6+ months. Don’t let them get attached to someone and then BOOM, they are gone. I have seen the damage…
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Don’t lie to your kids and tell them he is a friend. Don’t make the decision based on what your ex wants either. Its between you and your boyfriend. You both need to be comfortable when he meets your kids. You need to wait until you know that this is a long term lasting relationship. You need to a have a solid relationship established first.
4-6 months. You want to basically make sure it’s gonna stay working with you guys because if they end up really liking him and it doesn’t work then it’s a let down for them
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It takes 2 to 5 years b4 you know someone… and then you can still get surprised by their true colors. I dated a guy 5 years… we all went out to eat in wednesdays…he never stayed at my house… when they went to one of the fam’s for the night… if stay over at his place. Moved in with him 2 months and insanity insued… not to be a negative Nancy but that all had far reaching consequences for my kiddos
You will know when the time is right they should only meet him if you feel it’s going to be long term
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I think if you see long term potential and so does your partner then you use caution but go ahead and introduce them. It is just a matter of seeing enough potential in the relationship to introduce them more than a set length of time other than at least a few months so you know its not just infatuation making you over look serious problems.
When you are ready to, lve been seperated for quite a while now and lm not ready to date and trust anyone.You know when it’s time, just invite him as a friend your seeing first so the kids get to see him as a person not someone whose going to take your time away, or disrupt your household. Bonding is real important before the lovey Dovey with kids 
well that’s what l would do ,and best beautiful wishes:sparkles:
My children are 28 26 23 21 they didn’t meet my guy For a looong while. LoL I didn’t want to rush anything on either of them. He knew all about them because my kids are all I talked about. 
There’s no rush or time limit. All at your own pace.
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Your kids arent babies but go with your comfort zone. When your ready you will know.
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If you’re questioning it now is not the time. You will know when the time is right for it.
When you do so introduce as a friend and no public display of affections in front of kids until you know for a fact he’ll be a good fit for your kids. Kids come first!!
I guess I don’t understand the big deal just introducing them to someone that you have went out where the few times doesn’t mean you guys are getting married and it’s going to change the rest of their lives
I don’t think its appropriate for anyone to meet my kids until I am pretty darn sure they are going to be in my kids lives for a long, long time.
Every situation is different! When there is a commitment and longevity. I waited almost 3 months and planned on longer until my 10y/o asked to meet him. Kids are 11&13 and only met my now boyfriend during my dating phase.
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Only introduce them if the relationship is to last. Otherwise they the kids could think relationship have no value and are transitory.
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After you figure out weather he is a serial killer or not would be good but if your asking strangers about this it means your not sure either
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I think personally it depends on how comfortable you are with him meeting them. Also, I think it depends on whether or not you’ve had a conversation with your kids about you seeing someone.
Since they know your dating ask them if they want to meet him. This way their not caught off guard.
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If your children know you are dating him then they may as well meet him in person now. As far as anything else is concerned eg him being seen in your bed or at breakfast that depends on what you want to teach your children regarding morals, sex etc.
I say give it at least until 4 months have a conversation with your kids, honest one
I’d wait for 6 months but only introduced as a friend till you see where things go
I met my future bonus children right away as my now husband only had them for the weekend & he worked one of the weekend days, so the boys who were 4 & 6 went most everywhere with us on weekend & he & I saw each other on week day nights.
The kids should meet him or her before you ever go out. It’s their life too.
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If he is wanting to meet your kids then he is planning on staying around for a while. So the next step is yours
I told my now husband I wanted to wait at least 3 or 4 months before I met his daughter to make sure we were going to last. We are now going on 5 years together plus 1 of our own. So take your time ask your kids how they feel meeting your boyfriend. Tell them it’s their choice if they wanna meet right now.
If you’ve done a background check on your boyfriend, ask the kids if and when they want to meet him.
If you believe the Relationship is going somewhere or is already at a point where neither party plans to go anywhere that it’s okay to introduce them. My daughter was 13 and my son was 18. The person I started dating was a high school sweetheart and by the 2cnd date we knew. I didn’t force his presence on them. I asked if they wanted to meet him and both were invited on a family date. My daughter wanted to, my son was unsure so I didn’t push it. I did tell him as honestly as I could that the relationship was pretty solid and that this person wasn’t going anywhere. Now if I had any feeling of doubt it wouldn’t have happened until I had none. And normally if I went out on dates they didn’t meet them period.
It takes some people longer to feel sure. We’re still together going on 4 years and engaged. Ask your children if they are ready to meet him too. Don’t force it if they aren’t but be honest and tell them it will happen eventually because you know this person isn’t going anywhere
I waited 6 months to allow my bf to meet my son. And same for his daddy. His gf met our son around 6 months. No regrets on either side. 
Not until your absolutely sure he is going to stick around.
The experts say 6 months is a good time. By then you know them and it is more serious.
Whenever you feel comfortable. There’s no right time.
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I dont think there is ever a right time in a text book type way
All families are different
At thr end of rhe day the kids come first.
I would concider thier ability to cope with change …
Their feelings toward thier father.
The way they have been coping with the break up between you and thier father
The things they say when they mention your new partner.
If they are happy for you to b going out and seeing this guy .and theyr fully aware and your fully honest with them about your relationship
Then i dont see a problem in a sooner the better meeting .
If they seem to be unhappy in anyway
Then push it out a while .until they r ready
Also … because u have asked this question …i also question if you yourself are ready
Its great to have a separate realtionship with another adult…esp of the opposite sex…
Because u are reminded that ur not just a mother.
And its wonderful to feel that freedom every now and again…
When you amalgamate the two … the family unit becomes more aparant…and its hard to go back
When i met my partner now after my marriage broke down …my kids were not happy .
I told them … i am not asking u to like it…im asking u to tolerate it for me…
11 yrs on and that worked out just fine for me…
And is still is working…
Your gut will tell u whats right for u because deep down u know what the answer is…for you… already.
Good luck. X
He wants to meet the kids? Go for it.
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How soon do you want to meet your kids friends?
Months ago since he wanted to meet them.
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Pick one I guess as I’m totally confused.
I waited a year. Till I knew we were serious
We waited almost 3 months
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Sounds like a nice guy if he wants to meet your children. Maybe it’s time
My husband of 25 years now, had this same question. We ’ met’ each others’ kids at a Cubbies game, by sitting across the stadium from one another. With binoculars! They actually didnt meet in person until we had been seriously dating for almost a year.
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A friend had a 6 month rule.
6 months min. To meet a year to spend the night 
Good time now. Dont wait too long, need to see if hes compatible with the kids and family life sooner than later.
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No less than three months
I didn’t introduce my kids until I was sure I wanted a future him and that was like 7 months. I also had my mother there for comfort.
The day before the wedding
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Let them meet the guy christ its not gunna hurt.
Also it shouldn’t be about the bf wanting to meet the kids, it should be about the kids wanting to meet him or you loving him enough to want the kids to meet him because you know he’ll be around for awhile. It’s not the bf’s feelings that matter in this situation.
Ask the children!!!
When you as a parent decide there is no time line its your decision
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If you can’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person, don’t bother introducing them to your kids.
If it’s serious and you’ve been together a while.
I waited a year before I introduced to my current husband
After your kids graduate high school.
When you’re for sure committed to building a future together and the background check comes back clean.
Right away if thing’s are good between you. See if he can. handle kids.
If it’s long term/going to be permanent…then
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Please investigate his background.
7 months to a year. The 1st 6 months are the trial period
Wait atleast two years, his your boyfriend not your husband and why is he in such a hurry and ready to meet your kids?? He should stay away from them please.
You will feel in know the time
I introduced my son to my current bf after a mnth cuz I knew we were going to be together long term weve been together about 3 years now and have a daughter … Everyone is different you will know when the time is right
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Better safe than sorry
I waited as long as possible before they meet someone I was dating
Ask the children if they would like to meet him - they are old enough to have a choice
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My sons father left us before he was a year old. When I started dating again I didnt let anyone meet my son. I was dating a guy for a couple months and he was fine with not meeting my son because I wasnt ready yet. One day my son got sick while we were on a date. My boyfriend told me the date wasn’t over we were just making my sons trip to the hospital a part of it because if he wants to be with me he wants to be there for everything I go through. That was 3 years ago and the man hasnt left our side since. He is a great daddy to my son and he is my best friend. You just gotta go with your gut. When you feel it is time then it’s time. Let him meet your babies momma. Then you will know if he is real or not.
But it’s got to be odd for the kids not to know who moms going out with. Even odder when she away for a sleepover. It’s a thin line to walk for the mother. Most important she cares, kudos for her. I seen too many woman drag guys in and out of their kids life. Perhaps their could meet at a non date situation. I wish her good luck. If she’s dating him for months, she should know if he is a keeper or toss back.
Don’t wait…if you wait for your children to meet a man “the man” chances are they’re not gonna like him BUT if you introduced them to all friends male and female and teach them how to be social they will most likely be more accepting when you finally introduce them to “the one.” You’re basically teaching your kids how to be social… even in an uncomfortable situation…and that’s important for them to learn.
Make sure you sit you’re children down and ensure they fully understand that they never keep secrets for an adult and that their private parts are private and if anyone tries to touch them to tell you immediately etc etc. Literally as clear as that. You must teach your children this to keep them safe if you are going to bring in a man into your home. I think it is a bit of a red flag for a man to be asking to meet your kids so soon personally and I wouldn’t even consider introducing a man to my child unless we were dating for at least 6months.
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Once its actually serious. You can’t parade men in and out of their lives just because you are dating. If you haven’t discussed a future, then don’t act like he will be a part of theirs.
I went through something similar when I left my first husband. After about 4 months I decided to bring him around but only as a friend. My kids never saw us holding hands hugging kissing or anything. Honestly I wanted to see if he was compatible with my kids because I knew we were but if they weren’t it would’ve been done.
After 3 months. You need to see how they interact with your kids. Need to see if they can handle all the pressures of kids.
I waited 6 months and he was the one and only.
To each their own i guess. At least a year for me.
Sit them down and let them decide x
If you really have feelings for him then just do it, your kids are old enough to understand and know what is going on one is a teen and the other pretty much a tween. Your kids are probably curious who the person is anyways.
I think that if you have to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet that question, you’ve probably already answered it in your mind and know that it’s too soon. You are the only one that knows the dynamic of your family and how it would affect your children to meet someone that you are dating
YOU know what’s good and comfortable for YOUR family! No one else can determine that! Trust that gut mama!! Think of it this way also if your having to ask then is it really the right time? Good luck!!! I don’t miss the dating days being a single mom it was hard!!
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I’d wait…a few months isn’t enough time to know him and how he is with children wait at least 6 months and watch him carefully ,no man is worth the safety of your children
My kids are young… 6, 4 and 2.5. I have court orders and they say 6 months before a relationship is introduced.
I’d wait until you both are very serious about each other. If you have girls I wouldn’t trust any new boyfriend around them.
Everyone’s experience is different.
My fiance met my older two just a couple weeks after we got back together.
It’s been almost 3 years and he is a better father to them than their dad has ever been or will ever be. He claims them as his and hopes to one day adopt them both.