Would it be wrong to gift my husbands sister son gucci shoes?

Ask her, if she says no return and find a few smaller items like soft blankets n such

Also you know if you wanted to throw in a little pick me up gift for her I think it earn you points with the family. Maybe gift card to a coffee place or one for a place she likes to eat or a wine she likes. Idk how close you are.

Firstā€¦Why the hell would you buy Gucci shoes for a 1 yr old? While they may be cute at, heā€™s going to out grow them relatively quickly and in mho they would be a waste of money. I totally understand wanting to spoil ur nephew with the parents going thru a divorce and all, but I agree with ur husband at this point in time. Now if he were older and could appreciate a gift like that, thatā€™d be a different story I think.

Give the gift lol thatā€™s what gifts are for to give.

Maybe get them a couple sizes bigger so he can wear them longer than a couple months. But I dont see a problem with it.

The child is one and will probably grow out of them in two to three months. Why not invest in a college fund so she doesnā€™t have to worry about that at the moment.

I would love them if they were gifted to me. What difference does it make?

Heck my daughter is 3 and still barely wears shoes

I would go with clothes or other essential items they may need

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I definitely wouldnā€™t. If you want to give a gift of such value because you can afford to- get the kid a savings bond.

Truthfully the kid probably isnt going to care what brand unless theyre in/close to teenage years, if you wanna give someone gucci I suggest the sister-in-law. The kid probably would prefer something that can keep him busy so he doesnt have to worry about the divorce

Ask the mamma if itā€™s ok you give him something expensive? Donā€™t have to tell her what it is just tell her you wanted to help her or ask her if she needs to money since sheā€™s going thru hard times

Check with her first. Those are awfully expensive for something he will grow out of quickly

Give the Gucci you crazy a child that age start a college fund if you want to spend alot of money not shoes he will wear for 4 weeks tops

I think he is wrong it wouldnt bother me at all in fact I would be happy about it

Set him up a savings account and put money in it. Alot more helpful than a pair of shoes for a baby.

Give it, you got it with love. This is not the 1st gift you will buy, so will be look at the price alway before you buy or what you like.

  1. I love Gucci. And it sounds like you may be a DINK. Which can be tough for people to understand. Buuuuut
  2. Many of the comments are right. Itā€™s simply too young. Splurge and drown that baby in diapers and outfits that are bigger and on point. (more like Site 2T- be sure itā€™s the correct season tho). She probably has enough for his age/size now. And to have a ā€œnon saleā€ wardrobe instead of a 1 pair of shoes. Swooooon.
    Heā€™ll be for sure ready for you when heā€™s 12/13 tho. BoomšŸ”„
    Let me know if youā€™re adopting- I have two girls :rofl:

nothing wrong with it i would love it if someonw brought me something i couldnt afford.

I mean, everyone is going to have a different opinion. There is no right or wrong answer. Do what you feel is right.

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I was in a similar situation about 6 years ago. My sister was going thru a nasty divorce and it was my neices 16th Birthday. I bought her UGGs they were like $160. My sister was happy that her daughter got them.

I think the parents should make that decisionā€¦and seriously the child will outgrow the shoes very soon.In my opinion itā€™s very wasteful.

A 1 year old shouldnā€™t even be wearing shoes. How about a cute walker toy or some adorable outfits.

There is nothing insulting to the kidā€™s parents by giving him cute shoes. Who cares how much they cost?

I say be a little more practical bc a one year old is just going to ruin the shoes. At that age it is best to purchase gifts that are an experience such as tickets to a zoo/ theme park for kidsā€¦ something fun. Maybe even admission to a kids play placeā€¦

Why? Cute? Who cares! Where she going w a 1 yo during this pandemic where anyone will even see them? Save your money or use it more effectively for the childā€™s future.

My kids have an uncle who is quite a bit older than my husband. He is divorced and his kids are grown. He always buys them expensive stuff that we could never afford having three kids under 8. I never see it as a problem. He bought them a pop up camper to go camping in. Because he said they needed it. Lol

A gift is a giftā€¦I can understand if it was a mobile for 7 years oldā€¦ but this is one year old. It would do him no hurm.

You go buy whatever u want. Thatā€™s what you do when itā€™s a gift.

Heck if my husband told me that, I would return them and find a pair at a yard sale. Then tell my husband here I got him these because I know she has fifty cents. :joy::sweat_smile::joy::sweat_smile::joy:

Instead of buying shoes he will fit for a month or two gift something the child might need. Especially during a financial hardship like a divorce.

She could probably use the money, not the shoes

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Ummā€¦ I love getting gifts i cant afford bc i know ill never be able to buy said itemā€¦ give them to herā€¦ they can be used as a keep sake too

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I think only somebody who hasnā€™t had a child would buy them Gucci shoes unless theyā€™re very well offā€¦ Heā€™ll grow out of them before you ever see him wear them. Itā€™s a waste of your money. Take him and his mom somewhere fun to get her mind off things instead. Lunch and the zoo something easy

I donā€™t think she will feel bad. You are a loving aunt.

Personally my kids have owned way more name brands then I ever have I mean I do Ross and second hand but if someone wanted to do for my kids I wouldnā€™t be upset no matter what my situation is.

Donā€™t do it- especially to spend that much money on shoes for a one year old

Iā€™d ask her it depends on the person. My cousin loved it when I spoiled her kids but her sister hated it lol

Just say they were on sale if she says anything šŸ¤·
A gift is a gift. They should just appreciate it whether it cost 1$ or 10k$

I think thatā€™s a silly gift for a 1yo but thatā€™s not the point. Itā€™s not wrong to get him something they couldnā€™t afford. itā€™s your money, if you like them that much, get them. :woman_shrugging:

Youā€™re his Auntie. Youā€™re allowed to spoil him. You should know you sister-in-law well enough to know if she would be offended. And if youā€™re that concerned, just ask her.

I wouldnā€™t want my kids to have Gucci shoes. #1 I donā€™t like showing off money #2 kids feet change sizes by the day. Just My opinion

I dont what to think. It seems a bit of an afront to refuse a present. I would have accepted them graciously i think so anyway

It might due to what she is going through at this time in her life

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Nope. Take that money and get diapers for a one-year-old. It will be more appreciated than over-priced shoes for that age.

I would ask her if she would be offended by you buying them for him

The only thing is at 1 the child will outgrow them so fast. Maybe give the child something that will last longer

My before sister in law would buy expensive things for my daughter, we were losing our home and everything, I had no problem with it

Personally I wouldnā€™t. And in my opinion itā€™s not even about the parents. Itā€™s teaching children about labels. That " things" can define you.

I would simply tell her that you would like to give her child a pair of shoes. Tell her that you are in a place to do so and you do not want to insult her by doing it. If sheā€™s ok with it, then your husband should be too.

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Nope , child has no idea about Gucci etcā€¦
On a logical basis, buy something that is needed more so now than everā€¦

Buy him regular shoes & ask his mother if she needs the rest of the money to feed them or pay bills.

Why would you spend that much on a pair of shows heā€™ll wear maybe 6 months? Put some in a college savings account and buy a normal pair of shoes.

Never buy small children expensive shoes for the simple fact that they will outgrow them quickly. This being the case it is an obscene waste of money.

All the more reason to give them to him if she cant afford to buy them but why not ask the mother first if she minds if you give them to him as you think they are cute

Donā€™t get a 1 year old expensive shoes that he will outgrow in like a week

Heā€™s oneā€¦ It would be a waste because heā€™ll outgrow them faster than heā€™ll have opportunities to wear them.

He s right. Not a gd idea. Just buy him something doesn t have to be the most expensive

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your husband has a point smart man maybe later when this get better

I would rather have a college investment. No one year old needs Gucci shoes. Starting him off in tastes his parents will not be able to keep up.

I think a gift is a nice gesture and as a sis in law whoā€™s kids Aunt never is in her life Iā€™d take a visit with my baby and her aunt over anything. Next time of you do think of them give practical things.

I agree with the way your husband thinking tho
Why not a gift card

I wouldnā€™t have an issue with it, but I do know that some parents may feel differentlyā€¦ Which I think is ridiculous, as long as nothing is said, to put them down about not being able to afford expensive items.

Why donā€™t you put it towards building a 529 college fund instead. She would be grateful

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Why Gucci shoes? With all the money for a high end name brand Iā€™d gift her some clothes and other items that are needed that add up to ā€œGucciā€

Just because you can doesnā€™t mean you should. Get something a 1 yr old wants not what you want.

As long as you donā€™t get mad when she sells them in a couple of months because they donā€™t fit anymore

Buy your sis in law pair of Gucci shoes a 1yo does not need a pair of Gucci shoes imho

Iā€™d be more afraid of her ex using it against her thinking she purchased them

Ask and be ok with the answer. Thatā€™s itā€¦ For all questions.

Buy her a voucher or groceries soend it giving something she can benifit from

Buy her some Gucci shoes to match. :smirk:

I would ask the sister in law first maybe you buying him stuff like that might hurt her feelings

Imo itā€™s a waste of money. He will hardly use them, and put grow them in a month. But, thatā€™s my opinion. I made this mistake with my first kid, name brand, expensive everythingā€¦ I regret it lol

Would hurt my feelings or yours when I sold those shoes?

Wonder how many of these moms that are saying no has a purse that cost $200?

If you have bought things for him before why not now

Why would you think it would be wrong to do a nice jester

Heā€™s 100% right, donā€™t flaunt your wealth.

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They donā€™t know the price ! It could be a knock off I wouldnā€™t be mad

Ask the childā€™s parents (at mom) if okay.

Absolutely, if you really want to help ; how many pairs of Walmart sneakers will that buy?

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I would honestly just ask her :slight_smile: Iā€™m sure she would be very appreciative.

If I ever get in this situation I just ask them, I dont mind that it may ruin the surprise of the gift :slight_smile:

Since when can a 1 year old get marriedā€¦or divorced for that matterā€¦smh

There isnā€™t a 1y/o anywhere that needs Gucci shoes BUT, if you can afford them then why not get them

Why are you this way?

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I wouldnā€™t feel bad! If sheā€™s a good person Iā€™m sure sheā€™ll appreciate you thinking of her child :heart::heart::heart: I appreciate all the things my mom does

Thatā€™s ridiculousā€¦Shouldnā€™t even be a thought. buy the kid the shoes.

I guess ask mom. I would never put something like that on my son but it depends how cute! :joy: GOOD LUCK!

Iā€™m too practical for stuff like that. Honestly, if someone gifted them to my babies I probably wouldnā€™t have ever used them

I think itā€™s sweet and he should be thankful your so caring. Do what you want to

Forgot the shoesā€¦buy that boy some stocks in SpaceX or some other tech companu

no she will be so grateful!!!

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I wonder if you are bragging about your wealth or complaining about your disagreement?

I know I cant afford much so I welcome others willing to drop money on my kiddos

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Maybe get them matching?

Get cheap shoes for a 1 yr old. Theyā€™ll be grown out of in 3 months. Get her a gift card or something maybe. Sheā€™s probably already worried about supporting a child and a divorce. Getting her son something she canā€™t right now might not offend her but could make her sad. Plus a 1 yr old wants fun toys. Target or Walmart gift card maybe. Just an opinion though

I gave my niece and nephew the best. We have 2 kids and wanted more

Whether heā€™s right or not those are his expressed feelings and they should be respected. :woman_shrugging:t2: God speed and wish you all the best of luck.

Gift them! She may actually be very appreciative of it.