My husband and i are playing pass the buck. We know we don’t want more kids and he is trying to convince me to get my tubes tied while i think he should get the vasectomy. Is one more effective that the other or is one more risky a procedure?
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Tubal is invasive. Vasectomy is a simply snip snip
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Both are about the same when it comes to still being able to slip up and have another child. Getting your tubes tied and burned is more effective in my opinion though.
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As depends on you, tubal is more invasive, longer recovery time. Vasectomy is simple. Consider this, if you’ve had a c section or more than one, he should get the snip.
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Vasectomy is a 10 minute office procedure. 3 day tops recovery. So much easier for him than you!!
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They can do a test to see if a vasectomy worked. There is no test to see if a tubal actually worked. A vasectomy is a simple office visit as a tubal is an actual procedure that you have to be put under for.
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I think since you CARRIED your child for 9 Months & Gave Birth that HE should step up to the plate & get a vasectomy.
You’ve already gone thru enough
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How about you both get it done on each of your ends?
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Neither is 100% unless you get your tubes removed rather than just tied or burned.
My best friend has 3 younger siblings that came after a vasectomy reversal. So I got my tubes tied. No faith in it after I’ve seen it can be reversed 
Vesectomy is a quick snip snip and more simple, it can also fail. Tubal is more invasive, and you can either get them cut and burned, or cut out and removed. I’m getting mine cut and removed next month, he said that had a 100% success rate to where getting them cut and burned was like a 98% or something.
Vasectomy is more effective with less chance of side effects and failure.
Vasectomy. In office procedure. Not a major surgery
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You’ve done enough of the work, make him get the vasectomy. Lol.
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Both the same but easier for a man to have done
Vasectomy will make his semen thinner and taste better lol tubal does nothing cool like that, it’s just invasive and painful. Highly recommend vasectomy
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The snip can ve undone. Where as if you get your womb taken out, then there’s no going back if one or both change your mind’s at a later date.
Vasectomy is way easier and cheaper. Also not done under general anesthesia which has other risks
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My husband is getting a vasectomy. Less invasive and no long term issues. I’ve seen so many women have issues after getting their tubes tied, etc. My husband is happy to get fixed once we have our little one
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Vasectomy is less invasive, easier recovery, and can be redone if wanted in the future. Its generally very easy process, but my hsband had a rough one and had some issues from it. Super super rare though
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Neither one is more reliable than the other. My brother’s best friend is a product of parents with one of each. Let that soak in
It is a lot easier for him. I had it done and was back to work on my next work day.
I had my Fallopian Tubes removed.
It reduces risks of all “Women’s Cancers” and breast cancer by atleast 20%
I got my tubes taken out last fall. Best decision I made! I am in control if I want more kids or not, no one else… so I made the decision to get my tubes taken out.
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You had the kids let him get the snip
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Vasectomy is easier, cheaper, and less painful
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I was just at the doctors yesterday asking this question
BOTH are 99.9% effective not one is better then the other according to my doctor
I was told the male is a less invasive surgery then the female. Less chance of things going wrong
And for where I live Both are a free surgery
Him being done is easier and faster. In and out basically. Tubals are the worst because it takes weeks to heal
Vasectomys are less invasive and have less recovery time. They also present less future complications. Tubes being tied can still lead to tubal pregnancy among other serious issues.
Vasectomy is easier and less recovery. This coming from the mouth of a doctor who does them (not me, a doc we spoke to) 
Vasectomy is supposed to be a safer procedure. Neither that nor a tubal is guaranteed tho.
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I’m getting my tubes clamped but that’s also cause I’m having a csection. If I was doing a vaginal delivery then he would be the one getting a vasectomy 
Both about the same to me I had a tubal because he sort of made me and he had a vasetomy already …be sure it’s what you want cause mine was a mistake now I want more kids.
My hubby and I are both getting done.
Vasectomy
Cheaper and less painful. Also supposed to be safer
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Vasectomy is less invasive
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Vasectomy! His is a short office visit with only a couple of days of recovery. Yours would be a stay in the hospital with surgery and longer recovery period. And how old are your children? Who is going to take care of them?
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Tubal is inpatient and vasectomy is outpatient
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Me and my husband had the same type of conversation when I was pregnant with her fourth child. I decided that I would get my tubes tied my insurance covered it 100%. I had it done the day after she was born. The only issue that I have right now is that my periods are shorter however the cramps are worse. However I would not change that I would still get it done.
My husband got a vasectomy for most of the reasons listed here. I offered to get my tunes tied, clipped and burned lol but he refused because it’s harder on a woman to get fixed and I gave birth twice so he felt it was the least he could do.
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He gets the snip. In office 20 minute procedure with local anesthesia and minimal incisions.
You get a tubal ligation done, you’re looking at an in-hospital 2 hour minimum procedure, general anesthesia, abdominal cavity filled with gas, 2-3 day hospital recovery, then another 2 weeks or so of recovery at home.
I did it for myself…
I just had both my tubes removed! and no regrets here!! They dont tie them anymore here because of the tubals that are possible with them being tied.
My husband got a vasectomy 11 years ago after our youngest was born. It wasn’t a 10 minute procedure like some have mentioned, but it was simpler than getting tubes tied and you can check later to make sure it worked. We never did that, but 11 years later we never had another baby. 
I watched his procedure and it was more, I don’t know the word (invasive maybe?) than I thought. Maybe it’s different now. He had stitches and one didn’t dissolve and he had to pull it out. 
Anyway, I felt that I went through child birth and carrying his children, he could do his part and he was happy to.
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If both don’t want more kids, then both should get sterilized. I’ve given birth 4 times including a very tramatic last birth where I almost bleed out. I still don’t expect my husband to alter his body if he doesn’t want to get a vasectomy.
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Get both. Vasectomies are safer procedures but I’d feel better also having my tubes done up.
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Vasectomy. Hands down- I had a ligation and 7 years later started getting pregnant again. I would miscarry and no doctor would believe it was actually happening. Finally, one pregnancy stuck- at about 7- 8 weeks along my tube ruptured. Had internal bleeding, almost died. We had to remove that tube- and we later corrected the remaining tube, had 2 more, and he got a vasectomy. - Best decision!! My OB said he wouldnt even recommend ligations because vasectomies are so much easier.
Vasectomy no question. Not only is it a safer and easier procedure but it puts responsibilty onto your husband for your reproductive health as a couple. My husband got one 13 years ago and it was one of the best decisions we ever made.
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My doctor talked me into getting a IUD. Takes 15 minutes to go in and I now have no periods. Plus, no surgical recovery time. Win all the way around 
Jacqueline tell him to get snip lol
Both are outpatient procedures in Oklahoma but from experience with a tubal (I had really bad problems after my tubal, for nearly 5 years) and my best friend (he had a vasectomy, so did my sisters husband) they’ve never had issues and they were on their feet faster
I tried to get my husband to get a vasectomy because with our youngest i had an emergency csection at 34 weeks (since it was an emergency they didn’t tie my tubes while i was cut open) but my husband didnt like the idea so i went back 2 1/2 weeks later and got my tubes tied
Vasectomy is safer by far.
Check into your insurance too. I wanted him to get snipped but insurance wouldn’t cover his procedure but my insurance covered a tubal. The recovery definitely sucks but the results the same
Vasectomy. I had a tubal and I do not regret it at all because it puts me in control of my own body and what I want but it was rough. They state mild discomfort near incision. Some shoulder pain from the gas dissipating. You should be good to go in a couple days. I was out of commission for over a week. The shoulder pain was one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt in my life. The incision wasnt terrible but I could feel a deep soreness where my tubes were. You have to be put to sleep so it’s a legit surgery. All the things I’ve heard about a vasectomy seem much easier. Done in your doctors office. Less downtime. Less pain. Cheaper.
I had a hysterectomy at age 40…best decision ever 
Tell him to suck it tf up
My husband said it’s the least he could do after I had 2 babies come out of my vagina! What the hell is wrong with some men 
I personally am getting my tubes tied ASAP. i personally dont want another baby in my body. Thats how i feel, my husband really doesnt want a procedure. So okay 
as usual ill take care of it lol
Gets the clamps, quick recovery!
Vasectomy is far less invasive and recovery time is less than getting tubes tied
Some of y’all really get mad when men tell women what to do with their bodies, but have no problem telling this woman she should tell her husband what to do with his body. Nah, that is not how the game is played, that’s not equality. That’s hypocrisy.
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Vasectomy is much easier and safer.
How about you both get fixed call it even
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What do you want? I had enough children. I had my tubes removed
I did a tubal AND an ablation. No period since I had mine in 2009!
A vasectomy is an in-office procedure, all they do is numb the area and maybe give him a little Valium, and then they cut and snip them. If you choose to have a hysterectomy it’s does a full-on surgery, put under abs all, and most women stay at least overnight if not longer and that’s barring any complications… I would say vasectomy, even both. But his is the least intrusive and equal effective. Just MAKE SURE he goes to his follow up to make sure he’s shooting blanks 
If you’re not lined up for a c section and you’re sure you don’t want more go with the vasectomy. Tubal recovery is as intense as a c section.
Vasectomy …easy peasy for these reasons:
1 -youve done enough already, his turn
2 -its not you
3 -its only a 20 min in office procedure, you go home right after where your guy will sit on some frozen peas lol
4 -it takes 2 days or less for swelling to go down and can return to work (our dr does vesectomy appointments only on fridays so noone misses any work)
5 - it takes around roughly 30-60 ejaculations for LIVE sperm to leave the body, so you could still have another child if you have a change of heart until dr gives the ok your husband is sterile.
My husband had a vasectomy after I had our 2nd child but we decided we wanted a 3rd afterwards… so we did!!! Our last 2 kids are exactly 12 months 1 week apart.
I told my husband for the beginning since I’m the one having the babies and going through all the pain he was gonna be the one to get snipped. A month after I had our 4th and last girl he got snipped and he hasn’t had any issues. Our Youngest is 16 months
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I know the father of my son had a vasectomy done 3.5 almost 4 years b4 we got together and his grew back together so we now have our wonderful miracle baby so with either one there is always risks
I had my tubes tied in 2005 and I was down for two days. I have had no problems.
Vasevtomy is much easier on his body and less dangerous accpording to my dr years ago.
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Vasectomy! My husband laid around for the weekend. Very easy procedure.
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In all honesty my husband and myself didn’t want anymore kids and he isn’t about getting fixed so I got my tubes removed plus the way I looked at it if something happened to our marriage I know that I would be having anymore babies where he still will have that worry 
You did your job. Vasectomies are way easier on the body than tubal litigation. So you have to carry the babies, birth the babies, heal from having babies for many months? He can quit being a jerk and sit on some peas for a few days.
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I had a tubal done and unless you just had a baby I don’t recommend it. Its painful during the recovery time.
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I say, both y’all do it, decreases chances of another pregnancy.
But i got tubal in 2006 and had no issues or pain. Down for a couple days, was careful not to bend and lift too much, but was a breeze, for me. No scar, either. Neither of us wanted more kids but I wanted the tubal so I knew darn well I did my part and if I get pregnant, I can blame him😂
Call a draw and both get fixed
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Vasectomy is an out patient procedure with shorter healing time. A tubal is much more involved similar to having a csection.
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He has zero reason to pass this responsibility onto you. You had the babies, he can suck it up and get a small invasive surgery.
Who is his mother? I need to have a convo with her.
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Got my tubes tied same day had my second baby.after regular birth.recovey no problem. That was 40 yrs ago
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Vasectomy. Tubal ligation can cause a lot of problems for some women. Google tubal ligation syndrome.
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I wanted my tubes tied (actually preferred my husband to get a vasectomy) so we talked to my OB and the way he explained it seriously made me laugh. He said with a man, there are so many small tubes, that you’re basically playing a guessing game on which one is the one to cut. Like reaching into a bowl full of spaghetti looking for one certain noodle😂 he also said that the healing for a man/woman depends solely on the person and their body. He told me if I wanted a more “full proof” solution that he recommended I have the procedure. Which I did and was fine within a day.
Anytime someone has a surgery in which anesthesia is used there is a risk (tubal). A vasectomy is an in office procedure offering little to no risk. Other factors to consider are, the recovery is faster, the cost is cheaper and if in the future you change your mind and wish to have another child the chances of reversal are greater and again the cost cheaper. They are both highly effective (of course you have to have confirmation if no swimmers from the doctor before you can stop birth control, which takes some time) and both pose a small chance of regrowth. However, again if the male vasectomy fails…you end up pregnant if a tubal fails your chances of ending up with a tubal pregnancy, which are never viable and can sometimes be life threatening if not caught early enough, are much larger. The moral of this story is…he gets the snip snip!
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He should have the vasectomy and you should get an IUD. Done 
If you’ve birthed a few kids, the least he could do is get snipped!!!
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Vasectomy is less invasive and less possible complications. My OB said with tubal there is a chance of having phantom or unexplainable pains for the rest of your life that are said to be worst than period cramps. I’d also check with insurance since it may cost more to do tubal then vasectomy
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Vasectomy is definitely most effective because their cauterise both sides of snipped tunes these days, so no chance of sperm escaping.
Whereas women can still become pregnant with a tube tie it just causes loss of pregnancy and possible danger to the mother of pregnancy goes on. So I’d say vasectomy.
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Vasectomies are less invasive. Idk about Vasectomies but getting tubes tied causes a range of issues to at least 10% of women who get them done. You did the hard work carrying and delivering the kids. It his turn.
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His is a simple 20min office visit.
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My ex had his done after our boys were 2. From what I know, it’s holding strong after 14 years. I wanted to, but he didn’t like the idea of taking care of twin 2 year old boys while I was in the hospital. But seriously, would have jumped at it if he chickened out.
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My mom got her tubes tied, and we’ll 24 years later, here I am…
Sorry, I don’t wanna sound negative, just telling what happened with my mom…
Surley not every women is the same,
He should get a vasectomy, they can be reversed.
Let him get a vasectomy it’s a easy procedure
Both can be reserved if children are wanted. But talk to you ob-gyn for other birth control to use and it is long term also if you decide to have another child. easy no surgery required
Vasectomy. Non invasive. Takes 5 minutes. He stays conscious. They simply numb the area, not knock him out for hours.
Make him do it.tubals can cause lots of issues for your hormones and even alot.of times r the leading cause for hysterectomy
I had my tubes removed because that is what they do now. There is no going back. I have 5 babies but i am only 28. I kind of regret it. I also had a hard recovery, i lost a lot of blood and then a month after had a pulmonary embolism. Now i have irregular painful periods. Completely up to you but do talk to your doctor about risks.
My husband had a vasectomy a few years back. It was done right in his doctors office in 20 minutes.