Leave…leave NOW
MY ex was like this and unfortunately I stayed cause I thought I could change him or make things better…you cant…no matter what you do he is the way he is and he will never change
You are so worthy…and please don’t stay as long as I did…it may be hard at first but sooo worth it…I feel like I was reborn after I left…I truly know what happiness is and how bright and wonderful life is after I got out from under his control
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Your option , but either he’d leave or I would
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lol jk. just leave or make him leave
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He needs professional help, you need to realise your worth more
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Leave him…like I left mine…life is to short too live in bondage…get out !!! Just go…
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Umm leave! That’s abuse.
You deserve so much better. Stress isn’t an excuse to drink or to treat anyone like that. Leave and don’t look back.
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Time to cut your losses and move on ,he has to hit rock bottom to change and get help ,you need to get out of this toxic marriage before he gets violent.
Leave now!! It will only get worse! He has a finger pointing at you and he has three pointing back at his self!! You deserve so much better! Get some respect for yourself, you deserve it! You can live without him but you have to live with yourself!! God bless!
Leave him. Absolutely no one deserves to be spoken to like that and made to feel that way. You are so much better than that and most importantly, you deserve much better girl!!
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Leave and never look back
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Run as fast as you can.Never look back
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Take your kids and get out.
Leave him I’d tell him your nothing but a drunk
I honestly cannot believe the amount of women that allow their husbands to talk to them like that! It’s heartbreaking. Girl just leave. He’s an asshole
Sounds like that happens when he’s drunk, try getting him some help , if he don’t , put in the effort to get sober and stay sober , and be the husband he should be 
then make your decision.
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. It leaves scars on you emotionally even after you’re gone and it takes every part.of your well being to stay gone. Go to meetings and get the help you need and you need to pack your bags and leave because all he will do is beg and plead that he will get better but he won’t. He has to do this on his own it’s the same as with a drug person. They have to be responsible for themselves and be sober for years before they realize they will never go back to it and that’s still not even a promise. If you don’t show yourself or your children that you’re strong enough to do this and stick with it and move forward for yourself and your happiness or your children’s happiness you will wake up and it will be 50 years old and 60 years old and still in the same miserable situation now and you’ve just wasted your whole life trying to make somebody change that was not going to change for a long time and makes excuses for the alcoholism. No you need to do something but you’re just afraid to do it out of being used to the situation you’re in. I have been gone from my alcoholic EX for over 25 years and it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself and my children. No regrets because you deserve a better life for you and your children and especially for your emotional well-being. Make that plan and stick to it and don’t look back and don’t allow yourself to feel sorry for him anymore. The same way an alcoholic or a drug person has to cut everybody off to get better is the same way you have to cut him off to get better.
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People can only do what you allow them to do to you . You need to shine on never let someone take your sparkle stand strong throw that POS out
“Wonderful when he’s sober”
He’s horrible, he’s just really good at manipulating you to believe drinking is what makes him evil.
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You leave because it’s not okay and drinking isn’t an excuse
Dump his selfish ass. You can do better.
Drunk words are sober thoughts. Run & don’t look back
Pack the kids bags and your bag for a night go to a friends place or a hotel. Give him an ultimatum he either stops drinking completely or your leaving.
Also Alcohol is no excuse for his behaviour.
Fuck that . I be walk out of his life no man talk to you that way . If your not happy best thing you can do find house some were long way movie out fast . Why be with some one that put you down. I do not give shit if he drinks that no way . Good luck merry Christmas 
Is there any way I can respond to her privately?
I was In a relationship with an alcoholic foe 12 urs. It never changes or gets better. They are narcissistic and mean an hateful. You don’t deserve what they put you through. I don’t want to yell you to get a divorce but you have to decide if you can get out of that. I loved the man I was with so much but just couldn’t live with all that anymore. If I had stayed I’d probly be dead, from being are to feel so worthless that I didn’t want to live. Think about sweetie. I promise you…they rarely xhange.
Pack up all belongings and your kids and leave. Never look back.
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My hubby use to drink excessive and it took awhile but he’s been on the right track. Talk to him and see if he will cut it out or you will leave him. You need to know your important to him and the drinking will never stop if he doesn’t cut it out cold turkey
If he chooses the drinking over your then that’s his decision and he has a serious problem I’m 
sorry
Stay with him. He’ll change😐
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Pack your bags and run!!!If he truly wants to work on the marriage he will seek help.
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Go. To. Alanon classes o
Or. Read. Codeoendant. No. Mo r e
This shit is made up just to get people yaking!!! Lmao Cr😀
Dump him!! He wants it to be all about HIM
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Counseling for you and Al a non .you’re supporting everyone. The door for him. If he gets and stays sober. He can date you
Pack you bags and leave. He won’t change
“Prepare quietly” to leave, by getting a Government Aid Agency on your side, contact friends to “prepare” to move belongings, get a Restraining Order and a “safe-house” away from friends, where he will not track you down, bring in the Police when moving, to restrict any abuse of any type, weapons, all put on the Restraining Order. Move with confidence of a better future.
After you move, if there is any “Love in your Heart” and His, write to get him to give-up the booze, go to Alcoholics Anonymous, and prove that he has a good or better Job, away from the stress, and can provide a better Marriage. If the light has gone out in your Marriage, then it’s a “Dear John Letter”, filing for non-contact irreversible inconsolable differences leading to divorce, and go get a future.
If applying for a Job, add into your CV about your new start, and it might work in your favour.
If you would like to get Jesus Christ on your side too, and really get to know Him, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints stands ready and willing, to help you change, and get a Testimony of Him, “as God”.
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Why do woman always say i don’t know what to do like wtf are you that unsecure that you would rather stay and let a pig treat you like that wtf is wrong with you grow some balls, you already know what you should do Or does it take one of us to tell you that 
Sounds like he needs to get a job.
Give him an ultimatum. Either he gets help to get and stay clean and sober and attend al-anon and therapy, or give him divorce papers. He’s an abusive alcoholic, and you and your child don’t deserve this, so you’re going to have to put your foot down about it and give him that ultimatum. For now, I would tell him that either he leaves and gets the help required to try to save your marriage, or you leave and stay gone until he’s done the work to save the marriage, or just be done and divorce him if he refuses to do any of that to save his marriage and his own self too. You can’t stay and tolerate it because that’s going to on my enable him further.
He is not wonderful person when sober 
he is just able to pretend he is one. When he is drunk he is his true himself. Don’t waste life
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Go now while you still can. He will never change. I know cause I was a victim too.
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One thing I have learned is don’t even bother trying to say anything while they are drunk and take advantage of when he is not drinking to tell him your feelings good luck
Leave don’t look back. He will not change until he wants to.
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Why do women think this is ok behavior? Move on no one deserves this kind of disrespect and any man acting this way is not worth having
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Simple leave or kick him out
Some things in life aren’t worth it. An abusive relationship like this is one of them. You deserve better. Please put your happiness first and move on.
RUN - don’t even try to talk to him.
Leave now. If he wants you back he has to get help and do the work first and alone. Even then, life is too short. Sounds like you have some work to do too 8f you think you should stay.
So you tell him FINE get that stripper and I’ll take everything else now gtfo
Talking to them in an attempt to give yourself that closure is a WASTE OF YOUR TIME and energy
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He wants to control you, the more he chops away at your self esteem, the better it is for him. Curb him!
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Wait until he’s good and sober so he remembers every word and tell him to kiss your ‘worthless’ a$$ because you’re going to leave his abusive behind and find better!
Name calling horrible but putting his hands on you is unforgivable ,he will never change so I would be saving up and leaving him he has no respect for you you don’t need some one that’s going to put you down every time he drinks if he loved you he would get help
Leave him … You’re wasting precious time staying with him … You have nothing to feel bad about … and he drinks because he’s an alcoholic not. because he’s under pressure … You are the one that is under pressure … He is abusing you
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LEAVE, I’m sure very quickly he’ll realize what he lost.
He’s definitely projecting his insecurities onto you, then gaslighting you when you express yourself, he knows he’s a POS and doesn’t want you to see it but you already do and that’s causing him emotional stress because he feels like he’s losing control of you. He may be nice when sober, but he isn’t sober and that’s the issue. You deserve better. He needs to get sober and get counseling, but that doesn’t mean you need to stay with him and wait for him do so because he may not see any issue with his actions
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I lived with someone like that for 30 years… they tell you are the worthless one to keep you there, they want you to think you are not worthy of being with a good man… a man that will treat you with love and respect. The worse they make you feel, the more you feel the need to please them so they won’t treat you badly. Then after they let you know that you are nothing then the “I’m sorry” starts to keep you hooked and then you feel sorry for them which is their plan along… The kids suffer… your extended family suffers… and you the one person that deserves better suffers… he is a NARCISSISTIC…MENTALITY DISTURBED PERSON whom is dragging you into his psychological mind games. Please find a way to plan your escape and your children’s escape, get help in silents from a friend or family member. GET OUT!! If you don’t, it will be all you ever think about and wish you had done… life is short, don’t wasted on him, GO LEARN TO BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN… and then one day God will bless you with “A GOOD MAN”. 
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Leave. I know its hard but you don’t want that forever & he won’t change
I agree, get rid of him, you are better than that!
Know your worth. Leave his ass and let him sink rock bottom. Personally I’d probably take the bottle and use it in another way.
Leave him! That’s not the way to live
Your POS husband is a classic narcissist, it does not get better
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That is narcissistic behavior, get out before he completely tears you down.
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Leave…run don’t walk.
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You have to leave. It will be hard and you will cry. But you have to leave.
I also lived with an abusive alcoholic who worked sporadically. When I finally left him and began to live life, I was blessed to find someone who treats me well and appreciates me. We have been together 25 years. Get away from this situation and your life will get better.
I have recently got rid of a husband just like this. I’ve cut him out my life completely and no longer give him the time of day. Guess what? I’m doing much better without him and you will too x
Leave him…dont waste your life on hoping
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Leave or kick him out! No one deserves that treatment!!! I was there 10 years ago and told him to leave!!!
It is such a hard decision but you have to leave. I know.
Stop doing stuff for him for one thing but eventually you will get tired and find the strength to leave him and I hope you don’t have kids in the house around his behavior.
I think he needs to go!
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As a child who grew up with a father who mentally and emotionally abused my mother and blamed it on the alcohol please leave I promise you … that things will start looking up you may have it rough at first but I promise it’s 10000% worth it to leave it took my mother 20 years to leave my father and I’ve never seen her happier then she is now
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I don’t know what country your in but please Google 1800 Respect if your in Australia call them! This is domestic abuse and it is not ok in any way shape and or form!
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Leave. Life’s too short for drama.
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You are only a doormat as long as you allow yourself to be. He brings nothing to your relationship. So turn him loose. He can go find a stripper and see if he can leech off her.
Get out. It wont get any better. He might say it will but believe me it wont. Been there
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Help out of tje house. Call the police the pick him driving while drunk
This blows my mind !!!You should know what you need to do and should have done a very long time ago.If he can talk to you like that he don’t even like you and love left along time ago.You can do better
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You know what you need to do.
Hunni you are married at a narssicist
They will blame all their crap on other people instead of taking responsibility
I had an alcoholic father who was physically abusive
I’m beginning you sista girl
Leave while you can still physically run
Before he puts you in a situation where you won’t be able to run physically
Don’t let him make you another statistic
Hunni if I lived closer to you
I guarantee you he would cop a dose of what he gave you to the point he won’t be game to get up
While that is happening I’m tossing your clothes into a bag and I will drag you out of that environment (by your ears if I had to)
Get help for you hunni
Even though I’m in Australia
As part of the sista hood code
I will be here for you
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Tell him if hevcant quit drinking then it’s time to quit the marriage. That all is really mean and bet he feels awful about it sober. Embarrassed even.
Make him find better ways to cope with stress or leave nobody needs to deal with that
You need to throw that whole drunk piece of shit man out!! Life is way to damn short to be to be unhappy & not loved the way you should especially if your the one making the money
I just don’t understand why so many men treat women so badly.
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Obviously run girl. Also take pictures and call the police. This is an abusive marriage and domestic violence. Leave before it’s too late. I don’t care how nice he is sober. Unless he’s been sober for over a year, don’t go back to him (even then, I personally wouldnt ever)
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You know what you should do. Put yourself first and leave him. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
Uhhm leave. He’s a pos straight up
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Get out! Why stay with someone that treats you like this??? Because he’s sometimes nice to you and when you bend over backwards for him and yet he shows no appreciation for it? Love yourself more than that and if you have children; love them enough to not let them teach them that this is ok behavior.
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I lived like that for 20+ years and he finally told me he wanted a divorce. The weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. Honey you don’t need him or to be treated like that. Don’t be like me and stay for so long. My life now is SO MUCH BETTER ! I am so much happier, I can breath. Please for your sake and if there are any kids in the picture for their sake get out. You deserve so much better ( and so do they) he won’t change not without professional help. And that’s if’y at best. Good luck and start your new life.
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Walk away from that POS
Time 2 get a new boyfriend cuz this guys a jerk. My ex did these things 2 n was/is an alcoholic. I honestly think after drinking all those years it affects their decision making.
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get him help but if he doesn’t want help then I would leave girl
You can’t save someone who doesn’t want saving.
I would be outta there! He doesn’t work, so obviously you can make it without him!
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U need to leave his ass I wouldn’t put up with that shit I Been gone long time ago
These are traits of an alcoholic!
You married a narcissistic drunk.
Please don’t waste your life staying with this abusive man.
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Sounds like my life. Wishing u luck
Let him go hunt a stripper who wants to hear his dirt.
Quit doing anything for him. Open your own checking account, save your money and leave! If he even attempts to hit you call the police and have him arrested. I stayed for 18 years, I may be lonely at times but I’m my own person and I’m valuable!
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