I took my daughter to get her eyebrows waxed at age 12. They have the option of just cleaning them up instead of shaping them for younger girls.
I would be careful on shaving bc it could cause skin irritation or ingrown hair and that will add to her feeling self conscious.
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Never shave anything, it just grows back darker and thicker. And a 12 year WILL screw up her eyebrows with a razor. I went through this as a 12 year old and ended up shaving my legs behind my grandmother’s back. She asked me why and I cried about how embarrassing it was. After that I shaved my legs because waxing was scary to me on my legs but she took me every 2 weeks or so to get my lip and eyebrows done. Also I completely effd up my eyebrows shaving them later on (I was being impatient) I would show them the awful pics of shaved brows in the 90s and say no matter what, never shave your eyebrows. No matter how bad you think you need them done. Wait to wax, thread or pluck just the bottom little strays until you can get them done right.
I was 12 when I started get my eyebrows done
At 12 shes in grade 7 it’s time
At this age confidence is crucial. Do it. This will end the issue of bullying before it escalates.
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Have her learn from you otherwise if shes determined enough she will learn from youtube or “friends”
I have the same issue. Even a unibrow. I believe I was about her age the first time I had mine done.
You really should have her how to take care of it so she won’t be self-conscious about it and your friends will leave her alone about taking care of yourself and your hygiene she needs to let her beauty show the way she wants to
Take her to beautician for waxing, not fair having her put up with a moustache and monobrow, my daughter had hers pointed out by her big sister and got rid of them at eleven!
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If you don’t want to wax use a hair removal cream don’t shave it
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I think it’s appropriate whenever she starts getting a unibrow or a mustache
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If she is self conscious of it and is asking, I would pluck her eyebrows (or get them threaded or waxed). And I would thread or wax her lip, as well. This is a matter of helping her feel more confident. Don’t worry about shaping her brows…just helping her to keep them groomed.
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Sally hensens (popular brand) sells bleaching kits for dark facial hair. I used to use it for my mustache 
quick and painless!
Make it a daughter and mother girls trip once a month to a salon where they do threading. If she self conscious now and you understand her for it, let her be her. Let her get the things she wants. I wouldn’t recxomend shaving, only because it grows back more course, especially over time.
Been waxing my legs for 6 years now. Each year, I am noticing that my waxing points are getting further and further apart. It’s about every 6 weeks I wax. Every 3 days I shave my underarms. My mother started waxing my underarms at 12 and I wish I never stopped waxing.
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My sister had a bad eyebrows at that age and started getting them waxed at 12.
They are old enough to want to look more presentable and take care of their appearance.
I’m not sure why some parents would rather embarrass their child, just to keep them from ‘growing up’
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Don’t let her shave her lip. It’ll grow back thicker and darker. Plucking or waxing grabs the hair from the root and therefore thins the hair instead of thickens it. Have her wax her eyebrows or thread them and her lip. You can probably understand how she feels about being self conicous. If she already is you don’t want her to get bullied. Let her learn how to care for her girl needs
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I was the same age when I started waxing
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I would advise you to teach and educate her. I am South Asian, and I hate to say it, but we grow hair fast. As a kid I was emberassed and always tried to cover things up.
If you help and guide her this will make it better. You can teach her safe hair removal methods, or take her to a professional. As she gets older more comments may come which will make the whole experience worse
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Shave or wax it. You dont want her to get picked on.
Omg the girl is 12 let her feel pretty.
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DON’T SHAVE HER LIP!!! Take her to a professional to get waxed. Explain in may be painful but if she is self conscious about it better for her to do it with you than with her friends.
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For her upper lip you can get hair removal cream or facial bleach. I have black hair and i find that bleaching works just as good. My stepdaughter is 11 and wanted to do something about her eyebrows and her dad wouldnt allow her to. She ended up getting ahold of my razor and starting school with half an eyebrow, so i suggest helping her with these things before she tries to do it on her own. Lol
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Take her to a salon. Dont make her stay insecure over some facial hair. Also, do NOT shave her eyebrows or lip. Lol…
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She old enough to do it when she is old enough to ask to do it. Period. Stop discounting her feelings and
take her to a salon to get her lip and brow waxed so it’s done properly.
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My daughter started getting waxed at 11 so did I some ethnicities are hairier than others. You should allow her to I used to get made fun of over my eyebrows touching you could barely tell but kids will find any reason to pick at eachother. Honestly I was so thankful my mom who didn’t have the horror of a unibrow understood and let me get them waxed my grandma has been a Esthetician my entire life and owned her own salon so I used to go there every 2 weeks. Now my daughter is 13 years old and I or my grandma does her brows and upper lip every two weeks generational waxing 🤷 btw it’s not a BAD thing to have alot of eyebrow hair people who have unibrows are easier to shape without fear of screwing up because obviously there’s more hair to work with. You can shape her eyebrows appropriately for her age just tell the tech to not go to thin.
You could get one of those electric facial hair razors for her lip. But if you dont want her messing with her eyebrows, maybe tell her she has to wait until she is 13. Make it fun. Lilke a Birthday gift or something. Take her someplace professional so she doesnt do it herself and mess them up.
If she’s asking to I would say it’s appropriate
Dont let her shave her lip itl just come in thicker and darker. If wax is a no then bleach althought i was roughly that age when i started getting my eyebrows waxed as mine r big and thick and noticable
You should show her how to take care of it .
Help her… I was going through the same thing I think everyone does but help her… she wants it done and if she is determined she will end up doing it herself… I never had my mom to show me she always told me I was too young but it’s exausting feeling self conscious for so long and weird just let her know it’s okay everyone goes through this and you will help guide her so she will at least learn how to eventually do it on her own so she won’t have to feel like anything less than perfect 
My daughter is blond so I’m hoping she won’t have the same insecurities as I did with my dark hair. But I started shaving my lip at 12 till I had a job when I was 16 and could pay for my own waxing. Which I still do. I never Evan asked my mom. It’s great that she can to you with this. But take her to get waxed.
Do not shave the lip!! Take her to get it waxed every few weeks, do the same to her brows.
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You have it waxed it’s inexpensive at lasts for weeks my niece had hers threaded her grandmother took her she was four
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This is something you as a mother should figure out with your daughter together not the whole world and Facebook , wow 
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I started getting mine waxed at 10. I had a unibrow lol so glad I did
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Whenever she asking would be the appropriate age.
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She probably is getting really self conscious. May be causing her stress and anxiety in her day to day life at school. I mean. You care about how you look, why shouldn’t she be able to especially if she’s the one that brought it up. Not allowing her to be comfortable and confident in her own skin because of her age is making it seem as if she’s doing something wrong by having extra hair that other kids might not have. It’s not like she’s asking to wear short skirts and tank tops. Really.
I’d take her to have it waxed. 
I don’t see the issue with this. It’s not like she’s wearing makeup or anything. She will develop an insecurity if you don’t allow her to do this and other kids can start making fun of her.
Let her do it or she will be bullied for it!
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My daughter started having her eyebrows and upper lip Waxed at 10. Because as your daughter is experiencing kids are mean and cruel. I wouldn’t shave them unless you want her to have a mustache, shaving them makes them grow back thicker and darker just as when boys start shaving them to have a beard and mustache.
If you shave it, it’s going to come back even thicker and darker. Take her to get it waxed.
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If you dont let her she’ll do it herself🤷♀️ so showing her the right way would be better for her
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Why don’t you both go together and have a beauty treatment. Then maybe after let her have her nails done. Make her feel better xx
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If you dont want to take her to get waxed then take her to get threaded. This way her eyebrows are even and it’s done quickly.
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What’s the harm of waxing your eyebrows and mustache? It’s either she does it or gets bullied for it. Literally no reason not to.
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It’s a confidence booster.
She’s not asking to wear mascara and lip gloss.
Please don’t shave her face!! 
She’s old enough for waxing. Take somewhere you’ve tried and like, and explain it’s her first time and she’s nervous and afraid it will hurt. Get some numbing cream before you go if you’re really worried. I mean… it’s that or nair or bleach… or I use this little spring thing I got on Amazon (REM spring facial hair remover), which plucks the hair out in clumps, but it hurts more than waxing because it’s not done in one fell swoop. And all that is a lot for a 12 yr old. Waxing gets less painful each time and is over quickly. But, your choice.
Yeah this is a tough one because I wouldn’t want my daughter hurting for feeling anything but less than a person. But Tiffany’s right about shaving ur face because it does grow back thicker that’s why beards look all thick n mustaches n why lil boys start shaving there faces before they even really get hair
I would let her do it. Kids can be mean… especially worse now and a days. But I dont know about shaving it…
I like the idea of making it a mom and me day and both getting waxed together. Make it a bonding ritual. Also i agree with not shaving her face it makes it worse.
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I was teased for hairy arms, legs and what not as soon as 6th grade happened. My 12 year old is a carbon copy of me. I have talked to her alot about it and gave her the go ahead. Not because it makes you uglier but self esteem is important and if you want to get rid of a little hair on your body that’s fine
I would let her pluck her eyebrows. Maybe take her to a salon the first time to shape them and let her continue. (I started plucking mine at around 12 - 13 years old. Let her use facial Nair or bleach for her upper lip.
I really dont k ow what to do with my daughter. While me and her younger brother were visiting family she stayed home with her own visitor. I came home that evening to find oit that my 8 year old daughter had plucked her eyebrows. Why? Why the fudge would an 8 year old feel the need yo pluck? I dont even really pluck my own. No one in this house really ever plucks their eyebrows. I’m at such a loss with this girl of mine
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Dont make her leave it, if she is embarrassed about it help her out. My daughter has a very light unibrow, (like 4 or 5 hairs that connect across) and she started asking me to pluck them at 11, so I did. I wouldnt make her live with something that harms her self esteem and causes her to get bullied just because of her age.
Show her how to take care of it
I would leave the upper lip hair. You star shaving it will grow back thicker, darker and faster and it’s not worth the maintenance it takes for a 12. Mt girl has beautiful thick eyebrows and the only thing we do is get the middle done because of a monobrow. I keep saying to her that girls will be very jealous of her gorgeous thick eyebrows when she gets older😊
Show her how to take care of it otherwise she may get bullied and end up depressed and depression is something you don’t want your child to be regardless the age
I feel like it u ultimately up to your daughter and what makes her feel okay especially in the world we’re living in too but I think it’s really important that you teach Her body confidence body on your hair confidence any confidence you can teach her because the world is ugly and we should not be preparing our kids to live in this ugly mean world. Every kid is beautiful and special just the way they are
If I were u I would let her get them waxed
I started getting my daughter’s eyebrows waxed at 10. There is nothing wrong with taking her to get them waxed now.
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What is it going to hurt, she will fill better about herself
And before the outer kids make fun of her
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I would wax the eyebrows so they can get shaped and she can maintain. Please don’t shave her upper lip. At least use Nair if you don’t want to wax. If it bothers her, there is nothing wrong with it. I remember being in the 6th grade going to a dance with pantyhose on (my mother made me wear them) and a boy said, “what’s that?” Pointing at the hair on my legs. I shaved them immediately that same night! It is not embarrassing, it’s humiliating at that age.
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Help your daughter out if she’s getting made fun of at school do something bout it
Don’t have her shave her upper lip!!! Use a hair removal cream from Walmart or Target if you won’t take her to get it waxed.
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I definitely wouldn’t shave the life. Don’t no why waxing is out of the question but that’s the way to go. For the eyebrows my mom used to pluck them for me she started when I was in the 5th grade I think. Now as a adult I just get them threaded
For the upper lip get the bleach kit! Its in the shaving aisle in a little box! It burns a tad but if she does something to occupy her mind for a couple minutes its worth it! Way less noticeable then having to wait for the hair to grow back out to be able to wax again!
Now that its bothering her, I’d help her deal with it!
my daughters have pcos we buy the thing that looks like a lipstick tube to do away with any unwanted facial hair!
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Show her how to take care of it!
Let her wax it shaving makes it worse
Take her to get it done, it will make her feel better about herself and there is nothing wrong with it. Let her do it don’t give people a chance to bully or put her down.
Take her to get them waxed!!! It’s the easiest way to help her and having a professional do what they do best is always the best way to go!! It also hurts way less than plucking your hair out , my daughter was about 11 when I started taking her and there has never been an issue, there has however been a confidence boost !!
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It’s HER BODY. It is not your property. Body hair removal is a personal choice and it is HER CHOICE. She’s made the choice and you not supporting it undermines her autonomy. She is not a baby anymore - she’s growing into a young lady.
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She is 12 almost a teenager she isnt asking for birth control or tattoos let her do them if it is bothering her. It could deffinitely affect her self image especially if girls are saying things. Bullys are assholes. Dont hold her from getting them done
My Aunt took me to get my eye brows waxed at 12. I don’t see anything wrong with it honestly. 
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Let her get her self done. It’s not like shes wearing makeup, let the girl boost her confidence.
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PLEASE dont be shaving facial hair, you’ll end up with course stubble from the blunt edge effect. Let her wax/pluck or at worst, nair. Shaving is a bad idea though. Cosmotology school 101.
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Go and get salon advice, that age they can start being really mean . You want here to feel good about herself 
Show her so she doesn’t feel embarrassed.
Show her how to take care of it. I don’t see anything wrong with that.
Let her get it done from a professional. But also, teach her that it doesn’t matter what those girls or anyone thinks about her, her body, or her hair (you probably already do this, but I think that is more important than letting her get her eyebrows done).
I wouldn’t shave it would probably come back worse maybe research the different options my sister in law has hers plucked with a string of some sort at a salon also maybe get her hormones checked not saying it abnormal but could be a testosterone issue worth looking into
If you don’t let her remove the facial hair that’s embarrassing her she will resent you. Definitely wouldn’t recommend shaving though, plucking or (preferably) waxing.
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If she is feeling self conscious about it, you should let her do it. It’s only hair and you want her to feel comfortable in her body.
Good mother trying to make an educated and thought out decision versus a knee jerk reaction. Although you don’t want your daughter solely making decisions based on what others think it sounds like you’re sending a good message. “If this is something YOU want and it is important to YOU, I’ll help you do it in an appropriate way.” Continue your message that you love her as she is, and then be clear that once you teach her how to manage these body areas, she has to be responsible to keep up with it ( or come to you if it’s time and needing help).
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Get her what she needs to wax. And with your supervision she’ll be ok. Waxing is much better then shaving for female facial hair.
At this stage it would just be taming for her eyebrows, not profiling or sculpting. And her upper lip is just cleaning.
Go for it. It would help her self confidence!!!
I would let her take care of it. I agree with the other comments. Waxing and or plucking. Girls at that age can be cruel.
Please don’t have her shaving her upper lip! She will have mens stubble making it even worse… take her to be waxed and save her embarrassment.
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I learned from watching I’ve always lived with a bunch of girls so I caught on pretty quickly. Sadly if you don’t teach her someone else will.
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Go for waxing or threading not shaving it make it worse
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Teach her if it was her period would you let it go bc she is only a certain age. No you would show her help her
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The best age is when her eyebrows look bad 
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If she’s worried about it and people at school are making comments, then help her. Kids can be cruel. No sense forcing her to deal with that. Show her.
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Waxing will keep it away longer, but the flawless shavers are great too. Welcome her to womanhood!!
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I started to shave my legs around 12-13 yrs old.
Maybe look into threading for her facial hair. It’s not very painful, and if done in the right place, it’s so nice. I wouldn’t shave her face. Wax may hurt, so threading is probably a better choice.
Get it done professionally. This happened to my daughter at the same age. She felt the need to hide it from both my husband and I and shaved her legs and upper lip, I questioned her about it when I noticed and she tried to deny it. I told her she was beautiful no matter what and is too young to worry about her looks. Kids these days can be horrible at school, she was very self conscious and I didn’t want her feeling like that. I brought her into our local beauty professional to have her eyebrows waxed (as she begged us for a few weeks) and her upper lip. Her smile and happiness afterwards totally made it worth it 
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Get that lip thing at walmart etc. Its been advertised on tv for facial hair. Cant think of the name of it but it works great. Theres 1 for eyebrows to
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Yeah get one of those flawless things for hey for a gift
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Take her to a beauty therapy shop and get hem done professionally
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