Hahaha good luck…mine is 18months and he never helps…now my 13 year olds dad helped all the time from birth, it made life easier
Immediately, in fact he changed the very first diaper without being asked or told!! He even tries his hardest to stay up with me during night feedings!
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The moment my son was born, my husband took over. When my son was about a month old, I finally changed his diaper for the first time 
Even when my husband came home from work, he took over.
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From the moment she was born. What any REAL dad does . Take care of the child he helped make.
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Once he was born. Like a father should.
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After a week or so. I think he was nervous at first
He was gone for a year with work (not his choice)after baby was a month old…so always just me
My husband helped from day one. I had a c-section with both of mine so he got up at night, changed them, brought them to me to breastfeed and then took them back to their crib. He was awesome. Was very hands on as they got older as well.
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Mine doesn’t help with bed time or in the middle of the night stuff since I’m a sahm but as far as hands on and helping it was instant. But I also had severe complications and was put under during delivery so he had no choice lol
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He should have helped day one
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Since I went into labor. My husband even took a week off school he changed our daughter diaper and when I would sleep he would get up
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The day I had OUR child.
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When they r teeny babies I do it all…nursing, changing, bathing, rocking etc…when they are around 2 my husband helps a lot more…but i prefer it this way… I have 4 children… 3 with my husband ages 5, 2 & almost 4 months
Day 1. If i wanted to do it alone, id be single! 
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My first daughter’s father was a mistake. He was abusive. Ten years later I am in a relationship and have a 2 year old. He has helped since her birth. I have two girls. My eldest just turned 12 and my youngest is 2. He still has a hard time finding common ground with my oldest. But our new baby he is all over. It took a little for him to do diapers. He felt weird because he was a first timw dad and we had a girl
But it wasn’t long at all before he was helping me with diapers, feeding, ect. Some men ease into it. Some don’t ever.
Hey honestly tried with the baby but she was preemie and very little when she came home so I did most of it for the first few months. Now that she is almost 3 he does a lot more (he has always helped) because she can tell him what she needs
Just keep asking to help-remind him a child needs BOTH parents
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I breastfed or my husband would have been able to help a lot more. But after a month I introduced one feeding (pumped milk) from a bottle a day to get her used to it. My husband could then feed her if I left somewhere. Then at four months he started taking her overnight once a week so I could relax have a drink if I wanted and sleep a whole night. My boobs would be rock hard in the morning but little one would take care of that with morning feeding
My ex husband was a chauvinist pig and everything was the womans job. My hubby for th he past 18 years helped with a 7 & 5 year old and then helped when we had a daughter together when they were 11 & 13. If you’re going to do everything you would rather do it on your own!
My kids father, never!
Get used to doing it alone they dont help well alot dont …never depend on no one for help …
Since day 1. And he had to Go out of town for 6 weeks and when he came back he got up with the baby every night to make up for it.
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My daughter is 15 months old and I have to ask him to do anything if I want his help! It’s very frustrating! I cry all the time! But I will always step up and be mom and dad!! Hope it gets better for us both!
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My husband helped me from day one, and still does 2 and a half years later. He needs to know yours and HIS baby is his responsibility too!
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My husband has always been 100% supportive and helpful, even through the pregnancies too! Each parent should be equally involved, interested and helpful.
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We do every other on everything.
I took my2sons and left country. Teach him lesson, he never did see his boys again
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I helped from the moment she was born. Wife pumped so I could handle the night time feedings so she could sleep and take of her during the day while I was working.
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Equal help
and the moment he was born
Night shifts
Bottle prep
Showers with baby
Washed clothes does dishes
He watches him while I take naps and helps when I’m cooking
Baby prefers me to do it all…but that doesnt stop him from trying and he wears my robe to help baby bond with him to smell like me he changes most diapers
Helps with potty training too
Its rough life with a newborn
Couples should support eachother
Ur man sound old school
Which is very annoying
Maybe u can list things that u need help with
Sometimes u might have to initiate it
They arent bonding at all which then will cause ur daughter to be extremely co dependent on u
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I think men just feel as if the little ones are so fragile when first born… with mine it took my SO about a month to start really handling all of them… he felt like they were gunna break n nuthin I said changed his mind lol
My husband never helped me. Finally I got tired of doing it all while he sat on his butt. So I packed me and my daughter stuff up and we left. I figured if I was gonna do it all by myself then I was gonna do it by myself 
. Now that we’re gone he wants something to do with her. He buys her stuff and treats her right now.
I’m not saying you have to leave him… that’s just what I did. Hope this helps
Oh lord, kick that man in the ass and tell him to help! My old man helped from birth,
I didn’t touch a diaper in the hospital and he jumps to hold, feed and change our son.
My husband does everything except change diapers from the time they are mobile… so 6-7months roughly.
It took a little bit of time to get my husband to help out without me having to ask. I still have to ask sometimes, especially in the middle of the night because he doesn’t wake up to anything, but don’t give up. Sit down with him and have a serious talk about how you both brought this baby into the world and it’s both of your responsibilities to take care of her. Nothing is more important than you and that baby.
From the moment he was born.
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But we also both work. He works 530 AM-130 PM and I work 2 PM-10PM so we are equals in everything
Mine doesn’t even know how to change a diaper and my boy is 7 months old
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My husband took over the second our son was born, we fought over who got to change him or feed him. I have a feeling it will be the same way when our daughter decides to arrive.
Most of the time this stems from a communication issue. Have you talked to him? Like really talked
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Mine doted on me when I was pregnant and helped with baby when they were born.
It took him about 12 minutes. That’s probably how long the doctors had them after they were born then passed the babies to Daddy. He gave each of our three kids their first diaper change, their first bath, got them dressed for the first time etc.
Only main exception was nighttime wake ups were all me. I chose to breastfeed, and sometimes (maybe once every other night out of the 2-3 nighttime feedings) he would get up and pass me the baby or get up after and burp them, but for the most part it was just me and the baby during the night. He had to get up in the mornings and go to work when I stayed home so it seemed fair. But if I had a particularly hard night with a restless baby I always had the option to wake him an hour early in the morning so I could sleep for an hour before he left for the day.
Right after I fed them for the first time in the hospital.
My husband did everything except breastfeed our babies. He woke up in the middle of the night to change diapers and then hand baby to me. Bathed, clothed, changed…we share all parental responsibility.
Immediately, I had a c-section and my husband didn’t hesitate to change her. I couldn’t get up myself and obviously couldn’t get up while holding my daughter, he told me to just stay where I was and took care of it. I hear people at work and I consider myself lucky in the sense that he is a very hands on kind of dad.
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Had this problem. Went on for 2 years. Ended up ruining the marriage.
My husband and I own a company and he works non stop, so I never really expected him to get up in the middle of the night with our babies, but when I needed help and support he was always there and ready to help.
Was asap, he took a month off so neither of us would be super burnt out…Every guy is different though…
mine did from birth… in his mind you have no issues with how much/little he’s been doing because you’ve let it go this long … at this point if you want him to change you’re going to have to have a “come to jesus” talk and stick to your guns
He’s been a phenomenal dad since day 1 
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When I said “I need your help with …” So pretty much from birth.
Mine NEVER helped. Which is why I left.
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I pretty much do all the care of my son. My husband watches him while i shower but i do everything else. Im a stay at home mom though so my hubby makes all the money.
The minute are baby was born
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Never. I had to beg and it was always a fight.
18 months after our son was born we divorced.
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My boyfriend is the only one working. The only time we had problem of him stepping in to help, was at night. Which was understandable most of the time when he was working. Other than that, he was more than happy to help. Even to just watch the baby so I can nap.
The father of my kids helped from the moment they were born, my current fiance however, is afraid hes gonna break any baby that’s not mobile yet, but he doesn’t have kids of his own either so
Uh…as soon as they came out??
From the moment they were born, even gave the first bath in the hospital. Our first son, he probably changed more diapers than me. I never had to ask, but maybe tell him how you feel, and tell him to step up, that’s his kid too. You didn’t make that child alone!!
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Uhm. Immediately- in the hospital
My husband was in his own changing my daughter’s diapers for the first few days after she was born. I had an emergency C-section and they wouldn’t let me get out of bed. He works nights so isn’t there to help at night but helps with changing her, feeding her and taking care of her.
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As soon as I shit them out tf…his responsibility too.
I breastfeed so there’s not much he can do lol. I take care of the kids mostly when they’re babies. Once they are about a year old and not nursing anymore he’s able to help alot more. He holds him and plays w him for now when I need him to but that’s about it
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He started helping the night she was born and still helps now (4 months old). Nothing is more important than family! Express to him how it makes you upset. Maybe he doesn’t realize it.
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my husband is very helpful, and has been since our little guy was born, i think it just depends on the man i’d say if he doesn’t start helping soon, ask him to and if he still refuses just leave because you don’t need that negativity and stress on you.
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From the moment the girls were born.
I was stay at home Mom , and my husband worked days so he would watch our child when i went to shower grocery shopping and wanted a nap on weekends
From the beginning. Anything I needed, he did and still does.
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My hubby was the 1st to change all 3 of our girl’s diapers & fully took care of them for the first 24 hours (besides me nursing them) while I caught up with my sleep/rest. He’s been hands on since day 1. 
Immediately. My husband was changing diapers in the hospital. However, I don’t think he ever woke up in the middle of the night to their cries - I don’t really remember. But he is a deep sleeper. I honestly didn’t mind because he helped a lot at other times.
Since day 1 my hubby has been as helpful as possible. He works nights, so I get nighttime, but on weekends he tries to give me a break.
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He hers her he just chooses to ignore
From day 1. The first second she was born actually because I had to have surgery right after
My husband works nights 5 days a week, so I do it all then because he ain’t here. But the 2 nights he is he will put him to bed if I need to do anything or so I can shower. When he’s home he does his share of feeding and bottles and diapers unless they’re poopy. Lol. As far as after our son was born though he actually did more than I did in the hospital because of my csection. He changed 80% of the diapers while we were there.
My husband has been helping since she was born in the hospital. Hes more of a pro now at changing diapers and bottle feeding than i am.lol. your husband doesnt seem to have his priorities in check.
In the hospital…I’d be giving an ultimatum
before they were made we decided to make a child TOGETHER. If he can make a baby he can help with that baby. You don’t have a real man.
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From the day they were born… Granted my husband was deployed when our oldest was born but those first few days he got to be home he was all hands on. He was that way with all of them.
From the moment they were born…
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1st baby- took a minute. He was scared. We got pregnant really early in our relationship. He came around around 6 months.
2nd baby- he was doing shit in the hospital. He was there, present from day 1. It makes a huge difference when your partner supports and helps you with a baby. Especially a newborn.
Have you told him exactly what you need? Men are dumb and need shit spelled out for them. If he doesn’t respond well or you don’t see an attempt to try… you’ve got some thinking to do.
Tell dad you are taking a day off write down instructions for him put all he will need in plain sight the night before get up early and go
My ex husband didn’t help barely at all. My husband now helps with everything. And by that I mean HE gets up if the kids wake up. HE changes dirty diapers all the time. HE does bath time a lot. That man is a godsend.
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Soon as we both got discharged …He changes diapers bathe baby fed baby everything
I did everything my sons father didnt do any of that. But i was fine with it. It gave me more time with him.
Well he started when we were in the hospital. But the second we went home he like wouldn’t “because they’re so fragile and he doesn’t want anything bad to happen.” So I took care of our 1st by myself probably for the first 2-3 months. But he would still assist in helping change diapers every once in a while to help him get used to a baby (has never been around a baby before ever). But after that he helped out a lot, and even with my second he would wake up with her at like 7-8 in the morning when she woke up so I could get a couple of hours to sleep (he didn’t offer that at all with our first but saw how tired and drained I was).
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Here my husband snoozing with the 5wk old while i cooked dinner tonight. He cant do much in way of feeding since baby is breastfed, but hell do diapers and soothing and cuddling no problem. Especially if he hears baby get up before i do. If he wakes up once im already feeding hell ask if i need anything and cuddle us while i nurse, which doesnt help the exhaustion obvs but makes it less lonely. Hes always been a hands on dad and shares in all the parenting duties. Only exception would be our now 4yo, who was small when he came home from the hospital (less than 7lbs) in comparison to our other kids that were 8-9lbs at birth and only bigger from there. He was afraid he would hurt him being so tiny so it tokk a few weeks before he got more hands only. Parenting isnt womans work, its parent work. If youre gonna help make a child, you need to help take care of that child.
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I don’t get much help and when I do ask him to help out it’s like pulling teeth so I just do it myself. His excuse is he works nights so he needs to sleep all day:woman_facepalming:t3: it’s like to the point I would rather bundle my son up and take him out with me when I bring the dog out instead of asking his dad to watch him for five minutes 
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Hospital stay was the longest 3 days I have ever experienced see as it was a csection… I didnt sleep in the hospital all but a few hours. SO slept like nothing changed. Came home, was driving the next day, and went right back to everything I was doing before I had my little sidekick and my other 3 children. Good luck to you.
Mine wasnt super helpful either with diapers and baths. But he would always wake up at night with him which meant alot
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My hubby has always worked 3rds so he was never home to help with those overnights and then slept most of the day while I was awake. He helped when he was awake. They are 8 and 5 now and I still most of it myself. Practices, Games, homework, baths, etc is all me. Hes home Sunday and Monday night and he plays with them and does homework but its not much help. You kind of just adjust to it. I think you need to voice your concerns with him,
As soon as they cut her out of me 
I didnt know what I was doing and he took charge. He was not nervous like me at all. I used to bresstfeed her and then he would rock her to sleep.
As soon as she came out of me?
NEVER lol
Unless I leave the baby with him. He does 0 diaper changes.
I breastfed all 3 of our kids.
But he holds them and plays with them everyday 
My boyfriend now husband started helping at the hospital! He still helps now and he gets up at 430am Mon-Fri and doesn’t get home til 6pm if not later. We have a 2 yr old and he still wakes in the middle of the night to come to our bed & my hubby wakes up and helps our son into our bed!
I see a lot of immediately this or right after they were born etc. I’m super thrilled you all lucked out 
. Sorry but this isnt gonna do anything but make her feel worse than she already does. Imo sure there are dads that can jump right in but there are also those that need more coaxing, it’s not always as easy for guys. If he doesnt help even if you ask and makes you feel like your daughter is unimportant than you really need to talk it out. Maybe he shows it in different ways or maybe he IS uninterested which would need to be addressed. It’s not easy feeling alone and that taking care of the baby is all on you.
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My husband helped from day 1 minus nights bc he works 1st shift
If he isn’t doing it from the beginning he won’t do it. Period. It’s just how some parents are.
Not to say this is okay, but some cultures the guys are like that. We talked about our culture difference before we had kids an everything, but mine has helped since day one.
I never had much help when my babies were small. With feedings & diapers etc. But my husband did start to help wen they got to around 6-8 mths of age. With feeding, dressing, and spending more time with them. That was a long time ago and times were different. Perhaps I never gave him the chance when they were newborns…or maybe he just wasn’t comfortable at that age.
Perhaps if you ask him to be more involved with say bath time or putting baby to bed…things like that…maybe he will jump on board. At 1st do it together so he learns the ropes. Make it fun and let him try his own way of doing things (dads sometimes have a different way). Show him time as a family can be good for all 3 of you.
Explain that you’re getting worn down and that extra help will give you more energy to deal with baby late into the night.
Hopefully as he gradually gets more involved he will start to do some of these things on his own without your help-so you can start to get more rest.
IF this doesn’t work- you have choices to make and serious questions about your little family and why he doesn’t want to be involved with the baby. 18 mths is such a fun age! Baby is learning & growing so fast at this point and it’s a shame he’s missing out. Good Luck!
Tell him you helped make em you help raise em
He started when I was passed out exhausted after giving birth and for the most part has helped since.