What is the point of a baby registry if no one gets what you need?

Baby #4 you shouldn’t need a baby registry. Surely you had stuff left over from the first 3. Maybe you should be grateful about anything received at this point. You’re not owed anything from other people. You decided to have this baby and you should be responsible for buying what the baby needs.

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At four children you should have what you need or AT LEAST know that it’s not everyone’s responsibility to provide your child with everything? I would hope at four children that you are financially stable enough to provide your child with everything he/she needs??? Be thankful for what you do get, it’s not their responsibility to provide for YOUR child. :woman_shrugging:

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I think it depends what’s ON your registry. If everything is high ticket items then people may not be able to afford it. I personally look at it, and see what I can afford and use it as a guide but I generally always get a “you forgot” bucket. So the just in case. With all the frida stuff (suckers, nail files ect…), medicines, band aids random things but I do grab 1-2 things off the registery as well.

We personally have never put big ticket items or the “needs” on our registry… bc they’re our kids. We don’t have kids with expectations for other people to buy the things we absolutely need.

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You sound entitled and maybe people are tired or buying for you after 4. Surely this is a troll post??

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Entitled much? Nobody is responsible for providing you with what you need for your kid. A registry is basically a wish list of things you would like or plan to buy so if anyone would like to help, they can. You should be getting everything you NEED for YOUR baby. Smh.

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I’m about to have my fifth and not once relied on anything like that to prepare for my baby’s arrival.

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Back in my day, no one ever had a baby shower after the first baby.

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And, by the way, it’s usually only a baby shower for the 1st baby and given by a close friend of the mother or her church family. It can be considered uncouth for an immediate family member to throw a baby shower, at least in my locality.

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Baby 4, you don’t need anything and so why are you complaining?

This person sounds ungrateful- I’m not a big believer in baby showers- I feel weird asking for gifts. If people want to buy a new baby a present then that’s on them!!

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I feel like y’all knew what you were doing posting this question lol

Hmmm. Perhaps you should be grateful for the things you already have, buy your own, shop at thrift shops, and be prepared. No one owes you anything. It’s your child. Take care of it.

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I may be old (58) and old fashioned, but traditionally you only have a shower and a registry for the first child.

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Had 3 children and never had a shower… and I keep everything that I used with the first one and reused everything…

I had 4 children, 3 in 4 years and bought what we needed. I never expected anything from anyone. Whatever we received as gifts was much appreciated, but never expected.

I had no registry I did have a baby shower. You can’t just expect people to get you stuff. No offense but after 4 kids you don’t have anything left?? A lot of people are old fashioned and don’t think you should get a shower for each child. Why don’t you have a diaper party?? I mean are they years apart?? I could kinda see it then.

I only had baby showers for my first child. I saved most of the good stuff for my second child and then passed them on to my first granddaughter.

Get ur baby dady to buy stuff, 4th kid u should have stuff still

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You’re supposed to save the stuff from your previous babies to reuse with your next babies until you’re done. Also, you’re supposed to get one baby shower then after that you should provide everything for your next children. Not everyone is fortunate enough to get one baby shower so be grateful if you got one.
Where did these younger generations come up with the entitled idea that everyone else is supposed to buy all their baby needs jumped because they got pregnant.
News flash: getting pregnant doesn’t make you special, important, or entitled. If you can’t afford to provide for your babies then don’t have them.

I had a baby shower but no registry .

Why have a baby shower at all? Everyone else didn’t tell you to get pregnant. No one said they’d buy everything for your kid. Put bluntly, you laid down and got pregnant, so the only ones responsible for buying things is YOU and the expectant father. IF you don’t know who he is for whatever reason, then its on YOU! Your womb YOUR responsibility no one else’s!

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With my 1st 2 kiddos my “village” wasn’t there so I didn’t bother. Also making a baby registry in the early 2000s wasn’t as easy as it is now. Baby #3 we had our shower in August I made a giant registry and we got more than what was on there along with most of what was listed. Amazon and target were major wins for us everything was affordable. It also helped that the people in our lives now really wanted to make sure we had not only what we needed but also what we wanted. We only had to buy our car seat.

After having 3 kids, you should have everything you need for the 4th, unless the first three were all the same sex and the 4th the opposite.

Id be grateful you got anything. I had to get everything for my son by myself. No registry or baby shower. I was thankful for anything anyone tried to get me to help me out with my child. Some people really don’t appreciate things they get in life.

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How you have three kids prior and nothing left over from any of them???

Welcome to having a child. You are responsible for paying for their things. It isn’t anyone else’s responsibility. Be grateful for what you get.

You’re not entitled to get stuff…

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I have 6 kids. After the first most things i got second hand. They grow out of stuff so fast its not worth buying new.

Had a shower for my 1st in 2007… received a lot from my registry (but still had to buy certain things)… had a shower for my 2nd in 2015 because we had given away the majority of the baby stuff after our 1st, so we were starting over.

Be greatful people are getting u anything SMH. Baby shower is for your first born! I honestly can’t believe someone would actually post this

Why did you get pregnant again if you can’t afford another child. It’s not the responsibility of the community to provide and support you and your family. Perhaps you should get the father of the child to provide what you need to

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Oh no, you have responsibilities to an unborn child… who would have thought…

You’re not owed anything. It’s more like sharing a wish list. But in this economy lol… no one owes you anything for you getting pregnant :woman_shrugging:t2:

Hmmm, love the entitlement.

It’s beyond tacky to have a baby registry for your FOURTH kid.

Well im pregnant with my 2nd and weve had to buy most of the stuff ourselves. The only reason why I did a Registry is because its been almost 10 years inbetween kids. My mom has helped a bit. Only 1 person has gotten us stuff from the Registry. Weve made it work. We started buying things early which has helped.

Find a pregnancy crisis center. They can help. This seems rude to be honest. I’ve raised 4. I never expected anyone but the father to help provide for my kids. I got lucky here and there along the way, and for that I was grateful, but never demand. Never expect.

Entitled ,You should have already what you need! Your attitude might have something to do with it. I bet you had expensive gifts on register.

You should have had close to everything you needed from kids 1 through 3.

I’ve never had a baby shower or registry :woman_shrugging: always had to get the stuff ourselves 3 kids now

No diapers, wipes, onesies? :woman_shrugging:

Ew. Be glad you had anyone to enjoy your child with. Be glad
Anyone thought of buying anything to begin with. Be thankful. If you didn’t want it why was it on a registry?

I’m confused…… I thought it was the parents responsibility to get what their baby needed and a baby shower was a celebration of that baby. And a registry came later to let everyone know what you’d like to have for the baby but don’t NEED them to get it for you…. It’s just an idea of what they COULD get.

Have 3 kids not 1 single baby shower n we r OK :laughing:

My shower got ruined because I got rushed to the emergency hospital from my local one the might before. Now I have a 2 week old and might be headed back to the hospital again tonight if my temp doesn’t go down and I’m worried about diapers. I have a ton of 1s and 2s but he was 3 weeks early and is in between preemie and newborn sizes

Yes, usually when you decide to have a child you are expected to get the required items for them yourself. Quit begging, especially since it seems you saved nothing from the last 3 times

Your 4th baby?… Maybe everybody already bought everything you need for the first baby and you should’ve held onto it… 
I was always told growing up in America. You have one baby shower for your first baby and that is it. Unfortunately, our generation don’t know how to save things and take care of things so this is why people are having four dang baby showers. 

Usually don’t have showers after first one unless many years apart

Who does a registry after the First baby? Just sayin!!!

It’s your responsibility to provide for your baby.

Maybe your registry was too high-end? Many people are struggling to provide for their own families, without buying strollers, cribs, or luxuries for someone else.

As an older English person, I find the whole baby shower thing a bit strange, to be honest. While they are growing in popularity here, most gifts are clothing, blankets, grobags etc.

As you are on your 4th baby, I appreciate that equipment from previous children may be worn out, but that still doesn’t mean that you are entitled to receive such items as gifts.

I’m sorry you feel let down, but by now you should understand your responsibility to provide.

I hope all goes well for you.

Cant afford to provide the basic things for your own baby? Dont get pregnant.
Just because you make a list of what you want, does not mean that anyone has to buy anything on that list! Buy your own things for your baby and be thankfull if anyone buys or makes a gift when the baby is born!
Entiled much.

Maybe things are too expensive on your registry? A lot of people are struggling to make ends meet right now.

Registries are not mandatory and most people put expensive wants instead of needs on the list. I would never tell anyone what to give and I don’t want anyone telling me what to buy. This is just me, but there are a lot of people with the same thoughts. I know because I have heard them express it.

You have 9 months to prepare. If you don’t have what you need for your baby it’s because you failed to provide what your baby needs. Your self entitlement and ungratefulness speaks for itself. Please don’t pass those traits onto your children, the world already has too many of you!

I don’t get it for 4th kid what could you possibly NEED :see_no_evil:. I get maybe ask for nappies or wipes as that is very helpful but in theory you should have everything you need

Maybe don’t procreate I’d you don’t want to provide for the kid. Some parents shouldn’t be patents. Such entitlement…

Try being grateful , 4th baby you should already have some items you can use. Usually the registry is for the first child not the fourth , most folks probably think you have what you need

Registry? Yeah na. Just a baby shower, if they bring a gift. Appreciate. But totally get what you mean.

What is the point of having 4 kids?

Baby showers are not a given, be thankful you got anything. I have 3 kids not one shower. Take back stuff you don’t like. Newborns don’t need much didn’t you save for other kids?

You can always return or exchange to get what you need :woman_shrugging:

Oof. Imagine having 4 kids. Having absolutely nothing to care for the baby then asking for everything for free. Sounds like you shouldn’t have kids jfc

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By your 4th you should a) already have everything or b) have money to buy everything

You’re ungrateful. Sorry I had five never asked anyone for anything We bought it ourselves with no help.

You had 3 whole opportunities to save all of the items you may have needed (save for consumables like diapers)… why didn’t you do that? :thinking::thinking::thinking:

Ima be very honest; after child 1 or 2 you should have what you need for your next children. When having multiple children you should lucky to get anything at all off a registry or anything at all period. In most ppl eyes baby showers are really designed for someone’s first child maybe second and not an event to get free stuff bc you can’t afford it or don’t wanna buy it.

4th child, you shouldn’t NEED all that much :woman_shrugging:

Wow you sound awfully entitled! YOU’RE having the baby not everyone else. It’s no one else’s responsibility to provide for that child but YOU and your partner. Who complains about gifts? Seriously, you’re awful and I hope you raise your kids to be less entitled a**holes. Boo!!!

Why should others be providing for YOUR baby?? Don’t have one (or 4) if you can’t provide for them
And there’s this thing called saving items for later.

I did a personal amazing registry just to get the 15% of what I really needed you just have to buy something for r 10 bucks off your registry to get discount we never counted on anyone for baby number 2 and 3

Ew. No one got you anything probably bc of your shit attitude :woozy_face::joy:

No.one was there when you were making said baby! Buy your shit yourself!
GTFOH!!!

Not my place to buy other peoples shit for them. :woman_shrugging:t2: maybe don’t have so many kids if you can’t buy what you need for YOUR child.

Hey, maybe don’t have kids if you can’t afford them. :grimacing: you sound so entitled.

If you need others to get you things you can’t afford to have kids

You seem like someone who would put a 600$ crib on the registry and be upset it wasnt bought

Why have a 4th if you cant afford what you need weird

Why do you have a baby registry for your fourth kid? You should have already had the shower, and the sprinkle so stop asking people for stuff.