If he’s into you he’s already creeped your social media and saw you’re a mom.
How is this not the first thing you talked about?
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If that were me I’d have already “casually” brought it up in conversation via the app.
Honestly, you should have told him when you first started speaking. Be honest about being a mum, don’t feel like you have to hide her but also be aware that a lot of people these days might not want children, hence why it’s good to be honest at the start to save you any upset
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I’d just mention it in general conversation… my son/daughter likes that/wants that. Don’t make a big deal about it. 
if it’s a problem for him then…good riddance
Hang on. He’s from out of town and needed a lift to the airport. Has anyone thought that maybe he’s a player?
Hun. If you haven’t told him then there’s a good reason. A gut feeling. Deep breath and take a step forward. 
Before you even consider goin on a date not everyone wants to be with ppl that has kids!
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I don’t understand why you would not tell him. He might not want kids. And you have wasted a month.
On the 5th when you started talking
What do you do when you’re talking on the phone to this guy so that he doesn’t hear her? Hide her in the closet?
Just bring it up by asking him if he has any kids.
Straight up if he’s not keen then to bad his loss
I dont see how you havent yet. Thats weird.
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You say you don’t want to make a big deal about having a kid ? You’ve already messed up in my book … having a kid is a big deal… a very big deal and you need to tell him ASAP in fact probably before he gets back from trip !!! No need in investing time in someone that isn’t interested in package deal!!! Also advise research as much as possible n background check before you bring any male around your daughter … you can’t be too careful when it comes to protecting her…
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It’s one of the first things out of my mouth.
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This should have been said since you started talking. You know after the “Tell me about yourself”
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You’ve not told him yet!!! That’s a bit unfair to him.
Tell him after the date if you plan on going on more. That way neither 1 of you ha e time invested if he ain’t interested
I told my partner straight away.
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He should already know. Should be on your profile
I would have already told them
When I went on dating apps there was always a question about kids and I said yes I have kids. You don’t want to date me bc you think I’m looking for a daddy for my kids? That’s on you bc I wasn’t looking for a daddy. You just have to be honest
Talk about your son, just say it’s hard to get a baby sitter these days.
You should have already told him.
You should have already told him.
My man came to me 
he met me and my daughter when she was only 6 months old at my grandpas birthday cause his family is neighbors with him and he found me on fb and started it lol some men just seriously don’t care and will still want you and with no hesitation accept your child hopefully it’s the same for you.
Say it now and if he really loves you, he will stay.
Mention it first up! You wouldn’t order a meal from a menu that just said “food” lol…if you intend on dating someone, they need to know your a package deal upfront
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When u first started talking.
It’s the first thing I would have said
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You should tell them right away.
Why didn’t you tell him from the very beginning? You should have been honest before you started your friendship
Uhm. I definitely let it be known I have a daughter before we meet. No need to waste time if they aren’t ok with it.
He should’ve know as soon as you started talking
That should have been one of the first things you spoken of.
should be known at the start.
Should had told him u come with a package ur not a lone ?
I would tell him asap
Immediately. You are already late.
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That should be immediately. Should have been first conversation.
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As a male, I would like to know as soon as possible.
It’s not that I don’t like children. But I’m not in a position to provide the type of stability the kids will need.
I’ve dated women with children, but we both understood that “we were only having fun” because neither of us were looking for our forever person.
Just be honest, it will save you both time.
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I’m interested in this guy who isnt the father of my son, my sons father and I havent been together for awhile now. The VERY FIRST thing I told him was I got a kid, I got 3, I’m a single mom who comes as a package deal. If you have no idea or intention of having kids then we cant ge together. The guy i like has always wanted a family.
Dont you think having a kid should be on your dating profile somewhere these post cant be from real people, half the shit on here just sounds so unintelligent that it cant be real people asking these questions
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Personally when I was dating, I put it in my bio that I had a daughter and if you have a problem with that then don’t even bother matching with me
Not a mom but before you go on the date cause if not
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Depends, when he tells you he’s married, is a good opportunity…why didn’t you say that in your profile. I experienced this. A feeling stays with me, that she hides stuff…
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I get why you didn’t on the first date, I really do, but by now you should’ve told him. This is NOT negativity and this is NOT me bashing you or anything of the sort so please don’t take it that way. But as others have said, in fair ness to this person youre talking to he ought to know asap so he can decide if he’d still like to flirt with you and all that knowing what (or who exactly) comes with you. I’d say whether in person or not there’s nothing wrong with saying “hey, you know I have something to tell you that you ought to know. I have a daughter! I’m sorry I didn’t tell you sooner, it’s been a while since I’ve been in the dating game and I didn’t know when would be best to bring her up.” There is NOTHING wrong with saying that. It’s honest, straightforward and to the point. But hey add your own personal humor twist on telling him if that makes it easier! Telling him the truth only reflects well on you. His reaction will immediately tell you whether or not he’s worth your time.
(As a victim of child molestation PLEASE make sure he isn’t a perv around your little girl. I don’t doubt you’re an amazing mom that would watch her kids I just literally can’t help but worry for every little girl. Part of my PTSD and I really don’t know how to work past it)
Anyways, I hope he has a great reaction- and if he doesn’t then you’ll know to look elsewhere!
I think you’re making it more of a big deal. It won’t make a difference how long it takes for you to tell him. He’ll either accept it or he won’t. Get it out in the open. You shouldn’t have to hide your child. Good luck. Xx
Be straight up honest about it… Simon and I have already said we don’t want kids
You should have mentioned it on the dating site. He would ha e made the choice to date you then.
As soon as you start talking. B4 a date, during the “get to know you” stage.
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Why isn’t that on ur profile? Should be.
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Why would you not speak of having a child?
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Should of already come up.
Generally should come up in the first or second conversation.
You should of mentioned it in your dating profile or least the first date.
Should have told him from the start. You aren’t hiding a puppy.
This sound like some casey anthony bs, sounds like she could be ok without her kid for a man🤷🏻♀️i cant even with this page anymore, like who goes 2 weeks without mentioning their kid to someone they are datung🤦🏻♀️
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Honestly it shouldve been one of the first things you told him imo
It should say you’re a mom on your dating profile.
Before your first date
Shoulda told him immediately u have children lel
It’s definitely a big deal. You have someone else’s kid for him to potentially take care of. Tell him ASAP.
Already too late. Shoulda told him before meeting him.
Yeah up front just tell him …it may be a deal breaker but that’s life
TQKE TIME TO know HIM
Be honest straight away
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You should have it printed on your forehead to scare away the douchebags
That should be brought up before meeting. Full disclosure.
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Dept. Of Mental health for you.
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50% chances are he doesn’t want kids
He might have kids too
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Coming from a guy, this is already a red flag. Seems like youre hiding the kid, and would make me wonder what else youre hiding.
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Needs to be discussed asap
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Should have already been brought up.
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Just her honest, if it’s a deal breaker it’s unfortunate, but waiting to tell him further out can also be a definite deal breaker cause you were dishonest. I would’ve said something, been like you know I just wanted to let you know I do have a kid, then he would he able to think about it before he comes back.
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If I date someone, it’s because I see something in them as far as a future…YES he should have already been told about you having a child. Seeming how not everyone is built to be a parent, not everyone can handle it. And not everyone wants that kind of life style. If he doesn’t, then you are wasting eachothers time. My bf knew from the very start. I would tell him and see how he reacts…the future depends on it.
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I always put that I have children in my bio. My son is basically my whole entire life there’s no way I could have gone almost a whole month without mentioning him at all.
It should not be so hard for you to tell someone you have a kid, you should be yelling that loud and proud hahaha and if he decides that’s a deal breaker, he ain’t the one for you sis
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Deff need to tell him, right away. Some people consider that a deal breaker. Unfortunately
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If you’re not just dating for the fun of going on dates. If you’re not just looking for something super casual and temporary…Then it’s best to be up front.
I understand not putting it on your dating profile, but waiting any longer it’s going to look like you’re trying to hide the fact that you are a single mom.
Which isn’t really ok. You want to be up front and discuss feelings on this early on rather than risk wasting each other’s time if for some reason you do not agree.
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i’m married now but i wasn’t always so i would def do it as soon as possible because if that isn’t what the guy is looking for then why waste each others time .
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As soon as I find somebody I’m interested in, I make it known I have kids. Otherwise it’s pointless to build a connection with someone and them not want to step up and be apart of something like that.
Always give them the choice right away…
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I have had no life since the birth of my first son, after talking on the phone for that long, he would’ve BEEN known I had a child 
Meeting my child was a different story.
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I met my husband on a dating site 16 years ago. It was on my profile that I had kids and whoever I date must be ok with that.
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You don’t talk about your daughter just in conversation? Just talk about her and let the chips fall don’t make a big drum roll about it.
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Just be honest. I told my boyfriend from the start when we started talking and I said, “I do have a 7 year old. He will always come first and we are a package deal.” And he accepted it. He would always ask questions about my son and want to get to know him better. They met and they are best buddies and adore each other so much. If it’s a a deal breaker, it’s unfortunate, but you’ll find that someone that will accept you and your child. But i would honestly tell him when he gets back
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Should have been in your profile. I always mention my kids,if anyone can’t handle that I have kids,bye.
My kids are my life.
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Hes from out of town so being in your town, isn’t that a trip?
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He should have been told immediately.
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I feel like he should know already. How have you not casually mentioned your kid?
Tell him immediately. Oh hey, btw, I have a kid.
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You should have told him on the 5th.
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I’m up front right away that I have kids. To be honest I’d find it odd if someone I was talking to for several weeks and had met up with once hadn’t mentioned a child 
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You should have told him when you started talking. You can keep him from meeting her until you are comfortable BUT he should have been told about the kid from the beginning!
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I’m a single mum of 2, and it is a lot easier to let them know as soon as you can, as sometimes it can be a deal breaker with a lot of people sadly. And you don’t want there to be feels and everything that would make it unhappier when you do eventually tell them, just in case they don’t wanna date someone with children
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You have been talking to him for two weeks, how has your son not came up? Are you not active in his life or what’s up? My life revolves around my kids. In the first message I probably would’ve said I was doing something for or with my kid 
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Its good you do not put it out there online but you should tell him now that you have had a date. My husband now knew I had 2 kids but he did not meet them for the first 6 months.
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I don’t know how any of these other mothers feel ,but I feel like letting him know you had a kid should’ve been Known in the beginning!
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Should of been the first thing you said.
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Personally I think he should have been told straight away.
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You have deliberately hidden it up to this point for a reason. It is not on your profile for a reason. Y u can be open and up front about having a child and being a parent without exposing a child online. The real question is why do you hide that you have a child?
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