My ex, the father of my two oldest, has another baby on the way. I couldn’t be happier for them. Our children couldn’t be more excited to have another younger sibling ( They already have three younger siblings from me). It’s all they can talk about. I really want to do something special for them as they don’t have anything yet for their unborn child. She is not due until June, I think, which does give me some time. I’m on a fixed income and raising five children alone, so I wouldn’t be able to do much but still want to do something for them. Please help with some ideas I’m so stumped
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A specail little girl/boy outfit
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Dollar tree has very use items! Nice baskets etc. You could even cook or bake a little something from the kids.
Little red embroidery can make a stuffed animal with her name and birthday or measurements if you wait.
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He’s having another baby but dont support his with you? I would have them make something.
But white onesies and let your kids decorate them for their new brother or sister.
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Have the siblings make an art poster to hang in ymthe babys room!
Have you looked at making a nappy cake. You could pick little bits up each week and the. Get everything together. My friend made me one and it was brilliant. There are step by step instructions on Pinterest
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Maybe an inexpensive bassinet from Walmart
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Big/little shirts and onesie
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I saw a diaper cake with a bottle of wine hidden inside for mommy!
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I would say a few freezer meals.
Or see what is on their registry if they’ve made one
I love seeing posts like this!
Helping hands is always nice
Freezer meals
You could have the other kids make something.
If you know the gender you could buy a little outfit or something.
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I don’t have any tips or anything just wanted to say what a lovely thought, you must be a lovely lady
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Maybe get baby donations from people in your area and build a big gift that will help like lots of diapers but cream ect
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I really don’t have any ideas, but I just have to say that you are awesome!!! Some of us aren’t so lucky to get amazing exes like you.
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Get some white onesies and have your kids decorate them so baby will have a special shirt from each sibling
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Have the kids pick something out! But I agree with the meals too!
I love this, so much!! 
Co-parenting for the win!
(But you’ve already got a negative comment. 
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She means she’s alone, not that he isn’t helping. “Fixed” probably includes child support because ya know, it’s a fixed amount. 
A gift basket? And have the kids help/add stuff too.
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I think a canvas with a painted tree trunk and branches siblings handprints for leaves leave room for additional baby prints once baby comes is cool and doable under $20
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Well that’s nice of you. My exs current wife wont even properly meet me. Her and my ex keep having baby girls, if we could be civil I’d buy her some cute baby clothes.
Pack n plays, basic ones are about $30… You could get one of those & let your children pick an outfit out each & maybe one other little gift!
With my step kids I help them make a blanket it was cheap and easy. Something home made is cute and they can be envolved.
Dispers they can ALWAYS use diapers
If the momma asking this question reads this: please pm me. I crochet baby blankets and would be delighted to make one for you to give to your ex. As a step parent myself, I love seeing others co parent so well!
I got my exes baby mama a picture frame and an owl stuffy for her son (she loves owls herself). I hate my ex and they’re spilt up now Haha
Walmart an target have lots of clearance in clothes an you can always start buy getting something here an there an shop always has nice deal on diapers or maybe get a onies an put a pic of ur two oldest kids on it an put these are my oldest siblings
Do something home made, maybe a picture with all the kids handprints and space for the new family member when they arrive
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I know this is kinda off the path that everyone else has gone…but cook something for when they come home from hospital. Like a lasagna. It’s Fairly cheap, and you just cook it, put it all together in a throw a way pan and all they have to do it put it in the oven when they are ready. Makes life easier for all.
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You are setting an amazing example for your children! I admire your attitude! You should be proud of yourself not only as a momma, but as a human being in general!
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If you crochet, a small baby blanket would be inexpensive and quick to make.
If you have a dollar tree by you they normally have baby stuff there!
I think the decoration of a couple of onesies is adorable from the other kids and maybe see if they would benefit from some freezer meals? My bonus kids mother made it terribly uncomfortable for them to get excited about their father and I having a babe of our own. My heart swells reading your post and your story. you are a wonderful person and it sounds like many people are blessed with your presence in their life
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I may not know you personally. You are beautiful person at heart to do something special to your ex and his family. It makes the world a better world for all children.
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Premade dinners that can be frozen? Lasagna/pasta, crock pot meals, etc.
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White onesies and the white reusable diapers that people use as burp rags. Let the kids paint them. Artsy project. Fun. creative. Gets everyone involved. Useable. I love arts and crafts
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You could do a gift basket with some candy, baby items, things for the mom like a face mask and candle
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Maybe a big welcome to the family poster, and get the kids to do handprints in paint and stuff?
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We got my sons dad and his wife a gift certificate for a newborn/ family photo shoot for around $75/$100. Not sure how much you want to spend but since you said you have some time before the baby comes, you may be able to put money towards it each month
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Make premade dinners for them my Ma and mom made premade dinners for me that could sit in my freezer and I just had to pop in the oven for dinner! Lasagna, spaghetti, home made chicken noodle soup, etc are all great ideas that are cheap!
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Make a little basket and have the kids help out
You are so much better than me right now… my ex is having a girl the same time I am due with twins… I just can’t be happy about it due to his past
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You can make a diaper cake!
You could always help with meals after baby is born!
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My kids picked out some clothes and we got them a box of diapers and I bought the car seat because they were struggling at the time. I strongly dislike dude but he’s a good father lol
I like the make a blanket idea. My grandparents have lots of grandchildren, great, great great grandchildren. She loves to make each new grand child a pair of footies, mittens, blanket, hat! And she’s a painter so shell end up making a painting for their room!
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Every time you go to the store (or every couple times if you go a lot) grab something small for either mama or baby or dad, and by the time the baby comes you’ll have enough for a nice little gift basket without breaking the bank 
Ideas could be :postpartum care (aloe, witch hazel, lavender essential oils, Tylenol, nipple pads, lotions, etc), handmade babysitting “coupons” cards for catching up on sleep, inside your kids could decorate, a lunch box for your kids to decorate for dad, pacifiers, bows/bow ties, socks, bath bombs, soaps, face masks, slippers, baby shoes, snacks.
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I say a small laundry basket with all the essentials like bath stuff, maybe a small pack of diapers, an outfit. Nothing crazy but since you do have plenty of time to buy a few smaller items at a tome.
I gave the baby momma all my kids clothes. That’s bout the best I was gonna do
I dont have any ideas but you must be an amazing person! Your heart must be made of gold to want to do something so kind for an ex. The world needs more of you! Bless your heart!
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THIS!!! I’m sure they are aware of your financial situation so I would go and talk to both your ex and mama to be and tell them exactly what you said on here and what you are willing and able to offer. Ask them what they need help with and don’t be offended if they say they’ve got this.
Wow, it’s so nice to hear stuff like this I’ve never understood why everyone can’t get along in co-parenting situations especially when the ultimate goal is the same. Keep up the good work, they’re all lucky to have you:heart:
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Dinners. Or maybe some frames from dollar store and some name stickers and put little messages like “siblings are special” kind of things on or in frame. Just reaffirming that solidarity and family bond!
A few home cooked meals that they can just pop right into the oven to reheat. Lasagna, pasta and meatballs, breakfast burritos that they can freeze and put in the microwave.
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get a small basket and add small items from now until closer to the due date
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That’s great you have a good relationship with everyone involved
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On A-day the that you can buy diapers buy diapers every time you’ve got the chance as you know as a mother you can never have enough diapers for a baby
Offer free babysitting for the new mom or offer house cleaning. Make some frozen meals that will help a lot when she has the baby! Diapers of corse! Blankets! Maybe some pj pants for mama.
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As a momma myself the dinners that are quick and easy would be amazing just pop it in the oven and not have to prep. That is practical and goes a long way to recovering mommas
You could have your kids make little cards or decorations for the nursery
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I’d buy a little something each month or week etc and make it into a little basket. I’d do stuff for baby and mum and dad in it and it doesn’t have to be much! Your children could also help out picking what to buy and could maybe make a little something x
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that is so wonderful and very sweet of you and that is how co-parenting should go I absolutely applaud you. my suggestion is pay for a newborn baby photoshoot pictures that they can have for the rest of their life
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Your baby stuff you aren’t using or don’t need anymore
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Just buy her cute bits and pieces, I’m sure they’ll be greatful with what ever.
Even maybe write in the card congratulations and if she ever needs help you are happy to jump in at any point.
Give her old baby clothes if it’s the same gender. I’m due in June and my ex bought the stroller
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My Go to Baby Gift has always been the ONE thing my Mommy friends never seem to get, The Medical Kit, Mylacan, Gripe water, infant motrin/Tylenol, baby themomator, nose bulb. Finger nail clippers, baby Qtips, medicine dispenser (binky style) antibacterial binky wipes, powdered pedialyte packets, And a cute Travel bag that fits in her Diaper bag. It’s super affordable to put together and I ALWAYS get thanked for the ONE thing they got they Had at the EXACT moment they needed it.
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If the child is the same sex as either of your oldest and you have anything from their newborn clothing or also maybe get them some really cute coordinating shirts for the siblings
Here’s a few suggestions if you can…
They sell the thin canvases at Walmart for a few dollars. Have all of the kids put their handprints on it and leave room for the little one to put his/hers saying, “Welcome To The Family” to hang in the Baby’s room. Also, they have these big round hard plastic totes in different colors for like $5 or $6. Buy one and go to a dollar store near you and get some things you think they will need. They have bottle brushes and things like such. Put all you get, even if it is little at a time, inside tote. Tote can be used as laundry basket for little one.
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First off your amazing for thinking like you are, is it her first? Get little odds and ends that you know would come in handy that people dont think if for gifts, like my neice is having her first boy and getting circumcised I bought a little container and put a&d cotton balls pee tepees butt balm, q tips, stuff like that in it.
Make a small basket for mom…like a pamper yourself basket. (Fav candy, cocoa, coffee, lotion, ECT-a small gift card if you can afford it.) A coupon to watch the baby so she can sleep, shower or whatever. That way your kids can have a special little time with their new sibling.
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Dinner. Or gift card to get dinner once baby arrives.
Go to clearance rack and get cute outfits for several age periods and find stuff on clearance, I see baby stuff for a few dollars alot .
Also get books your kids know how to read and give so they can help read to baby , have them write a note inside book cover as a momentum.
Diaper cake. Easiest. And save momey buy aldi diapers. And if she’ll use it. Buy size 2 or 3. Not newborn. And size 3 would make the cake bigger anyway lol pinterest would be helpful.
Big brother, big sister shirts that match a new addition onesies 
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Swaddles or sleep sacks. They’re life savers but I hated spending money on them.
a gift card would be nice.
Bag up ur youngest clothes if their still a baby up to 12 months if u have the xtra money buy some onesies or a bottle hear and there find out if shes breast freeding if she is look into that stuff sign up for coupons for diapers n get them some diapers just anything. U can afford would help them.
Maybe a diaper and onsie cake with a bottle of wine in the middle!
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If you crochet or sew make a blanket for the baby. I made several for my grandkids. Or a collage photo frame with all the kids and the ultra sound pic of the baby.
Make a baby blanket and have all your kids put their handprints on it. Super special gift and cheap
I don’t know a single parent that wouldn’t be grateful to receive diapers 
honestly.
Just think of those things that you needed most for your newborns and try to pick a couple of those things up. Or you and your kids can create some crafty items I’ve seen lots of great suggestions in this thread already.
Run away, run fast!!
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Since you have a little bit of time watch for coupons and deals. Check places for clearance items. Maybe with the the older siblings make a cute canvas for baby’s room.
Could even make a little basket for mom and one for dad from things from the dollar store.
And bless you for being a wonderful person!! This is how families should be!
Don’t focus on your ex and the new baby, no need to try to give them the feels with a gift…but rather just help your kids that will be the new siblings celebrate and make it special for the KIDS.
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When it comes to the ex me and his son make him something for special occasions. It let’s me spend quality time having fun and doing crafts with our 9yo and he gets excited and involved for the occasion.
Why not have the kids make them a nice card and they could get a teddy and a cute onesie make a little gift bag a little pack of nappies wipes.
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What their relationship be with the children that aren’t his? I only ask because I’m thinking of taking your old onsies & decorating them. Get the kids involved. But it would be weird if your other 3 don’t know them.
I second preparing meals & diapers. Some left over baby items from your kids. Especially some outfits they wore. Then take a picture & do a side by side.
Not exactly what you’re looking for but I’m gonna throw it out there anyway. I knew this aunt who took random pictures around town when her nieces & nephews were born. She saved them with the location on the back (ok this was with film pictures). When each turns 18 she takes pictures of that location again. Put them all in a book with address & years of pictures. It was pretty cool to see how the town changed I’m 18 years. I wish I did this for my oldest. Anyway it’s not a gift now. But you can do it for baby later.
Freezer meals for last week of pregnancy…when she is in hospital …and for when they first get home.
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Diaper wipes and hand me downs
I think a pamper pack for the new mum would be an awesome idea from you and something little for bub from the kids.
I’m sure she would love it.
Could buy a shadowbox
A welcome to the family video. Where each child states what they will bring to their sibling’s life. Won’t cost too much but they will have it for life!
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Diapers! Get a pack here and there as you can afford them and give her them at her shower (if she has one.)
I think it’s really nice but y’all have this type of relationship to where you’re excited for one another. This just goes to prove that just because a couple doesn’t work out doesn’t mean they can’t still be friends and co-parent the children they have together honestly I think it’s really forward-thinking and impressive so kudos to y’all again I agree with people when it comes to diapers
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Is this her first baby? If so, maybe write down all the tips and tricks she can try for when things happen (as they do with newborns) and put it into a cute “Welcome Baby! Book” Also diapers, wipes, etc.
A sibling photo shoot —put all you children in a picture—and acknowledge the coming of the new sibling example: take a picture of all your children feet only include a pair of nb shoes with a sign that says there are little shoes to fill damn where is my picture when I need it!!
The kids could make something?
Do you have something called CHICKEN KIDS in your area. I’m on Long island and they have it 2 x a year with used toys clothing and beds , really anything for kids. Things are beautiful, clean and a great buy