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No you wouldn’t be the bad guy
You’re not a bad person at all hun… you sound like a selfless angel… her on the other hands … she seems a bit selfish and inconsiderate 
you have to have strict boundaries with some people because they will just walk all over you and use you. Hope you two can find a middle ground of understanding
She knew the burden, she knows the situation between you all and the high risk pregnancy. Here’s what you need to do to try to resolve this amicably. 1. Sit her down with your husband and yourself and explain to her everything, how you feel about letting her down etc… give her a reasonable time limit to locate another sitter for her children.
2. You are high risk pregnancy and need to focus on you and your baby right now, so many scenarios can be given to her about situations that will arise and caring for your kids is one thing but another set of kids is a whole different ball game. I myself knowing what I know of your situation would not have the audacity to behave the way this in law is and I would put my foot down immediately. If feelings are hurt oh well, they can get over it and move on and quit being heartless because that is what she is being to you! Taking advantage of you and being passive aggressive and placing blame and burden on you! Honey her issues are not yours, drop them off at her doorstep where they belong and take care of what YOU are SOLEY RESPONSIBLE FOR, YOUR FAMILY!! 
She’s being a selfish bitch and taking advantage of you! Definitely tell her you can’t and really your husband should have already said something to her.
Ask for the back pay of the $50 a fortnight if she gets funny!
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy
Yes but do it anyway
Listen to your husband
She should understand
Tell her Drs orders that you can’t do it anymore
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Girl tell her yesterday
Apsultlt not tell her you cant
Yep, go ahead and tell her
Let her read this post… 
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He’s right stop doing not your circus not your monkeys start thinking g about you and your own children it sux she’s in this position but it’s also not really your problem
Sooo STOP doing it amd stop now
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Talk to her and Tell her straight
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Long story short…you are young and truly have ur hands full full…no u wouldn’t be the bad guy . especially having a high risk pregnancy. You have to do what’s best for YOU and your family. You helped as much and as long as you could. You’ve reached ur max capacity in many areas. Tell her to help herself with her children or to ask her parents or the babys daddy’s to help her because you have ur own life. Users and abusers of good kind caring people will continue their behavior as long as you allow it…
get some rest…and learn to say no…and don’t feel guilty. You have to take care of you and urs.
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Wow!! The nerve of some people amazes me. She is definitely taking advantage of you and not even being very nice about it. I would definitely stop whether you tell her or your husband tells her. I bet she has already burned her bridges with other family. But you only need to worry about you, your kids and new baby. If it makes it easier tell her you are being put on bed rest! You’ve done enough for her! Good luck to you and your new little one!!
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If you give her at least a weeks notice to find someone else she shouldn’t be able to have a problem with it now if you just flat out say you can’t do it anymore then she has a reason to get mad.But you need to speak up and tell her you need the money she owes you and you cannot watch them unless she sends food but make sure you take care of yourself and that baby inside of you that’s most important
Get your husband to tell her. It’s his sister. She shouldn’t expect it. That’s why there’s family day care. If she cannot parent her own children, why should you. If she needs to work to sustain a living, perhaps she should downsize to more affordable living, and cut costs somewhere, or her hubby can take up another job. Its a sacrifice, all Mothers/ Fathers make. I’m sure you love her children, but its not your responsibility. Don’t feel bad. Your priority is your own home.
The saying goes… look out for your own backyard, before you look after someone else’s. Or something to that effect. Tell her your Dr said you can no longer do it, and you won’t be doing it after bubs is born either. She needs to find an alternative without putting pressure on someone, other than a professional. Because you don’t want her burdening someone else either. It’s no good palming children off to another family friend or relatives. Family Day care is better for everyone, because you don’t want to ceeate waves within families. Tell your Husband, to man up!! Good luck!
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Hon…it’s time to buck up and tell her she’s had ample time to find a new replacement. Unless she can start paying what she promised, sending food to cover her kids…then you’re done. If you’re letting her know in advance (days or weeks) about your appointments…then it’s on her. Again, she had time.
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Tough situation. I feel like she’s taking advantage of you. You were amazingly kind to help her out two months ago when she was desperate but she should have been looking for a more permanent caregiver for her girls given your own situation with a baby due in a few months. You have your hands full with your own littles and don’t need the added stress that this is putting on you. I would tell her that she really needs to find another caregiver and give her your two week notice. It won’t be easy but you have to think about you and your babies. Good luck!
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You’re not in the wrong. Stand your ground. You and YOUR family are your ONLY responsibility! You deserve some peace any moment you can get it, not have more added to your plate. She has to figure something else out, no other way around it!!!
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She’s using you and taking advantage of your kindness. It’s up to you to put an end to it and if she doesn’t respect that then that’s on her. She should be grateful that you even took on everything to help her out with everything you already have on your plate. If she gets mad or offended then I would just stay away. You don’t need the added stress while pregnant.
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First of all you need to take care of yourself that’s the most important. Unfortunately this isn’t only about you there are children involved. If you send her children back to her and she can’t care for them what happens to them? This is so hard. You really need to sit down and look at your options. I don’t know either of you, but it sounds like your sister in law is either taking advantage of you or she really needs your help. Is she your husband’s sister, is this normal for her, or is she truly overwhelmed?
Whatever you choose to do please keep those children in mind.
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First you said you could help her out assuming it was a sudden need.She should of been looking for someone else knowing you were a high risk pregnancy and you had your own young children to take care of. Tell her now she needs to help you out and find a sitter for her children. Also it would be nice if she could take your kids on her day off to give you a rest.
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She’s taking advantage of you It’s def a tough situation but I’ve been there before you have to be upfront with her Your health and needs for your baby comes first if you don’t set boundaries people will walk over you
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no you wouldn’t be the bad guy. She should have been looking for someone else to watch her kids. It is a tough situation but you just need to tell her you can’t do it… SHE is putting your baby at risk.
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Don’t risk your own baby to save her job! That’s on her! You have a big heart for wanting to help, but right now, you could really use some help! You need to tell her to find another babysitter like, yesterday!
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Give her a weeks notice to find someone else …you need to take care of yourself now. Sounds like your being taken for granted x dont feel guilty and good luck
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Give her a notice and take care of yourself, your pregnancy and your kids. You and yours come first. She cannot depend on you. Don’t allow it because it will not be good with time. You will regret it once they start thinking you’re obliged to always say Yes. You aren’t. Coming from a mommy with a high risk pregnancy currently as well. (My family knows I am not available for anything right now, you gotta let them know your main priority is yourself and your own kids atm. As much as you would love to help.)
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Absolutely not the bad guy! You and yours come first above anyone else! Care for yourself and your kids and make sure you guys have everything first, I would tell her that you are no longer able to watch them. You (could be) putting your own health and baby at risk just to help her, which helping isn’t bad at all but you should make sure you’re in a position to do it first
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Wow that’s a lot of kids while your pregnant. I would personally just say due to the pregnancy and your up to your due date you can’t do it anymore. Give her a two weeks notice to be polite. Don’t give her specifics such as the no pay and the food bc that’s just nit picking and she will become very defensive and lead to a bad argument. You need to do what’s best for you, your pregnancy and your family sending prayers to you
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You need to stop being a door mat, she is taking advantage of you and will continue to do so until you tell her. I would tell her that given your condition and your own family you can’t look after hers. Without supplying food or paying you, I would not worry if she gets mad at you!! Your family first!!
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The fact that you don’t want to leave her hanging is nice but you have to put your kids and yourself first. It sounds like she’s in a tough spot but being high risk I would definitely say something to her. It’s also not fair to you that she makes you feel bad about having to go to doctors appointments and are unable to watch her kids. You said you would help as long as you could. That time has come where you aren’t able to anymore. Speak up now or nothing will ever change and you will always be taken advantage of. Good luck in whatever you decide.
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All done you helped when her sitter got hurt (like family does) but your not a daycare. She should’ve been looking for a replacement. Out of kindness you can give her two weeks but you are high risk and could use her help
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You need to take care of you and your family first. Be honest and tell her you feel terrible but cannot handle it any longer. She is getting a free ride and it’s taking a toll on you.
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Easy Answer…tell her No you can’t do it anymore…she will find someone else to do it…don’t put yourself in harms way with you being pregnant and you have your own family to care for…
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She’s taking advantage of you and you are being way to nice. You are doing her a favor. She should be going out of her way to help and be kind to you while you’re doing it, which means paying you and providing the kids with food etc. the fact that she gave you a hard time when you needed to go to the doctor just shows that she is completely self centered and is not appreciative of all that you do. Focus on you and yours and let her go. If you really want you can fix that relationship later, maybe when she matures.
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Yours and your babies health is main concern. If she don’t understand she is using you and simply don’t care. Put your foot down and tell her no. Bad blood or not it is necessary. Your family comes first. Your husband understands and that’s all that matters.
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You’re not the bad guy. She’s not paying or providing food anymore for her kids so she’ll have to find another way. What is she gonna do when you go in the hospital to have your baby? Is she gonna watch your other two kids? You need to focus on your family and your health.
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Girl , that’s not your problem. You did what you could , it gave her time to get her problems together. Just say no more. Worry about your own and yourself.
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2 months us enough u have ur own to look after and if she thinks ur bad for that or fall out well good riddance she is clearly taking the piss. Now i would get her brother to tell her that his wife has enough tobe doing and not giving a penny will u stop worrying about her and worry about u. Because she isn’t worried about u or the baby over her job. U should of said u were done helping when she started about ur appointments for u and ur babys health. We can’t please everyone in this world and u have done enough for her. Fell good about what u have done for her and now do what she has been doing look after urself. X
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Tell your husband to say something about the situation so it doesn’t seem like it’s coming from you, either she pays you and start bringing in food or you can’t physically and financial make it work
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So you were getting 25 a week for 2 kids lol. She never had anyone else do it that cheap plus provide food. Don’t worry about putting her in a bad place because you have been in a bad place and still are with them. You need to worry about you #1. My sis in law used to put my son on the bus in the mornings. It was like an hour in the mornings and I paid her $50 a week…she was a nurse and I made only $14 an hour then bit she was doing a job for me and a favor…it was only temporary too. There is no way i would expect sil to watch my kids like that if she was in your spot. That is too much. I would tell her she has 2 weeks and then you have to relax until baby comes. Tell her she must send food as well. If she gets attitude say well I can stop today if it be more convenient for you.
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It’s not about being the bad guy, you have yourself and your family to worry about. End of story.
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She’s taking advantage of you and will continue to do so if you allow her. Your babies and pregnancy come first and if you’re already struggling adding 2 extra mouths is a lot. Let her know it’s time to find a new babysitter
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Also who is to say why her previous sitter stopped working for her… Your SIL may have done that person the same way!
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Why would you be wrong she is clearly taking advantage of you. You and your kids come first
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Nope, I’d give her 2 weeks notice, so she can find another care giver for her kids.
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You definitely need to tell her . That’s crazy how she is taking advantage. I get she might need help but you need to take care of you too.
Tell her you can’t watch them anymore and it is taking a toll on you especially while you are pregnant. She needs to find a new sitter immediately because you can’t do it. Tell her to contact neighbors, friends for sitter information and also she can hire from Care.com and other places. She has been abusing you and taking advantage of you. You don’t need the extra stress and she wasn’t even paying you. Cut the cord! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy in peace.
Shes putting way too much pressure on you and it sounds like a lot to deal with. No one should expect you to do all that for a long time. Cant she ask anyone else at all? Plus its hot cheap cooking an extra few meals each day per person, everything adds up. It’s not really all down to you to watch all of her kids when you have your own and your pregnant!
When all is said and done , you will have given way much, and you will be lied about ,and taken advantage of, I have been there
Your babies need you . It is time for her to go back find some one else. Take care of yourself and the baby you are carrying
Your husband needs to support you in talking with his sister to work this issue out in a fair & supportive manner for everyone.
You need to think of yourself and kids first. She is taking advantage of you. It’s one thing to help out but another to be used.
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She should pay u more, I was on my own paying 7.50 an hr for 1 child during the hours daycares are closed. Which was under the 10$/hr most ppl charge.
Why does she expect free daycare?
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Your priorities arnt to her . They are to you and tour own family. If shes that stuck shell find herself another sitter. Shes just taking advantage now at this stage
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I’d give her a two week notice to find another sitter…only bc she is family.
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No you wouldn’t. You don’t need to be stressed and the baby be stressed by watching her kids. You gotta take care of yourself with the little one still inside you.
Your not a bad woman… I have 6 all together and I know the struggle of taking care of alot of little ones…
You need to do what’s best for you and your babies and it seems like babysitting her kids it’s far from what’s best. If she gets mad let her hopefully she will get over it but if not thank you don’t need her anyways
No, you wouldnt be a bad guy. (I personally wpulsnt do it, especially pregnant.) If she doesnt understand then she was just taking advantage of you to begin with.
Tell your husband to tell her. That he sees it’s too much for you and he doesn’t want to risk the pregnancy even more. & if she gets mad, then so be it. I know you don’t want bad blood, but it isn’t your responsibility to watch her kids. She should apply for aid and they’ll help with daycare if she’s barely making it by.
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You have a high risk pregnancy…that should be enough of an answer for you right there!
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You have already given more of yourself in assisting her, we all know things are tuff but she now taking advantage of your care. Its time she got others to help, her!
Why is this even a question, you have every right to say no in her eyes you may be the bad guy but that’s on her you can’t help how people feel.
If she cared about you she would not be doing you like this. She would have voluntarily backed off by now if she had your interests and needs in mind. You did what you could, don’t ever feel guilty putting your own family first.
Sounds like you’re being taken advantage of and you shouldn’t feel bad about saying NO.
So her being happy is more important then you being healthy??
Tell her you can’t do it anymore but maybe try and give her like a week or two to find someone else
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Flip it back on her. When she says, “I could lose my job.” Tell her, “I could lose my pregnancy.”
Girl she’s using you because you let her get away with not paying you and feeding her kids. Cut her off now or she’s going to continue
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Nope you need to tell her you cant do it. You cant afford too and it’s too much stress. She is definitely using and abusing you.
No you wouldnt … and they shouldnt be bad blood touve helped and shes not really been fair given previously she would have been paying for child care .and cant even help out with meals
People will always figure it out when they are forced to.
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Tell her your Dr. told you to rest more and your husband might need to step up and tell her he doesn’t want you doing it anymore. You need to take care of your family and baby.
It is his family and he needs to handle this, you shouldn’t have to feel or be made the bad guy over this. You truly arent and he needs to protect you and his unborn child, this should be on him.
Have her brother tell her you can’t keep the kids anymore. Youvare being taken advantage of.
Let your husband tell he’s sister. It’s he’s family and something he can discuss with her about not wanting you to get stressed out.
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No, you wouldn’t be the bad person. You need to do what is best for you, and your babies.
Tell her the way it is you and your baby comes first let her know she has to make other arrangements
You should tell her. Give her a week or so to find some other arrangement
I would give her a time to have another and her she has to either pay you $50 a week or bring food for the kids to eat till then
Tell her u have ur own to watch and a baby on the way. U need ur rest. She is taking advantage of u. Your husband should tell her.
Do what u have to do to take care of urself and the baby she needs to woman up and find another sitter u need the rest
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22 and about to have 4 kids, what in the freakin world?
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Well tell her WHY you can’t, tell the truth and maybe offer her too look up sitters on the internet. She shouldn’t get mad at ya for doing you
What u allow will continue. Ur going to help her while ur cutting urself n ur family short… not to mention putting u n ur unborn baby at risk…
Also, since its your husband’s sister, I would personally want him there to back me up
Quite agree with with other comments you have to look after your own first.
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Yeh but u cant let no one taking advantage of u. And im sure she had to pay the other baby sitter. U just have to be honest.
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No hun you need to take care of yourself for YOUR kids! Get your husband to tell her enough is enough! You helped long enough… good for you 
Best of luck momma!
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It your husband sister???n he said no more…absoulty your not a bad guy…tell her no more…that on her n she truly taking advantage of you
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Absolutely not u have been more than good to her, u. Need to put you and your own family first, 
tell your husband to tell her you are no longer able to do it. financially or physically .its not your problem .she’s enjoying the free ride.
Time to tell her she has 2 weeks to find a babysitter, you’re done.
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Ask her to help you brainstorm.
You are definitely not the bad guy tell her you’re done!
Give her a timeframe. Don’t feel bad!! You gotta take care of you and yours!