Leave his phone alone
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Wth, invasion of privacy?
He is 13 he shouldnāt have that type of privacyā¦
I understand privacy in the bathroom but NOT phones or things of that sortā¦
Be open with him and let him know youāre there to talk to and do the adult/ kid talkā¦
This is the reason so many kids are abducted parents thinks a child needs privacy on social media/phonesā¦
Absolutely not!!!
Your job as a parent is to protect your kids from predators and if you dont put your nose in their business its untelling what theyāre doingā¦
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So grounding him for over 13 weeks isnāt enough?
You donāt think he has learned his lesson? Or itās to easy to just add on to his grounding?Wow you are in for a rude awakening. He should be out there learning things to live with other people. Seems what you are teaching him is anything he does will is negative and will be punished.
Yep. I said that.
keep off his phone - how would you have liked your Mother prying into your phone/ letters/ diary? I hated my Mother for doing it to me.
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Buy him condomsā¦ Make them the normā¦
Hes gonna do what he wants by the sound of it anyway, short of locking him up Iām not sure how youl stop it, but at least by giving them to him it will give you the means to start off the conversation where you can tell him how much trouble it will get him into. Youl be OKā¦ No matter what happensā¦ Heās lucky you care so much xx
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- You need to inform that girlsā parents of what was found so they are in the know as well. Let them know he is being punished on his end so they donāt think youāre letting him get away with it & blaming their daughter. 2. Instill on him, no condom, no sex. This is a huge thing with my kids. I canāt stop them. I can only properly teach them how to be safe.
I wouldnāt have went through his phone just have a talk with him about protecting himself ,sun moon etc invading his privacy will make him second guess coming to you with problems in the future. As a 13 year old boy itās completely normal boys mature on a sexual level much earlier to girls
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This doesnāt sound like normal 13 year old behavior.
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My sons dad found a little note (he is also 13) from a girl to my son saying āif youāre ever in the area and want to do it call me.ā And her number was on the back of it. So instead of getting him into trouble (because letās face it, theyāre gonna eventually have sex with or without our permission) I had a long talk with him about using protection. I told him that no matter when or what if heās ever ready to come to me and all he has to say is āMom, I need condomsā and I will buy them for him no questions asked. Iād rather know heās being safe while having sex than to be so scared of getting into trouble that heās not safe about it and ends up with an STD or getting a girl pregnant.
Have an open discussion with him. Go over the proper use if birth control. Make sure he is just as responsible for using it as well as whomever he decides to hook up with. If itās going to happen, itās going to happen. Instead of trying to stop it, educate him. I would also go over with him that if he has nude photos if anyone under the age of 18, he could get in trouble for child porn even if heās also under 18.
Heās a TEENAGER. This is definitely going to happen. I feel like itās better to be real with him than not. Donāt get him in trouble. Itās natural for him to be exploring like that. Sit him down and have a real convo with him about being safe with it and consequences that can happen if youāre not. Then after that, heās gonna make his own decisions with it whether you like it or not. But at least you know youāve said all you can say about it. The rest is up to him. Heās his own person now.
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Thatās normal shitā¦
If the girl is his age, have a REAL talk with him (preferably by a man). Teach him about SAFE SEX, and HOW it happensā¦ abstinence does not work, ever. Donāt talk to the girls parents; itās none of your business how they parent their child.
Vaping: thatās more peer pressure than anything, āoh my friends are doing itā blah blah blahā¦ well SHOW him how cool it is to have his own thoughts and stand by them
Fighting: put him in some sort of fighting: boxing, karate, jui jitsu, etc. They teach not to fight unless you have to, but to first defend yourself. (Self control)
An easy solution to all of those problems. Itās not like heās getting into āactual troubleā heās just growing up and acting out because HES 13.
I did the same stuff at that ageā¦ after growing up I realized i did most of it because I felt like it was the only thing in my life I could actually control. My parents were very over bearing (much like you) always in my personal space reading my texts, going thru my room, basically snooping. Which really didnāt do anything but teach my to hide things better and not to write things down, or to delete after 
just because they are āyourā kids, in āyourā house, living by āyourā rules doesnāt mean they arenāt growing into their own people. There needs to be something, anything that is just theirs. Only theirs. It canāt be taken away, no one else makes any decisions about it.
Basically: youāre a bit too controlling, and itās gonna be ugly when they hit 18 and can legally move out
Buy him condoms and make sure he knows that he should use them at all times. Also familiarize him with your stateās child pornography laws, because if they are sending nude images back and forth, both he and the girlfriend are in possession of child porn.
I dnt get how people are saying stay out his phone/business, in my opinion he is her business and im sure she pays the phone he uses, I do random checks on my kids phones even if I feel no need to,I must say communication is key in any relationship.
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If he has any reciprocal images of another underaged party, he can be charged with child pornography. Also, pedophiles groom children by making them think theyāre talking to a much younger person
Definitely would keep of his phoneā¦ strict parents lead to sneaky kidsā¦ talk to him, hes going to do these things regardless. Just make sure he understands the actions and consequences. Parents need to be more open and honest with there kids if they expect the same in returnā¦ sex is a normal thing donāt shame it
Welllll I have a 13 year old son who hasnāt vaped or fought at school or anywhere! I know his hormones are starting to go crazy but I havenāt had this issue. Yes I have found inappropriate searches on his phone. But nothing about sextingā¦.yet 
. I donāt know. What is normal at this age? Iām scared for high school next year.
Been through it, my oldest is now 18. While as a parent Iām very strict and I freaked out over this stuffā¦ Deactivating his phone and calling the other girls parents. Honestly give him a little room. Talk about birth control, I suggest placing condoms and a plan b pill in his room and give him a little room to grow as hard as it will be for you. My over strictness negatively effected our relationship. I regret that. But I donāt regret doing what I felt was right at the time.
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So I have a 12 and 14 year olds. Before they got the the curiosity stage, I talked to them. We had the embarrassing conversation and now we talk openly about sex in an educational way.
Iāve acknowledged their curiosity and ensured they understand itās normal. But at this stage in their lives Eva self exploration is NOT about sex. Itās about exploring your body, feeling and understand what makes you and your body feel good. And that is important to know when you do become sexual.
Therefore my children are not allowed to use porn or have their devices when they are taking their āselfie timeā. Iāve also caught them sharing pics or talking to people.
I have caught them both breaking the rules and the consequence is to lose the responsibility because having pics or videos of nude minors is illegal at the age of 13. So itās not only inappropriate because they are minors and as the adult that owns the phone, you can be liable for the content.
Again, that goes with safety and responsibility. And if they donāt follow those rules they do t get the privileges of having a phone.
So my advice, have the convo, support them in their growth journey and set rules with clear consequences and enforce them
I have regular conversation s with my boy. Recently ended in a request for various condoms to try during their selfie time to see how they feel different I immediately ordered it off Amazon. I know my kids wonāt have some girl in a closet ācuriousā they are educated and respectful.
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Well if heās been grounded for what 3-4 months now? Iād start finding other stuff to do too. Explain to him what having video and pictures as a teenager can do to them with the law. Iād also talk about condoms and safe sex. Itās 100% normal. Also, if he knows youāre going to go through his phone to look for something to incriminate him, he probably doesnāt care anymore. You have taken away his privacy which despite the comments, kids need in order to grow and learn how to behave. Heās going to rebel so hard one day.
Over barring parents create kids that are sneaky and lie! If theyāre going to do it theyāre going to do it. Every single person has a right to privacy. Be open and honest and make sure heās being safe; Thatās your main concern, not what heās showing his gf on video chatā¦ 
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Child porn charges are your biggest concern if pictures are being sent.
I had a neighbor that almost got in trouble for this because his underage son had boob pics of an underage girl on his phone, but the phone was in the Dadās name. Iād have a talk with him about how itās perfectly normal to want to do stuff like that, but at the end of the day, itās dangerous, and can lead to bigger problems
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Tell him to at least hide it so u wonāt see it! Itās normal just be discreet abt it
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Buy him some condoms itās not just getting someone pregnant its what he can catch aswell . Tell him about these things
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imo you need to talk to him about it. calmly and without judgment or disgust.
heās going through puberty and itās pretty normal what heās doing. considering the time he lives in.
its really important you talk about safe sex, your expectations and what you are okay with in your house ect. you cant stop him from sexting. 10/10 you try heās just gonna start being sneaky about it and could actually get in serious trouble.
like some have mentioned provide condoms in the house. youre not telling him to go out and have sex, youre preparing him for the fact that if it happens he will be safe.
Itās what they do. All u can do is help them in the right direction and be a friend that he knows he can have someone to express himself to and talk to without judgment
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I say have a talk with him about birds an bees an tell him donāt sting anybody or youāll mess ya life up before it begins having boys is ruff they mature on that level faster then some itās too many diseases out tell him to strap up or beware!
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I caught my stepson when he was about 14 looking at p*rn, told husband and he said boys will be boys and I said watch heāll get someone pregnant soon. When he was (3 months) into turning 16 he emancipated himself from his moms and met and moved in with his now fiance, she was 23-24. About a year to the date they started dating we were told by text she was pregnant. All the other parents were called and told but we got a text. We didnāt agree with the situation before pregnant and after but his dad told him he needs to take care of his child even if they donāt get back together (he left her around 2 months into her pregnancy but came back when granddaughter was born). They got engaged last year and are getting married September 2022 5 months after he turns 21. We had some issues in the beginning but we just want a relationship with him and our granddaughter so we are actually getting along really well. Iāll be 34 8 days after granddaughterās birthday. Husband recently turned 40. F dil will be 28 in q few days.
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Go watch Big Mouth if you didnāt have a particularly hormonal middle & high school term. Trust me youāre not gonna stop it. Tell him what he needs to know to be SAFE and RESPECTFUL.
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Young one - you need to inform the young ladyās parents - these habits can get worse if let unchecked- as far as him not going anywhere- think about it - if thereās a will thereās a way. You need to communicate with him first and foremost- thatās this behavior is unacceptable and can lead to criminal charges and ruin his life.
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You best figure out how to talk to him about it cause if those two are sexting and her parents find out Iām telling u right now he can be charged for child pornography just letting you right now cause officers at my sons school have had to speak to students about the dangers of sexting with each other. And if youāre worried about him having actual sex early then I suggest you give him condoms and tell him very bluntly if he plans on having sex he better use condoms to prevent stds and preventing him getting a girl pregnant and to not ever trust a girl when they say they on birth control. U gotta kick this in the butt right now trust meā¦
My son is 13 and he knows he not allowed to be on any type of xxx website and if he does heāll lose all privileges from PlayStation to phone to tablet to tv and I caught him once and I put parental locks on everything that same day and in front of him. We had the sex talk and told him if he ever needs to ask questions he can come to me or we can schedule a visit with his pediatrician and he can ask a professional.
N O R M A L lol buy the condoms, give him the talk, hope for the best
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Go to your health dept condoms are free no ? Ask itās your responsibility as a parent even though he is a boy to make sure he has protection and he understands it I went for several years and just asked for a bag of condoms no problem but always make sure and if they I had two girls that was embarrassed about it I laid them on my car seat and I told him to go get me a tea out of my car and they knew theyād be there you got to be smart especially if he wants to go into the military the days and times have changed
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Itās just normal for young boys just talk to him about prevention
Discuss with him about appropriation. When and where it is appropriate to do such things. On the phone with a young girl is not appropriate.
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Give him conforms and teach him about child support and heāll be careful lol
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He needs to know that any pornographic material of a minor is against the law, even if heās underage, itās classed as child pornography and he could end up on the sex offenders register.
If heās going to do it he will find a way, educate him and provide him with what he needs after a very strict talk about consent, age of consent and consequences.
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Talk to him about safe sex, consent etc. other than that Iād say the behavior is normal?
I canāt believe people are saying to not go through his phone! Please, NEVER feel bad for being an INFORMED parent and doing checking up on what your child is doingā¦ Itās not like she said she went through his phone and immediately flupped out and punished himā¦ She was being a PARENT and making sure her CHILD is being safe & not getting in trouble, because thats what he is, a childā¦ If she never looked, she may have assumed her son wasnāt at this point yet and postponed having the very important safe sex talk with him. If you are providing a phone for your 13 year old child, you are most definitely not violating their privacy by looking through it. You pay the bill, you allow them to have a phone for safety reasons & to keep up with their friends, then you have the right and the responsibility to monitor that phone. He isnāt 17 year oldā¦ heās just barely a teen. I donāt think you did anything wrong mama and please donāt let anyone here convince yoi that you did. Same as social media. If you allow your child to have social media, then you have a moral obligation to monitor what our children are doing on thereā¦ You should have the password and be able to log in whenever you please. Not to mention she stated that her son has gotten in trouble for vaping and fighting alreadyā¦ so itās not like heās an angel that has earned her trust here. Heās given her every reason to feel that she needs to check up on him. This may seem extreme, but think about the tragedies that could have possibly been prevented if more parents were like her and checked up on their kids who have proven that they need that extra monitoringā¦ Kids planning school shootings, posting stuff on their social media, these things could jave possibly been prevented if a parent would have just taken 5 minutes to see what their child is doing behind closed doorā¦ at 13 years old, having their own cell phone or computer is NOT a right, it is a privilege and a big responsibility for both the child to use properly AND a responsibility for the parents to be informed on what their children are doing with it. Iām kind of mind blown on how many naive parents there are on here who say you shouldnāt have lookedā¦ These are the parents who are going to be completley blind sided when their child becomes pregnant at 14, or gets into legal trouble because they feel that their child is somehow responsible enough to use these devices COMPLETLEY unmonitored. They are children whoās brains havenāt even fully developed enough to understand the full consequences of their actionsā¦
My philosophy is always to be honest and open with my kids and giving them all the tools they need to be safe! Sex education should be done at home and if heās already doing these things now the best preventive measure you can take can be to make sure he knows how to practice safe sex!
Does he know that you check his phone or do you assume he should know that you snoop? Regardless, heās right around the age that this starts to happen. You need to have āāthe talkāā with him and buy him condoms. The thin ones or else he probably wont wear them. You can preach abstinence all you want and although weād like them to remain virgin marys tilt hey are 40, its just not going to happen. Also please school him about consentā¦if a girl says no, she means no no matter what
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Hes 13 ā¦its normal .
Sadly kids no longer buy top shelf mags but use the Internet instead
Make sure he knows how to keep himself safe and be respectful to his partner . That no means no and leave some condoms in his drawer .
Maybe time to chat about Internet safety and stop be checking his messages .
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One: If u canāt trust him with a phone donāt let him have one till heās responsible to pay for it himself 2: donāt go through his phone itās a violation of privacy and as a growing boy heās going to need to feel like he has a little control. Or he will rebel. 3: educate. Donāt argue donāt belittle. Talk to him like a normal person. Which he is. Heās not ur property and u cannot always control him. If u do it wonāt end well. Parents need to understand ur bring a human into a world that they themselves have to figure out and function through as it constantly changes. Itās hard for him too
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Iād educate them about the implications of sexting.
It has its consequences, legally speaking as well.
Also, donāt mind some of these naive/careless comments. I saw one person saying you as a parent arenāt supposed to monitor your kids electronics. 
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Boys will be boys I have 2 
Buy him condoms. Talk to him about use until heās begging you to stop.
Stress the importance of no pictures between him and any other young lady. Sending/receiving naked pics= child porn charges. Iām not even playing. Your son will be made out to look like a perp in court while the girl is considered a āvictimā. He will have to be on megans list for life if caught.
Wow all these people saying just give him condomsā¦ Heās 13 for *$&#@! sake. Itās normal for him to explore his body, however, he should not be engaging in sex or anything of the like. No wonder thereās so many teenage pregnancies now a days 
Try getting him into sports or something to help keep him busy. Talk to him about the birds and bees and appropriateness. You donāt want to teach him itās wrong, but itās something he shouldnāt be worried about until heās older and preferably married.
With the invasion of privacy and extremely controlling parenting here, Iām shocked heās not doing worse. Heās a person, not an object you own. He has a right to masturbate, and he WILL be interested in sex. Either educate him about condoms or heāll be bringing a girl home pregnant sooner than later. Leave him alone about masturbating.
Idk what you should doā¦ but 17 years or so ago when I was a young 13 year old girlā¦ i lost my virginity and had my first pregnancy scare ā¦ so do something because itās not innocent
First of all, kids are hormonal turds. They absolutely think about and want to do sexual things. Teaching them how to be safe, responsible, and respectful is as much as you can do for it. They need to be aware of consequences of all sorts, not just babies. And if you are worried about his behavior, why not send him to military school? That is what he wants to do, right? Set him on the straight and narrow then. His way.
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Talk to your kid and offer condoms (no questions asked just refill the box) . Invading his privacy will not help at all
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Have the talk with him. Itās pretty natural for boys to do that
Masterbation is normal. Not sure what country you are in but in the US if any kind of video is created or saved, both parties can be charged with possession and distribution of child porn. Honestly I would rather my teens be having actual sex rather than sexting. So many things can go wrong with it.
He can have sex while you assume heās at schoolā¦
Boysā¦ Everyone needs to experience having a couple of them. Shewwww the teenage yearsā¦ Hang in there
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Pray for him seriouslyā¦ asking God to give him an aha moment!! They are at the age to do as they wantā¦ we just have phones now!! Igh!
All u can do is talk to him!!
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He needs a good dose of education. He needs to learn to wrap it up safe sex and about HIV/AIDS awareness
Once you do that itās really up to them and not much more you can do!! Good luck 
Communication is the keyā¦ talk to him about what it means to have sex and how it could impact his future. Itās going to be uncomfortable for both but mostly for you but you have to do it. If u dont teach him then someone at his school or online will do it and it might not be exactly what u want
Itās normal, just educate him.
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You need to explain the danger & legal trouble that could arise from him sending or receiving sexual images online.
Child porn is a serious offense & yes even teens can get in trouble for it.
I would be way more worried about that aspect than his first sexual experienceā¦
Thatās normal. My son is 15 and found same thing last year. Educate him and move on.
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Ohā¦ thatās all heās doing ?!?!
Buckle up sweetie.:ā¦ there is so much more to come 
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I would have a conversation with him about safe sex
Just remember if he has sex with a girl under 16, he could be charged with statutory rape, if her parents report to police! And yes at 13 you should continue to monitor his phone!
Time to finally give the boy some privacy. You will always find something when you go looking for it. Heās 13, not 6.
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Educate him and leave him alone after that.
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Itās normal. Iād be more worried about the fighting because that could lead to disqualification from the military
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I donāt know how far or how much culture has got to do with anything but I know in my household, with 3 boys ranging from 8-15ā¦ That sort of shit doesnāt fly with me. Iām a strict Mexican mom. Not so strict that they donāt have freedoms as normal boys their age should haveā¦ But enough strict boundaries as to what is right and wrong, what they can or cannot do. Allowing them to āexploreā via sexting or porn is not something I will ever encourage because itās not a correct or healthy depiction of what sex is about and what the consequences can be when they cross boundaries. My 15 year old has friends, his grades are great (B-A+ range)ā¦ Loves to weightlift and although heās got a phone and a computer, itās something we keep track of. He once got caught a long time ago looking at something he wasnāt supposed to and we had a conversation about that. About how itās NOT an accurate depiction of healthy/normal sex and we also touched on the topic of girls in general (we know that extreme body standards are not the norm, nor every woman is some sex crazed machine). You gotta strike a fine balance: be strict enough to list and ADHERE to those rules and hold him to it, yet always open to discuss things that he otherwise wonāt bring up but needs to be spoken about. My husband is a military man himself (only 3 years from retirement) and as a teen himself, he went through his shares of troubles. If you ask him (he runs a Navy recruiting station). If you donāt halt whatās going on NOWā¦ Youāll end up with yesā¦ A kid who will probably knock some girl up sooner than later, grades in the gutter, and a vaping habit thatās hard to get rid of once heās deep into it. NOW is the time to intervene before heās too far gone into his own little world where he thinks he knows better than you and you canāt tell him a damn thing.
You got this Momma. Itās some tough shit to deal with seeing as how kids have so much access now to technology and what not, but always gotta grab the bull by the horns and be a step ahead. Tough love is what many defiant kids need nowadays.
Not sure why youāre going through his phone in the first place?
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13? Try taking phone away? Did u have your own personal phone at 13? I know I didnāt
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When my boys hit their teenage years I started putting condoms under their bathroom sink. My mom thought I was crazy doing that, But as a teen mom myself I figured better safe than sorry. I would check often and replace when needed. Theyāre gonna do it. Best to accept it and educate before itās too late.
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Teach him to be safe with himself and otherās. Heās 13, heās pretty much gonna do what he wants. And donāt go through his phone if thereās stuff you donāt want to see on there.
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The problem is not his interest in sex at that age, the BIG problem is his online footprint and phone interactions, even though heās still a minor that stuff sticks to your shows like stepping in lawn fudge, every naked picture of an underage girl may come back to haunt him later in life if it gets in the hands of a creative prosecutor, oh and vaping is bad for him
Maybe donāt go through his phone. You either trust him enough to fill you in on the important details so you can have honest conversations or you donāt trust him, find out the hard way and loose that trust.
Itās not just a teenage boy thing. That age is full of curiosity and figuring themselves out and as long as you have a healthy relationship, you should be able to have conversation about consent/sex/safety/etc. without invading privacy.
Does he actually know that you go through his phone? Maybe he thought you wouldnāt find it or maybe he did it so that you wonāt go through his phone anymoreā¦
Tell him sharing naked videos or pictures of underage girls is a crime and to respect girls and their privacy even if itās their idea.
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Give him the sex talk. Make contraceptives readily available in every bathroom. Including plan B. Get him tested every doctor check-up. Learn it early, before he does become a parent, or diseased before he is ready.
Definitely not ok. Iād take the phone away. And everyone saying ādonāt go thru his phoneā 
wow umm. No until the child pays their own bills I will be monitoring what they do with the phone I pay for.
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Why does he even have a phone if heās Been grounded? Thatās your first mistake he has too much freedom to do as he pleasesā¦Whether these girls are willing or not their parents can file charges as could you.
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Honestly, I would keep doing what youāre doing! Punish him when itās needed (for the fighting and vaping). As for the sexual stuff I would educate him and supply him with condoms so heās protected. Kids will find a way to sneak around and do this stuff anyways.
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I raised to boys, now 27 and 23 oldest has a 1 yr old. Let them be boys, educate them, provide them with protection. Dnt punish him for being human, but teach him the proper ways to treat a female.
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Even between consenting teens that is possession of child porn. He needs to know and respect that
Honey speaking from a mom of boys itās completely natural what they are doing. The best thing you can do is talk to them and educate them and then just give them condoms if they need them. My 17 yr old almost 18 next month did the same things and he is still in school about to graduate and has took my advice and is a great kid no grandbabies here yet!!
My 14 yr old is doing the same things and I have done the same things with him so there is no stopping it itās just a part of growing up. Just do your best and hope he listens to what you teach him. I was a teen mother myself and wanted things to be different with my kids. I also have another boy and 2 girls that are not teenagers and as bad as I hate to say it I canāt stop the girls like I would like when they get teenagers the best I can do is teach them and hope for the best. Good luck to you mama!!
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Make sure he knows about protection and how to properly use it. Make sure that he knows about diseases and how often female bc fails.
Itās normal. Just have a talk with him about sex. If u punish him over it heāll find another way to talk to girls. Like sneaking out n actually engaging in it. I have a 17yr old who hasnāt had to hide any girlfriends from me. I trust him, his aunt set an example of how NOT to be. He says he doesnt want kids until heās ready. And right now he is enjoying being a teenager
Have a talk with him like a big kid. Express your concerns, listen to what he has to say, and sort it all out.
First the fact that he let you see it may mean he wants you to know because he has questions. Ask him if he has any questions. Have the talk with him. Discuss with him that what he shares with others can be spread. That girl may get mad at him 1 day & share those pics & videos with everybody.
If it was my daughter Iād respect the boys parent more if they came to me rather than keep it from me. Itās going to be awkward but they need to know what their daughter is doing. Itās child porn even though they are children. Being willing participants doesnāt make it legal. Her parents can press charges on your son & vice versa. If that video gets spread or posted somewhere any time in the future he can be arrested for creating child porn. Kids do stupid stuff. As parents we canāt control everything. But our job is to educate & guide them. These comments saying ājust donāt look at his phoneā, ākids will do what they wantā etc are lazy parents that just donāt care.
Teach him to be safe. Telling him āyou canāt do thatā will only go so far. We have all been that age and know what happens. Buy him condoms and teach him about safe sex and stds. Be calm about it.
Live him alone all part of growing up.
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Educate him about sex, safe sex, making smart choices regarding it, buy a box of condoms and put it in the bathroom. Let him know theyāre there and he can use them, no questions asked. Youāll replace as needed.
If a teen wants to have sex, theyāre going to do it. I had friends that had sex during school. At least you can help ensure that he makes smart decisions to always wear a condom, practice safe sex, always have consent, never have sex with someone if theyāre under the influence of something etc.
Itās normal for teens to play around with that sort of stuff and well at least he isnāt hiding it from you. Heās your Sonā¦ talk with him find out where heās at. Sit with your Son Mama. Be grateful he isnāt stealing cars robbing and hurting people. Teens are a different type of human when they hit that age sorry I donāt find it funny but yeah I hope you get your answers
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Give him a little privacy but equip him with the knowledge and resources to be able to look after himself and any girlfriend.
This is just the beginning of a few years of sexual and physical maturity and there is no need to torture yourself every inch of the way.
There are a lot of things we have to back off from as we allow our teenagers to grow their wings and fly.
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He shouldnāt get in trouble for that as is something so normal around that age now, it might seem to early for you but now kids unfortunately start doing that kind of stuff at such an early age. Have a conversation with him, he should trust you for all that he will end up having sex anyway even if you are not ok with that, the people that say NO to you getting him condoms are so wrong, Make sure you get him condoms you should definitely tell him condoms should always be use to prevent a pregnancy at such a young age, also talk to him about STDS make sure he know that the condoms should always be used so he donāt get an STD but there is still some stds that can still be transmitted with condom. Is better to be safe
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I would definately have a chat with him about it. He could find himself in serious trouble if the girls parents find out. Anything under 16 is out of bounds really but when there is photos that can be worse. I know heās only 13 and kids do this stuff but they donāt realise it could affect their whole lives. Good luck
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You could give him a basic cell phone that you have to push each number to text instead of a smartphone with no camera, to discourage such behavior. Also you need to sit down and have the talk about safe sex and condom usage. Show him pictures of diseased junk find the nastiest pictures and say if he has sex without a condom that will happen to him. If you are not comfortable giving that talk, take him to his doctor or even Planned Parenthood they will help with education on STDs and preventing pregnancy. Teach him how to be responsible that is the best you can do.
Get rid of the phone! Problem solved
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Itās really not a big deal buy him condoms and let it go
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Teach him about safe sex supply him with protection and leave him aloneā¦ does he really know your going through his phone I canāt imagine any teenage boy wanting his mother seeing anything like thatā¦ and if he doesnāt know thatās what your doing then if I was you I would not bring it up all your going to do is embarrass the poor kidā¦ vaping is a big thing these days at all the schools and as is fighting as it always has been and yes itās not good but take a chill pull Mama it doesnāt make him a bad kid but also how long has he been grounded for sounds like an excessive amount of time for what he has doneā¦ He is 13 he is a boy he is doing boy things if you teach him to protect himself and his girl and have taught him respect for women then he will be fineā¦ I do feel if you keep over thinking things and not treating him like a teenage boy instead of 10 yr old it will cause issues with him and your relationship and thatās when you will have problems and thatās on you not him!!! And he will do well.in the military this kid it seems like he already lives like he is in itā¦ you donāt have to cut them apron strings yet but you do need to untie them at leastā¦ and show the kid you have a bit of trust in him and stay out of his phone and his personal msgs thatās a bit weird on your part that your reading his msgs to girlsā¦ are you sure he doesnāt just want to join the military to get away from homeā¦
When my kids where grounded, they had phones when at school and if I wasnāt home (for emergencies). When I was home, I had it. Since he is wanting to go military, talk to him about the dangers of sexting when it comes to child pornography (distribution).