There isnt much you can do. Trust me the age gap will kick in soon. Hopefully she doesn’t get PG to keep him. I would express my concerns to my son but tell him that I ultimate trust his judgement and will be supportive of what makes him happy. That is all you can do … now if he is in a situation that is harmfull that is where the support ends. but just the age gap is not enough
Been there!! My son was taking to someone my age when he was he was 20. I told him how I felr. It didn’t last long.
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Who cares? Let him do what he wants. You cant stop him anyway
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Every young man needs a older woman it will prepare him for his future females that run through his life almost every young man goes through this
You do nothing but trust that you’ve raised him in a way he’s more than capable of handling this situation
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My grandpa was 20 years older than grandma. My brother is ten years younger than his wife. My cousin’s wife is the same age as his mom. My boyfriends have always been at least ten years older than me. Numbers are just numbers once you are 18 you have some experience in the opposite sex. I find it more upsetting when a 17 is dating a 14
One- she’s not a girl that’s a woman . She’s close to menopause n he just hit peak puberty - uff I’d be having a talk WOMAN TO WOMAN
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I think it’s a bit of an age gap imo. And it concerns me what an almost 40 yr old could have in common with a 20 yr old, respectively. They SHOULD be in completely different chapters of their lives.
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My thing though is would people be so against you interfering if it was your freshly 18yr old daughter dating a 37yr old man? I mean chicks older than me and my oldest is just shy of 18 so I’d be freaking out personally. As for what to do that’s harder, if y’all are close you can talk to him remind him of how close to your age she is (if she’s close in age to you) talk to him about how it’s not just girls who get taken advantage of and while you trust his judgment because he sounds like a good kid that you just want to make sure he’s aware of signs to watch for or red flags so to say because not all people are as kind and caring as he is… idk just a thought.
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Let the kid have fun! If anything, this will be a life lesson. He’s an adult now and doesn’t want you messing in his personal life. You are going to push him away if you interfere and now he has the ability to leave.
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nothing wrong with it
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-Have family dinners and invite her, smoother her with motherly affection till she can’t take it and breaks up with him. -Throw parties/get togethers for him and his friends (his age) and have her come over, she’ll be driven insane by their youthful interests/discussions. - Any way you can have her over around him and folks his age or family members to make her uncomfortable and highlight their age difference would be the goal. She is clearly a predator of some sort and this “relationship” is odd at best. Good luck.
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He’s an adult so it’s none of your business.
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Just let him get some experience, she will teach him
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If you push her away then you’ll push him away. If he likes her then you support him because if you express your concerns or tell him he should find someone else closer to his age then he will pull away from you.
You shouldn’t do anything It’s not your relationship. He’s allowed to love whoever he wants no matter the age. Why are you so inclined to think that he can’t date somebody older… My wife and I we’re 12 years difference.
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Mother of 3 adult children here, there is only so much you can do. You can’t forbid anything or anyone because he is an adult. My best advice is to plant seed of doubt in his mind and hers too. Have her over for family gatherings and subtly remind them of the age difference, but don’t be aggressive about it, one or two comments should do the trick. This will take some time, but you should be able to preserve your relationship with your son.
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We need to stop with the double standards for boy and girls. If it were an 18 yr old girl dating a 37 yr old man, people would be disgusted by it. I’m 36 and my daughter will be 18 this year. I couldn’t imagine having a relationship someone her age. That’s just too much of an age gap for me. However, you probably won’t be able to change his mind mama. I would definitely sit him down and have a talk with him. Voice your concerns and talk to him about people taking advantage of his kindness. Keep your eyes and ears open. You can’t forbid him because he’s technically an adult but 18 isn’t a magic number to make a kid an adult. I would definitely get to know her, invite her over, be around her as much as possible so you can get a feel for her. After a little while, you should be able to tell what her intentions are. This is definitely a tough one! Best of luck mama!!
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My husband is 18 years older than me. Love knows no age
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You’re right if you push it won’t do any good it’ll probably make things worse. If age is not your issue and you’re only concern is her intentions then why not have a girls night and invite her out for dinner or drinks or whatever or over to the house for dinner girls night and get to know her and have a conversation the best way to find out her intentions is to ask her without making her feel put on the spot
In 2 years my son will be 18 and I will be 37! I could never be in a relationship with someone that age! Not even now at almost 35… it actually is disgusting to me… he’s a baby in my eyes. She’s obviously not disgusted by dating someone that age, so I don’t know if her intentions are pure or not, but I’d definitely have her over as much as possible… eventually, if her intentions aren’t good, she’ll end up exposing it in some way or another.
Trust you raised your son right, that he’ll notice if her intentions aren’t pure eventually
I would leave it alone since he’s an adult but I couldn’t image anyone in their 30s being with an 18 year old . That’s just wild .
You say as long as your living under my roof you will not date a 37 year old and if you don’t want to abide by those rules you can move out.
A phase. And yes she should know better!!!
She’s been around the block a few times I would be concerned
At his age, thats a big maturity difference. If he was 40 and she was 57, its not as big of a deal. But all you can do is express your concerns in a a calm, patient manner and then let him make his choices. We don’t get to pick who our kids have relationships with