I don’t think a romantic relationship can work but a business/roommate/co-parent relationship can work.
You will never EVER get over it or past it. He may feel you have cause you will hide it and act happy like I did. Worst thing I ever did!!! It will forever weigh on your heart and mind and it’s soul crushing and will leave you feeling dead and empty in the fake happy world you created
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He’s done it how many times ? He’s not going to change ,what he is doing is kissing your butt so you don’t kick him out ,but I guarantee he will do it again and again because there is are no consequences to his actions .he is also teaching your kids that it ok to cheat on your partner and also teaching them that if your partner does cheat it’s ok and not to leave them but stay in a relationship where there is no love or trust
Forgive but don’t forget…
It is possible but it’s a long hard road. Two things I see in this post that will determine the outcome: you love him and he has not only admitted fault but is actively working on being a better husband. Those two things will give you the necessary tools to fix the relationship but you have to actively work on it every single day. You have to choose him every single day and remind yourself why you’re choosing him. It is not easy and most couples cannot do it. You have to be strong, committed and love unconditionally to overcome this. I think you have it in you to make this work and to overcome this. You’re welcome to PM me if you need to. Good luck
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Take it one day at a time… Only you can decide if you can forgive and rebuild a relationship after infidelity or have success with future relationships, people need to trust each other. Cheating shatters trust and the ability to trust, and forgiveness is one step you need to rebuild it. You might need counselors therapy, if truly remorseful how will husband convince you there is no repeating infidelity and how to remove temptations. Be honest with each other
Kudos to him for telling the truth. Shame on him for holding back the info. U wouldn’t have known about the other 2 if it weren’t for the first home wrecker. I can’t say leave and I can’t say stay. That’s ultimately your decision, however you need to dig deep inside you and ask yourself these questions…
- Is it worth the added stress always questioning what he is doing, who is he with, why isn’t he home?
- Are the children old enough to have heard any of this and comprehend what was talked about? Are u willing to let that affect those children and let them think it’s ok for a spouse to do that and be forgiven multiple times?
- Can you trust him to not do it again and if he does are you prepared for any STD he might be bringing home?
- Do u have full 100% trust that he is changing for the good? If you have any doubt even 1% he will do it again then I believe you have your answer.
The choice is yours.
Cheating sexually hell naw
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I hate to be cynical but I feel like he isn’t proving he’s changed he’s just got better at hiding his affairs. Believe me no one changes overnight.
The old saying “once a cheater, always a cheater” is so true. I married someone that cheated prior to getting married. Swore that he wanted me and that it meant nothing. Well during my marriage I had suspicions that he was cheating but never could proved. He just became better at hiding it. I know he cheated and it was more than once after we married. I am divorced now after spending 25 years with this liar, cheater and thief. Don’t do what I did and stay because you LOVE him. He does not love you the way you deserve to be loved otherwise the cheating would never have happened!!! Leave while you still can and don’t look back!!!
My husband had an affair and we got over it it took a lot of time a lot of talking a lot of forgiving but in time we did get over it and I believe our relationship became stronger for it no relationship is easy sailing the waters are always rough and choppy if he loves you and you love him you can make this guess you both have to work hard at it good luck to both of you I pray you make it
Most of the time they still gonna cheat from my experience. Some do get over it and others don’t. It just depends.
No I wouldn’t give another chance. He wants to have sex with his co worker right before work while your at home with his kids. Hell no
If he loved and valued u he would have never cheated on u in the 1st place. Throw the whole man out. Get along for the kids
Never ends well,sorry. You deserve better.
I would never trust a man that cheater so I would just end it now.
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You know what 3 times and still going strong. He knows you will put up with it. Life is short , I would leave his dumbass, if you don’t , then strap up and hang on for the ride
He’s a cheater. he cant be trusted. It probably is his kid too, he probably slept with her more than once. Dont trust that man. If he loved you, he wouldnt have cheated. period.
He ain’t gonna change if it’s already happened with 3 other women. Wake up lady.
You deserve so much better
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A cheater is a cheater ! He didn’t respect u before and he never will ! Throw him out and move on ! Been there and had to do that while pregnant with our third child . It was hard but also the best decision I could have made . You will literally never trust him again !
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How do you know he is changing? You didn’t even know he was cheating and possibly fathered a child until someone told you. He isn’t changing you are just wanting to believe the bullshit he is feeding you. No you will
Never get over it and you will live your life ALWAYS questioning what is he doing, who is he with, is he talking to someone etc. If he knows you will forgive him and there will be no consequences then he will
Continue to cheat.
You stated he just wants you now? Why were you not good enough before now?
Mine never changed, best of luck!
Every relationship is different,you know in your heart what your decision will be.
You will never trust him again
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I never did, always there in my mind
Follow your heart since you are seeing changes but set your boundaries, he was honest not that it makes it right. If you don’t you’ll always wonder if his changes were for real or a show. If you start getting vibes it’s a act don’t second guess and go with your gut. Either way you deserve better so if he doesn’t step up you definitely need to step out!!
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How do you know he’s changing…you didn’t even know when he was cheating?
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Yeah, you said it. Your dumb.
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The truth is, it’s probably going to happen again, and even if it doesn’t, you’re going to not trust him, with absolutely good reason. There have been marriages where it has “worked out” after infidelity, but it takes a lot of work to get a healthy relationship back. That man put your life at risk by having sex with other women and then having sex with you. Who knows what he could have brought home to you. Disgusting.
Ha hell no. Save the 2/3 you have left and enjoy it with someone who wouldn’t do that to you in the first place
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You will always question whether he’s telling you the truth or not from this point forward. Once someone breaks your trust it’s next to impossible for them to get it back.
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My husband cheated on me in 2008 and we gave it another try and it worked out and our relationship got even better and closer…it took a while for me to trust him but I finally got over it…it was really tough but it can happen we have 2 boys and we have been together almost 21 yrs…we tried for our boys it really affected my oldest when we split up for 3 months …I’m just glad we’re where we are today
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Oh hell NO! you’re right you’re definitely crazy! Let me find out my husband cheated with not one but 3 other girls…. Swear!
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Soooo in a similar situation. Been with my husband going on six years and found out 1 1/2 yrs ago that he had been cheating out entire relationship. I can tell you this it has left a black spot in our relationship. I dont think ill ever fully trust him as he had hid it for so long. But it is Definitely a work in progress. Don’t listen to all the naysayers, do what you feel is best for your relationship. I wish you guys luck 
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It’s not going to get better, your going to constantly wonder. He’s not changing, he’s either waiting for you let your guard down or he’s just getting better at hiding. Once a cheater always a cheater. Did you ever get paternity for the side chick?
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Staying with him has just shown him that he can treat you this way and it’s ok he can lie and be sneaky an it’s ok. He has gotten away with it so he will eventually do it again cos he lost nothing doing it the First time. He dosn’t respect you and I’m sorry but you don’t respect your self either.
Gonna be brutal for a sec - like stated above, you didn’t even know he cheated on you not once, not twice, but three times. And that’s just what he’s admitted too. 1/3 of your life was clearly filled w deception and lies to an extent. Take the rest of your life and be happy. Cause now that’s all you’re gonna think about is if he’s cheating, lying, etc.
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Some get past it. Some don’t. It may be your deal breaker.
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You can always forget what someone does or says to you but you will never forget how they made you feel. Sounds more than a second chance you’re giving him. How about 4 chances, and these are only the ones you know about, and a license to disrespect you. I’d kick him to the curb so fast his head would spin. It’s quite obvious he doesn’t have the same love for you as you do for him. Only you are wasting precious moments on this cheater…he has his dream. What about diseases… wow 
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People make mistakes once. Multiple times is a pattern.
One time can be worked through. Three times will only continue and break your heart over and over
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It will always be an issue, especially if he’s done it multiple times. He has a problem, and has had no issue with doing it to you before.
As far as the pregnant coworker, only a DNA test can tell in the future. Any time he has sex with someone else there’s that chance. He’ll have to pay child support, and the child will be a sibling to your own children. You can’t change that, no matter how upset you are about it.
You can remove yourself from that situation and make a life for you and your kids, or stay there and continue to be cheated on and surprised with more women coming out of the woodwork.
But, it will always be the elephant in the room and without trust, there’s no base for a lasting relationship. You could co-parent or go through the courts and set up custody, visitations, and child support hearings.
Staying is going to create more heartbreak for you, though. You could try counseling. The decision is up to you, but there is a reason being unfaithful is grounds for legal separation and divorce.
So you only found out because some girl said it might be his kid, plus he admits to two other girls, he put your health at risk by sleeping with 3 people and only admitted it because he got caught, If he’s cheated 3 times I would never forgive him, but in my opinion he sure doesn’t think much of you, your children or your relationship. Only you can decide if you can ever trust him again, you say you love him but in my opinion he hasn’t shown that he loved you and if you are on here asking no you will never get over it.
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Get marriage counseling first. See if this is something you can work through. Make your decision after that so that you are never left wondering if you didn’t try to salvage it.
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He will never stop doing it as you have now let him get away with it, kick his ass to the curb
What a loser. He’s a dog. You need to let him go. He doesn’t deserve a wife or family, why stay. Your a victim of adultery and need to realize that & move on.
Honestly no things will not go back to the way how you felt before you found out this information. He broke your trust, the vows, everything where he said he would forsake all others. So what you want to do or perhaps maybe implying… It’s a tough decision.
You’ll NEVER get over it… the only thing you can get over is near, but he’s crossed the line and that’s not something that you can just get over… the issue is if you can be with him and happy knowing you’ll never get over it
I wasn’t able to but he absolutely refused to go to marriage counseling with me. If you can get him to go to counseling then you may be able to move on.
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Sadly, they usually just get better about hiding their affairs instead of changing. You can choose to ignore it and risk STDs. many women have just decided he can do what he wants and they stay, it’s up to you. He told you about three there’s more your decision now. Allow it because he won’t stop or leave. He may be good for a while because you caught him and he wants his home the same but know this is who he is you take it or leave it. You could open your relationship but that spells doom usually too.
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Yeh sod that I’m no.1 or pack your bags
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Basically he will always cheat on you and you will share him. It’s your choice at this point if you are ready to be a convenient choice or the only choice your man has. Because he obviously chooses other options on the regular.
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Love. And loneliness are the two worst deceasers you can get only you can answer this one for yourself just remember once a cheater always a cheater
2/3 weeks ago he cheated. Prior he had two others… he Now Feels he wants to be with just you…
I don’t believe him, and neither should you!
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By staying , You are not respecting your self, because absolutely he doesn’t love you or the children. May God Bless You.
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He might change but you basically will never trust him the same and you’ll never feel like he wants you 100%
You won’t get over it, you know why cause deep down you know he will do it again. You just don’t want to believe it. He’s done it multiple times with multiple people. He wants to be with you because of a comfort of someone to go home to and you have his child. But he isn’t attracted to you in a sexual way. You aren’t respecting yourself by staying. This is not something you want your child to exposed to . This is bad for your mental health which WILL be inflicted onto the child if you stay. leave him.
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Sorry huni but 4 people’s not a mistake he’ll go back for more once your comfy with him 2 as the saying goes he wants his cakes and wants to eat it 2 ild boot him before you hurt yourself in the process
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It’s possible for him to change for good, but you will never get over it. You’ll always have doubts about the things he’ll say and you’ll never sleep with a peace of mind.
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Sorry, but I think you might need to leave him. Trust me or not. He will do it AGAIN. He’s changed now cause he feels bad like shit but that don’t mAke sense. I mean you was being blind. So if he do it again. You would be blind again
It will never be the same because he tainted that trust. I’m sry but in my opinion …NO and you should know you deserve better. Time will make things easier, I say run like hell and get out now before he takes more years of your life. Sad, very sad.
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You won’t get over it unless you make the move to get rid of him and move on with your life with someone who loves you and your kids.
Once ok twice. Later buddy
He can change. My husband cheated and it was hard but we moved passed it and got even closer
You’ll never get over it but if you work together and work HARD you will learn to live through it. The trust will be the hardest part and I don’t think it ever fully returns but you either learn to live with it or leave. Only two real options there are. My partner and I have been together for over 20 years and at about 15 years he cheated. I’m still not fully past it but I live and love and learn every day and while the pain of betrayal is never fully gone it fades. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
No you won’t. Trust is gone and therefore you’ll never ever get over it…as many times as you tell yourself you will…you won’t.
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As the saying goes
Fool me once
Shame on you
Fool me twice Shame on me
Sorry but that’s 4 you know about
Don’t be a khloe kardashian
Walk away now
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Sorry but I would be all done and wouldn’t look back
Been there. All I have to say is once a cheater always a cheater. And my ex proved that to be true.
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Have respect for yourself and leave. Cheaters will always cheat. You can do better. Don’t let him make you think you can’t.
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Nope. I’m sorry, you deserve better.
I have been through this my now ex husband kept saying the same thing and a few months later was back at his cheating we even divorced after the first time he had a baby with another woman and all and I still took him back thinking it would change we got remarried just for him to do me the same way again …I hope things are different for you because there is seriously no worse hurt then thinking you’re not good enough prayers for you and your family 
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He cheated with 4 different women, that you know, in 7yrs of being together ……… Love AND Respect yourself or nobody else will.
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For me, I would forever question EVERYTHING! Your going to get milk? Your 15 min late getting home? Nope, not gonna live my life that way
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Luvie I’ve been in ur situation… Its sooo hard not knowing what the truth is and accepting it. Just keep an open mind but know now u need to find yourself,ur strengths, weaknesses… one thing that I always couldn’t stop thinking about is I was faithful how can my solematebe with not just one person but 3??? How?? That trust regardless how it may seem is never gonna b the same… period!! Thats when it’s all about you and ur children regardless with or without him… but now u need to put urself first… period… you will realize if he actually wants to change or if it’s just what u want to hear… and u may think rt now he’s showing that he wants to change but keep ur guards up100%… once trust is lost it takes alot to get back… good luck luv and remember it’s all in ur rodeo now…
They only change for a short period of time.
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I would have glued his
balls together
Emily LeClair u now like I do this situation has been present for both of us… u don’t ever get that reality check out of ur mind… Not the first not second maybe third but really reality is he lied more than once more than twice and most likely the third and now it’s the eighth… smh love can b evil … but it’s all a Rollercoaster ride… If there’s no trust ,there’s no real commitment…
He won’t change, he’ll just get better at hiding it and lying
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He’s proving he’s changing because he didn’t expect you to find out more than likely, and give it a few weeks he will go back to his sneaky ways, he’s probably just figuring out how to keep going 
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Don’t let others pain, paint your future. Couples don’t make it 50-60 years without going through hell together.
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That probably is his kid…
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Trust is a critical part of the foundation a relationship is built on. If you truly believe he is changing, wants to change, and will be completely committed to you, marriage counseling should be something you should consider. If you decide to let him stay, you have to forgive him and move past his infidelity. You can’t bring it up when you get angry. You have to move past it
So, if you can do that, then you can repair the marriage. If not, he needs to find another place to live.
This is such a hard place to be. It’s nearly impossible to trust someone after they betray you. But if you love each other, it is possible to move forward. It takes a lot of work and honesty. If you want to be with him, you should insist on counseling. This is not uncommon, lots of people cheat. I wish you the best.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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I say start wearing things that are sexy or maybe things you wouldn’t normally wear and spend extra time looking hot for a couple months, and then nicely let him know you weren’t dressing up for him, you were doing it for yourself, and your new future husband/boyfriend 
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NO U will never completely forgive and forget and the non trust will bring out the worst in you and make you feel crazy and insecure
Good luck 
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I wish you luck. I know I couldn’t
But he did it with more than one. Sorry he’s not gonna change. I have been there I finally got out of that marriage
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He isn’t changing. He’s just getting more sneaky about it. 3 times but now he only wants you? Nah sis. He doesn’t. Not now, not ever. Time to pack it up and say boy bye.
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You won’t ever be able to look at him the same way… Sometimes love isn’t enough to stay…
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He’s living on a one way street. Leave while u can
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I did. And, down the line, hubby did for me.
It honestly depends on your relationship and communication, I think.
Since, we’ve both been very open with things like phones and phone calls, out of house visits, etc.
And, we have agreed to leave past “bad behavior” behind. We’ve hashed over our mistakes enough.
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He isn’t changing ! You are his comfort zone and he will do it again.you allow it and he knows it!
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This isn’t love. If he loved you he’d value your relationship, bond, children…the whole life you built together. Fuck that. He betrayed you hard. Have some self respect and love yourself more. He fucked up and the worst part is everyone else has to deal w his actions. How could anyone forgive and forget that? Don’t think ya could…seems like a miserable time. What do you love about a man who does this?
Well you can forgive but the trust is a big one to work through but it’s your relationship and if you think he’s worth it we’ll why not its your call
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You aren’t going to get over it and he isn’t going to stop cheating
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It’s not always true about once a cheat, always a cheat. I cheated on my husband, and we worked through it. We have been back together 12 years since it all happened. You can get through it, it just has to be what both of you want. Good luck!
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Honey! You will always wonder. Everytime he leaves the house. How’s that saying go “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me” your happiness matters. How much can you really take before it tears you up inside of always wondering where he’s going?? You can only take much. You should walk away.
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I’m sorry I’m not in your shoes but I would have a very hard time trusting him. He sounds very immature and not trust worthy. You will be miserable because of the trust issue. He sounds like a ticking time bomb cheater.
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