Ummm I wouldn’t be dating so soon after such a long relationship. Take some time for you so you can see and know what you want in one. When you stop looking that’s when they come.
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I’ve been separated from my husband for almost a month now and when the time comes I’ll tell whoever right away. Everyone I know knows I have kids but if you don’t like or want kids then bye 
. I’d rather not wait and let feelings progress if they don’t understand the kids come first or if they don’t want kids
From day 1. U need to be straight so u know they are up for they are up to task of whole package
day 1 that way they know what there getting into
I always told whoever I was talking to right away that way if they don’t want to develop anything with someone who has children then we can stop the conversation there. I don’t want to waste my time or theirs.
I’d tell someone straight away… However I would wait a good while before introducing them
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I always make it known right from the get go that I have a child.
I’m all for being upfront…especially when it’s about something as important as a child.
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Kids are the number one priority so with that being said, it should be put out there right away.
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Immediately. Not introduce them but definitely let the other person know you have a child.
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From the beginning. If it’s a deal breaker then it’s not worth wasting your time over. Children come first.
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immediately. within the first few exchanges of a conversation.
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Let them know before yall get serious.
I tell right away. So that they know my child comes first and the baggage I hold. If they are cool with that and willing to hang then it can go however far the relationship needs.
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I always made it known right away that I have a child, and the she will always come first. If they don’t like the fact that I have a kid or can’t respect that I put her first, then obviously it’s not worth wasting my time.
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I couldn’t keep mine a secret longer than hello. My kids are always what I talk about.
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Immediately, I would personally do it while you are still in the friend zone before there is even a 1st date
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Hello my name is ___, im a mom of a wonderful five year old boy. What’s your name? … that’s how that should go.
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I would immediately tell them I have children. Not have them meet but make sure they are aware as it may be something they are not comfortable with. No point going further then.
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Immediately, that is apart of your identity now… you don’t drop a bombshell like ‘I’m a parent’ after you start dating someone.
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Um. My child is my life. Not a dirty little secret to hide.
Besides if a man won’t accept my child, he’s not worth my time.
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Immediately. They don’t have to meet the child right off the bat but they absolutely should know.
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Right away. I never get passed hello without them knowing
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First date. That’s your entire life.
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Put it in your damn bio. Kid comes first. Weed people out.
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Straight away! Like huh? You meet. You tell eachother about your children. Sometimes I’m stunned but I’m a parent so I dont want to be cruel. But. Right away. That’s your baby and he’s just a maybe!
My mom told my stepdad right off the bat and he told her he had a kid as well
Immediately. That’s usually one of the first things to come out of my mouth when I talk to anyone at work. That’s the only time she isn’t with me
Umm… First time you talk… Like. "Hello my name is______… Blah…blah…blah…and I have a child that is __yrs old… Do you have any children?? "
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Um instantly? Lol wtf.
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Before you go out with them
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If you can’t be honest you are not being authentic
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Ugh. Before you go on a date?
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Uhh…
From the beginning…
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Instantly !!! Dont introduce the kiddos for awhile but def let someone know because they need to know you have priorities and that your child is and will always be in your future some people dont want kids even if it’s not their own always be upfront about having s child
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Right away. But don’t let them meet until your serious. I told my now husband I had a son whne we were just meeting and became friends. I let him meet him months later. Now we’re married and have more. Make sure they love your kids like their own. It’s very important.
Immediately. That’s your kid. End of story.
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Right away silly…
Thats one of the first things I reveal.
From the very beginning. That is a first date kinda thing. You might be with someone that doesnt want to be a parent/step parent.
Why is this even a question
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Immediately! You’ll hurt yourself in the end if this person has no intentions of having a child in his/her life.
I’d let that be known the minute they speak to me…
Why hide the fact you have a kid … the first thing you should of said was … I have a kid that’s my number 1 priority before any man … 
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The shaming on here is unbelievable! There must be so many perfect mothers on this site. Many mothers don’t want to bring up that they have a child as it MAY attract a pedophile. Also do not advertise it on a dating website. Just be careful who you chose to date. Try having a friend set you up! Good luck!
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Upfront, that’s when.
When you can know enough about the person to know they’re not a creep. Background checks. Don’t invite into your home…
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In my opinion? I’d hint at it ask how they feel about kids or if they’d ever want any if so then I’d bring it up but if not then I wouldn’t bother
Immediately. Your child is first, always. And for you to not let someone know upfront makes me question your character…
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Umm…immediately? Like they’re not going to meet the kid on the first date, but if you’re planning on dating someone you need to be straight up with them. If they do happen to someone who maybe doesn’t want kids yet or something like that, they deserve to know before they start developing feelings. How would you feel if a guy you had fallen for suddenly told you he has a kid?
If I was in this position, I’m telling them right away. You act as if he’s a secret. This person would know my kid is my priority and he comes first. End of story!
ASAP! Don’t you think letting him get attached to you and then drop a bomb you have a kid, what if he don’t like kids?
I wouldn’t introduce any time soon tho.
You should tell him by the third date but I would not allow him into your child’s life unless it gets serious down the road. Keep you dating life and your family life separate for now to protect your child’s heart.
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Immediately but the real question and answer is when is it soon enough to introduce
Years…
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Don’t tell anyone you have children unless they ask.
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I’d be straight up let them know right off then they can choose to continue or walk away !!!
It depends on how close you want to get to him
I bring it up casually within days of meeting/talking to them. Like if they ask what I’m doing through text I’ll say “just helping my son with homework.” Not everyone wants to date a mom, don’t waste his time and don’t waste your time. As for the pedophile topic… clearly don’t introduce them to your children immediately and I would never leave my kids alone with a man I’m just dating, ever. I don’t think that has anything to do with when you tell them you have kids. If he’s a pedophile, he will be gone as soon as he realizes you aren’t going to be giving him any opportunity with your kids. So the pedophile statement is ridiculous in my opinion. Be a responsible parent and it shouldn’t be an issue.
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Absolutely in the beginning! (This is only what I would do.) If he isn’t kid friendly, then he doesn’t stand a chance. I wouldn’t give anyone the time of without first and foremost letting them know I have a child. Their response will say more than enough for me to know I need to either cut it off or keep it going. (tbh, I haven’t done this, but it WILL be something I WILL do whenever I choose to give someone the time of day. 
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Upfront. But DO NOT introduce too early. And never ever leave kids alone with them or unsupervised.
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ASAP , before you even hang out. Why entertain someone if they don’t like or want kids ya know.
The sooner the better. It’s their right to know and decide if they want to continue with you.
Might as well tell them now kid is not gonna disappear
At your comfort level. Since you are only talking… maybe on the 1st date
It depends. I’d say never before you’ve been asked out, but definitely by the second date. I wouldn’t put in your online profile that you have a kid, not as a way of really hiding it but to weed out anyone profile searching for single moms. It happens unfortunately. Biggest thing I’d say is don’t introduce them before you’re serious, and be cautious after. I don’t think being scared/paranoid of everyone is the answer, but the fact is there are creeps out there and as a mom you have to be extra careful. Wish you luck.
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So I’m going to put this out there. I’m a single mother to a 10month old. Started dating someone 2months ago. We talked for about a month before meeting, but one of the first things I shared was that I have my child and that my child comes before even myself, and if that’s not okay then you’re not going to be in our lives. I’m not looking for a guy to become “daddy” to my child, bug they need to understand what’s important to me and respect that.
The guy I’m with has been incredibly understanding and supportive and also genuinely takes interest in my child and their well being and helps care for them. He very obviously enjoys spending time with my child and shows them a level of care and compassion that I admire a ton.
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I’m not in the dating life as I am happily married. But if it was me I’d tell them ASAP! I have three kids two boys and a girl 6,3&1 years old. They’re my life and come before anyone or anything!!! There’s way to many people in this world who do not like kids and so many now a days who don’t even want kids. You don’t want to get attached to somebody and then they lose interest because you were not up front with them. But I definitely wouldn’t let him around my kid(s) for a long time you never know about people 🤷
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From the beginning there no need to hide your child when my son was 2 I started dating again after leaving his father and I told from when we 1st started just didn’t take my child out with him til we got serious and here I am 18 yrs later with 3 more beautiful children and my oldest wouldn’t change my husband for his real father at all my husband showed him what his father didn’t and now when he needs to speak with someone he calls him before he calls me lol and when they meet other people they says this is my dad and my husband says hes my oldest never a step in the beginning
Always be upfront, Hiding it will just look dishonest, And it’s not fair to trick someone who doesn’t want kids (if that’s the case) into having a relationship then throwing the child card out there.
I befriend people before dating them and in doing that we get to know each other at a friend level and they know early on I have a young daughter. That way it isnt a shock later on
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It would be one of the first things I talk about. There’s no way I could talk about myself without bringing up my kids.
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Why would you hide it in the first place?
They should know immediately…why hide it? Introducing is diff but just saying u have a kid u should tell right away
Immediately. It needs to be in the first conversation. “Oh btw I have a ____ year old kid. If you’re not interested I understand.”
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Uhhhhh as soon as you meet them? That should be like yalls main convo like omg hey I’m a mom look at my beautiful kids! Lol I mean that’s what I did when I was single. And if they don’t like kids and or don’t want kids …RUN.
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Immediately. Introduction can wait but I never “hide” my child. I really don’t understand why this is even a question.
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I would let him know from jump. I refuse to hide or lie about my child/children.
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When you meet. Don’t let them get attached and then realize they can’t deal with kids.
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I done it on the first meeting my hubby took on the dad role x
I’m married so not really something I’ve had to think about, but as a mom of 5 that’s alot for someone to take in 
I figure I’d probably avoid talking about my kids on the first date because I’m convinced everyone who willingly dates a single mom of 5 would be nuts or a pedophile, but I’d definitely have to mention it very early like date 2 or 3 because why bother getting to know someone who is gonna run once that info comes out?
Before you start dating
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I’m a single mom. I tell them immedietly why waste your time talking or spending it with someone you don’t know wants kids or respect the fact you have kids. I would have told them right away otherwise it’s just a waste of time.
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Before you ever go on a date. Probably the first few conversations.
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The first date/conversation
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I think that depends on what you are looking for, if you are just looking for someone to casually hang out with or a “friend with benefits” there’s no need to disclose that, if you are looking for some type of actual boyfriend that may lead to a serious relationship then disclose at the beginning.
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Say it first thing if they can’t except your child they won’t you in the long run honesty is best
Who hides that they have a kid in the first place. Then and again it depends on how many you have. If u have 1-2 just mention to him “how do u feel I have c amount of kids “. Now if you have more than that I’d wait tbh
If your looking for one night stands I dont see how it’s relevant but if your looking for a relationship, immediately
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Regardless of what you’re looking for you need to make it clear that you are a parent first!! Give them the opportunity to decide if they want to pursue it before it goes any further. That should have been one of the very first conversations. What have yall been talking about this whole time?
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You tell them you have a child/ren but as in meeting I wouldn’t wait a little while first.
I tell up front. When getting to know someone one of their first questions to me is “do you have any kids?”. Wouldn’t hide it and really couldn’t if I wanted to bc they are literally my whole life lol.
Tell him right away so if he’s going to let him go early in the relationship but don’t let him meet him until your sure of a relationship
Immediately 
the fact that you hid the child from him will turn him off !
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You don’t ever hide the fact that you’re a parent. You don’t let anyone around your child until you know them and check for serious red flags, but I would run away from someone who hid the fact that they have a kid in the beginning.
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Immediately. When you have kids they become part of you, who you are. Why wait? If you wait "2-3 monthsc & start to fall for this person & then they decide they don’t want anything to do with that. It would suck for you in the end. Besides your kid(s) deserve better than that.
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