I think it would be best if you let them call you by your name until they come up with a more apt name as you get to know them.
Step mother? Step mum, SM, wife of dad, Steven? Haha either way your 2 year old won’t be confused.
My step called me weena, just a made up name.
My older kids call my husband his first name and my younger 2 still call him daddy just fine 
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What’s wrong with your child calling you by your first name once in a while? At least then he will know your name. I lived with my sister for a while and my daughter would call me aunti and her mom once in a while didn’t bother me at all. She’s 3 now and calls me mom.
A friend of mine called her step mom Momma Dawn
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Mom would be easiest but im sure u can get creative moms know best
My daughters (which are my stepdaughters) call me Mommy Raychel…their mom hates it and me…lol…but I’m fine with it…I have not ever told them to call me it, they just do it. 
My kids call me mama nana (bonus kids call me this)
By your first name…
Just think about what you’d want your children calling another woman!!
Let them choose I have one that calls me mom and the other calls me Katrina he don’t like my nickname kk lol
Whatever they feel comfortable calling u…
Whatever the children feel comfortable with. Period
What ever they’re comfortable with.
By your name. It won’t confuse your two year old.
Call you what they want as long as its not a swear word 
please don’t make them call you mom. Just have them call you by your 1st name
Actually children should never call an adult by their first name, if it’s not accompanied by Ms, Mrs, Aunty, etc. They should have respect that way. Your step kids should call you Mama (your name) if they are 5 or under or Aunty if they are older.
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Bonus, Mimi, or a nickname the come up with.
They call your husband dd so have them call you mm
My francés kids wanted to call me step mom at first, but bio mom didnt like that so they stopped. She only wants them calling me by my first name yet wants them calling her boyfriend dad. I let the girls call me whatever THEY are comfortable with. To be called mom is something that must be earned and not forced upon. My kids call me mom and his kids dont. No big deal.
How about meme (‘Me’ ‘Me’)
Or…idk momthe2nd lol
My step kids called me by my first name. I am currently in a new relationship and my kids call my boyfriend by his nickname.
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They should be able to call you by your first name…
I have three boys from a previous relationship and a little girl with my partner who passed in 2019. My boys see their dad often, never call him anything other than dad, my daughter is, for some odd reason, a fan of my ex, she has always called him Ryan.
She also calls me Mommy Trista. idk why but she does. At least I know she knows my name in case she is ever lost.
My step kids call me Ms Alicia
Mrs and ya first name
Auntie…or tt…titi…
My husband’s son has called me aja/momma aja since we met and my daughter in the last few years has called me aja and we tell her that only he can call me that im your mom so you call me mommy so even if the habit starts its easy to get rid of just dont let it slide if you LO says it
You don’t mention how old his kids are. Im curious if they would be old enough to understand if you and their father ask them to call you mom when speaking to the toddlers. Example… older kids will ask the toddler to go find mommy vs go find Vicky. They wouldn’t be claiming you as their own mother but reinforcing your title with your little one.
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By your first name. Your kid will figure it out. Welcome to blended families.
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I went by Ms. _____.
BUT you can also choose a different variation of mom from the one they use for their other mother.
If it isnt just a matter of you feeling weird about it, you can talk to their mom about it and see what she thinks. If you are on good terms she might surprise you.
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My stepson calls me by my name. I have a newborn with his dad & its not occurred to me because my son will know me as mum regardless of my stepson calling me by my name. Just allow his kids to call you what they want to. If ny stepson wanted to call me mum I would have no issue with that either but I’m happy with whatever he decides
You will not confuse your two year old by them calling you your first name
We don’t get to tell children you call me “this” now
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Your name n if they want to call u mom they can but u r step mom so they call u by your name
My girls (two under 8 when we married) call their stepdad, Padre. We got it from the Legos movie where Robin wants to call Batman dad and he refuses My husband didn’t refuse but respecting the fact the girls call their dad dad.
So perhaps another way of say mom in another language. Padre is dad in Spanish. Like that your soon 2 year old can also call you mom in another language rather than by your first name.
My step kids are 15 and over and they call me by my first name tho.
My husbands son would call me Dani. (Danielle) my kids never seemed confused by it. He isn’t my biological son.
I call my step mom by her name…
let them choose what to call you
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They can call you what they want to and you kids can call him what they want to. Them calling you by name wouldn’t confuse your toddler anymore than hearing your husband or other family/friends/kids call you by your name.
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I would talk it over with their mom so there is no disrespect assuming you guys have a good relationship there should be no issues talking that subject over
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So my son was 2 when my SO and I got together his kid have always called me by my first name and my son still calls me mom. He knows my name is Caitlin but he calls me mom. I think what you’re asking is a little ridiculous honestly. Why force kids to call you something other than your name… your 2yo will still know you’re mom…
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Call you by your name. If you’re worried it would confuse your youngest. Then picking another name other then mom or your first name would also cause confusion by your rationale…
Use your name. I also have an almost 2 year old. Others call me peg , hun , babe. Etc. My daughter doesn’t. She calls me mommy/mama. If he says your name you just simply correct them by saying no I’m mommy to you. Lol.
My bonus kids call me mom. However their mom is flakey and doesn’t take care of them(when they are with her for 4 hours a month-her choice- and they are talking about me they call me mom amber). My oldest kids call my SO by his first name unless talking to our youngest kids then they say “dad needs you” or whatever. My older kids did call him dad for a short period of time, but their biological dad (who I share 50/50 custody with) told them if he ever found out they call him dad, they wouldn’t be allowed to come back to his house 
My SD calls me Sher or Cher. I let her choose what she wants to call me. If we’re out in public sometimes she says Mom to other people. My girls are 3 and 5 and were never confused by her calling me by my name.
Give them options and ask what they are comfortable with!
My step children call me by my name. My kids went through a phase of calling my name but that was without even having step brothers lol your kids will know you’re mom even if your step kids call you your name.
Doesn’t your husband/ friends/relatives call you by your name??? How will step kids calling you by your name confuse your child if others calling you by your name won’t??? 
and by that logic, any name they call you will confuse your child 
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I would say leave it up to them what they want to call you! Your two year old knows your his mom I don’t see the big deal in that…
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Dude other people are gonna call you by your first name. Dont make it difficult for the kid. You have a name for a reason and your not the mom. Just let them call you by your name??
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My friends step son calls her Ma 2.
We called my step mom, Mam. And when I had babies it was perfect. She was amazing to us all!
It’s up to them what they call you. You just need to correct your own kids if they start using your name.
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Ms. (whatever your name is)
Your name. They will give you a nick name you don’t auto deserve it.
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I was Mama B to my step son. Yes most the time he just called me Mama. (So I’d be Mama - insert first initial) But both kids knew my name and he called me what he wanted. 
I was his step mom for 4 years and even now years later he still calls me mama B. 
My step son calls me by my name and always have and my 4 year old still calls me “mom” amd he was around before she was even born. So she has heard him call me by my name since the day she was born and she has never called me by my real name. Same with her father. My daughter (different relationship) has always called him by his real name and our 4 year old still calls him dad.
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Ask them what they want to call you
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They can call you whatever they want
They should call you whatever the children are comfortable calling you. Your child is gonna hear alot of other people calling you by your name
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My children call my wife Tiffy, Tiffy bear, sometimes they both slip and call her mom(which doesn’t bother me. It’s my title and can choose to share it if I please. Which I don’t mind sharing it.) My oldest refers to her as their step-mom when speaking to others. As she does all things a mother does. My kids are 4 and 8 now. She came into their lives at 1 and 6. We have talked about blended family. I would love it so long as my kids are always treated the same and vice versa. OUR kids are our kids. There are no half/step kids.
I was raised with a half brother and my father treated us 3 oldest and my cousins that lived with us like shit. He’d make it a point to remind him of what he does for him. Making sure he knew he didn’t have too. I don’t want that for my kids or any kids.
My husband’s daughter calls me by my name and my kids call him by his first name,
I let my step daughter choose what to call me, sometimes its my name sometimes its mom sometimes its A mom but she tells her friends I am her mom! Lol but she knows she has a real mom and I’m just her step mom!
I am about to have a baby and honestly I’m not worried about confusing the baby with what to call me!! I know ill be mom lol
I really wouldn’t worry about it to much, plus the other kids will call you mom with your baby! Like even my step daughter tells my baby that I am mom and she’s not even born yet lol
Welcome to blended families!! Haha! But even MM works if they call your hubby DD! Why not even if your really worried but personally I wouldn’t worry baby will always call you mom!
I wish more women respected the mothers boundaries like that 
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All my children still call me mommy even tho my stepson calls me by name.
Whatever they want to call you. I have a little one and my stepdaughters call me Jen, but my DD4, knows I am Mommy. She never called me Jen and if she would Have I’d just tell her no, I’m Mommy.
Consult with the children as to what they would feel comfortable calling you
Umm by ur name 
Kids are all different i had to call my husband dad infront of them for a while because they were calling him by his name and it pissed me off 
but I’ve seen blended families that some kids use the step parents names and the bio kids just adjust. If your worried about their mom maybe sit down with all of them and their mother and come to something together.
When my youngest was really young he went out to eat with my oldest stepdaughter he came back calling me Sandy for the evening it was really strange n odd a badd feeling ,
I would have them either choose or just by your name… You don’t want the kids to feel uncomfortable calling you something they don’t want to
Soooo …he needs to call you a different name besides your first name, because you don’t want your son calling you your actual name? But you don’t have a problem with your kid calling you another name? Because if step son calls you a different name then you’re implying that your own child will call you that, and that’s okay? Lol This is so confusing. Just have him call you by your first name and move forward. My little boy was 2 when I got with my husband and his son has always called me by my name. And my son has always called me Mom. Lol
He won’t be confused. I never called my stepdad anything but his first name. All three of my little brothers called him daddy with no problems. Don’t force kids to call you anything but what they’re comfortable calling you.
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By your name unless they decide otherwise. It’s not your decision to make and should be what the kids are comfortable with
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It really depends on the child. My Step Dad was Dad, and my real Dad was Dad. I however called my step mom by her first name because i chose to. She asked me to call her Mom and I refused. I say let the kids choose what is comfortable for them. 
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It’s about what makes the kids comfortable, not you. If they want to call you by your first name then so be it, it’s just as easy to teach your kid not to say your first name. My toddler hears people call me by my first name all the time and still knows that to her, I’m mom
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My older brother (from a different mom) has always called my mom Cheri but refers to her as Mom when talking to me and my younger brother. I don’t remember ever being confused at calling my mom Mom just because my brother called her Cheri.
I’d let them decide. I think it puts more pressure on them to ask them to call you a made up name. My step kids started out calling me Miss Ashley. Once I married their dad my only request was they didn’t have to call me miss anymore. They could just say Ashley. They changed to Ashley and now they call me ash. At times my stepdaughter calls me mom but that is something she does on her own. I don’t encourage it bc they have a mom who loves them but I don’t shame them for it either. I just go with the flow. I’m also a mom myself and someone who has a stepmom. My stepmom raised me from 5 years of age and my birth mother was only involved a few times throughout my life. When my parents married my dad told me my stepmom would love to be called mom but I could call her what I wanted however it may hurt her feelings if I didn’t do so. I called her mom but it was forced and very awkward for quite awhile. I think my dad should have allowed it to happen naturally.
My kiddies call their step dad Dude cause thats what I call him. I find it very endearing as it is my “pet” name for him and is said with love. He is our Dude 
. Why dont you guys come up with an easy endearing nickname? I hated calling my step mom by her name but thats what she wanted and it felt like it put a distance between us. An endearing name other than your first name is special I think
They wont be confused
I have a 10 year old step son
Been with his father since he was 4 or 5.
He calls me allison
I have a 2 year old from his father and I and she calls me mom. When he speaks to her, he references me as mom so I dont think it’s an issue
I’m a step mom and my kiddos call me by my family nickname. “Hezz” instead of my first name, Heather. But it was what they were comfortable with. I’m also a step child and I call both step parents by their first name. I have multiple half home others and sisters on each side and no confusion happened!
I had my son when my (step)daughter was 7 and he never once questioned it - he’s going to be 7 now. He knows I’m mom and I’m Jen to her.
Are you going to get everyone you see call you by this name or mom? I know in my house my friends family call me michelle. My nephew calls me taunt. He is 5 years older than my daughter. Who calls me mom or mommy.
Let them call you what they want. Your 2 year old will understand eventually
AUNTIE ALEX gives you respect you deserve and bonds to you
I think this is a question for them! It needs to be something they are comfortable with. They should choose…i don’t believe they should be made to call you something you’ve chosen. If your name is what they’re comfortable with, let it be. Your son isn’t any more likely to call you by your name than he will be to call you by another name he hears them saying. If your son calls you anything other than Mommy/Mom, just correct him and explain. I don’t think that’s an issue…
Both my step daughters call me by my name there 6 and 14 and I have a bio son who’s 3 and a half it’s never confused him I tell him they have different mommies he’s never called me my name cause they do … I’ve been with my husband 6 years. Now my step son does call me mom but I’ve raised him since he was 2 and he’s about to be 7
My oldest calls my husband (his stepdad) by his first name and he calls his soon to be stepmother by her first name. He only calls me “mom” and he only calls his biological father “dad.” I have two other children with my husband and they call my husband “daddy.” They understand my oldest has a different dad and they don’t get confused.
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In the Caribbean for respect we refer to an adult who is close to the kids as Aunty or Uncle. So they can call you Aunty “your first name”, for example Aunty Mary
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I have a 13 year old step son and 5 year old biological daughter. My stepson has always called me by my first name since my daughter was born and it has never confused my daughter.
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Go by your first initial and put mama behind it like Cmama.
What they feel is comfortable.