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I’m just playing. My stepdaughter calls me Sarah. Or my stepmom or has even said mom. I’ve been in her life since she was 1 now a 10 year old. My two kids with my SO has never been confused. I just asked my stepdaughter when she is talking to them about me, just say “Your mom” or “mom” just never my first name to the younger siblings.
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I’d say call a family meeting about the issue. Have the kids join in by thinking of names they’d like to call you and pull one from a hat. That way the kids feel included in the decision and it was something your family solved together.
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They should call you anything that they wanna call you. My kids call my husband his first name, and their step mom her name. They have a sister by her, she doesn’t get confused. It isn’t our choice to tell them what to call them. It’s theirs. And only theirs. To other people, they’ll tell them that’s my step dad, or that’s my step mom.
I was absolutely concerned about the same issue when I had my son. My SO has three other children we do not share biologically. My son has called me by my first name like the other kids when he realized they didn’t call me mom but you just correct it and it only took that one time for my boy to understand. It’s just cause they are older and he likes to copy them. It will happen and whatever name they do call you will also come out of your child’s mouth. You just have to let them know what the deal is.
I let my kids decide what they call my husband (their stepdad). They chose to call him daddy Chris and after some time, they just call him daddy. They call their dad, dad. My oldest is 13 and still calls him daddy (after 9 years) and his own dad, dad.
My step kids call me by my name and my child in the beginning would do it as well and I corrected him each time. They all learn which name who uses.
I called my stepmother by her first name. My siblings grew up hearing me call her by her name and never called her anything but Mommy/Mom.
I always called my step dad and now step mom by their regular name… but I was older when my parents remarried, but either way I would never have felt comfortable calling someone else mom or dad or anything close to mom or dad. If you are. Set on it then you should talk to your step kids and have them pick what to call you.
They should call you what they are comfortable with and if that’s your first name then that’s what it is…
You cant have them call you anything but what they want to call you. And you shouldnt make your kids call him anything either.
I have never asked my steps to call me anything other than elin. Then one day my Bella came home from her mum’s house with this 
let it come naturally, don’t force anything
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I don’t think it will confuse the little one you just have to teach him your name is mom to him. I have a grandson (he’s 5) that I raise and he calls me nan my youngest is almost 2 and he knows I’m mom.
My step son called me by my name and my daughter never did that. He always referred to me as her mom when he was talkin to her about me.
Maybe Kiki or Gigi. Depends what your name is. But steer clean of any variation of mom, mommy, mama out of respect for the mom.
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I’m confused? Anything they call you will influence your younger child to do the same!! So whatever you come up with could be what your 2yr old ends up calling you anyway!! So why not something similar, they know who their mom is?? Meme or stick to your name and encourage younger to say mom, mommy, mama??
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Mine call me by my name, but when they refer to me they say my step mom.
Why not momma your name? Momma Kim for instance.
What ever your first name is
My step kids call me my name, most of the time but the big one calls me other mother (from Coraline), never was an issue with my baby.
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My granddaughter calls her stepmom “Mama Sue”. It works pretty well.
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How about let them call you what they are comfortable with. If that happens to be your first name oh well. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage and my husband and I have been together for 7 years and my kids still call him by his first name. We have a 5 year old together and he calls him dad or sometimes by his first name lol but it’s not the end of the world for your own child to know your name.
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My kids called their stepdad Papa
I have a 7yr old daughter and a 2 yr old son with my current husband, my daughter calls her step dad by his first name. Our son calls him dad. But occasionally will call him by his first name, usually when ‘dad’ isn’t getting his attention. I say let them call u what comes natural.to them, my mom and step dad got together when I was 6 and I always called him by his first name. My daughter calls her step dad, daddy or by his name, w.e comes out of her mouth at that moment
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My step daughter calls me mom. I think it should be left up to the kids what they feel comfortable calling you. That’s what we did at first she called me by my first name after 2 years she asked if she could call me momma. So I was ok with that by then she had a little brother from her dad and I that was calling me momma.
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They call you by your name? Or if they pick something else. Don’t over think this…
Anything their are conpftable with. My stepson calls me Sandra
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Whatever they are comfortable with , let them decide ! It’s special when they decide . 
My kids call my bf by his name and were at 3 years whatever the kids decide I’d say
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Theyll call you whatever they’re comfortable calling you.
My stepkids to this day called me by my last name. But their dad always called me Darby instead of my first name too. But their are in their 20s now and every card I get says Darby
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My cousins dad married a new woman. They called her “mama Sam”
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I was always Ms. Amanda. There was a few times I was called mom by the little girl but I corrected her.
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Them calling you by your first name is not going to confuse your two year old. My fiance’s son is 10, and calls me by my first name. And our daughter ( 2 1/2) calls me mommy lol. And when I was a kid, I called my step dad Jim (his name), but he was still dad to my little sister. Just wouldn’t force them to call you something… let them choose.
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Just your name. Why make up a nickname?
My stepmother tried forcing me to call her mom or another “special name” when I was a child. It made me very uncomfortable and left me feeling really negative about our relationship. I’m 34 now, still call her by her first name, and still have a tumultuous relationship w her. Let the kids call you what they feel comfortable. Trying to impose something before it develops naturally on THEIR terms won’t magically make them feel differently.
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My stepdaughters call me Ma
Create a super cute nickname.
Like and, because they have mom, dad and you.
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Slightly related, I knew a family where the mom had died and the dad married the moms sister… The kids called her “auntie mama”…
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My kids call his mother Mama K (Karen) instead of Nana. The kids
Just have them call you by your first name. Your little one will know that your mom
I think it should be fine for them to call you your name. It might confuse your son initially but you just explain it to him and he will figure it out.
My baby brother when he reached toddlerhood started calling me little sister (in Chinese there’s different terms for a younger or older sibling) because that’s what my parents and sister called me. Eventually he figured it out that I was his older sister.
That is the kids decision and not urs, it will come in time that when they r ready to call u something different but as of right now u have to respect there Decision on what they call u. I’m sure it hurts but patients is key to everything
Surely if you are at the fiancee stage in your relationship then you have known them long enough for them to already have a name they call you.
They won’t change that name.
I always called my stepmom by her first name.
So teach your 2yo to call you mom. If they eventually ask why, tell them that the step kids have their own mom but you’re the 2yo’s mom.
Maybe ask the kids? I’m sure they could come up with something.
My bonus son calls me by my first name, my daughter knows I’m mommy and that’s all she calls me, and her favorite word to say lol. She calls her dad by his name more than anything 
Let the kids pick… and I don’t see the problem with them calling you by your first name. My step daughter calls me by my first name. Sometimes calls me mom. My daughter calls my husband dad but my son calls him Jake. I think it should always be what the kids feel most comfortable with.
How old are his kids? Depending on their age, maybe ask them what they would like to call you. Leave it up to them. If they want to call you mom too, if you have a healthy relationship with their real mom try to have a group sit down and see how she feels about it and maybe she has an alternative that is comfortable for everyone. But I would definitely leave it up to the kids and what they are comfortable calling you. Don’t force anything (unless they pick something derogatory) and don’t put yourself in a spot where your toe stepping.
Why do you need to dictate what they call you? It should be whatever they’re comfortable with as long as it isn’t disrespectful…your name is fine…i call my stepdad by his name, who cares?
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My stepson calls me mommy 75% of the time …and the other % he calls me margret …I never forced anything on him ever …he is 5 , and I am fine with both …I’m currently expecting my 1st …and I’m not worried abt getting called one or the …I do prefer mommy tho
My step daughter always calls me momma, has since the day I met her. I started to say keke or momma keke. Trust me your baby will be fine, my son hears her call me keke, momma, momma keke and he still calls me momma because he knows me as his momma, he’s almost a year old himself.
As long as it isn’t the “B” word just be happy with whatever they decide to call you!!
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My fiancees daughter calls me Ashley. She’s 5. My children are 7 and 2, there is no confusion about them calling me mom, even from my youngest. My step daughter caught my 2 year old calling me Ashley and she even corrected her and said “no anslee that’s mom.” My step daughter knows I’m not her mom, nor do I try to be because I have respect for the fact that she has a good mom. Co parenting is important and children understanding family dynamics is important. The kids will also call you what they are comfortable calling you.
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Let the kids decide my oldest calls my husband richy short for Richard
It’s up to them kids what they call you not them your baby is gonna need to know your first name eventually my son sometimes calls me and my bf Babe cause that’s what we call each other your baby my try to call you by your first name cause that’s what they hear but all you have to do is say no I’m mama and it won’t take but a couple times and honestly if they aren’t doing it yet at almost two they probably won’t
Let the kids take the lead on this one. My oldest has a different dad that is not in the picture. On the day that we had my second she called him daddy for the first time. We never told her what she had to call him. She called him by his first name until she decided on her own. She was so excited when her baby sister was born and even more excited that he was officially her dad.
I believe it should be their choice. My son called my partner Nic for a few months until he was 2, then he started calling him dad out of the blue 
My siblings and I have always called our stepmom by her first name unless we were talking to our younger half siblings( hate calling them half) so if we were talking to them we would say “hey mom wants you” that way they were never confused.
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It was decided between my sons Father and I (we are both in relationships) that Our child will refer to our partners by thier names. He is Daddy, Iam Mommy No confusion.
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Whatever THEY want to call you
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It should be their decision, not yours.
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Let them choose what to call you. You’re 2 year old will learn that he has to call you mom on his own.
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You dont want them to call you by your name because it could confuse your 2 year old? But you dont want them to call you mom because you’re not their mother? I’m confused. If they call you anything other than mommy then it could confuse your 2 year old. I would just let them call you by your name, which is typical for a stepmother stepchild relationship. Dont worry about it confusing your 2 year old. You have 4 kids that call you mom and you also help your 2 year old by referring to yourself as mommy. My stepmother and my dad got together when I was very young and me and my siblings calling her by her first name did not confuse my half brother growing up. It’s just easier on them to call you by your first name. And I’d also talk to the kids and make sure they’re even comfortable with calling you something other than your own name.
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Have them call you “Step”
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My bonus daughter calls me Chris, but when talking to others refers to me as Mom. I wouldn’t worry so much about the baby calling you by your first name.
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I would let them call you whatever they’re comfortable with calling you honestly. My stepdaughter calls me Anna and I’m fine with it
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My bonus kids call me mom. When they first came into my life it was shortly after their mommy had passed away. After a while they asked if they could call me mommy. I told them they could call me mom , mama, mother anything but Mommy. I explained to them they have a wonderful mommy who is still with them and watching over them and that I would never want to take her place. She passed away 10 years ago. I am no longer with their dad but they stayed with me ( long story) I had 1 child with him and the courts found it best for them to stay with me. I love them just like the ones I gave birth to and treat them all the same.
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By your name. You can’t have them call you mom just so they don’t confuse your kid. I think it got confusing when you married someone with kids already. There’s nothing to explain, just be honest with your kid from the beginning. Js
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Let the kids take a lead on that one and if they decide to call u mom dont deny them of that because it would actually mean your doing a great job as an extra parent (i personally hate the word step parent🤦♀️)…
My extra child calls me mom. He used tp refer to me by aunty Thuli. And out of the blue he said mom and it has stuck on. Even his mom knows that i am rhe other mom. I personally don’t believe that takes away any rights from her she is the biological mother but we are all contributing to the development of the child so if according to the boy i fit the mommy category its all good…
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My step son calls me mom and his mom is ok with that
It’s no different than other people calling you by your first name and referring you mommy to the child. Too young to correlate relations and in time figures dynamics out. You allow your step kids to call you whatever they want.
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We have a blended family. His boys refer to me as mom or step mom to everyone else but call me by my name. My son and our son call me Mama! I’d leave it for the kid’s comfort level personally.
It’s their choice, not yours.
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My husband and I have 5 kids. Two mine, two are his and 1 together. My kids call him by his first name and My step kids call me by my first name. Our son calls us mom or dad. He only uses our first names when he doesn’t get our attention. lol
Whatever the kids are comfortable with. Surely you can adjust if it’s not your first choice.
My older bonus kids call me Jamie or “stepmom” for my bonus 6 year old, but in an endearing way. My bonus 2 year old, out of the blue started calling me “mommy Jamie” I didn’t encourage or or tell her no. Her mom already doesn’t like me and I didn’t wanna make it worse, but that’s what the 2 year old felt in her heart so who am I to change it.
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My older stepdaughters (16) call me by my first name, but my almost 3 year old calls me mom, mama, mommy.
Your 2 year old should know what your name is. Our 3 year old knows mummy & daddy’s names in case we ever get separated in a store and someone has to find us. He also knows his full name. Its a good thing to teach them.
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Let them call you what they are comfortable with
Lady. “Hey lady, can you get me a juice please” lol just kidding. But great question!
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Talk with thier mother. Get her inout
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First name. My dad married my step mom when we were young and we always addressed her by her first name
My step kids called me by my first name but referred to me as mummy to my kids. But there was almost an 11 year age gap between my eldest and his youngest
I have a 21 and 14 yr old “step”(hate that word) Sons and iv been in their lives for the last 14 years and they call me saz as their comfortable with it.
My children are 12 and 3 and iv had the odd first name said but it doesnt bother me and my kids still call me mum 99.9% of the time.
Doesnt change my love for them 
I have a 12 year old from a past relationship and 2 kids with my husband who are 3 and 9 months. She calls him Ryan and sometimes my little girl will too but she knows better. We just told her that Ryan is your dad not Ellas and she’s gotten it pretty smoothly
My bonus kids refer to me by my first name. My son knows I’m mama. When they’re talking to their baby brother, they call me “mama” as well to avoid confusing him.
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Let them call you what makes them comfortable 
… your baby will know what to call you! Don’t over think it
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Just make sure that if they are talking to the youngest to make sure they address you as Mom 
Poppa in a short few years thats what they all will be calling you.
We have multiple kids my stepkids asked if they could call me mom I told them it’s was their decision on what they want to call me. They mostly call me mom
“hey you”
I run a daycare my own children sometimes call me by first name because all their friends do they still know I’m mom.
I also don’t walk around calling them son/daughter so
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100% their choice and what they are comfortable with. My husband has 2 kids that we have custody of, I have a son from previous marriage, and we have 2 girls together. His kids call me Jamie and always have (doesn’t offend me at all), my son calls my husband Dad but he’s been the only father he knows. Our two young daughters have never called me Jamie even though they hear their oldest 2 siblings call me Jamie.
Don’t be worried about your 2 year old, he/she knows you’re mom and even if they get mixed up and call you by your name once or twice it’s easily correctable.
The most important thing is that your step kids feel comfortable in what they call you.
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Should be what their comfortable with in my house it’s by the first name.
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Mama “your name”. My sister grew up calling my dad “dad” and her father, that wasn’t really ever around Papa Sam.
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Thank you for being respectful. My ex’s new wife has my kids call her mom and I hate it. It’s like a knife in my chest. But I’m immature for not liking it. It’s nice to see respectful Women out there. Thank you.
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My best friend is a step mom and if her step son calls her by her name it’s a good day. Other days not so much. Don’t think to hard about it. If it fits it sticks!
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Definitely first name it’s like a knife in the chest to the child’s mother hearing them call someone else mom I’ve been there and as a mother it’s a horrible feeling
Mine say B-Ma. (Bonus mom)
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We always called my stepdad by his first name my little brother was never confused !!