. The most I can see them doing if they like everything they see but still feel that abuse did happen that one time but is unlikely to occur again, they’ll may put a family protection plan in place where you are not allowed to be alone with your son without another adult present, like your husband, or vice versa if he was the one who used the belt. If they believe that abuse did happen and the accusations against you are substantiated, your name may be placed on a child abuse registry which will prevent you from getting jobs at day cares or working with children. If they believe it was bad enough and he IS removed, you may or may not face criminal charges of child abuse. But like I said before, if the situation is exactly the way you described it, court & criminal charges are unlikely.
I love all the perfect preachy moms on here who aren’t even answering your questions… It’s easy to look at a brief explanation of a situation online, think you have all the info and bash other people’s parenting, but I’m a firm believer that people can be great parents and make mistakes out of desperation. None of us are perfect and we’re all doing the best that we can. Nothing can prepare you for the ever changing journey of raising kids and I doubt that anyone would be 100% proud of the way they handeled every situation if their parenting was put under a microscope and their least proud moment was summarized on a parenting forum. So don’t let these perfect Pattys on here tell you how to parent because I gaurantee that there are things that they do or have done that they aren’t proud of themselves.
I hope that I answered your question and put your mind at ease a little bit with all the unknown. Having CPS called on you as a parent is one of the most terrifying things. Feeling like all the years of good, loving & nurturing parenting no longer matters or is unseen, and your parenting is now only defined by this one questionable moment has to be so scary & heart breaking. You’ll get through this. Maybe use this opportunity to request some services for your son like counseling. Show them that you have only ever tried to do what is best for your son and that is what you are continuing to do by asking for their help.
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I’ve been told by CPS long as you don’t leave a mark there’s nothing they can do
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I had the issue with child services and my ex husband he spanked my daughter, left marks. and well… they did nothing. I actually correct my if I’m wrong but I believe my daughter said, their words, he can spank her such as. I recommend very much telling the women everything too a limit, just be mindful of your word too them and watch what you do say as well but they should be able too lead you in the right direction as far as your son and his mouth. I’d of whooped his butt also by the way, my kids got the same mouths. 
Teachers are allowed to spank kids in some states how about parents must have left marks on kids behind also teacher should have school contact you before calling CPS
I was not hit with belts I was beaten also with hands fists and 2 x 4’s yes that’s beaten but still no different then what you did. What does hitting someone do it causes them long term shame it teaches them when you get angry you hit someone. You never hit there is a reason there is CPS it’s not acceptable anymore call your dr get him into therapy hitting is never an answer it’s humiliating shameful and not ok
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Wow !!! You are so so so wrong!!!
What you should actually be doing is communicating with your child and actually finding out why he’s acting how he’s acting! He might actually start talking to you and stop lying!!
Also he sounds literally just like a teenager! They are all like it at that age… especially if they know their friends are doing things…
You literally hit him with a belt that abuse!!! How about you bend over and let someone whack you with a belt 3 times and see how you feel after???
The only thing you actually seem worried about is the fact social is getting involved not that you literally beat your child!!!
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Sounds like mom needs some parenting classes. That is child abuse. Dont try to justify it.
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I’m sorry you HIT your child with a belt to try and fix bad behavior? Sounds a little redundant and makes zero sense how you would fix bad behavior with bad behavior.
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U SPARED THE ROD For 10yrs now look! It’s a big difference n abuse n disciplining. From what I’ve read U SHOULD’VE BN DISCIPLINING HIS LITTLE DISRESPECTFUL BUTT EVERY SINCE HE WAS ABLE TO UNDERSTAND ENGLISH, OR RIGHT AND WRONG‼️ NEXT HE’S GOING TO BE WHIPPING U‼️ JUST WATCH‼️
And I’m sorry all you people defending the mum about hitting her child!
Imagine if this was a man saying he did this to his partner! The comments would be going wild!
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Just fyi you can spank your kids with an open hands but leaving marks and using an object such as a belt is child abuse especially if it left marks on the child.
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“the old days” type of punishment was for unintellectual, impatient, unemotional beings. Using a BELT??? On your child??? Not ONCE did I read that you attempted to use rationale or reasoning!!! Like, “I” statements, or giving insight on bad behavior in correlation to potential consequences… “Whooping” your child is GROSSSSSSSS. I hope they take your kid from you and put him with someone who has the patience and moral examine for him to follow. Puke
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Never punish your child while your deeply angry. Being a mother is hard. Super frustrating at times. Any parent knows that, but make sure to take a breather before going in. I am, by no means, against children getting spanked. Sometimes it does them good. When you, yourself are so angry that you feel the need to pick up a belt or whatever, just stop and walk away. Make them go to their room knowing you will be in soon to talk to them. Not all kids but most will anticipate the discipline to their actions that are yet to come. Waiting for action gives more time to reflect. Take a breather. Then proceed with whatever discipline you feel is necessary in that particular situation, after you have both had time to reflect.
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Thankfully I come from a state were if the police get involved they tell you to spank your children as soon as they leave. CPS will investigate and “recommend” parenting classes. That’s about it. Perhaps you should become more involved in your child’s Counseling.
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Me personally I’d continue to use that belt before cps is the one picking him up from juvi im on your side with this we pop mouths hands behinds and give good whoopings in my house if you don’t get it together your going to want to start quick when I finally get fed up with the calm talking it out seeking non violent bs … I was raised by my nana and Poppie old school grandparents that made me go pick my own switches and braid them first and stood in the corner so long before because of my mouth my ankles calves and thighs collapsed from standing and not being allowed to learn and I will tell you I respect my elders and literally I show respect and am a civil human being to basically everyone ceo to junkie I’m kind too in life because of the way I was raised . Cps is probably just gonna ask you what really happened they know kids will lie and throw out hairy crap for sympathy attention and these kids seem to think it’s going to make anything easier or better for them to lie and say we beat them instead of normal fed up finally punishments … like does cps and the system want to raise them or can we beat on our kids a little bit harshly and get the point across and save government money ?
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You guys are literally making it seem like she whooped him after every single thing he did… She tried, she got tired of the shit, being disrespected… What else is she supposed to do? Pop him on the wrist and tell him no? Y’all’s gentle parenting is CRAZY. My dad always said, if it came down to getting whooped, we deserved it. 110% of the time, we did. We never did that same shit again.
My goodness. Like one had mentioned, yall are a bunch of Karens on this post. She didnt abuse her child. You are all acting like she beats her kid all the time or something… She felt this was like the last resort type of discipline… Apparently he wasnt hurt that bad. Im not saying you should always whoop your kids with a belt or anything but damn. Adhd or not hes 10…he shouldnt be acting out this bad and not listening after she had already taken everything and done everything she knew and could think to do. She was frustrated and upset. It happens… But shes not abusing her child…smh. Some of you sound crazy
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Y’all shouting it is abuse are comical
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#thechanclasavedmylife
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I have a friend that was told by cps that as long as a whooping is only on the butt and it doesn’t leave marks or bruises, it is their right as a parent to whoop their child
I really hope u get it kid taken. U were completely wrong to abuse ur child just because he has a mouth on him. There are way more better ways to get his behaviors in check then to beat him with a belt
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Let him live with his Dad and Grandma. He’s acting out.
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New age moms who let their child decide their name and if they are male or female surely get riled up when we say we hit our kids 
she has an unruly 10 year old boy … I literally have a 12 year old daughter who knows how to act and has only been whooped twice and a son that hits spits bites kicks screams and will open hand smack punch and pistol whip you with any toy in hand or sippy … he gets his hand or his little leg tapped on a daily trust me it’s not abuse letting your child ABUSE you to the point your needing help is not ok and making it a bigger problem that belt is not abuse
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Girl he is fine I promise. Don’t listen to the negative Nancy’s either. My son is 5 and I whoop him with a belt but only when I know nothing he else is working. It doesn’t hurt him but definitely gets his attention. I’ve had cps come into my home and check over everything and talk to me and my child both separately. She saw no signs of abuse and dropped the case. Just breathe be honest and you should be ok
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There’s a very fine line between discipline and abuse these days so unfortunately because of this parents are afraid to do anything to their children and they are getting out of control. I’m on your side bc if you can’t stop it at 10, it’s gonna get much worse.
Best of luck to you, mom.
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It’s no wonder our society is a mess. Some of you all let your kids run the house. Sounds to me like the boy needs military/juvenile school. I would tell CPS, if they could do a better job, here ya go. Unfortunately, the schools and CPS work hand in hand. That’s why the cry for foster homes are on every street corner. As a child, we learned real quick not to disrespect. That is certainly not the case now a day. Good luck and ignore all the rediculous comments.
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Y’all assuming that she hasn’t talked to him until she’s blue in the face is flooring me. It’s literally in the list at the end. Anybody else catch the time frame to this either?? An ENTIRE MONTH. A whole damn month that’s more patience than a lot of you have in a line having to wait.
Send him to a boarding school.
I still remember the thick @$$ board that was used on me growing up, after it got used our name was wrote on it!!!
Now days parents are scared to touch their children because everyone (even their own child) is quick to call CPS, but police here have said as long as no mark is left you can do what you need.
I’m not sure where you live, but where I live you are ALLOWED to smack your child with an open hand, not sure about the belt. Definitely wouldn’t consider it abuse-don’t listen to the softies.
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To the mom who posted this, im here if you need someone to talk to, so feel free to pm me. No judgement here.
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Pack his Lil suitcase and tell dad to come over fir the appointment. Let dad try for a while.
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We just went through this with one of my kids. But I didn’t spank him. But usually (depending on where you are) as long as it was on the butt and no marks nothing will happen. (I do spank when necessary and I told the initial interviewer i did and how) I’m surprised they initially only did a phone interview. Usually they want to see and talk to everyone in the household. The poor gal who did the initial interview I felt sorry for… only 1 kid on the report but we have 12 people in our house currently (our kids plus 2 grands cause our oldest is recovering from brain cancer) and was here till 11pm. They closed it as a kid who didn’t get his way.
But sounds like therapy is in order to figure out the root cause or have a talk with the School Resource Officer if they have one. (Here 4 and down don’t have one but 5th and up does) the day before the call to cps we had just spoken to the sro who happened to move in across the street from us. He mentioned filing for FINs and gave me the # should we need to. He was also straight with our kid that he can’t go to court saying why he doesn’t want to live here and say we physically abuse him without proof and can’t go in there with bad grades etc (we have the issue of not doing/turning in work) but as long as we provide food, a place to sleep, clean clothes and shower and we don’t abuse him then he’s kinda out of luck and needs to listen to us and obey our rules. But it really sounds like yall need some type of intervention quick or it’s just going to escalate
YOU WENT AFTER A CHILD WITH A BELT. CPS should be involved!
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Just be completely honest about all the steps you’ve taken to try to help him straighten up… you taking him to therapy was a good move on your part because it shows that your intentions are good ones and you mean no harm and nothing but love. I don’t have to tell you that taking away his electronics and what not is absolutely NOT child abuse… the law requires that parents provide food, water, proper shelter, clean living environment, clean clothes and good hygiene, love, and when it comes to parents having to discipline their children to do it in the proper way. If I were you I wouldn’t stress
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That is child abuse. If I were you, I’d ask the social workers for parenting classes.
All yall saying she is wrong is the reason everyone is so “offended” these days and are self entitled little spoiled brats that think they are owed the world. I got my butt whooped with a belt for being disrespectful as a child and I NEVER thought about it again. discipline your kids.
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I’m not even kidding when I say you need to get your words in order because these people have the mindset of the ones on here saying to take the kid away. I’m angry for you.
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Lol back in my day this was nothing we literally got beat downs for nothing so ppl saying it’s abuse lol try having my childhood broken bones fractures n list goes on children today don’t know a true ass whipping cuz everyone cries around I have never spanked my kids n it’s shows but I knw it’s gna bite me in the ass eventually all for fear of cps
MOM I THINK YOU DONE GREAT AT LEAST YOU WONT BE THE MOM WITH HER HAIR LIFTED BECAUSE YOU WASNT GONNA TAKE YOURE SONS CRAP ARE WITH THE SCHOOL IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD WITH KIDS being killed off cause sonny cant have his WAY LOOKS LIKE IF HE KEEPS GOING HES ON A ROAD TO DESTRUCTION DONT TAKE THESE THINGS LIGHTLY STAY HIS MOM NOT HIS FRIEND IF CPS IS REALLY ABOUT PROTECTING OUR KIDS IT WILL BE FINE SOMETIMES THEY ALSO NEED TO BE PROTECTED FROM THEMSELVES ITS GETTING REAL OUT HERE
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I was on your side up until you said you hit your child WITH A BELT. CPS may order parenting classes to help your find better ways to discipline and id suggest counseling for both of you as physical abuse is never the answer. And for the people saying it’s not abuse… if it was the kid hitting his mother with a belt it would be abuse… or a husband hitting his wife with a belt etc so just stop. 
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All you really can do is be truthful and hope for the best. You may have to go parenting classes and jump through some hoops. Ask for help. How does one deal with a completely uncontrollable child? One thing for sure, do not give the child back any of the electronics back for at least a couple years. maybe when he is 16. I am not an advocate for corporal punishment on children but my son growing up was let’s just say not the easiest child to raise, especially after his dad and I split. Twice in his life he got an ass whooping. Once when he about 10, he was throwing a fit in the auto parts store because I wouldn’t buy him something and he mouthed off and said if you don’t buy this for me, I am gonna tell grandma that you abuse me. I smacked him hard enough to knock him to the floor and said ok now you can tell your grandma I abuse you I turned and walked away from him screaming on the floor. The other patrons in the store clapped. The second time was when he was 15 and he ran up on me with fists because I wouldn’t let him go out til midnight with his friends. He got punched in his mouth before he could punch me. He never again disrespected me. My son is 30 now and we are really close. He still brings up these incidents as pivital points in his life that he learned the most about how to treat his mom. People here will judge you and be mean and say ugly things to you but pay no mind to their judgment. It takes strength to ask for advice and be honest about a situation you said was the wrong choice. My advice is when CPS comes ASK FOR HELP and be HUMBLE. Because they are involved now they can either make or break you, so hang in there. I wish the best possible outcome for you.
Therapy and documentation. Even the sweetest parent is no match for a rude child who thinks hes been abused. Its a different world these days. And be prepared for parenting classes or something of the sort. I watched a friend deal with this and by no means was the child abused. Just entitled. Oh and dont ever use a belt please. Not trying to be a dick. And also… see if thats maybe what he wants… like to get you in trouble instead of fixing the problems.
You are allowed to spank your kids
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Even God says spoil the rod you spoil the child. I read somewhere that if that’s what they want give it to them. They want to go to the extreme. Cps will come look see. But he doesn’t have to have all the luxuries all the expensive clothes. I wish I could find it but if I leave this post I probably won’t find it again. Do not give him all the extras in life. Keep chores no extra respect is earned not given. You are keeping him from jail later in life. He will thank you not now but later.
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Hate to say but you likely will lose your son. You shouldn’t have done what you did with the belt
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If someone felt the need to hit me when I made mistakes I’d be disrespectful too. You reap what you sew.
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“yOu hIT YoUr ChILd WItH A bElT?! tHaT iS ChILd AbUsE!!”
Literally the whole comment section right now. 
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This thread explains a lot about the world today and the generation that will eventually run it. 
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They are totally 100% AGAINST pops/spanks/any kind of physical punishment!!! Once they open that case it’s not too easy to close. They will talk to you and your son more and figure out a game plan for both of you. Use it to your advantage to help him however he may benefit. I’d be quick to let him know you didn’t ask for CPS and wish he hadn’t told his sob story at school but he did and now yall are here.
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I’d take away even the smallest of fun toys or whatever it is he is liking at the times being and make sure he knows what he did is wrong. What happens in the home stays on the home unless the child feels really threatened. Which half the time these 10 yr old punks have no clue what’s what. And they’re given all these electronics. Nope take em away.
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You did nothing wrong except maybe spoil him and not spank him enough earlier on and now it’s an issue because he is disrespectful. Also, 10 is way too young for a phone in my opinion.
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Sounds like you’ve done all the actions and talking. Have you tried letting him be the one to talk?
Also, belting your child is child abuse.
How would you like it if you were to do something your way and because someone else didn’t agree, let’s use your boss at work for an example, how would you like it if they came and belted your ass? Not very productive, humane or respectful at all, is it?
Sounds like you’re trying to be a dominator not a parent. He’s 10 ffs. What you gunna do when he’s 13, 14, 15 etc. Good luck to ya and even more luck to your boy. 
So, my sister snuck out and was caught sneaking out and my mom whooped her ass with a belt and I can’t lie, she had a bruise but, when my sister called CPS, the lady came and talked to my mom which then she told her “well, you’d better be busting her ass again for calling us and lying.” Basically told my sister cps is for kids who are abused not brats that are mad at their parents
Smacking a kid does nothing.it only acts as a temporary release of your anger and frustration with their behaviour. They don’t learn from it at all.
Tell me this. If his dad got a new gf and your son came back to you and told you she’d whipped him with a belt surely you’d be furious and report it. If so why should it be ok for you to whip your kid It’s?It’s not one rule for u and a different one for others!
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Message me, but most CPS can understand from a beating and abuse. Ur trying to make ur child mind but u are allowed in my state to spank ur child if not they turn out sometimes horrible, not all kids are the same. Mine have the same mindset girl message me please
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I think you did the right thing. Spare the rod, spoil the child. As far as the disrespectfulness I would whoop they butt every time they was disrespectful and they will learn that it’s not okay. Don’t worry everything will be fine! 