If she’s in to fashion and makeup let her bloom, it could be a serious career in the future. W reason let her but no tattoos on eyebrows
DON’T shave her face!!! That texture will NEVER go away. Take her to have her lip and eyebrows waxed. You will be able to explain to a professional that you do not want her eyebrows overdone but simply cleaned up.
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Why is waxing out of the question? You should have both waxed never shave or pluck
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Waxing would be far better for her than shaving. Especially now.
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OMG PLEASE DO NOT HAVE HER SHAVE HER FACE…
Please find hair removal products like Nair for the lip… there is a special kind specifically for faces that are gentler…
As for the eyebrows… buy her a good set of tweezers and teach her to clean up her lines … nothing else! She doesn’t need them to “be on fleek” or anything crazy.
Honestly I stopped plucking/ waxing my brows 10 years ago. I LOVE the natural brow look… but if its unruly and causing embarrassment then try what you can to teach her just grooming tips…
She shouldn’t be that concerned…
Alsoooooo… for what it’s worth… as a young girl. 10/11. My mom started taking me to get waxed after my first “shaving incident” went awry…
I got waxed regularly to the point that the hair stopped growing on about 30% of my legs and to this day I am very nearly hairless on my legs and can go far longer between shaves.
Good luck!
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Yes she’s almost 13 and in this time in life young ppl will point out anything that’s wrong w a young lady. Crushing their confidence… definitely take her. Get her some highlights and a Manicure too… make her feel good about her self and than tell her not to worry bout the haters, cuz haters are going to hate, even at your best. So tell her to focus on herself. 
If she was my daughter, I would encourage her to make the decision of going to a salon before just shaving it yourself at home. She’s a pre teen, I feel like she would benefit more by bringing her to a salon. Ask questions on how to upkeep the facial hair at home, etc. Please, don’t let it grow out. Kids can be brutal and the last thing you want is your teenage daughter being bullied at school for this. Best of luck mama! 
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Finishing Touch Flawless makes a great little item to get rid of facial hair and any age can use it. My daughter is 9 and we use it because she is starting to get a unibrow.
Like it or not this stuff matters in society and she shouldn’t have to be embarrassed.
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Take her to get them done before she does it herself. My mom didn’t let me do anything of that at that age because I was “too young” now my brows thick af and I need to get my lip done every few days. Facial hair is now a huge insecurity for me and I’m only 24
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Why don’t you pluck her eyebrows for her. It was like a right of passage for me and my mom. As for the facial hair, just don’t take a razor to it. There is a nifty little tool that just looks like a pen at Wal-Mart. Its discreet and doesn’t irritate the skin. She can carry it in a purse where ever she goes. I would stay away from creams and waxes until she is older, it could hurt her skin.
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Get a flawless, she should be able to handle that for her upper lip. And help her with her eyebrows
My granddaughter is 12yrs. Just done here’s I think it’s fine!
You do not shave your face. When it does come back it will come back thicker and darker. Magic cream at Walmart.
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Omgsh… trained cosmetologist here. DO NOT SHAVE HER FACE. get it waxed, it should last 6 months to a year depending on race and her age… repeat if necessary and you’ll want to get some witch hazel to put on her face after wax to limit breakouts
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Use the as seen on tv things for eyebrows and face hair it’s amazing and better than shaving and way less painful than waxing
Show her how to take care of it properly before somebody else shows her.
What about threading if you are against waxing?
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Address it now before it does become a bigger issue for her(bullying!) and get professional advise to the approach. Less is best so minimal treatment could keep things under control. 12 is young but such a difficult stage in life. Best wishes
I’d show her how to take care of it sensibly as long as she doesn’t shave her eyebrows like I’ve seen some women do l think she should be fine you have to remember children grow up faster these days 
Let her get them done. Thats middle school age and kids can be sooooo sooo rude. Take it from someone who knows…
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I wouldn’t shave it. I’d go somewhere professional and get them to do her eye brows and lip.
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My daughter tried at 10,i had to get her to a professional to correct my now she gets them done professionally on a regular. Prefers to go see our lady then pluck lol
My 12 year old son waxed his eye brows he wants two lol
I’d show my daughter how to take care of it. Whether it plucking or waxing if it bothering her then I would allow it
Most girls start grooming around 10-11 years old. If it’s natural for her to start getting leg hair, mustache, etc why would it be weird for her to start grooming those things if she desires?
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Please do not shave her face omg that will come in darker and darker everytime ! Please look into things like these .
All hair removal products for sensitive skin since it’s on her face and that’s a sensitive area!
Cannot stress that enough !
What’s wrong with waxing? No way would I let my daughter shave her face
Shaving her upper lip is only going to make it worse. Why can’t she wax? I did go get it done for my eyebrows at 12
Take her to get her brows and lip done before she comes home crying from being bullied. Being hairy sucks. Do not shave it, go to a professional!
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Only thing is once you start something like that u can never stop because the hair grows faster each time u get it done especially with hair above the lip
Please show her how. Kids are mean and that’s something that is easily addressed.
If you make her shave her upper lip your setting her up for failure it will only make it worse why not let it wax doesn’t grow back even 1/2 as fast , and if you noticed it then obviously other kids are gonna notice it and kids these days will pick on other kids for anything . Jesus let your child get rid of unwanted facial hair . She’s becoming a women !
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My daughter is 10yrs old and has asked me multiple times to pluck her eyebrows because like you’ve stated her hair is pretty dark and her eyebrows grow out into the middle of her face. I do it and will eventually take her to someone more professional in time because I want her to feel as comfortable in her own skin as she can. Kids are aging fast these days and I try my hardest to keep my kids…kids as long as I can but with school and what not expect them to grow as fast as the other kids around them 
Take her to get them waxed or threaded.
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My daughters starting getting their eyebrows done at ten years old. Both of them. Neither have done their upper lip because it’s isn’t a issue but if it were they would get it done also. Anything to make them feel better about themselves in this world where girls get picked apart about everything something so small to take care of could help her boost her confidence and self esteem. I know it shouldn’t matter but the reality is is that it does and people can be so cruel especially if she’s 12 that’s the age where they are turning into teenagers and it’s so hard for them even without giving them something to pick on her for. If she feels like people are going to start saying things or bullying her then let her get her eyebrows done and her upper lip then she can look anyone who’s being mean to her and say what else you got? What about threading her eyebrows?
Do wax on both. If she is feeling self conscious about it I’d say get it done! Self esteem is very important in a young girl. And while it’s important for a 12 yr old to know they’re beautiful regardless if they have thick eyebrows or not. It still may help her feel better about herself.
As a hair dresser. I start waxing my clients as soon as they’re old enough to ask and their parents consent. My 7 year old likes her unibrowe done.
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If she’s asking she should be allowed. Especially if it’s causing her stress at school.
Try something like this. If she messes up, at least they grow back. Much less painful than waxing too. Tinkle Eyebrow Razor Pack of 6 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014HNOXZS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_1fv2DbMHS018M
Maybe y’all could do it together. If she’s really bothered by it and it embarrasses her she’s more than likely going to do it by herself anyways at some point.
12 is a good age. Wax it don’t shave it. She’s at a age where she’s finding her own personality and doesn’t wanna get bullied for being hairy (like I was) and come home crying.
I’d let her get them waxed if it’s that bad plucking if you don’t know how to do it can mess up the shape
I’d have let my daughter get her top lip & brows sugared/waxed at that age,had she have asked me.She started at 15 though,only because that was when she noticed it for herself.x
Take her. Otherwise she could try to shave them or so something about them behind your back if she ends up getting bullied.
Why is waxing out of the question? It is the easiest for both hair issues. If she shaves her upper lip the stubble will come back quicker than if she waxes. Then she will really have to keep on top of it more. I would let her get it done. Kids can be really cruel in middle school and high school. I taught middle and I am now at high school.
Why put her through the embarrassment when it can be easily fixed. It could be a problem for her to concentrate on school while at school if she is self conscious about it. My daughter was allowed to wax everything at 11 has never been an issue. She chooses when she wants to do it.
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For christ sakes do not shave or wax your upper lip at all. That will only make it worse. And if she wants to wax her eyebrows so be it.
If the girl is self conscious about it that may be a sign that some mean girl has said something mean about it. That’s what happened to me. Don’t let her get bullied. Also I say wax because if you do plucking or shaving that gives her something she thinks she can do herself and well… with me I ended up with half an eyebrow. So…
I am in the same position right now with eyebrows, and today we are going to go together and get it done! Bonding moment
I would have her see the dr to find out why she is having surges if testosterone!! She could have pcos and will need to get her hormones under control. They have the little trimmers at Wal-Mart especially for face chin area. I recommend using it. Shaving may make it worse and have a rash possibly that stands out more!!
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I would let her get them done
However please dont make her shave her upper lip, it will only come back thicker, and theres potential for ingrown hairs, maybe get it blocked or waxed. Take her to a salon and see what they suggest.
It’s facial hair…not her virginity. Who cares if it’s waxing or shaving or whatever.
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Hey, echoing a previous poster above, but please do make sure to speak with her doctor about this. Excessive hair growth can be a sign of many conditions. It can also just be genetics too, obviously but better safe than sorry to mention <3
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Wax the brows and stache. It’s pretty inexpensive. This actually will cause less facial hair. Talk to a cosmetologist. They’ll tell you the same thing. I’m a cosmetology graduate.
Will putting peroxide on her upper lip lighten it? Maybe try that and definitely wax the eyebrows. My mother didnt let me and I shaved em…hot mess!
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Jolen it’s cream bleach leave on for 10 minutes it will make hair blonde, for eyebrows just wax the middle
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With jolen you don’t have to remove the hair it makes it blonde and unnoticeable
I took my daughter when she was 12 and still take her to get her eyebrows done. She also has a mustache and I just got one of the pocket trimmers…they are round…at wal-mart and she uses that on her upper lip.
Start when she’s uncomfortable about the hair. It’s just hair. Why make life more difficult than it already is for a teenager. Sometimes once the teasing starts it’s doesn’t go away just because she finally got her lip waxed.
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Take her to get it waxed defo!! Being a teenager is har enough without feeling
self-conscious. There will be times in the future where you won’t be able to help her with her self esteem no matter how hard you try, but this time you can.
Who cares if she is 12, it’s not like she is asking to get her lips filled or something.
Help her with this and you will have banked this trust and for the harder teenage stuff to come.
Ps my friends wee girl is going through early puberty.Poor wee girl isn’t even 10 yet and all over the place. Her mum is also having to make decisions about hair ect, but kids at her school aren’t being so nice. She is just doing what she feels right regardless of her age.
Good luck xx
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Speck to the Dr about it, could have something to do with hormones which can be treated.
Hey maybe she’s got a hormonal issue, that’s not normal. Not at all.
My soon to be 8 year old wanta to shave her legs due to kids laughing at her hairy legs. So guess what? Ill help her shave her legs if that helps her feel confident and happy. If she wants her eyebrows fixed? Done. I want her to be happy, and to come to me for these things vs doing it herself and messing it up of hurting herseld
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Do not let her shave her face!! She will have STUBBLE!! And that could be way worse for her to deal with!
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Take her to get them waxed lip and brows why not let a professional do it? Make it like a spa day for the two of you and go get your nails and brows and lip done so she doesn’t feel embarrassed about it or associated with like a negative experience.
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I would recommend waxing upper lip. If done right it wouldn’t hurt but maybe little sting. Eyebrows up to you theres many options for that plucking, flossing, waxing. Shaving will make it worse! They’ll grow in deeper and thicker also ingrown hairs.
You guys go to a salon/spa do mommy and daughter day so she wouldn’t feel so embarrassed.
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Wax!! Dont shave the hair will only grow in darker
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Mom, please show her how to properly care for them!! If it’s noticeable it’s time!!!
If it makes he feel better about herself I say do it. My daughter has PCOS so she has more peach fuzz than normal so we use facial nair.
Wax it. Definitly. Kids are cruel and will bully her.
Why the hell would waxing be out of the question? Take her to get it waxed. Shaving her upper lip should be out of the question.
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Now. You have the means to make her more comfortable. Do so. I do the same for my daughters when they ask.
Honestly , if I had a daughter I’d say yes ! If it’s what she wants and would make her feel more comfortable with herself then I’d do it for her.
If you ask for public opinion…oh yeah, you will get public opinion…
If it bothers her or you then get it done.
I think my mom waxed my upper lip around that time 
as well as helped me shave my legs
12 seems appropriate, especially if it’s bothering her. I’d suggest waxing for brows, which I truly think is less painful than plucking and shaving the lip. I’ve been shaving mine for over 20 years and it’s remained very fine and very blonde.
It may or may not be a hormonal thing. Only a doc could say if it’s abnormal. But there’s really nothing wrong with teaching her how to groom herself earlier than later. Save her the hassle of peer harassment and maybe starting to fight you about when she’s older, even if it is a hormonal thing. But I’d skip the shaving part. If she wants to do it and you want her to be able to maintain it on her own, get a modest home waxing kit, teach her how to use it for facial hair.
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I would teach her how to pluck her eyebrows but just a clean up nothing drastic like the 90’s thin eyebrows. Maybe even going to a salon for the first time of doing it so she can see what looks good with her face/eyes. If they continue to be unruly waxing may be her best option as it will eventually help with slowing regrowth. I would also recommend using a hair removing cream for lip area since here you want to remove all hair. You don’t want her feeling embarrassed about it and if she does she may do something drastic on her own.
You should get it waxed. If you start waxing at that age the hair won’t grow back as thick and as quickly as shaving. Plus what woman wants to shave their face every morning. 
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I made my daughter’s wait til they were 12 to shave their legs. One had already started secretly, found out by the stubby feel hairs. They went through puberty much earlier, age 10/11, than I did at age 14. So, if eye brows are really thick, wirery or unruly. I say take her and make sure they are neatly trimmed up, but NOT too narrow! Hairs won’t grow back in if repeatedly waxed narrow. Learn trends, too, moms. Thicker brows are back in now. Might help in the conversation/battle. Also, pick your battles carefully!
Light on makeup, regular hair trimming, all make a girl and lady look nicer and feel special. Nail polish okay but reminders if chips, need to get if off or it looks bad.
I would put my foot down for paying for too wild, weird hair colors, things that can damage skin, scalp or hair! If costly, encourage chores to earn the appointments cost.
You should take the stick out of your ass and let her get them waxed by a professional.
Its ok to pluck her eye brows, i would shave her upper lip but as a mom with a daughter with pcos. I would please get her checked. These are early signs has hormones are starting
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Show her how to do it ,kids are mean to people now,you don’t want her to be embarrassed
My aunt let my cousin get her lip and eyebrows waxed for the same reason. It won’t hurt to get it done for her especially if kids are noticing. Bullying sucks don’t give them ammo.
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It’s best you help her or take her to have it done before she tries to do it herself. The kids aren’t going to drop it and she won’t just forget about it if she is embarrassed by it. If she’s already shaving her legs…what’s the difference?
I would recommen a mommy and me spa day.
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Umm. If shes feeling self conscious about it, let her do it. How you gonna tell her no? She wants to take care of her appearance, it’s part of growing up. She wants to look well groomed, that is a good thing. And please, get nair for the face…dont have her shave her lip… and maybe go and get your eyebrows done together.
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I would allow her to get them done if it will make her feel better about herself.
Do what makes her feel confident
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Epilation. Hurts a little, but doesn’t have the stigma of shaving her face.
I think 12 is an appropriate age to start teaching your daughter how to groom herself, especially if it bothers her. I was about her age when my mom let me shave my legs and get highlights in my hair.
Show her how to do it it’s not going to hurt anything well besides the pain of plucking
Definitely wax it! Take her to a salon! They can do it for her while also teaching her to eventually do it for herself! 12 is a perfect age to start teaching personal grooming habits! That’s the age I started to shave.
Wax or thread. No shaving ever! No plucking bc it could be over done. Just talk to her about her self confidence and making sure she knows that once she starts she will need to continue. If it is bothering her I’d say do it!
My daughter can grow a unibrow. So we’ve waxed since 7 years old. She hates when the hair starts to grow again. It’s the same as keeping her hair brushed to me.
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I would definitely say waxing over shaving & plucking. Wondering why that’s out of the question.
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I use hair for your face on my top lip and my daughters and it works wonderfully and she gets her brows waxed and shaped up when she needs it
I was about 11 when I started doing my eyebrows regularly
When she’s old enough to understand the process maybe watch videos of other people getting done what she wants and ask if she still wants it, then do it. Make sure she fully understands what’s up and let her make her own choice about it. That’s what I’d do.
My three year old daughter wants her ears done for her fourth birthday. And I showed her YouTube videos of other kids getting them done. Explained it does hurt, but only for a second and I’d have to clean them and turn them and such. She said she still wants them, so we’re doing it for her birthday in two months. I feel it is similar.
Let her do it before she starts getting bullied and does it herself.
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