My son has a thirteen-year-old girlfriend who was recently kicked out of her house(that’s what she’s told us). She’s a good kid from what we can see. She’s said she’s not being abused in anyway, but she refuses to go home. I sent her home two days ago with the advice to listen and talk things through with her parents. She ended up back at my house again later that night. Her parents speak Spanish only and cannot read or write in any language. There’s a language barrier. I’ve reached out to her sister, who’s in her 20’s and speaks perfect English. No response. They know exactly where she is. I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to do. Is this a liability? Why are her parents not trying to retrieve her? I told my son she needs to go home. She seems terrified
Get the child and protection services involved immediately. Either something is very wrong or they are trying to dump that kid on you. No normal parent just let’s a kid leave.
13?!?! How old is your son? I wouldn’t take on that responsibility. Not at 13 especially.
Shes a minor ,be careful maybe you should have cpd talk to her,and yes call child services
Sounds like you need to get child services involved
Call the cops something isnt right
Talk to his school counselor
Child services or police, it’s illegal to kick a child out at that age, and illegal to harbor a runaway should they claim she ran away.
Where r u located ,get a hold of your pd
You cant take on that responsibility with out help regardless, even if she stayed with you paperwork has to be done so legally you can take her to the dr or schooling decisions, it’s a weight that sounds like you’re not quite prepared for.
I would not be taken her in…for several obvious reasons. She must have other family she can go to. I’d want to know why/what the reasoning was…maybe they think she’s too young to have a boyfriend.
Stay out of it, but maybe call Children’s Services in. your area. They can check on the home situation.
Send her home your son has a curfew, nothing for you to do. Unless you want to be a grandma within the next 2 years
Take her home with the police,
Call child protective services and let her stay there until they get there.
Think twice about it sumthgs truly wrong good kids jus dont run away…
Call the police and let them take her home,thirteen yearolds ,I’d stay out of that and your son is toooo young for a girlfriend
Do NOT let her live with your son - it will escalate problems in your own household.
By all means let her move in so you can be a grandma soon
All they have to say is she ran away (it’s illegal for them to kick her out) and you’re then harboring a runaway which is a crime. I would call the police to come and escort her home
Google translate… will help to talk to them if you don’t know any Spanish speaking people…
If she’s not being abused then she didnt get kicked out. She just wants to be with your son. There’s more to it then she’s telling anyone. Your best bet is to not let it happen because it will come back to bit you in the ass.
Call CPS maybe she is not telling you everything.
Get an interpreter and decide if you want to become a guardian because they won’t stay together for ever. You have a responsibility to take her in or call in social services. Follow your heart
Child protective services.
Maybe she lives in an abusive environment or is a victim of sexual abuse
And as a minor she has no choice. Encourage her to talk to her school counselor or possibly the police. This type of behavior needs to be addressed before you get involved too much.
You could be in the middle of something that will get your family in trouble. I would definitely seek legal help.
I think she’s playing you and just wants to be with you and your son but i could be so wrong. Either way, she’s a minor and you need to call social services otherwise next thing u could be the ones facing prosecution especially if your son is over 16!!
Use Google translate
Legally you cant make medical decisions for her or anything…this could turn bad fast. You need legal help
School counselor or find out if your town has a runaway program. She is to young to be unaccounted for by her parents. As long as their is no abuse, keep taking her back.
Take her home escorted with cops. Perhaps she is a run away?
Call social services. Tell the police. Tell the school.
Some Latino parents kick there daughters out of the house if there dating and don’t care they usually don’t care about the kids age they’ll say oh you got a man ok let him support you then and kick them out
How old is your son?
Being a parent of 5 - during their adolescence, I have quite a few couch surfers come my way - let her parents know where she is and that she is safe, let the school know to, and then watch it unfold without getting too involved - I have honestly had weeks of other people’s kids stay with me and they all went home in the end 
Have police that speaks parents language take girl home and find out whats up. Maybe parents should be arrested
How old is your Son?
- You’re being taken advantage of. “They know where she is.” And they are more than willing to let you feed, clothe and house THEIR kid. Absolutely not!!!
- This girl is a minor child. You can be held legally liable should anything happen to her.
- Afraid to go home? Call. The. Police. Now.
- No habla English? Wanna bet???
It’s admirable that you want to take care of the kid, but it is way past time for her to go.
Parents can not kick out a minor. Something is not right here. You could be charged for keeping this girl in your home.
Finding someone who speaks Spanish and can translate is not that difficult. Call churches, outreach programs, local teen organizations and go to the parents home and find out what is actually going on. With the way this administration is treating immigrants I’d be hesitant to call the police.
If things are really wrong in her home she needs a professional advocate.
Don’t do it. Get help.
let the police know that way it cover your butt and your family. And just tell the police that you have been in touch with the older sister and got no reply. They should come out and talk to the girl and talk to her family.
Call CPS, this could go south really quick
You never know there might be some type of abuse going on… sexual or physical . Call an angency for minors
Well first off how shitty are the parents who kicked her out and not go looking for her…There is so much bad stuff going on in this world and they should be on top of this.
2. How old is your son?
3. Where does she sleep when she’s at your house
4. I wouldn’t kick her out on the streets…that would be terrible, but I would try to find someone that spoke Spanish so you can talk with the parents
Unfortunately, regardless of the situation you must get the authorities involved. Hopefully they can help her. There’s a lot more to this story than they are all letting up. Parents aren’t trying to get her back home? She refuses?
Not that you’d want to do this but she is a minor and 13 years old you should be calling the cops. CPS. The child needs to be taken care of
She is not being truthfull with you. Hispanics are very protective with kids so to say they just kicked her out sounds fishy especially if she is not being abused. Sorry not to pry but could she may be pregnant with your sons child? Kids nowadays start early one of my husbands 10 year old cousin got pregnant with a boy she said she couldn’t live without. Find out what is going on with her parents have an interpreter with you. Not her sister as you want the truth
CPS and foster care is not always as pretty as some see on TV. I’ve known many people that went through the system and got much worse. A police officer and translator might be a good idea. The police can then decide if CPS needs to be involved. 13 yr olds have boyfriends/ girlfriends. If it’s denied, they will do it behind their parents back. That doesn’t mean it’s not just innocent. I think you should sit down this young lady and lay out the facts and that something needs to be done. Tell her about possibly calling the police as a mediator in the situation and ask if there is anything else you should know first. That may make her open up more. Good luck Momma! I can tell you care & just keep that open relationship with your child. It’s awesome he can talk to you!
If it were me I would ca
DHS or the police. It doesn’t matter what she tells you, something is wrong with her family dynamics and you do not need to be pulled into that mess! Good luck!
I don’t know how old your son is .Shes too young to be dating. Send her home and tell her that she has to stay there. If she keeps coming back then call the police. Something doesn’t seem right about this whole picture.
Call the police. She’s a minor.
I would have a sit down with her w/out your son there. Tell her that she has to tell you the truth why was she kicked out? I would act as supportive and caring as possible and tell her she must tell you the truth so you can help her.
Hopefully after the truth comes out you won’t be conflicted on who you call. If not, you must know someone who speaks Spanish and could go with you to talk to the family.
Good luck!
similar… they lied to us…
Give her peace of mind tonight. Write something to be recorded and translated for her parents, do what you can to communicate your willingness (to whatever degree you are)to help, and ask the burning questions you have - maybe a local library could help you find a translator?? If she’s ‘good’ with you, let her be good. Give her chores and discipline and kindness while she’s in your realm, and it will all be ok. You’re also showing your son how to navigate this part of life and he’ll appreciate your loving care (and clear achievable boundaries) extended to her forever, whether they’re together forever or just until high school 
There is an app that you can download that translates for you. Download it and go to her parents. Let them know that since they kicked her out you will be taking her to the police station. Don’t worry about what they say bc they will all of a sudden know English and if they show fear then you know there is something going on. But do contact the police and let them know the situation b4 you go to them
Call the police, only thing you can do, she is a minir
Why wouldn’t parents that kick their 13 yr old be charged with neglect/abuse?
I wouldnt call the police or cps… Shes a normal teen… This is how some parents are… Idk why… I would go to the parents and talk to them… Things will get better with time… PLEASE DONT RUIN HER LIFE AND HAVE THEM PUT HER IN FOSTER CARE, PLEASE GOD NO !!! Talk to the parents and things will get better with time… I dont care what these people above say… You will ruin her life if you get them involved… TALK TO THE PARENTS !!! PLEASE !!! I use to have the same issue as a teen… Please god dont get them involved, ONLY THE PARENTS
wouldn’t allow my son to have a 13 yr old bc to begin with
You need it on record that you are not holding her hostage or anything of that nature. I’d make a report pronto.
Unless her parents have been deported & she has no home to go to, or her parents are homeless & she is too embarrassed to admit it
So did she get kicked out really or does she just refuse to go home? Because both were stated in the post and theres definitely a difference
If she’s terrified to go home, I can almost guarantee there is abuse or she is into something she shouldn’t be into. Call the police and talk to them.
There is always two sides of the story. If Mexican parents kicked their daughter out she must not be behaving and isn’t abiding by the rules so “they kicked her out.” As punishment. I know from experience, no offense but everyone saying “call the cops” and “cps” are all Caucasian. Only Mexicans kids would know this girl is misbehaving.
Get the police involved for her sake and yours.
Call DFS,get a social worker involved
Well talk to her parents. The call CPS If needed
Call the police she is a minor.
I would go to their house and talk to her parents. I have met some manipulative kids over the years and she may be lying to her parents about where she is.
You need to call in the social workers,she is a minor,they will investigate the matter for you,but for now,can you not accommodate her until the social workers do their investigation?
Call child services.
Why does your son have a gf at 13? School get an education! To get a gud job! To afford gf and wife and babies!
This is a very nasty situation for you to be put in. The girl is a. minor can you not go to child services just to notify them of your situation e.g just to let them know the child is welcome at your home she just doesn’t want to return to her family.
I’m sure they will accept that and it clears you from future trouble.
It is a real pity that her parents don’t speak any English so you could converse with them.
Go back there and use google translate there is zero reason there is no communication these days. See what they say and if need be after your conversation with them call child services and let them know she is staying with you until it gets sorted. She can sleep in a separate bedroom than your son! She could be lying so protect yourself on the situation.
Never CALL CPS unless u think there is abuse!
That’s weird coming from a Hispanic family.
Friend. Being sensitive to the matter. When did your son 13 year get s girlfriend ?? Furthermore, he having friends is normal. Since his 13 year old friend has some obvious problems at home and seems safe in your house , it reasonably to be concerned for her sake and what liability that you have. Since you have spoken to her older sibling and gotten no credible response. I suggest you contact family services. Especially they who minister to the Hispanics community. Have them take up the gauntlet and help this child . You can be a confort blanket but you cannot long term be the blanket. Let family services intervene. And bring a solution that’s best for all concerned. Your heart maybe as large as the Grand Canyon, still you can be hurt in this matter if it’s not handle proper and with care. Hope this helps .a Rose 
for you !
Make sure your son is wearing a condom! When there’s a will there a way! I was a 34 year old grandmother !
Go talk to them. There are translation apps to help also
Don’t put yourself or family in this Please. I’m Spanish speaking black woman, this there family matters. Send her home before you have more drama
Text them with the giogke translate app. It works perfect
If I were you id use that translator on your phone an go talk to her parents first. They’ll more then likly take her back. They probably got into a disagreement and she’s probably not going back because your letting her stay at your house with her boyfriend! If there is more or worse to the story after you talk to her parents then you should call the cops. No need to bring in the state with how ridiculous they can be if its not needed. Use your better judgement and do what you feel in your heart what’s best for the girl after you talk to her parents.
I was kicked out when I got pregnant at 16. My mother didnt ask about him,his family nor did she communicate with them. She didnt care where I was going,nor if I was going to school. Some people have more stubborn pride than love. Especially if they’re embarrassed. Call the police. Parents have to take responsibility no matter what. She is a minor. CPS will only step in if there is a sign or complaint of abuse,neglect. Theyll tell you to call the police.
I think CPS should at least intervene, they can help with communication. She could very well be playing both ends to the middle, telling her parents she’s allowed to stay with you. And if there is something going on at home, at least a 3rd party would be aware. If you’re leary of CPS, try talking with school counselors or principal. You’re not obligated to take on someone else’s child. Reach out.
I would call ACS BCW CPS shes A MINOR or take her home what you let in your home n 9 months later your a grandmother they are too young for this they should be focused on SCHOOL.
Take her to childrens services. This is their area. Seriously this sounds like trouble
She needs to talk or go home.
Take her straight to the police dept and let them take her to social services
If you at all care what could happen to the girl or her family I would dig deeper before calling authorities especially CPS.
She could be as sweet as she chooses to be in front of people and still be a rebellious tween.
I ran away at that age and was scared to go home too. not because of any type of abuse but because being out without my parents rules was way more fun and I knew I was going to be in “big trouble”.
Maybe she ran away because her parents are too strict and thinks she is teaching them a lesson and when she went back her parents told her no to teach her a lesson.
It could be so many reasons and getting CPS involved when you don’t know at least a little more info you could do real damage to her and her family. Being taken away from your family at that age could change her life even if if it is temporary untill they figure things out.
Google translator. It’s easy to speak multi languages these days with such lovely apps
I agree that you need to talk to the parents and see what they say the problem is. Get both sides of the story. Then if she is not going home, get with CPS and see about becoming an emergency foster parent for her (or whatever you could get) if you felt that was right for your situation.
I think your not being told the whole truth maybe a half truth kids don’t just get kicked out of home these days
If you’re letting your son have a live in girlfriend who’s 13 be prepared to babysit for them to go to prom. She’s not your responsibility.
The 13 yo might very well be a victim of abuse. Either verbally, physically and or sexually it is very normal for a victim to say they havent been abused. Put yourself in that situation as a child would you trust another adult? Well done for taking her in I would do the same.
She might be abused at home but get the state involved in there and see how fast you go back home then because you let her stay there with your son and he 13 years you looking for 
Send her home if there’s no abuse they must sort it out or it will be a bigger problem for you
Find out if the family will at least sign a medical guardianship so at least later you cant be held accountable for anything…people can be vindictive and mean therefore you protect yourself
Also…i can think of a Main reason shes terrified…take her to the dr…find out if shes pregnant…alot of Hispanics i know kick their kids out over that but find out now
Call the authorities and they will sort it out