Teenage parents: at what age did you explain to your kids that having sex as a teenager is not the way to go? Or at least explain the importance of safe sex? How did you explain to them that your choice to have sex young was a dumb decision even though you love them and wouldn’t trade them for anything? I had my son at 15 and am terrified of him getting someone pregnant or my daughter getting pregnant as teenagers. I really don’t want them to struggle as I did and want them to understand the consequences of having sex and possibly having a baby to care for as they themselves are still children. What can I say or show them to emphasize the consequences? Is there anything you’ve done/said to help prevent teenage pregnancy?
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Be honest and truthfull. My gram scared the crap out of me I did not have sex until I was almost 18. She did put me on the pill at 16 for safety purposes.
As soon as you know they are curious. Don’t ever make them feel bad for asking.
I grew up in a traditional Indian family and never got the sex talk. I’m 32, married, 9 months pregnant and my family still gets squeamish when I matter-of-factly speak about sexual things. Let’s be honest. I’m pregnant. I’m obviously not a virgin. Calm down. 
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Don’t discourage them, educate them 
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I printed off pics if ghonnorea and herpes. And showed my kids. And told them there are things you get rid of. And to be selective who you bestow your seed to… they’re going to do what they’re doing to do, give them the truth
I had the talk with my daughter when she turned 13! Told her when she is ready I’d rather her come speak to me first. At 14 I noticed her caring more about her appearance and became very interested in boys. I didnt bother to talk anymore and just took her to my OBGYN n got her on birth control. My second daughter just turned 14 but she is somewhat confused. Shes not interested in boys right now. My youngest is only 9 so theres no need for that talk yet. N I have no boys
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Talk to them a soon as possible don’t be afraid to tell them how it is . Baby’s are precious gifts . But the rest you explain everyone has there own way of telling them what are the consequences after .
I was very vocal. There is no need to breed. When you have a job or degree and own your own house then have kids. I told my oldest 2 to have fun travel and not get tied down young. My oldest is working on his doctorate and my second is in Grad school both will start 6 figure jobs by the end of this year. I encourage them to be selfish with their time for now They can take off and go any weekend they want I suggested at least 30 before kids
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My daughter is 13, has shown no signs of dating boys, but I still had the talk with her, let her know I would rather she wait until she is older, but also requested that no matter when she decides is best for her, to please let me know so we can go get her birth control before it happens, and she can be safe about it.
I also told her back when she was like 11, that everyone poops when they lose their virginity, I told her as a joke but she brought it up the other day and I didnt correct her. Maybe I’m a terrible person, idk 
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My twins ( boy and girl ) are 12.
I’ve had several talks about birth control, sex, pregnancy, and mastrubation with them.
Sex is a thing. It’s my job to make sure my kids are fully educated on how everything works and how to protect your body, your emotions, etc. WELL before the day ever comes they may need that info.
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Mine are 19 17 and 14 been having the discussion since my oldest was 12/13 yrs old
My mom gave me the sex talk when I was 12 I didn’t think much of it cause it was never in my mind, I was too busy being a kid but some classmates where already sexually active and I remember a girl my age ended up getting pregnant by her boyfriend at the time. Believe it or not there is a lot of preteens that are already sexually active.
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I started the conversation at age 11 with my boys. I don’t view it as a one time thing… it’s an ongoing conversation. Now my oldest is 17 and he’s known about safe sex, how our bodies work, the emotion that goes into relationships and sex, everything I could think of since he was 14ish. He just has his first gf now. My 12 year old is a bit more mature so he knows all his brother does. Don’t be judgy or scary, just give them the facts. If you ask my boys what the #1 rule is… they’ll tell you… if you tap it, wrap it lol… kind of a joke but not… safe sex is the important thing… and being mindful of the other person’s feelings.
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I got custody of my neice at 13, she has 3 younger siblings and 2 cousins that she was expected to help take care of. I just explained that I’d she didn’t want to be responsible for a baby full time she needed to think really hard before having sex because sex causes babies or STDs
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My parents always told me sex was for adults
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My oldest was in 4th grade when he asked and I went thru everything with him. I answered his questions truthfully and never told him it was a bad thing but that it was important to pick the right person. I also told him the huge responsibility and repercussions that could be a result, STD’s and pregnancy, and that he needed to be mature enough to deal with both. Also stressed the importance of birth control use for both parties. I kept the communication wide open and bought him a box of condoms when he turned 16. He’s now 17 and he is incredibly open about everything, coming to me with questions and concerns. With my kids, telling them it’s a bad thing would have just closed the communication down and goodness knows what would have happened. This way he knows he can come to me, no judgements, and he has.
So my older 3 kids are 11, 10 and almost 9. I have explained periods, and sex and safe sex to them. I let them ask questions, and try to make sure we occasionally talk about it again just to make sure they remember that talk and see if they have new questions. I’ve also told them that when they do decide they’re ready to start having sex, that I want them to come to me so I can make sure they have everything they need to have safe sex. I had my oldest when I was 17, and while I do not regret it one bit, I also don’t want to see my kids struggle like I did being teen parents and I tell them that openly as well. I tell them I didn’t struggle because of them, but I struggled trying to live like an adult and parent when I was still a child myself and that ultimately they paid for it because I couldn’t give them everything I wanted to let alone the time that they deserved because of school and work and being so exhausted. I decided that honesty is the best policy, and to guide them to safe sex instead of doing what my parents did and saying “just don’t have sex because you’ll get pregnant and have a baby to support”
I was never given 1 talk… growing up my mom brought it up several times in age appropriate terms
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Well my oldest daughter was 13 and my son 7 when I went back to college at 32 for my Associate’s in Human Services. I used safe sex and the risks of not practicing safe sex as the basis for several papers and almost all of my public speaking class. Because the majority of my classmates were just out of high school…I wanted to use my life experiences to teach them. As a result, my kids heard a lot about it as I worked on the stuff and practiced my speeches. We even had a condom tree in our living room from my 2nd semester on.
Then just before I graduated (two weeks before I turned 34), I found out I was pregnant with my now 8yo due to not following my own damned advice. Her dad and I still home with our kids that their baby sister was the ultimate PSA on why you use protection EVERY TIME and not doing so even once can lead to babies. (Seriously…we were horny 30+ year olds and stupidly thought we were safe from pregnancy…we were idiots)
Don’t wait too long. Kids are being exposed to porn early these days thanks to friends having phones and they need to hear your perspective before they hear or see someone else’s. I taught sex ed…when my daughter was 11 she came home from school and made some comments about sex that revealed people were talking about it on the playground. We had the basic birds and bees talk. When she was older (she is 16 now) we talked about oral sex, how to say no, safe sex, pregnancy, etc. Using pics of STDs doesn’t prevent anything when they get into the heat of the moment - so talk to them ahead of time about how to avoid getting into those positions. “The lights from a dashboard will seem incredibly romantic when your hormones are going crazy.”
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I would start with talking about what sex is, how to have safe sex, and the risks associated with sex (pregnancy, STDs). And offer every protection (birth control, condoms) you can to ensure they are being as safe as possible. I think everyone knows that you can’t stop teenagers having sex. It’s best to educate and provide support and protection. There is a parent group on facebook called “That Parent Group” that’s amazing and everything sex education. However it is a sex positive group so if that isnt the route you want to go then it might not be for you. They can offer a lot of really great advice and sources though.
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Sit them down and be blunt.
Start with the educational side of it, diseases and pregnancy. But then the emotional (losing virginity can be very emotional and confusing).
Tell them how to be safe and that being safe is 1000% better then just running around willy nilly.
Do not tell them the pull out method does not work. Yes, it is not 100% but i can almost guarantee you that it will happen and they will think you lied to them. Because they’re kids and they know everything.
Sit them down and tell them all the hardships you faced during pregnancy and after their birth.
Be as blunt as possible. They will respond more to the realness of it then just you saying “don’t do this, don’t do that”
I did at age 10. Talked about periods, Sex and all. She had already heard some about it at school unfortunately
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Wowza… We’ve been teaching our kids from at least 2-3yrs old about marriage ideals, reproduction of life, self worth etc & also what the world promotes & will pressure them with. Earlier the better because it sticks & they get to be knowledgeable as they walk.
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I had the talk with mine as soon as she entered middle school. I wanted to get to her before anyone else could get to her and tell myths and lies
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I never had the sex talk with my kids never seem to get on the conversation about it there grown up now they don’t have kids yet ones married and ones not
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12 with each of my kids… kids as young as 9 are experimenting with sex now
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They’re going to do it no matter what. Better to teach them to do it safe (I’m not saying just allow them to) but they will find a way. 15 is definitely a good age to start now
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Well they have the talk about puberty in like 5th or 6th grade right? I’d say have the talk before middle school. I saved myself by choice but at least I knew what to do and what birth control was in case. Teaching safe practices doesn’t mean you are telling your children to go at it. It is there choice regardless if they will or not but they need to be educated beforehand
Theres literally nothing you can do to stop them. Unless you lock them away in a room or something lol just tell them all possible precautions to take n yadda yadda yadda
I would tolk to my daughter all the time maybe 10
And if she had???she could ask me
We had a lot of trust in each other
They get a lot of disinformation early and jr high students are trying to be more mature than they are. Regardless of whether you want them to wait or not inform them of birth control. I’m forever reminding my boys to have a raincoat with them.
If they’re of legal age (17 in most states) you really cant stop them. Just explain how to be safe.
Talk with them before they start dating anyone. Make sure they understand the sort of struggle and cost in raising a child. And put a box of condoms in a bathroom cabinet where they can get them if they choose to have sex anyway.
Well since I’m pregnant with my 2nd and my 7 year old asked we had an age appropriate conversation. I started out with hygiene and germs like hand washing as he asks and things come around. Its more of a collaboration and multiple talk thing. As a parent you go off your experiences and morals. I understand the worry with stds,pregnancy and the emotional affects…I worry about my son so I pretty much try to keep the talks educational not judgy and let him feel comfortable with talking to me or his dad. Teenagers got those hormones and I know it attitude best that can be done is be open and keep on with the std and protection information.
Start easing into it at about 12.
Honey your kids school has already talked to them about it at age 8…
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Talk to them now. and everyday its never to soon .Help them gain the skills to see the right path. Show them love . Teach them self respect and. respect for others Its a fast pace out there in this world . Before you can say boo someone else will your kids in a position they wont have the tools to cope with . ACT NOW YOUR KIDS NEED YOUR HELP AND WISDOM !!! Good Luck !!!
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Make sure you’re open and honest. A lot of kids want that from their parents. I work in schools and the kids biggest complaints are that they can’t come to their parents. They can’t talk to their parents about relationships, they can’t talk to their parents about a lot of things. Be honest, don’t scare them, make sure your door is always open for that talk. I have kids tell me things and thank me for not being closed like their parents. They said they wish they could so bad.
Depends on the child’s maturity level and if puberty has started. I would start the conversation of learning your body at 9. Sex talk about at least 11. Or sooner if they’re quite curious themselves then they’re learning it elsewhere.
Just had some one come over here wanting to sell Girl Scout cookies…then a man came here wanting to chat…
I say 13 is a good age
Just me saying I’d like to stay here awhile now until snow & freezing rain is gone…
There’s nothing you can do. If they wanna have sex then they are just going to do it. Make sure that they are comfortable talking to you so you can at least get your daughter on birth control and as awful as it sounds (cause I’d feel so weird) make sure there are condoms around for your son. Talk to them about safe sex as early as middle school or whenever they start puberty and then again before high school.
4th or 5th grade…before puberty hits… With tech the average age of a child seeing porn/pornographic images is about 9…so you want to get ahead of that.
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Just be honest and upfront, that’s what my kids therapist said. My 1st kid is amazing, even his girlfriend tried to get him to do it and he flat out told her he wasn’t ready he’s 18. I told him how it works when he was younger not in graffic detail when he was ready to want to know more he just asked me. My 10yo just asked what motor boating was 
yes I explained it
Now if you are wondering if it is time then it is time
My mom had the talk with me when I was 10 lol and I didn’t have a baby till 33
My daughter is 12 and I had this talk with her. I was brutally honest. I was 17 when I got pregnant. Let her know all the struggles & even the awful parts of my relationship with her father.
Way before now. Teenage years is far too late.
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I started talking to my son when he was 9 and we still talk about he has not had sex yet but he knows when he does that no glove means no love and No means no no matter when she says it
My girls are 10&12 and know more then most teens. We start early with how their body works at 5, and just expand every year.
We talked about women having the egg and the man having the seed about 6&7, into actual sex about 8, birth control and STDs at 10.
They are 10 and 12 now so were get into great detail about how they need to be safe and learn their bodies so they notice any changes.
About how important it is to wait as long as possible before taking a step that big. Sex changes everything and is a huge responsibility.
But we also talk about red flags, gaslighting, controling and other bad behavior, they way they should be treated, always putting their own comfort and happiness and love for themselves first.
For me It’s a huge responsibility for me to educate and prepare my girls to be strong, smart, and understand that they are in control and they teach others how its acceptable to treat them.
I’m so open with my girls my oldest at 12, Just out of the blue with a smile on her face say I’m bysexal and have a girlfriend. I just smiled back and said great but your still not allowed to date till your 16! Lol
We talk openly and often. Even short little reminders because they still get a little embarrassed with the details.
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My house rule is no dating till your of high school
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My household is always open about everything. We have random huge discussions alot. My Girls are 18,15,12,12,&10… My Boys are 13&7… Everyone knows when it’s “shark week”, even the boys. There is no stone left u turned. It’s better just to be honest and open rather than have them make mistakes that could have easily been avoided
No, you are a concern mother you are doing what you should do. I raised 4 granddaughter, and i said the same thing to each one of them. And a friend said look they (girls) are not going to tell you if they are ready for sex, its going to happen in the heat of the moment. And she may not stop him. So maybe you should put them on the pill now( not all of them at the same time) at 13. So i did. I dont regret it at all. The frist one did not have her frist baby until she was 20, second one at 19 and the other 16 and 17 sexually active but no baby’s.
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My ten year old girl started asking questions and based on her maturity, I answered in ways that she would understand. Obviously I tailored it to what she needed to know at the moment but have developed an open rapport since and she will ask question and actually is pretty up to speed with basic knowledge. She has no interest in boys or anything but is very intuitive and always in adult convos so the dialogue is open. My 11 year old boy, now he is oblivious and doesn’t care, knows some things but at this point doesn’t have interest in knowing specifics yet!
Never expect them to not have sex, explain that it is best to wait but give them all the knowledge you can about safe sex, you will never get it through their heads about consequences to sex or teenage pregnancy wouldnt be a thing, all teenagers think it will never happen to them (speaking from experience) just make sure they know how to be safe, id talk to them about 12 or 13
Rewind time and do it like 5 years ago
Would just put them both on birth control easy get her a 5year Implanton and him lots of condoms and I’d research boy birth control
I wouldn’t go all “sex is bad“ but stress the importance of safe sex take them to the store, show them where the condoms are, have open communication with them and let them know that you’re there for them. Teach them about their bodies
Like i always told my son keep it in your pocket and u wont get in trouble thats a fact lol
My doctor and our pediatrician both suggested the actual sex talk at 8, and we’ve been talking about bodies, differences, consent and privacy since they were toddlers. I got one useless discussion at 9 and decided I wanted my kids to be more comfortable with their bodies, educated and open with me than I ever was. You can’t stop them from growing up or experimenting, you can educate them fully and create responsible young adults.
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It should start as soon as they start asking questions about their body or how babies are made!
At a young age start talking about things but keep it basic and simple facts. By 13 some are sexually active so I believe you should be talking to them around that time more in detail about safe sex
Sign them up for a electronic baby. Once they see how hard it is they usually keep their legs closed. My sister had my nephew at 16 I was 13. Vergin till I was almost 19.
If they are already teenagers then the talk is most likely a bit late.
Maybe get them a dog that they’re solely responsible for. (Paying for everything, taking care of them, etc.) In essence it would be like having a child, but not NEARLY as big a commitment and hopefully convince them they’d rather not have too many responsibilities right now.
When they get fluff down stairs
I started at 6 years old.
How old are they? Being a single Mom with a boy it was difficult for me. My Mom never told me anything!! I never thought about how Mom got pregnant. A class mate told me. I was mortified!! Got home and asked her she said ‘just something we have to do’ . Nice huh? I learned about menstrual cycles in school in a class. So when my son was 10 I bought a book and we sat down together to go through explaining everything. It had diagrams of male bodies. When we are done I gave the book to him to take to his room. and he went through it again. Your daughter before 10 cause some will start their periods about that age. Have both condoms and menstrual pads available. My Mom never did. No one got pregnant and my brothers didn’t impregnate any female. Surprising cause were not informed on sex at all.
If your asking this question then do it now. It’s not something they will want to talk about but it needs to be done. Being honest and open is best.
That thing you just said there… that might work. Lol. Just be honest with them. They’ll appreciate it. Unfortunately its ultimately going to be their choice regardless of how careful you parent, but being honest and communicating openly with them will carry more weight that scare tactics or something else as they are faced with those situations and types of choices.
Teach them about safe sex and condoms. Done and done
Suck it up. You NEED to have this talk soon. Sit them down and explain your experience and express you do not want that for them. Kids have sex wayyyyy earlier than ever now so you need to do this soon. Have open dialogue with them and let them know no matter what you are there to talk if they have questions. Be calm. As much as you dread this conversation, they do too.
I plan on talking to my oldest at 14 but only bc kids are so fast. I mean I’ve heard of middle school children pregnant in 6th/7th grade. I don’t plan on giving my kids any opportunity to get freaky but it’s better to talk about it so they don’t get something.
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As soon as possible and age appropriately. My boys are 9 and 11, we’ve talked openly about it for at least 2 years now. I don’t want sex to be this shameful thing. I do want sex to be something respected and protected for someone worthy. Also, I teach 6th grade, students are educating other students weekly and it’s not always the truth…talk to them about inappropriate photos, never oversharing, and googling. I’ve had FOUR students this school year share a nude photo and it spread like wildfire. I’ve had parents devastated because it isn’t in their child’s norm but a lapse of judgement and it can’t be just erased. Give safe options for IF the time does come. Good luck! I get it I had sex with my now husband when I was 18. I got married at 19 had my son at 20, it was extremely tough being mom and getting my degree.
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I don’t yet have teenagers but my aunt had the sex talk with her teenagers years ago and she explained the importance of safe sex and she had drawer in her dining room that she kept stocked with condoms they were free to take what they needed without question. Neither of hers had kids before marriage they had a very open relationship and her kids as well as myself were free to talk to her about sex without judgement or punishment. I had my first at 24. Of course times are different now but whatever you do don’t make them feel like it’s wrong or they need to be ashamed or they will hide it from you.
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I’m not a teenager mom, but my mom was a teenage mom and the best thing that prevented all three of her kids from having kids at young ages and unprotected sex was my mom telling us her experiences as a teenage mom. Telling us that it wasn’t easy and all the things she missed out on, plus her hopes for us (going to college and seeing the world). She also told us whenever we were ready to have sex to tell her and she’d get us the protection we needed without judgment and without question because it was important to her that we didnt get pregnant or have a disease from the first person we gave ourselves to. She gave us the talk once we hit puberty or whenever we started to ask questions. But explained bad touch to us pretty early on. Hope that helps <3 I plan to do this with my daughter.
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My grandmother’s gave me the talk before the age of 14. My mom never gave me the talk. Thanks to my grandma’s I waited till I turned 18 to have a baby.
I have been talking to my three about sex since the time they started 4 grade. At that point they knew what sex was so I told them the honest truth. Told them about safe sex. If they ever wanted to have sex then tell me first so I can make sure they have protection. Honesty is all I used. And now my baby girl is going to be 15 and came to me a couple of weeks back and asked me to buy her friend condoms because she was having sex and she kept screaming I am pregnant. My daughter was like oh heck no if your parents will not protect you then I am going to so we don’t have to hear you cry wolf.
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My son is 7 and knows what sex is and how babies are created, educating your children is the best thing you can do for them.
But as they get older you can explain things in a little more detail, explain the risks and why protection is IMPORTANT not just for pregnancy but diseases.
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kids can put up a force field when their parent has “the talk”. maybe make it a less invasive discussion that occurs every few days.
I and my fiance plan to talk to them about safe sex once they hit puberty- maybe earlier if need be. Having sex isnt dumb, having unsafe sex is dumb. As parents its so important to have a healthy open relationship with your children- they can go to you about ANYTHING, if they are having sex and you start off with sex is dumb this, your choice is dumb that youre not going to have a very healthy relationship and theyll start doing things behind your back, ive seen it done with my friend growing up. The relationship i had with my mom went down hill the second i turned 15 and went to her because i was thinking about having sex and she kept saying it was dumb, i was dumb, i make dumb choices so i instantly did whatever i wanted and went to another adult.
Everybody has sex sooner or later- even your own children will BUT if you sit down and ask them what they know about sex, ask they if they know about safe sex, ask them why they want to have sex and go from there. DONT MAKE THEM FEEL DUMB FOR WANTING TO HAVE SEX, i cant repeat this enough- youll loose that relationship faster than you can blink.
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I had my daughter at 16 from very very young I have always drilled It to them about being safe a d never being pressured we have always spoken about it so it’s not a taboo subject my eldest is nearly 16 now and she and her friend came to me when another friend told them she had sex and wanted advice on what to do and what not I have always been open and honest about everything and it’s not taboo and I feel I have educated them all enough to not be stupid but if they did they know I’m always going to be here to support in a y way I can
I’d make sure they both understand that it is their decision and to be open with you about it so you can help them stay protected. If they’re open about doing it, you can make sure they have condoms and birth control. They need to know you’re a comfort when it comes to this new part of their lives and not judging them so they will come to you about it.
Honesty you’d be surprised at how much they already know.
It’s important to talk to them and encourage them to ask questions. Not only about sex but about other stuff like drinking and drugs. Be open and honest about life choices, they need to know that all decisions in life have consequences either good or bad but they are responsible for the decisions they make. We have a very open dialogue in our home. They know if they ask me a question they are going to get an honest answer. Don’t say things like you aren’t old enough or we can talk about it later, if they are asking then they are curious. If they haven’t asked yet maybe they are afraid, but kids at school are talking about it.
I was a young mom as well and told my kids that while I wouldn’t take anything for them it’s not easy raising kids at a young age.
You have to be comfortable with what you say and how you say it. A simple you shouldn’t have sex won’t drive home your message. They need to know that they don’t have to have sex and if someone pressures them they are allowed to say no. It doesn’t matter how much someone says they love you or if you loved me too you would do it. It’s ok to not be “cool” when it comes to your body no one is allowed to make you feel like you must do anything.
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I’ve been talking to my kids since elementary school, obviously in terms they’d understand and now one is half way thru high school and other is in 8 th grade and we talk very honestly about everything
I’d add that at this age you may want a baby because your hormones trick you into it. But please just wait you really do have plenty of time and your partner is more likely to stay with you if you are older, you will be better prepared and you will find that it feels right when you wait.
I’m not saying you need a partner or putting anyone down for having a baby young. my mum was a young single mum and she did a great job I waited until I was 24 and I’m so glad I did I new who I was and I was done with my travel and partying
Teens arent stupid. Be blunt, be honest, be open to what they have to say.
They teach sex ed. as early as 4th, 5th and 6th grade in schools now, the earlier you can teach them the better. Theres no sheltering them anymore, they’re going to learn one way or another so at least make sure they hear it early from you too. 🤷
I’m not a teenage mom, but I’m only 22 so I’ve recently been a teen myself. My mother was always very open with us about it. Just be very understanding and nonjudgmental when you’re talking to them, not just sex but alcohol too. She didn’t care if we drank as long as we did it safely and as far as I know neither I nor my brother ever drank and drove because of it. Mostly just drank at our house and mom would gather everyone’s keys. Sex was another. I’m more shy about it so my brother asked more questions than me but we both made smart decisions in high school and neither had a baby until our 20s
Honestly I had kids @ a teen &&& my kids have just learned by watching me/us live trial &&& error,kids are resilient.
As soon as my daughter (13) started her period I talked to her about it…I myself was a teen mom and obviously want better for her.
Tell them. Tell them how hard it was, what you missed out on and show them how to practice safe sex. Thats all you can really do.
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Well I’m 33 and have 3 boys. I have lost count of how many times I’ve been vomited on. Like… in the hair and all down my body vomited on. That’s parenting. Just toss that fun fact out there for them.
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My mom sat me down explained sex and told me one night of pleasure shouldn’t be a death sentence and gave me condoms and explain how important they were as well
My oldest is 15… I have 4 boys… We talked to the oldest about sex about a year or 2 ago… Not putting our own business out there tho (hes the type to say well u did it so…) But he started dating a girl that was way more advanced than him so he started asking his dad questions about things… We have been very honest about sex pregnancy stds and the dire importance of using protection regardless of the girl saying im on birth control or i have a condom… We also talk about drugs cigarettes alcohol peer pressure all that… He sees what taking care of young kids is every day… My other boys are 8, 6 and 3… Hes quite a bit older than them… We didn’t make sex seem bad or anything like that but just that its something u shouldnt do until u are ready… The girl he was with had been with a few boys and he chose not to have sex with her even tho they certainly could have found a way… Kids always do find ways… And now hes not with her… Being honest is so very important and letting them kno they can come to u with anything is as well… He knows he can ask us to buy him condoms… His dad gave him a condom at 13 just to kno he had one if anything… I was not a teenage mom… But my mom was and i never wanted to be a teenage mom because i knew the struggles from her and some of my friends…
I told mine everything by the time they were 10. We lived on a farm, they knew how babies were made. They younger they are, the easier to talk to about sex. It was an open subject at our house.
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My 12 year already knows🤷♀️