Because you do the same repetitive shit every single day, but becaude you’re raising a child, you cant necessarily see the progress you made that day. So in turn it feels like you were busy all day but didn’t really even do anything. Thats how I interpret it anyway.
Personally for me it was amazing I got to stay home for a short 6 months and had worked before and after
Missing those moments with my baby hurt so much worse than anything else.
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There’s absolutely no breaks! U don’t clock in or out ? There’s no designated lunch. Ur home ALL DAY with a child that’s running ur life. can’t call in sick. can’t show up late. some days that baby is going to give u HELL. Teething , sleep regression, being sick. Etc etc. it’s HARD! There’s no adult contact. u loose urself a little. I’ve been at home with my 2 year old since he was born. I stayed home with my oldest 6 months. Now my baby girl is on the way. I’m 2 weeks.
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It takes a tole on your mental state. That’s the part I consider the hardest.
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Stay at home mom is a 24hours 7 day job. I’ve been doing it for 5 months now, daughter was born in Dec. I also have an 11 year old. There’s always things to be done with the children, and the housework. And my LO wakes 2-3 times a night still. But it’s been amazing and I love everyday I’m able to be home.
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It’s a gift to do so. It’s not really hard. I did it for 7 years. Maybe I was blessed with really good kiddos. I was also a military spouse away from home and family. Still didn’t find it hard.
I found it WAY more difficult to be a working single mom going to school.
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I’ve done both, a stay at home mother and a mother who worked and did school full time. Yes, being home with your children is a blessing but it’s challenging. Having TONS of patience and a routine that works for everyone is the best way to survive 
it’s emotionally draining, especially when you barely have any help. The list goes on but I treasure being home with my kids. 
When I worked and did school full time as a mother, I had a break because I was busy doing other things. I was making friends, I was making my own money, etc. Yes, you still care for your kids and house but not all day, everyday! As a working mother though, you miss out on milestones… you miss your children like crazy and you tend to feel guilty for doing things for yourself or to survive because for many families, one income isn’t enough.
Both roles are extremely challenging. We’re amazing for what we do for our kids and we should be proud of ourselves.
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During this pandemic it has been the hardest. We have had crazy weather so we haven’t been able to play outside much. I have a 3 year old and a 18 month old. Dad works all day and I make sure everything is pretty much done in the house, kids appointments. Trying to find someone to relieve you from being closed up is unreal. No shopping only grocery store pickup, crazies lurking so you can’t go out as a one parent and risk someone snatching your kiddos. I love behind closed doors and we cannot see the world I honestly feel that is the hardest. I’m 38 and I have worked until my 3 year old was born and returned after he was born just to get fired because of the sickness with daycare. The struggle is real no matter if your a stay at home mom or a working mom. Working mom stays awake with baby and tries to function at work just to get home clean, cook, bath repeat. Stay at home mom well drink tons of coffee and pray because it’s either going to be a busy day running after toddlers
Stay at home mommy is the most blessed job a mother can have. Yes it is a 24/7 job, but you and no else gets to take care of your own kids, you take care of your house, you don’t have to wake your babies up early in the morning to take them to the babysitter/daycare. You don’t have to go to work outside of your house after having all the bad nights sleep because you have to get up to nurse your child, you don’t have to come back home to clean up and cook and everything else after working all day outside and the list goes on. I was very happy to be a stay home mommy and always had consideration for all the working mommies and the single mommies that have to do it all by themselves.
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It’s a selfless “job” that is 24/7, 7 days a week with no time off. It’s constant and consuming. You spend all of your time taking care of other people, that you forget to take care of yourself. It’s never having any time alone to yourself, and rarely getting a break. It’s challenging, exhausting, draining, lonely, repetitive and not easy by any means. It is hard, but also rewarding. There are good days and there are bad days, but when those good days happen, it’s a feeling like no other. As moms, we can lose ourselves in the process of motherhood because with taking care of everyone else’s needs, we forget to take care of our own. I am a stay-at-home Mom of 3… ages 5, 3 and 1, and most days I feel like I got hit by a bus at the end of the day. However, I also feel very blessed & grateful that I get to be present for everything in their young lives, watching them grow and learn and the bond I have with my children is unbreakable. When It’s a not so good day, I remind myself that they are not going to be little forever and one day I am going to miss them needing me for everything and wanting to be around me every second of everyday… so I need to cherish the days I have now with them as much as possible because one day I will miss it.
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Because it’s literally a 24 hour a day job, especially when they are that young… You can start to lose your identity and feel like a mother is the only thing you are. But you are so much more! Try to take some time for a hobby, play dates with friends so you can have adult conversation and don’t let yourself feel bad for needing a break. It can be lonely and when you’re always tired it’s easy to get depressed and feel hopeless. It will get better as they get older but for now don’t beat yourself up over the things you can’t get done because those things don’t matter as much as you think. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family.
Its lonely, tiring, no adult conversation, no breaks, time consuming, stressful. It’s so hard but it’s also the MOST rewarding job ever. Getting to watch your child grow, learn new things, and care for them the way you want them to be cared for.
2 times a night that’s a cake walk!
For starters: #1 being touched out #2 no personal space #3 no break, down time, or anything of the sort, its hands on legit 24/7 to the point it feels more like 48/7. I didnt have the time nor the energy to actually shower, shave, brush my hair, my teeth, eat and have a cup of coffee all in the same day unless I sacrificed the already sacred few hours of actual sleep I got, and even when I did manage to get all that done by the grace of god, I still thought I heard my child every 2 seconds… and that’s not to mention all the cleaning and what not the still has to happen, the endless laundry, smelling like spit up for pretty much ever… even more so all the damn bottles, and the pumping… god the pumping… I could keep going… my son is my biggest blessing but I was beyond exhausted and overwhelmed and touched out and anytime I voiced that I was told i should just be grateful for my little miracle, i was like damn it i am but just because i became a stay at home mom doesnt mean i stopped being a human being
I would give anything to be a stay at home mom. I’ve missed out on so much time with my son. I have an essential job so once everything shut down I was stuck at work not seeing my child for over 12 hours because there was just no staff. Everyone was getting sick.
I totally understand momma! I was a stay home mom of 3 under 3 it’s hard at times but I got used to it. They grow up so fast
Its lonely even if you have a good support system. Its hard work and 24/7. Always take time for yourself no matter what its important to your mental health.
Its never ending… the job of stay at home mom…it takes a lot from you but remember you are human and deserve time to yourself to eat sleep and normal human things!
I’ve been a single working Mom and a sahm now for almost 8yrs. Being a sahm has been the hardest yet most rewarding job I’ve ever had. I’m my house its most definitely not a thankless job because my husband is so helpful and supportive of everything I do every day for our family. He is always thanking me every single day for all that I do. I also thank him in turn as well. He doesn’t put everything on me. He steps with the kids as soon as he’s done with work, helps with the laundry, dishes, helping pick up the house, gets up with the kids on the weekends so I can sleep in/lounge in bed as long as I want to. I’m not in this alone and I’m so thankful. Yes it is 24/7 and it does get really hard when sleep deprived from breastfeeding, teething, sick kids, appointments, school drop offs and pick ups, sports, volunteering, upkeeping the house, being a chef for 3 meals a day. It does get isolating especially this last year with everything being shutdown.
It’s hard for me because I have no one else and I’m a writer and full time student. So when my guy is working, I’m doing everything while trying to chase her around. (And often when he’s not working is the same)
I love being her mom but sometimes I just want to sit for a bit. And I feel that if I had a friend or sibling or parent that was willing to just come over for 30 minutes so I can nap during a busy day, everything would be ok.