That’s where I ducked up. Don’t do it. You can love someone from afar. Put yourself first like he did. It’s scary but it’s worth it. Go be with family. If he really cared it wouldn’t have been that many girls. He’s only changing because he got caught. Sending love. I know the feeling. I left mine and now I’m with someone that gives me the world. You deserve the same.
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Once a cheater always a cheater
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One I could forgive him for. But three times…oh no.
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Sadly i doubt that cheating is a hurdle that you can easily overcome, Good luck and God speed to the brave souls who try 
He cheated on you not once, but three times. One girl is saying she is pregnant by him but he is saying the time frame doesn’t match up… A lot of men who cheat will play like they won’t and then show some change…then when they get your trust again, the cheat again.
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Kick him out!!!
You deserve 100% better
And 0nce a cheater always a cheaterb
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He did this 3 times? That’s a pattern.
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I have learned the hard way once a cheater always a cheater…I gave chance after chance and yeah I heard I only want you now and I’m changing… only for them to cheat again and again…until I finally had enough. Once they know they can get away with it, no matter what they say they will keep cheating.
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Not until you truly forgive him and not just say you forgive been there
Man he sounds like he’s never going to change I know it’s hard but get a new good man.
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The point of him doing it more than once and not admitting at the time about the other two I know I couldn’t stay especially since all of a sudden he found out you know and came clean trying to prove to you now he should of always put you first. I would definitely start putting my self first than him and start coming up with an escape plan some times marriages aren’t worth saving
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See how u feel if he has to pay child support , someday
If you want to settle for that type of treatment towards you then go ahead. I couldn’t ever allow someone to do me like that, I know im worth someone better. The love would be lost for me and I’d move on with my children. I’d want my daughter to know her worth as well by setting the example. And for my son to know this is not ok to do to his partner and to know not to expect second chances. Not everyone deserves 2nd chances imo. .
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If your gonna stay with him your have to leave the past in the past
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It’ll never ever be the same. Once that line has crossed, that is it.
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Yes, with time and trust. Try watching relationship after fidelity videos on YouTube.
Yeah no that relationship is already over and should be and you should run away from that and never look back because you are way better than staying with someone who can’t be loyal to you… take your dignity and go girl … you are so worth much more than that 
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Get rid of him. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
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How could he possibly prove he’s changing? Cause he’s temporarily being nice?? Helping more? 
It will never be the same. I highly doubt you’ll get over that. And I highly doubt he came fourth with everything. Not will he not do it again. That’s a lot of lies and continuous deceit. He’s trash. But you do you.
I’m sure there’s more 100%
No ! I’ve gone through it ! You won’t ever get over it . Especially if his attitude is that he thinks you should get over it !
You will never ever trust him again .
He will cheat again .
It will never be as it was but you and your relationship can grow to be stronger if it works
So you’re 18-21 years old? Yeah, you should end things. 1/3 of your life this far isn’t really that much time.
That’s BS, it’s bad enough he lies to you - don’t lie to yourself! You could get a STD permanently! Take care of you momma, your kids are depending on you to make good decisions and staying with him is not.
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Nope… and it will happen again… leave
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Get out NOW he’s not gona stop cheating!!!
No, basically your dating your own tristisn Thompson. And Khloe said the same rubbish of him changing too then look what happened, again, but with a baby. You do you but you’ll never get over it in my experience
I’ve heard of relationships working after cheating. But from my personal experience. You never get over it. You will always have trust issue and second guess everything. And you will always be on high alert when things seem off.
So you need to decide, if you are willing to live with the feeling you feel now (because is won’t go away) or do you decide to find peace else where, even if it’s by yourself. Only you can truly answer that. I’m sorry for your pain. But it’s not a fun feeling at all.
U will never get over it, once u know u know. U just learn to live with it
Ummm no leave !!! He doesn’t love or respect you!!! You will never get over it. Your relationship will NEVER be the same. He will NEVER stop cheating.
Im 34. I wasted 10 years on someone just like that. Please get therapy and run
Go to therapy with him. Go to therapy on your own. Put him in therapy. If you want to save your marriage and keep your family together you absolutely can and you can get over it with the appropriate time and caregiving by him. However he hast to be willing to give some things up and to answer you anytime you question him
Go slide under another guy and see how he likes it
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He will NEVER CHANGE… LEAVE HIM… RESPECT YOURSELF…
Your brave I could never have stayed, there’s no coming back from that or ever fixing the damage that was done
Yes and he got a girl pregnant while I was also pregnant. You don’t get over it. Now my ex didn’t even try to change. At 1st he pretended. And he played that game for a few months but once he realized I was willing to stay, he went back to his old games and bullshit. Be careful, trust your gut and don’t settle.
You will never get over it, what’s done is done
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You never will… he’s only sorry bc he got caught. So get rid of it. It’ll never change. 
disgusting fucking 
I want you to think hard about if he really is sincere in changing. Because what your going through is unhealthy af for yourself. In my experience once a cheater always a cheater.
If she is pregnant that will be a game changer. He may change for a few months but he won’t really change. So either you make the decision to move on or you learn to live with it.
Get counseling for you and for both of you. Do not let others opinions make your decisions. It is worth it if you can save your marriage.
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He is never gonna stop banging other chicks just leave 
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No you will never get over it because he’s not changing. Trust me
I’m sorry this happened to you… but I think u already know the answer to it in the back of ur mind them other girls are always going to be there and ur really never gonna trust him anymore when he is running late to get to u ur gonna think he was with someone else…having kids together is hard but u deserve someone that is going to love u and only u … if u stay ur only allowing him to treat u that way I really hope u find some peace for ur self … good luck 
Nope the resentment and lack of trust will make your relationship unbearable.
You can lie to yourself but it won’t change him. Decide what’s most important- living a lie to keep the family together knowing it will happen again or parting ways.- just have to decide what’s the best choice. I sacrificed my own happiness for years… I don’t recommend it- especially if other issues as well that make the relationship unhealthy. Will you get over it? Lol. No- u just learn to become numb, live with daily anxiety and loss of self worth
A lot of us think we can be everything to someone else …we are vain and egotistical ,…its a global issue …grow
That’s a big NO for me . There is many things we can work out but cheating is not one of them and he has done it multiple times .
Hate to be the bearer of bad news but it’s time to start working on your exit strategy and next steps. He won’t change and will continue to do this and get better ab hiding it. So ask yourself if you’re willing to share him? Because if you stay, that’s what you’re agreeing to. Best of luck.
Most likely isn’t gonna be the last time hes gonna do it again one time i believe he wants to change but it was 3 he just saying that to keep you he just gonna better at it so u don’t find out LOVE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE U LOVE ANY MEN.AND YOUR MENTAL HEALTH SHOW BE YOUR PRIORITY ESPECIALLY FOR YOUR KIDS.
I shook my crystal ball and it said no.
First of all, he’s a significant other. Neither of you are married to each other. So the ties of marriage do not apply. He may not feel uniquely obligated to you for whatever reason because of this. Whether it’s right or wrong what he did is not the issue. If a good friend for example breaks your trust and does something against you is that person still your good friend or do you tend to put distance between you? Apparently he has violated whatever trust you have put in him and since you are not married no divorce is necessary. but it is best to walk away and look for something else. do you love him enough to continue or are you just afraid of being alone? It’s not a hard choice when you think that any eternal trust has been broken in your relationship.