Whatever the kids feel comfortable with
My step kids called me mammy Claire x
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It’s what the KIDS FEEL comfortable with, NOT YOU. Your child will not be confused.
My step kids call me Mama A… I love it
You should let them pick a nickname, or just call you by your name. Don’t make a big deal about it or make them feel like they have to do something different.
Your biological child will also hear literally everyone else call you by your name, it won’t confuse them.
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My kids call me by my first name & they call my mum - mummy 
Coz they see me call my mum mum and everyone calls me by my first name
My two oldest call their dads wife just by her name
My kid’s call my husband pop’s and my step daughter calls me mom
Omg 
your 2 year old will get over it … not like he/she will be that age forever … Petty question
Ur first name .ur not married to him so.ur not a step.mum ur his girlfriend .
By your name until they decide or find something otherwise
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Whatever they want; as long as it’s lovingly.
My step kids just call me by my first name!
Highly recommend a cute nickname to call u;)
Maybe something fun like grandmas do Gigi Mimi mammy mamaha (pronounces Mammaw) something like that maybe it just will happen naturally tho
What ever your name is. Your not their mother!
Don’t force them to call you anything
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Let them call you whatever they feel comfortable calling you.
Maybe you should ask the kids rather than a bunch of strangers…ijs. 
Let the kids decide. They will tell you
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Ask the kids what makes them comfortable.
I guess they can call you aunty then as a form of respect.
Whatever they want to as long as its respectful
Your name, your little ones won’t get confused!
Ask them what they want to call you.
I always love “miss _____”
By your first name, no more no less 
Ask them what they would like to call you!!
Ask them what they are comfortable calling you.
My kids call their step mom Mimi
My step kids call me Mimi
Your child will not be confused
your name unless they decide otherwise
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Your name. If your kid does by chance call you by your name say yes that’s my name but to you I’m “mommy” or whatever.
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They can call you nana instead
Your son won’t be confused if they call you by your name
It’s going to be different names regardless. 
I mean, ask them instead of the internet. It’s their choice.
My 3 step sons call me Kirsty and my 2 kids call my husband Dave. Thats what they are comfortable with so we are fine with it
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Smom…
…leave the option open they will decide on their own
Depends on the circumstances and ages…
Step mom of course, or ur name. Ur baby will br fine
Passo-mama. Is step mom in itsliam
How about mammy or meme.
Let the kids decide what they are comfortable with. It’s not about you. Your child will be fine. If he starts calling you by your name correct it. I have three kids from a previous marriage they call my partner by his name. Our children together still call him Daddy. You’re probably thinking to much into it. I wouldn’t ask my step children to call me anything.
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Let them call you what they are comfortable calling you. Your 2yo will call you mom and say it til your ears bleed… mixed family life is hard don’t make it harder with selfish requests
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Best thing is to ask the kids what they feel comfortable calling you. I have two kids older kids and two younger ones with my fiance. He has been in my kids life sine they were 4 and 6 respectively. He told them they could call him whatever they wanted. They have called him by his first name, and it never effected his two kids, they always call him dad. One actually just switched to calling him dad this past year. The oldest still calls him by his name, however, tells everyone that is his dad. The most important thing is to let them decide on their own. Trust me when I say it would not confuse your 2 year old.
Who cares? Kids usually come up with a name they are comfortable with! As long as they don’t call you bitch I think you will be ok… there are much more important things to be worried about
One of four of my bonus kids call me SM=.
step mom. 3 call me mom
My daughter called my husband Geo, his name was George. Her father was “The Sperm Donor” and his wife “The Step-Bitch”. My husband let my daughter find her way. First it was Uncle George and then Geo as she settled in.
BB OR BM for Bonus MOM
Whatever they want to and he wants
Just let them choose.
By ur name. What do u want
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Always called my dad girlfriends by their name. My stepdaughter cause me by my first. I just explained to my younger kids that while they shared a dad.She already has a mommy and that why she call me by my name.Also good for them to kno your name just incase the get lost.Honestly best to go with what they are comfortable with without forcing it.
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Not sure why people are so opposed to “step” parents being called what they are! Moms and dads! Parents to their children! My step kids call me mom and their bio mom mom also. No big deal! Not about the parent! It’s about how the kids feel and what they want! Don’t force it!
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My family is a mixture of adopted, step and biological. Total of 8. I’ve always told them whatever they are comfortable with. You’re little one will call you mom don’t worry.
My son always called my bf/fiance and now my husband robert. I told him he could call him whatever he was comfortable with and that I wasn’t going to push anything on him. Eventually he called him dad on his own and that’s all he calls him now. His son calls me Patty and that’s fine, as his mom is in the picture and I mean her no disrespect in that aspect. Together we have 2 and they always call us mom or dad. There was no confusion on their parts. I would let the children call you by what they are comfortable with.
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Just go with your first name or a nickname of your choice. It won’t confuse them for long, if at all. I have 50/50 custody with my son’s dad and he calls my husband by his first name. There’s no confusion whatsoever. He knows that his sister calls my husband daddy because he’s her dad and not his.
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My boyfriend and I have 1 child together. I have 2 children from a previous relationship. They call him by his first name- which they feel the most comfortable with. My 2 year old calls him Daddy. He always has. He also knows his first name and jokingly says it. Let them call you something they are comfortable with… and if it’s your first name, well so be it. Even though they call him by first name, my older boys tell friends, school, etc. that he is their step-dad. I guess an option would be “Mama/Mommy _____”. You can say that you are their second mom or bonus mom.
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I don’t have a step kid but my oldest calls my other half dad and he made that decision as he got older yes his real dad is around but he likes calling them both dad and he calls his step mom mom honestly so I’d let your children decide on that and it’s something all parents need to discus
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My son has always called his stepdad Josh and we have 2 younger girls together and they have never been confused. If you think about it other people will call you by that your 1st name it doesn’t confuse them so why shouldn’t confuse the kid if they call you by your 1st name. It’s funny I am all 3 Of their mother yet my three-year-old insist I am only her mom lol
My step sons at the beginning would call me by my first name, then when they got older they would call me momma Lynn, or still Lynn. One of them will still call me mom, even though his dad and i divorced and he passed away.
I told them that I did not want them to call me mom as their mom was having a hard time with the fact that I was married to her ex husband. She did not like me much. Always had bad things to say.
When I had our son they still called me Lynn or Momma Lynn and my son was just fine at calling me mom, never an issue.
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I’d say by your first name and keep on teaching your youngest your mom and as your youngest get older they’ll understand. Maybe sooner or later the kids will call him dad and you mom. Those are names that can’t be forced on a child
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Uhhh whatever they feel comfortable with. No matter what they call you the child will still hear it. Just let them know when referring to child like “go get mommy” so they are saying go get first name. Other than that you will be fine at 2 years old they should already know you are mom. I wouldn’t put pressure on assigning a name let them give you one. I call my dad dad and step dad pop lol but I’ve known him my own life and have it to him myself as I got older .
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I will never understand why women are not ok with their children calling them by their first name!! Its a phase all children go through at some point and in the long run its helpful for if your child gets seperated from you, they can tell another adult or officer your name instead of saying…i dont know, her name is mama!! My step children always called me by my first name. And my own children went through a phase of calling me by my first name. Just dont make a big deal about it and they will eventually call you mom again!! I never made a big deal about my children calling me by my first name, they called me mom again, and by my first name 
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I have a step daughter who is 8 then me and her dad have 3 kids together they are 3,2 and 1 my step daughter calls me by my name the younger ones call me mum there was no confusion the 3 year old now says tanya sometimes when they hear my step daughter call it me but she laughs so I know she is just being cheeky:joy:
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I called both my step parents by their first names. And my parents just had to explain to my 1/2 siblings that they were my biological parents. Eventually I introduced my step father to people as my dad only because when I said step dad people would literally ask me “what happened to your dad?”
Your name, not mom unless you birth them or adopt them that is a title that must be earned and only when they are comfortable
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You’re concern for your youngest calling you by your.firat name is sweet…I’m curious what other adults.call you in front of him? Let all the kids call you what they are comfortable with.
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As a blended family. You can have your son still call you mom and the others use your first name. Yes I understand it could.be confusing, but that’s where it becomes teachable. Kids adapt.
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As a stepmom I never made them call me anything other that what they did they started calling me kay bc that’s what I go by with all kids besides my own. I feel like making them call me something other than my name or close to my name wasn’t right. They asked me after moving in if they could call me mom and I told them they could call me whatever they wanted. You kind of just have to let the kids decide that. My kids never got confused by what to call me and my youngest was 3 and my husbands youngest was 3 as well. They would joke around and call me kay a few times but got corrected.
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I personally think it’s up to the kid but also, it doesn’t even sound like you guys have been together that long anyways, so I think the kids should only call you by your first name. Your still basically a stranger
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My stepdaughters call me whatever they feel comfortable with. Usually my nickname, but one calls me mom. It’s completely u to them.
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My step daughters call me TJ, as well as my nieces and nephew. My bio daughters call me mom. My youngest daughter use to call my sister, momma, because I worked a lot and she told me the my sister was mom #2. Don’t put too much thought in it. Just flow
Growing up all of my step moms i cLled vy thier first name( i had 4) i called my step father by his forst name. My children now call thier step mom by her name and as they got older (14-16) one started calling her mom and the other stuck with her first name. I think if all adults involved know their role and are ok kids should get to pick the extra parents titel when ready and as a young age call them by thier first name or a nick name.
I was taught you never call an adult by their first name unless there was a Ms, Mr, or Mrs in front of it and that’s out of respect. If you’re comfortable do it that way. That’s how son is with his stepmother.
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My stepdaughter used to always call me by my 1st name. We’ve been a family for 12years now. She now calls me mom, or bonus mom to some
My stepson was 12 when he came to live with us, always called me by my first name even after his dad and I had kids and there was never a question or even brought up by my kids that he didn’t call me mom, my kids knew he had a mom and that I was a second mom to him but that she was the person that was called mom.
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Your child will not be confused … my step mum I called wendy so did my full siblings we all lived with my dad and my ste mum came ro live with us with her 3 children …we all called her wendy her children called her mummy / mum her youngest was 4 …when they had a child together my half sister always called her mum new she was mum … her children that came to live with us called my dad mick …again my half sister called him dad… my step mum would have loved for my siblings to call her mum but her children wasnt happy with it so my siblings respected that …sadly she passed away but at her death bed we all was treated has she was our mum … same at her funeral … end of the day it’s what the children feel comfortable with and for adults to determine .are enforce it based on how the kids feel towards you .you cant force a term of endearment ! …
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I think it needs to be whatever the child/children are comfortable calling you.
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I have several step-grandkids. Some call me Grandma & others call me Bobby. It doesn’t matter to me. Especially with all the blended families there are today. We all get together for different big things, like a sweet 16, we all get along & act like the adults that we are. Just let the kids be comfortable about it. 
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Why dont you just ask them what they would be comfortable calling you? It may change over their years depending on your relationship.
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They call me Mimi I know it’s more of a grandma name but it’s something different than “mom” their mother gave them up so I’m hoping to be called mom soon lol I have my first child coming tho so I’m worried that they’ll call me Mimi and so will my daughter hope this helps!
My oldest calls his step dad by his first name, and our 2 younger kids together 2,4 always call him daddy or dad. Really its what the kids and ypu are comfortable with
If their mother doesn’t mind, and they want to call you mom, then mom it is. Otherwise your first name is fine. Very simple to explain that to a 2 year old.
I called my stepmom by her first name. It was never an issue when my half brother and sister were little. They called her mom. Lol my own 3 year old sometimes calls me by my name. Its really not that big of a deal!!!
My step kids call me “mommy Sonja” and mine call me mommy. It’s a blend of both. I also strive to make sure the kids know I am not taking their moms place, I am just a 2nd bonus mom. It has worked for us for years
My daughter calls her step dad by his name. He’s been in her life for about 6 years. His children call me by my name.
My granddaughter calls her biological father daddy and her stepdad is dad.
Your first name. If your son calls you by it just correct him.
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Dads fiance? Seriously. You have a role and that’s dads girlfriend right now. That’s who you are to them
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My miss 13 calls me by my name Renee middle 2 mum or mama and a baby calls me mum my 4th has a seperate dad so kids call his dad glenny or Glenn and baby knows us as mum and dad
Its been 4 years with my bf and my kids still call him his name and his kids call my mine name
Youre 2 year old wont be that confused! My sisters kids call me Rachel. My son has always called me Mom.
My son did go thru a phase of calling my sister and her husband mom n dad. But by 3 he learned their names. It was never a big deal.
Seeing as y’all aren’t married yet, the kids should be calling him and you by first name. When y’all do get married then they can call y’all step dad/mom.
Did you have a nickname? My own stepkids used to call me mama Lisa ( their choice)
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I had 3 children from a previous relationship when I married my husband. My husband and I later welcomed a daughter together. Every single person in our house calls him by his name, except the child we share together, who calls him Daddy. It’ll be fine.
Always called my step parents by their name and I had younger half siblings on each side. Never had an issue 
What do they call you now?
Let them chose my bio kids call me momma so do all my step kids they say its cause they are my kids too so thats makes me momma to them and they call their mother mommy