When I was single I would just put it alll out there, first time we would talk, ask him “how do you feel about dating women with children?” Id always rather be upfront and honost from the jump because im not in the business of wasting my time.
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Just be honest and tell him. Shouldn’t be a big deal and if it is, he can skip rocks.
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Tell him right away and let him make the decision if you’re someone he wants to pursue or not
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It should be in your dating profile so they know upfront 
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I think that probably needs to be put out right away on the darting app so u aren’t wasting your time with men
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I told mine the minute we started talking. Now we’re engaged and he loves my kids as his own❤️
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If someone is being honest it’s better from the very start. That boat being missed I would assume that the very important information would be shared prior to the actual Date…and move on. Or not. From there
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It’s definitely the first thing I tell people. I’m a packaged deal. If you’re signing up for a future with me then you need to know you’re also signing up for children. If someone isn’t interested because I have kids… we’ll that’s their loss because my kids are fn awesome.
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Wait … the fact that you’re a MOTHER didn’t come up the first time you talked??? It’s not in your dating app profile, at least ???
concerning
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Immediately, ur kid should always be ur first priority. Wondering how you managed to not talk about it already.
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You should tell someone from the get go.
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I would have started the conversation with my name, age and my child’s name and her age. Cause that is like half of you. That’s more important than where you work or what you like to do for fun. That’s your baby. She should have been prioritized
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Yea I would of mention it already I think it something you need to let him know …
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I always mentions my kids. They’re as much a part of me as everything else there is to know
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My opinion is I would have told him the day we started talking. My kids come before anyone r anything.
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Mention it in a conversation. Say you have to go do something for son/daughter or that you and your son/daughter did this today?
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I mention about my children the first day. Because they aren’t having me without them.
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I’ve never been on a dating app before, married 17 years myself, but don’t you have a “profile” that men look at before they message you?! Like “I like long walks on the beach and dogs. I’m a mother of a however year old daughter” and so on…why isn’t she on your profile? I’d tell him ASAP, if he truly has no idea…he might not be looking for someone with a child and he probably would have wanted to know that before becoming invested, which sounds like you might be already….
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Be up front, and see what he feels about it, better know now if kids aren’t his thing than getting more involved
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I think it should be on your dating profile. Don’t put their picture if you are worried for safety but mention that you’re a mom in your bio.
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That’s the first thing I put out there. I am a mom first and always will be so it needs to be known. I’m not about to waste my time on someone who isn’t interested in someone who has kids so it’s always mentioned right away.
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Ask if he has children, then go into saying you do…not uncommon for late 20s!
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Would have been one of the first conversations I have with him. But since that boat has sailed, do it asap and tell him you are very private about home life on the internet for safety sake. If he doesn’t understand that, then move on. Also apologize for not bringing it up sooner.
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He should already know.
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Depends on the type of relationship you want hun.
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Your children are a majority of your life. Anyone you date, will be apart of there life too. I feel like you not telling the person you are talking to upfront isn’t fair. That’s something you mention immediately. It’s like false advertising. What if that is a deal breaker and this person didn’t want children? You have now been talking to him for a few weeks and he is gonna feel blind sided. Always bring up you have children. You should be proud of that and if someone doesn’t like it, then it’s not meant to be. Don’t be fearful that you will be rejected over you having a child. Be proud and let that be known.
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My kids would be brought up. The second some even asks what I do for fun or my hobbies, my kids come up. I have no life without them so I wouldnt have a choice but to tell lol
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You need to say something ASAP. Whether it’s in person or text/social media. He should already know you have a child and you should be proud, not withdrawn about it. If he doesn’t like you having a child then he isn’t right for you.
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I met my now boyfriend on Bumble. I told him like the 4th message I sent him on the app. I wasn’t gonna get close to someone if they weren’t okay with my daughter ya know? He was more than okay with it. We went on dates and hung out for about 5 months before he actually met her. Then we would hang out more and more since then. Anyway, we’ve been dating a year now. He loves my daughter and she loves him. If he isn’t into it then you’ll know but honestly I feel the sooner the better. That way you don’t get attached if he doesn’t feel like he wants the responsibility. If that makes sense. Good luck mama❤️
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I always make sure they knew right away. I made it very clear that my child came first so being able to see them every single day or during the week was not a possibility until I knew the relationship was serious. If they couldn’t accept that I had a child than it was a done deal and I moved on.
I wld of told him right away not after the date. That is something he needs to know unfortunately. He might take it as u not being truthful and not a good way to start a relationship.
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It would be one of the first things I would have told him even before the date
After you like him, before you’re committed. And i might be the odd ball here but if your kids not a baby. Id introduce them to your “friend” if your kid doesnt like them, why waste time?
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Am I the only one wondering why he had you take him to the airport before ever meeting you??? Like girl NOOO
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You should have already let him know, to some people that’s a make or break to a relationship. You could be leading him on
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Umm right away cuz it could be a game changer 
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I would have already talked about that the first day. I wouldn’t want to be wasting my time if he wasn’t interested once he knows you have a kid. Just me though. Being a mom will always be first to me.
Plus, That’s a big part of getting to know you. You asked if its too soon? No, Sooner the better, imo.
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That should’ve been the first thing that you told him before you even met him
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It is never too soon. Be upfront
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During that first date. Be completely transparent from the beginning. If he runs for the hills, you saved yourself (and your daughter) a lot of wasted time and energy.
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You should have already told him
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Ummmm that’s a huge detail to leave out. That needs to be mentioned when you first started talking. Like immediately, cause kids can change everything. If you’re scared to tell a guy you have a kid, you’re not ready for dating.
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Be up front if not it’s like you’re hiding something.
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You mention your kids day one off top
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I always put it in my dating profile
Dating apps typically have that as an option to mention in your bio…I would share that right away ya know when the person asks you about yourself & your life 
Why is it so hard for you ppl to just answer her question without being rude and condescending? Sjes allowed to have a opinion shes helping raise him and its wierd to let your son look at you naked when hes about to hit puberty that could be why hes spying
If your daughters father doesn’t inform you when he’s seeing someone you don’t owe him. The only person you owe anything is your daughter. I would wait 3-6 months before letting her meet him. That was just MY wait time. However, I would say if anything inform your daughters father before you guys go public. First date isn’t neccessary. Maybe 3rd or after.
Tell him If he doesn’t accept it he’s not the one
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I would give it time. As a single mom to now 2 babies, I won’t be telling anyone I’m dating about them until I’m sure they’re good people and not creepers. It’s not trying to be shady and spring a child (or two) onto someone, but you have to do what’s safest for your children. Some men prey on single moms because they’re pervs or feel you’re desperate, etc. Take your time and get to know him before you inform him of your child. Take even more time from there before allowing him to meet your child.
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so you’ve talked every day and your child hasn’t come up in conversation?
kinda odd to me
you should probably mention it
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Why are you even nervous or am I getting it wrong? I guess my question is what is wrong with telling him on your first date?
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Weird that this wouldn’t have been mentioned nearly immediately.
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I have been married for 24 years, but….I think I would have made this a part of the introduction of myself when you first started chatting. Like, my kids are part of me as a person. “So, tell me about you.”
“Well, I’m a mom of 3….” and so on. I can’t imagine not mentioning this straight away. However, I haven’t dated in 27 years and obviously had no kids then. Good luck momma, I’d tell him ASAP if you think you may want to continue a dialogue or meet again in person. Being a single mom has some restrictions and you’re a package deal!
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Just because you tell potential dates that you have a child, doesn’t mean that they have to meet them anytime soon.
It should be mentioned on your dating profile bio or whatever right away to weed out the people who aren’t willing to go on dates with people with children.
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Before the date. That way if they don’t like kids i wouldn’t waste my time.
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Just tell him and he doesn’t like it say good bye
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It’s hard enough being a single mum, without being judged for not already mentioning you’re a mum! Jeez, some people have no compassion!! You tell him when you’re ready, if he’s got anything about him, he’ll understand that you needed to know him before you dropped that news on him. If you have a future then kids won’t alter that and you can move forwards; if it does alter things then so be it xx
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your kids are your first priority in life. I’d be mentioning it in your profile. Would probably help sift through the men who don’t like or want kids. Saves you from wasting your time talking to people who don’t want to date a single mom.
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I would think on first date, when you both tell each other about yourselves.
You should have already told him.
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I make it known day one! Some people just don’t want to date someone with kids and that’s okay. But you have to be up front about it.
Thats usually the first thing to be mentioned…
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He should have been told right away. It’s one of the first things that should be mentioned during introduction or in your profile. It’s almost like your hiding it if you don’t… which is weird in my opinion. My kids aren’t going anywhere so I tell them right away and if they don’t like it 
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Safety on your part first. Maybe he has children, a discussion about children is appropriate to find out his views. He may not like children, move on. He may have children and is afraid of your views. Honesty starts with conversations.
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He should have known from the firstv
Just ask him “have any kids” then tell him you do🤷♀️
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I made it known upfront. Like, first 5 mins… There was no waiting.
If you matched, why isn’t your child in the Bio? 
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I would tell him right away so he knows whether or not he wants to potentially be a parent to your child. Just don’t introduce him to your daughter until you are sure he’s gonna be there long term.
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I guess im weird because i would wait to tell him until the first date.
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I always tell the guy before I even meet them that I have a kid. That way before the relationship goes anywhere they already know.
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Sounds like you’re ashamed of being a single mom… being a mother should be on your profile or brought up in the first conversation you had. How have you gone this long without having even mentioning your daughter?
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No better time then now. Don’t keep it from him. Bc he has a right to choose what he wants in his life. Be fair. You are always gonna be a Mom so just come out with it so you know where to stand.
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I told my fiance I was a mom within the first 5 minutes of our conversation I’m pretty sure lol. The right guy isnt going to care, he was actually excited.
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It should have come up by now BUT you shouldn’t put that on dating profiles or have pics. There are definitely sick people in this world who search that out.
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I would have never gone on a date without first telling them I have a child. That is the first thing I mention because my child is my priority. You talk about honesty, but throwing this at him after you’ve met and talked for so long, is not fair. Just my opinion though.
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Wow it’s so hard dating these days I feel for you I really do. I guess I would tell him but I totally understand why you haven’t. Good luck to you.
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I’m not a single mom, but I have dated a lot of single dads, the sooner the better, it’s not like you have to push him to be her dad or for them to meet lol you just wanna make sure y’all are on the same page and not waste each other’s time🙂
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I would have said so on the dating sight, but tell him the very next time you talk or text.
I would tell him during the date but not give too much info. Just casually bring up kids, ask if he has any and then when/if he asks tell him you have one child. When I met my guy I only mentioned I had a kid, but no other details until we talked about kids on our date.
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You picked up a man you never met and took him to the airport
… you’re brave
Safety first you should have met in a public place, and had a real date
Umm right away, make it known you have a child on your dating profile. This way guys can make a decision if they want to swipe on you, and when they do you know that they know you have a child and are accepting of it. I have it written in my profile that I’m a mom to a wonderful little boy, and if they swipe they understand that. I do not post pictures of my son on that profile. I’ve even had one guy swipe and tell me he didn’t realize and isn’t interested in me because I have a kid and that’s fine, but I put it out there. Can’t start off with secrets esp one being a child.
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Right away! Because you don’t want to catch feelings for someone who may not want kids
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On the 6th at the latest!
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How is that possible you’ve been talking every day for 9 days and havent brought up the single most important thing about you? Come on.
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Um… on the first date, ma’am.
I told my fiance that I was a mom to 2 Littles right away and told him I wasn’t playing games and really scared to move away from my home state and away from my kids well I moved and my kids has met their new baby sister and him and fell in love.
Definitely when you are in contact with him next…if he doesn’t even want that first date…move on
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Sort of off topic, but not really.
Is there a dating site out there where you can check a box if you have a kid or kids, but it’s not made known on your profile? And then another box where you can check a box if 1. Kids are ok with you. 2. Kids are ok, but you also want your own someday. 3. Not interested in dating anyone with kids. Then behind the scenes it matches those people, but you don’t have to actually say of you have kids or not. But you’ll know that the person you matched with is ok with you having kids and it’s not a deal breaker. That way you don’t run the risk (or bigger risk?) of creeps specifically looking for profiles of those who have kids. They have no idea who has kids and who doesn’t until they’re told. I don’t do dating sites, so I have no clue.
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None of his business at this point. Wait to see if the first date even goes well…
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you do this when this person is someone who is going to be in your life…you dont have to move fast
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You should have been told him that before a first date was established. Package deal girl
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Jesus the amount of comments saying your child should be in your bio. Absolutely not. There are predators out there who SEEK OUT WOMEN WITH SMALL CHILDREN.
I think you’ve done the right thing. Just bring it up casually now. Ask his opinion on kids, or if he has any. Then tell him you do. It’s simple. If he doesn’t want any part of that then it’s his loss.
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Single mom of one here. Personally I make it clear early on that I have a little one. I just kind of throw in into conversation. There’s no way I can’t. If a guy asks me what I’m doing 9 times out of 10 I’m doing something with or for my daughter. So I’m just honest about that. I don’t give details about my child for safety reasons, but I do make it clear I’m a package deal in pretty much the first conversations.
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If your child isnt the sun your in orbit around then theres little point in explaining anything to anyone because your lost, relationships are great but they are eclipsed by parenthood, he should have been told right after names were exchanged
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I’m a single mom of 3. I told my bf right away because I didn’t want to get my heart broken. I do suggest that you take a long time before letting him meet your child. My bf and have been dating for 9 months now and he hasn’t met my kids yet. We are in the process of that though.
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I told my boyfriend on our first date he’s like what do you do for fun I said well I have 2 kids so we just hang out play a lot do activities lol
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Why would you need to gracefully reveal it? You have kids. I would have told him first convo. Who hides that?
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Right away is the time to do it…I talked to my boyfriend for 3 Weekes before we met and told him the first night we started talking about my daughter. It gave him a chance to think about it and I made it clear to him that she came first
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That would’ve been one of the first things I said… you don’t have to take the child around him but that’s a big deal that should be mentioned.
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