If this is how you feel about his child then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him.
He should have asked. You need to rethink this rethink this relationship if you don’t like his child, esp if you live together
For me, it really depends on the extent of your relationship. Have you been together for years, or at least a year+? Do you live together? Have you discussed marriage? Do you spend a lot of time with his child/he with yours, “as a family”? Are you likely going to become the child’s step-parent? Does the child have an active mother, in their life?
If you are not living together, serious, long-term, he is sharing custody with his ex, not acting as a family unit, etc., that is one thing. Then, no way does he have the right to expect that of you (and I suppose should never be “expected”, regardless, and he should ask). In that case, you’re definitely NTA, for not wanting to - however, I would reconsider the relationship, based upon the fact that you and your children do not get along with his child, before anyone grows too attached and the situation becomes more difficult to leave.
If you ARE serious like that, then you’re a jerk, just for the way that you speak of your pretty-much-step-child, in general. If her behavior is that out of control, I’d consider discussing family therapy, before the relationship goes further. If she lost her mom/was abandoned by her mom, she may be angry and sad and hurting and need individual therapy, as well. You should want to help her, not judge her - she’s a child and if your relationship is heading for marriage, she should be treated like your other children.
Otherwise, just leave, as your partner and his child both deserve someone that will love both of them and support both of them through anything and be entering into a family that views them as a package deal and wants the daughter as well as the boyfriend.
Not enough info for me to say, but those are my two responses, depending on the answer to the questions.
If you want problems with your guy then sure
I stay at home with my bonus daughter and 2 kids, none of them listen/get along. That’s just kids being kids if you want to be anything more with your boyfriend I’d suggest treating his kid as your own and if you can’t do that then he should find someone who can because that child deserves to be loved by everyone in their life
Tell him you get to discipline child or you won’t watch em
No if you can’t treat that kid like your own then you two don’t need to be together
WoW! How blessed you must be to have perfect children! Let’s hope his heart isn’t as ugly as yours and says these things about YOUR children he lives with. If/when you tell him this, I hope he sees how shallow you are, takes his child and leaves you to enjoy YOUR summer with YOUR children! Hope you are able to finance that on your own and stay home Ugh…
I would say a flat NO
I wonder if this would work on my husband. I ain’t watching our kids this summer. I’m sorry I have no advice.
It’s better to get it out in the open. Be honest about it.
You set the rules while watching him. Correct the behaviors!
If I was your boyfriend I would tell you to get the hell out. You started dating him when he had a child and now you don’t want to watch a child. You’ve done lost her marbles
No, just because you are home with your children does not make you responsible for his. Let his parents watch him.
Talk with your boyfriend and let him know you watch his child the child is to follow your rules and that he can not get mad at you for disciplined child.
You’re not a free babysitter. Assuming his kids have a mom - let her/him figure it out. If you all live together, including his kid, eh yea it’s wrong.
He’s a package deal. Honestly, if you can’t handle his child, you shouldn’t be with him
Uhmmmmmm probably just break up with him
No you are not wrong and are not obligated to watch his (disrespectful and disobedient) child. You can be accepting of his child without providing childcare all summer. That’s something you are doing with your children. If you wanted to “great”, but you are definitely not wrong for not wanting to, so don’t feel bad. He and the mom should work something out.
If u can’t handle that child maybe u 2 should rethink your situation…always treat children the same …u would not like it if it was your child or children that youe exes gf didn’t wanna keep
If you knew he had a kid before he met you…well the child is part of the package,just like urs are… maybe if you look at it as a way to connect with the child,instead of feeling like is a job. Try
I’m guessing he works and pays the bills if you are staying home with the kids? If that’s the case I think yall should sit down and talk about it because I’d be upset if I were him and paid the bills so you could stay home with the kids but won’t watch his so he can work and still get to see his kid when he is off. I’d definitely talk to him about discipline and how you will do with him as you do with your own though.
They do not live together. That makes a big difference. If she doesn’t want to “babysit” a child, then she shouldn’t have to. She will have her own children. Just because she is his gf doesn’t mean she is responsible for watching his child.
It was rude that he told you you’re watching his child. How old is this disrespectful child? Really, it doesn’t matter.
Maybe the kid needs some structure and consistency and he is acting out to get dads attention. Take into consideration the age of the child and what he may have been through with his parents separation. Being in your care could make a positive impact.
Sounds like you guys shouldnt be together if this family unit is going to work.
You date him you accept his child. Just like you expect from him!
If you’re not prepared to do so then I think you should end your relationship.
Its a child not a commodity
Would it be okay if he stayed home and watched his kid and not yours?
Yes . You are wrong. You to got together now u need to accept his child snd learn to put down rules and boundaries for that child. Treat the child like your own. How would u feel if u where him and u wanted ur gf/bf to watch your child while u worked but they didn’t want to? Think about the way that sounds and how u would feel.