What should my fiances kids call me?

My daughter calls my wife mama m

Mine calls me Miss Heather and is the cutest thing. Everyone loves hearing him call me :grin:

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Put a miss in front of first name or even a letter ex miss Seeing

I had two step parents for majority of my life and I called them a by their names.

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My step daughter’s call me mommy Janice and their mom , mommy !
It really depends on what works for your kids :grin: why don’t you let them choose what they want to call you

This question is stupid lmao.

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We have 10… 8 by him and 2 of mine. None together, and didn’t ever want another. Had enough, I didn’t really care what they called me!!! Never even thought about it, was to busy. 6 call me mom, 2 call me by name ( cause of their mom’s) and my youngest calls my husband is pop’s cause he raised him and my eldest call him by his name… they are all 27-41… your child will know the difference

Just ur first name is fine

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How old are they? They should be given options and call you what they are comfortable with.

You are mum to your child and your first name to the children that or not yours? How in anyway is that confusing? Lol

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He’s not your kids dad. You’re not his children’s parent.
Your name! You’re confusing them by using different terms.

Have them call you Mom in a different language. Or Mama and then your first name.

E.g Mama Kel is what I call my good friends mom

What did they say when you talked to them about it?

I say your first name if that is what they have been calling you even if you are married to their father you aren’t their mother and they don’t have to call you mom if they wanted to call you mom they would of done so already don’t force it when my son was born my husband and I lived with my mom my mom thought this would be a problem my son calling me by my first name and calling her mom because of my small siblings but he never did he calls her grandma and calls me mom or ma and calls my step dad grandpa and husband dad or daddy I also have 8 siblings only 2 are from my mom’s husband and we all call him by his name both his children never have called him by his name though also it’s good for children to know their parents real name

I always told my stepdaughter to call me what she wants as long as it wasn’t a name with swearing lol, it is their choice no one else’s choice what so ever

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How about mama then your first name

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My step mom call me Ms Amanda. And my kids call him Mr Bo. When any kids get confused we just correct them. No big deal and dont make it a big deal

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By your first name.!!

My boyfriends son calls me Miss Teresa :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

I would say ur name . But ask them what they would like to call u and go from their .

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Have been in my bonus childs life since he was 3 (9 years now) and he has always called me by name and we have had soon to be 4 kids since. Never been an issue. He will refer to me as go get your mom or ask mom when speaking to the kids though. But my older ones do complain asking why they cant call me by my name

Whatever THEY feel comfortable with.

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Ummmm… Well that not up to you. It’s up to the kids.

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In most situations I know of, the kids choose what to call them. My sister’s stepson calls her by her name, and has since before her son was born but it’s never been confusing for her son.

My boyfriends daughter will call me bonus mama sometimes, otherwise calls me by name. It doesn’t confuse my child, he still calls me mama or mom.

Depending on the day my bonus son calls me “Katie” “momma” “momma Katie” or “kitty” (he couldn’t say Katie when I first came into the picture). Whatever comes out of his mouth / what he is comfortable with is what I respond to as long as it’s respectful of course. It’s honestly up to the child not the parents. I wouldn’t force anything on them at all because they might honestly hate calling you that and it develop resentment issues.

I don’t have an issue. My older two call my husband by his name, from time to time calls him dad. And the younger two don’t call him by his name. Been 2 years.

It would be up to the kids and what they feel comfortable with… Ask them do they want to call you by your first name or is there a nick name like yourkids have made for their dad…and with your 2 yr old getting confused… Wont happen. If your childcalls you by your name you simply correct and move on… Nothing to be made a big deal about

This will all come in time. We have a blended family and have been doing this going on 12 years. We have twins together and they were never confused about what to call us. My twins are 10. My bonus kids call me by my name. Unless my bonus son wants something lol he’s 15 and has learned I have a sweet spot for the word mama! My kids call my husband by his name and my youngest at the time we got together was 15 months. Again no confusion. As everyone gets comfortable with each other nicknames and things will just come on their own. We have 7 all together. From 23 to 10 years old and now I couldn’t imagine life any other way. We are a family but it did take some time for all of us to grow into one. Best wishes to your family!

My bonus kids call me my name. My son went threw a phase where he would when he was around 2 but he calls me momma or mommy now

I don’t have any names that they could call you, but I can say that when my two younger brothers (different mom) were younger, and I’d call their mom by her real name, they started calling her by her real name. I understand not wanting the confusion, but this only happened one or two summers we visited, so it wasn’t too long that it happened. It might be easier for them to call you by your first name, because wouldn’t it confuse your little kids more if the others call you something else other than your name? It’s easy to explain to a child that you aren’t their “mom” so that’s why they call you by your first name.

I call my step parents by there first name. But what about mimi

Whatever THEY want to call you.

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I call my stepdad by his first name and my daughter calls my husband, her stepdad, by his first name

Just saying, that if my step dad would’ve told me to call him anything other than what I wanted to call him (which was his name) it would’ve been one miserable household. My step children call me mom, because I’ve been in their lives for years and because they chose to. I never told them to, asked them to, or needed them to. My husband and I also have a child together, and when my step children sometimes refer to me as my first name it has never confused him. Ever.

I have 2 babies that I have been blessed to be their ONLY mom for the past 5 years. One doesn’t even remember their bio mom… they call me by my first name because that’s what they feel comfortable with. My son actually ( he’s 7) says he came out of my belly…(we’ll tell him later) so… it’s not about you, it’s about them.

Honestly talk to there mom if you can. Tell her what’s going on and see if it’s ok to call you mama… whatever your name is. I had a bonus son for three years and I was there since his birth. Started calling me mama so we just through my name in after it and it became natural to him.

Let them call you what they are comfortable with. Don’t force them to call you what you want them to. First name is fine. That what I called my step mother gif 50 yrs.

My step son calls me aunt Becky 22 years later. All my nieces and nephews call me that and it’s what he was comfortable with so I’m good with that.

Whatever they’re comfortable calling you, my 2 year old calls me Alex because she hears my sisters and nieces say it all the time, but I tell her my names mommy and she says ok sorry mommy and that’s it until the next time.

Whatever they are comfortable with. My dads ex (almost step mom) forced me to call her mom. Didnt go well.

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If your fiancé was in a biker gang, you’d be daddy’s old lady, but thats not the case.

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If he’s your fiance I’m guessing yall have been together for a bit so I’m pretty sure they call you by something already. Leave it alone. My step kids call me by my name but apparently to others including their mom they call me Mama Cindy. Your 2 year old will survive and most kids go through a phase of calkingbtheir parents by their first name anyways.

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I call my stepparents by their name, but there was a time when I was little that I called my stepmom “mom”. But that was my choice and both stepparents wanted me to call them whatever I was comfortable with.

Whatever they are comfortable with. Your child might even call you by your first name like most kids like to do with their parents. If they want to call you mom however, I would make sure it’s okay with their mom first. As a mom, if my child called someone else mom, it wouldn’t go down well for anyone

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Teach your child that your not their bio mom so there is no confusion…

Whatever they are comfortable with I guess… I call my step dad by his first name and I’ve also got a step daughter which calls me by my first name , which we are both comfortable with…

Whatever they choose to call you :woman_shrugging:

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It is up to what They want to call you. My husband and I have 2 children between the 2 of us. His daughter always called me my first name until She said to me in front of her dad and my daughter, You are her mom and your also my other mommy. From then on she has always called me mama sarah. My daughter calls my husband dad and by his first name but mostly dad.

Mine called me ST in their younger years. In their teens they started calling me Mom or Ma

Some nick name for step moms I have heard are: Madre , Mama ___( your first names initial or first name), Mami… if you google lists you can find different ones. Talk to the kids and see what THEY prefer to call you.

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I mean I called my second stepmom bitch :woman_shrugging:t2: I guess that could work

My bonus son that what we call it calls me mom I corrected him for 2 years but he still does it his mom knows and she’s fine with it we figure I’m his mom to i treat him like my own and his siblings call me mom so we stopped correcting him and just let it happen

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My step daughter calls me and her stepdad by our first names.

Don’t force a name on them, my kids are all small and their big sister SD calls me nikkie… The kids DON’T get confused. They know she has another mommy and we are honest with them. My 5 year old just started asking questions about why she has another mommy and it was a simple explanation. She understood and said “oh!” . Don’t force things on your step kids. They’ll resent you.

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Mami… sounds like mommy but it is not exactly mommy.

Why not MM? Like yours do for your new partner

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Pick something fun. Go by an existing nickname or have them help you pick a new one/ make a new one. You could also have every one come up with one & have every one vote or pull it out of a hat.

How is your relationship with them? Are you close? Do you have a special bond with them? Have they called you anything else besides your first name? If so, why are you looking for a change now? Has their father told them not to call you by your name?

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When my husband and I got together we each already had our own child. My daughter was 3 at the time (her bio dad not involved) and at first she called him “robot”. We had no idea why :woman_shrugging: Then she asked him if she could call him dad and has ever since. We left the decision up to her. My stepson calls me by my nick name (shortened version of my first name), he was older and has his mom. We left it up to the kids to decide what to call us.

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My stepson calls me by ny name me and partner have a girl 2geather when my stepson is talking to my girl about me he will always refers to me as Mum to her xx

By your name, My step children have always called me by my name (my daughter was 2 when I met my husband) she knew I was her Mama and my bonus kids grew to call me “Mom” too. After 5 years.
As a parent and step parent I think it’s only right to allow the children to decide so there is no resentment later on.
My daughter is 8 and calls her step mom by her first name but she’s only been in her life for 2yrs, So if she decides with time she wants to call her Mom too, I’m ok with that. I am her mama and nothing changes that.

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I say let them decide on their own.

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Let them choose whatever they are comfortable with calling you. Teach your younger child the difference.

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My husband called his step mom “smom” growing up. :person_shrugging:

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Call you mrs whatever your name is

It’s entirely up to them if they want to call you by your first name or if they feel comfortable calling you “mum.” Don’t force anything.

I called my stepmom by her name

I looked after my kids lil sister when their dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she started calling me mum becoz her siblings did, i knew her mum would lose it if she found out so i sat her down and explained that i wasnt her mum but i loved her like my own, so she could call me spare mum or aunty, she called me aunty unless she was introducing me or explaining who i was then she would tell people i was her spare mum, she felt like she belonged and was wanted and loved, and thats all it was about.

My girls call their little sisters mom “DosMa” meaning mom2 or second mom in Spanish. Their little sisters are 1/2 Mexican.

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Your name, everyone hears other people call their parents by their name but it doesnt stop any other kid from calling their mom, mom.

My bonus kids call me DD. Because it was easier than Dannielle. My friend’s bonus kids call her M. It’s not quiet Mom… But doesn’t confuse their younger kids. You should go with whatever is comfortable for you and your family

I left it open to my step children I said I didn’t want to be there mother but I wanted to be there friend an they have called me mom on there own for years now

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Always called my steps by their names and mom or dad to their kids… mine call me miss jo … bc when they met me their dad said I was a babysitter until we figured out how things went lol… now we are married and I’m stick as that lol… I feel like a school teacher… I’ve asked them repeatedly to just call me jo lol

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Been thinking about what my kids should call my SO also.

My step kids call me by my first name. My 3 almost soon to he 4 year in no way has gotten mixed up. Let them call u whatever they want.

Seriously…my daughter calls me by my 1st name :roll_eyes: sometimes…I dont find it disrespectful…afterall it is my name…dont make something so simple more difficult than it has 2 be

They call me by my first name :woman_shrugging:t4:

Call you by your name.

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I knew a couple that had a blended family with no kids together and they called her Mama Bear and him Papa Bear. But, they were little. Maybe Mimi? Or Gigi? Or something else cute and short.

My son calls my fiance bonus dad.

I don’t think your children would get confused, since I’m sure everyone else calls you by your first name.

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By Name, until they are ready if ever to call you mum, no one could ever replace their birth mum, but in saying that, if the mum was not very nice, and treated her children as objects?, then you should be called mum, by raising the bar, and being a responsible carer of his children. Or if you dont like his children and just have some fascination of him only, then your name is what they will call you🤷

If you and the kids mother get along, you might ask her what she is comfortable with them calling you.

I have a friend whose step kids call her Bee for “Bonus Mom”

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Whatever they want to. Their age might influence it.

Im 47, my parents divorced when I was 3. Mother remarried when I was 5. I could not bring myself to call my step dad Dad…My Daddy was my Dad. My dad remarried when I was 6 and from the moment we moved in together,my step mom was My Mom. She raised me, was there for me when I needed a mom. My mother wasn’t around much…

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I’d let them call you whatever they’re comfortable with. I have a daughter from my previous marriage, and a soon to be 4 yr. Old with my SO. They’re five years apart and we’ve never had an issue with him using his dad’s name due to my daughter calling him by his name.

My kids call my BF by his name. Lately my son (9, have known him since he was 4) has been referring to him as dad.

So what do your friends call you? Lmfao

I would leave it up to them.
My mom had 2 kids with my Stepdad and I always called him by his first name. Never any issues with my brothers getting confused.

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A therapist told my husbands ex wife that children should call their step parents whatever they feel comfortable with…my stepson called me Momma ReRe. My kids call their stepdad. Dad…etc
Ps. Ex wife hired the therapist

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From a psychological standpoint I don’t recommend asking** the kids to call you anything; let them develop what they call you on their own. Your son will call you what you teach him to call you as well as what his siblings do. You cannot force things on other children without causing resentment, anxiety and confusion.

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I’d say they should call you by your first name. You’re a true will call you mommy and maybe by your first name accidentally a few times but as he grows older you will be Mom. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

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My bonus son calls me “Ms Ashley” when he is talking directly to me. But when we’re all playing or he’s talking to his younger siblings (we don’t do half here) there’s never been confusion on who is who. I’ve never asked him to call me by a certain name, he has done it on his own. Just let him/her decide what they’re comfortable with

Let them choose on their own.

Wow reading is fundamental ladies! She already said she doesn’t want to be called mom but maybe a cute nickname by all— bonus and blood alike

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Whatever they feel comfortable calling you!

Uh, let them pick…