You and your husband, her brother, need to talk to her together.
They are not you’re responsible !!!
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Your husband needs to step up and tell his sister
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Its ur husbands sister, he shld tell her that u can not do it anymore. Dont put urself in stress ever to help anyone.
Say your doctor said you had to stop
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Make your husband talk to his sister.
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You need to take care of you & yours first & foremost.
His sister, he should talk to her.
You’re not the bad guy.
You good tell her to find someone else.
If it’s your husbands sister I would have him talk to her, or do it together.
Seriously? She’s not caring about you, don’t care about her!
And “she doesn’t have anybody else?” Care.com sweetie.
Come on. You know the answer to this question. Grow a pair. If not for yourself, then for your baby.
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Hmmm… If this is your husband’s sister then he should tell her.
Your husband should be the one to tell his sister. If he doesn’t then you have every right too. It’s clear she’s using the situation and doesn’t respect you or she wouldn’t complain about your Dr appointments.
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Tell her you can’t do it anymore
Tell her no. Put you and your kids first.
Tell her to come her kids you cant watch them any more
No your not the bad guy
Tell her no more! Plain and simple. Screw that
Give her a notice that simple. Stand your ground with the notice.
If you can’t do it then you can’t do it, you have your own children, your health and the health of your unborn baby to think about, if she can’t understand that then she’s an idiot
Your husband should deal with his sister and protect the health of his wife and unborn child
Tell her to go to family resource I have found great care providers and they will help she need to check that shit out it is discounted if you qualify and most do
Listen to your husband!
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You cant keep bring a doormat if you allow it…Time to say, its your PROBLEM TO SOLVE. Tell her to call her closeth Church Outreach. Thatd how I found an awesome Italian Lady many years ago when as a Cardiac Nurse, I had back injury lifting obese patient in 1984. Had to have two horrible Lumbar Fusion Surgeries. I had to find somebody by week before Surgery in Hospital 3 months, I had a stroke on tablr. Foundwonderful F2fFamily who took care of my Son for 13 yrs. He was multiple handicapped, Autism mild, Toureytes, Asthma, Cardiac, Neurological issues. GI issues, My Parents took care of my Daughter at 7 yrs. Son was 3. She had to grow up. Its not your PROBLEM…SHE HAD HER KIDS …YOU HAVE YOUR OWN FAMILY. P.S. I have Progressive Multiple Sclerosis. My 3 kids are 38, 34 and now Son will be 30 on 9/11. Born at 9/11 at 3 lbs 11 oz. He is awesome, Educated, Woking in Computer Company and Engaged to be married. You do what you have to do. I also Survived Ovarian Cancer and I took care of my Kiddos then. Its sad when Others take Advantageof Others. You are done. Her problem. Tell her I said GROW UP. THEY ARE HER KIDS. Find DAY CARE TOMORROW.Also, In Court she would have to PAY YOU BACK PAY, ITS A JOB. Shealso needsto PROVIDE FOOD. I DID IN HOME DAYCARE AND GOT MY LICENSE TO DO DAYCARE IN MY HOMR SO I COULD STAY HOME AND RAISE MY THREE. IT WAS MY RESPONSIBILITY, KNOWONR ELSES. I also Separated from my Hubby. Tell her to Apply for Food Stamps and Free Daycare or money to pay RETROACTIVE TO YOU. GOOD LUCK.
She sounds pretty selfish to me! If it’s your husband’s sister, have home talk to her although it shouldn’t have gotten this far. Which is more important, your health and your other four or hurting her feelings.if she loses her job, she can get another one since she’s evidently not making enough money to feed her kids with this job! Stand up to her or your husband should.
Nope t@ke your kids Kidz w/ you
Please keep us updated what happens and good luck with your new baby.
No she is taking advantage of your kindness. Time to tell her she needs to hire a new babysitter if her other one is not coming back. Give her a week to find someone else. Just be honest you can’t do it anymore. You have done enough to help her she should have been looking for someone else this whole time. If she wasn’t that just says she doesn’t give a shit about you and your family.
Girl, your SIL is using you. Your husband sees that and that’s why he told you to tell her you can’t do it anymore. Personally I think your hubs should be the one telling his sister to KINDLY FUCK OFF and take care of her own goddamn crotch goblins. She sounds like a user to be honest. Now stop helping people who only use you. I can’t believe she told you that you’re putting her at risk of losing her job because you told her to take care of her own snot nosed kids.
PS
Yes, I do have children and I do call them demons, crotch goblins, etc when they’ve earned it.
She is his sister…let him talk to her n solve it their way…u dont have to deal with this!
You are wonderful. I think that you need to be 100% honest with her, and just politely tell her that you need to put your unborn child first and foremost. If another mother can’t understand that , well that’s fucked up. But you are putting far too much stress on you and you can’t risk the unborn child’s health. Maybe you guys could come to some sort of comprise but just be 100% honest with yourself and her on what you need. That’s what I think.
she should understand
Not at all. I understand wanting to help family but shes taking advantage of your generosity and the fact that you are willing to help her so.much. she needs to understand you are in a high risk pregnancy and that you are not made of money.
Give her a time limit on how much longer you can help. Look up other sitters/daycares in the area and offer to help research the options. There might be a little tension at first, but just be honest and ride it out.
If your husband is saying stop and he is ok with it then stop she is taking advantage of you STOP your kids come FIRST
She’s taking advantage of you. Tell her doctor said you cant do it anymore because of your pregnancy. She wants you so she doesnt have to pay anyone. You dont want to loose your baby.
Tell her. She is taking advantage of you and if she is honest she knows it. AS LONG AS YOU DO NOT QUIT she will not even look for another sitter.
Put your foot down and stop being a pushover. She isn’t providing what she was, she isn’t paying you, you’re high risk, and even your husband said stop watching them. What more do you need? Stop watching them or you have nobody to blame for the extra stress except yourself.
Tell her that as of “such and such date” you cannot watch them any longer. Give her at least three week notice so she can’t say it’s unfair.
Also, stop having babies you cannot afford.
I would’ve stopped when I saw no food or money coming because obviously you need help too. However, now I would tell her that you will watch them for the next two weeks and then she has to find another option. Explain to her all the reasons. I’m guessing it will cause bad blood and she will be mad but seriously, how could you handle that with a newborn? I mean, I’m sure it can be done, but it’s not your kids therefore not your responsibility.
I don’t think I have anything to add. Everyone here has given some great advice that simply needs to be followed now. Best of luck!
She can put the kids in child care or hire another babysitter. Does she have any other family that can help, that’s an option too. Give her some notice so she has time to sort something out but definitely stop, sounds like she is taking advantage of you.
I don’t think your husband should deal with it. It’s between you and her.
She is definitely taking advantage of you so you shouldn’t feel bad. I would tell her, you physically cannot take care of her kids and she needs to bring all her kids food because you need to rest as much as possible.
and she has 1 week to find another sitter. You could also tell her your doctor highly recommends it.
Girl no… if you dwn an out is she gonna be there for your family?? You got your own situation an she should understand if y’all were truly good friends
She’s taking advantage of you, I’d stop watching them and you should be getting something for doing it. 50$ every 2 weeks though. That’s ridiculous. You’re a high risk pregnancy , that is too much stress for you and baby. She can figure it out. We all have.
Please Set healthy boundaries for yourself. My mom would always tell me when I was pregnant, “ya have one foot in the land of the living and one foot at deaths door”.
Omg how dare she do that to u talk about taking the Micky out of u tell her you’re giving her 2 weeks to find someone else and if she doesn’t like it that’s her problem not yours don’t let her make u feel bad she hasn’t paid u anything and stopped giving u food for her kids she no’s you’re pregnant and u have kids as well so it’s time to put yourself and your family first good luck
Absolutely! What about her sisters or aunts or grandmother mother or mother-in-law? Or a neighbor? She won’t find anyone that will take care of her kids for free. She put herself in the situation she is in so she should put herself out of it.
She has many other options she just likes how easy you make her life plain and simple. How can you put all the rsponsability on family member specially when she has a set of kids of her own and one in the oven.
Well she has 5 kids, meaning they all have a daddy and relatives that could help her also. Your pretty much their mom now seeing u support them financially and care for them . High rise pregnancy is no joke and u can’t afford the stress so u need to stop or u can lose your baby . I could give her a 2 week notice and tell her she needs to find something else to do. Or u can just stop all together. Theres alot of places such as Dhs that help with child care and can help her . People shouldn’t have that many kids if they can’t care for them.
Sorry but she’s putting you and your baby at risk tell her you can’t do it anymore you have your own kids to look after and feed if she loves you she will understand if not then tuff family will take advantage of you so tell her no in future xxxx
Maybe he should speak to his brother and give a few weeks notice. Your SIL is taking the mick
Seperate your problems from her problems. You have a responsibility to take care of your problems. She must take care of hers. Stop being a door mat! d
Your not the badguy,but if you can barely feed you and yours, please have your tubes tied, drs. Prefer doing it while they still have you on the table after giving birth.
Why do you have 4 children at the age of 23? That is A LOT and you are so young.
Girl you are being taking advantage of. Stop now.
Ok, firstly, she can fuck off. Secondly, her husband should say something, she’s his sister and she’s treating his wife like shit. Step up, husband.
No you wouldn’t. You have to take care of you and your family first . It sounds like she is taking advantage of you .
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Definitely not bad. It would be bad for her not to be understanding
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She’s taking advantage of you. She’s the bad guy here, not you. She doesn’t even pay you, and by the way $50 every 2 weeks for 2 kids is an insult. You are having to take food from your kids to feed hers because she’s not even providing food for them. She doesn’t care that you have a high risk pregnancy, as evidenced by her guilt tripping you about her job when you had an appointment. Stop babysitting for her and don’t feel bad for it.
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$50.every 2 weeks wont even by food for a few days. you need to tell her it’s time to find a new sitter you have enough on your plate to deal with.