He honestly probably doesn’t want to marry you.
But like others have suggested, ask him what’s up.
Maybe because he knows there is nothing for a man to gain from marriage that he doesn’t already have.
Time to fish or cut bait. Stop giving wife perks to a man that isn’t willing to do the right thing.
If it ain’t broke don’t fix it. Your time will come.
I would recommend just asking him
It’s just a piece of paper. Maybe he wants to be more stable
Don’t rush things. . You said he was engaged or married before . . Prolly why he hasn’t popped the question. .
Don’t marry someone you can’t 0pen up to.
Ridiculous…8 years? Lol…
He’s got the cow, why buy the milk?
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Ask him … speak up …
Haven’t you ever heard the old saying, “Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?”
Why buy the cow when you get the milk free?
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Cuz you ain’t the one. If you were, you would not be asking those questions.
Ask him about commitment.
Depending upon his answer and your discussion. Propose to him.
Why haven’t YOU asked HIM?! We’re in 2021 now, not 1930.
The only one to answer that would be him. Plus it sounds like y’all are already practically married anyways. Like have y’all ever talked about these things as a couple?
It’s easy… you’re not worth it. Next problem please.
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ask him, not strangers
He doesn’t want all the stuff you listed in the first 5-7 lines to stop 
Why are you asking us? Ask him.
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My partner waited 11yrs a house and 2 kids before he proposed. I was 43.
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My husband and I have been together 16 years, he proposed 5 years ago, we have two kids and just married this past June. Don’t be down about it, sometimes the BEST things take time 
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I think you need to be honest and let him know how your feeling!
Hopefully you will get the answer you want to hear 
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I’m a little biased; my husband and I married three years in at 17 
We knew pretty early we wanted to marry. We were talking about it at 15 and knew that is what we wanted even knew we wanted a child before we were 28 etc.
Almost 12 years(15 together)later we are still going strong. If you want it talk to him and be sure you both want the same things. If two kids can talk it out surely you can.
Ive heard from some men that if they are with someone havent proposed they are 1. Keeping open options AKA not sure if youre the one 2. Not ready to commit marriage is a huge thing to most people.
I just got engaged last year, been with my guys since we was both 22… but we was on and off when we was in high school. I think waiting for the right time is worth it… I don’t see my wedding anytime soon… my mom was engaged for 12 years then got married basically at the beginning of this year. They love each other and never rushed each other. If you want a ring just tell him you want a ring. I’m sure that’s what your waiting on??
If 8ts not broke don’t fix it … many of people have lived happy healthy lives as just being a couple… if something should happen ( sickness wise ) to were one might pass and the other is worried about losing everything make a will or get married then other wise why worry
10 year anniversary proposal for us!
Maybe he doesn’t believe the commitment is in marriage but in the life you’ve built together.
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Not sure lol we’ve been together 15 years. Still not married. Probably won’t happen🤷♀️ such is life I suppose
If you don’t ask him you will never know the answer.
Some guys don’t want to be married and honestly you don’t have to be to be happy
My husband and I owned a house together for over 8 years before he proposed. He never did actually propose, just asked my Dad for my hand should he ever… Then just never did. I didn’t care about a marriage or wedding as I felt we were already married in God’s eyes and in accordance to the Bible. I didn’t care about making it “official” to the church and / or state, the little rebel that I am. It took my parent’s tricking us into a wedding for it to finally happen, 9.5 years after we had gotten together. B/c of their little scheme, we were married on a different date than we would have picked for ourselves for sentimental reasons, so now we get to celebrate our anniversary twice / yr; once on the day we would have chosen and again on our “official” wedding anniversary. All’s well that ends well! (He went along w/ the wedding at that time b/c he felt ready to have children and wanted to guarantee they’d have his last name.)
Youre looking for a ring while renting a room in his Dads house? He doesnt even want to rent, pay bills for you to have privacy in an apartment…lots of red flags with this dudeand youre a convenience to him, free sex, no kids & free sitter for his family…throwing your good years away for all his needs…the fear of asking about a future is a sign you d9nt want the truth after 8 yrs.
He s getting every thing with out a commitment thn whats the reason to be married 
He wont be marrying you in my opinion …
But hope for the best
I hate to say it but why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free. Obviously he does not see marriage as an important thing as you do . Take Goldie Hawn’s significant other have been together a very long time . Some people get married and the relationship changes and they get divorced . Don’t fall into I have not been asked to be his wife so I am not worthy . Cherish your relationship if you do not have religious reasons for wanting to get married.
You have to communicate with him your wants because if that’s what you want and he loves you, he’ll do that for you. However, if he is not at a place financially and career wise then that may be the reason why he hasn’t pop the question. Most men want to feel financially secure first before they start moving into bigger commitment such as marriage/children. Also, being 32 I understand that the biological clock is ticking and it gets harder to conceive as you get older. There people here talking about you don’t need marriage to prove your love etc, BUT that’s THEM. If YOU WANT marriage then that’s what YOU NEED to communicate.
Everyone defines relationships differently and if you want engagement, marriage, and children to solidify your relationship then communicate that. If he doesn’t agree with what you want, then you need to move on. Find someone else who’s willing to give that to you. You deserve the things YOU WANT! DO NOT get complacent and just settle if YOUR NEEDS aren’t being meant! You DESERVE everything you WANT in a relationship!
Why should he give you a ring — you are doing everything without it!
It’s because he can’t trust you farther than he could throw you chew on that for a little while this is exactly why this app that you’re on and whatever else you been doing she don’t want to get into it how finances or anything tied to you that ties him to it there you go have a wonderful day
After 5 years I would’ve been gone…
But I’d have warned him on year 2
Geez sounds like he loves you, isn’t sure or is worried about being able to provide…
just my family’s personal experience 2 different people both in 10 year+ relationship there’s always been someone on the side
Sounds like your being strung along. You may want to discuss it.
he smarter than that …
Why buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?
I would be asking him.Nobody on social media can give you the answer.