Give him the Gucci shoes!!! Her divorce has nothing to do with you wanting to do a nice gesture for her kid!
You never know, they may end up being sentimental. My Mom bought my son Nike Air Jordans for his 1st birthday. While some may think itās ridiculous to buy expensive clothing on babies, I kept certain things for my children, told them who the gifts were from. My Mom has since passed and my first son is 21 years old and cherishes those items!!
Not a very practical gift especially for a baby. There may be other thing the little one needs. Check with the Mom.
I think that itās nice of you to purchase a gift. My sister has no children of her own and spoils my 4 kids rotten. She is able to provide them with the more fun things- like name brand shoes etc. that I canāt. It makes her feel good that she can help out and it helps me out and my kids love it.
If his sister is going through an expensive divorce she might REALLY appreciate and even need a little help with clothing and stuff. . . Also, she doesnāt have to know the price - tell her you got a great deal or something.
Gift whatever you want! Some family has gifted us things I would have never been able to afford and I am so grateful for that! Iād never be offended.
Donāt waste the money! Babies feet grow so fast at that age ! Try and get her something she needs maybe? Especially going through a hard time
I would ask first but if I was her I would probably rather you spend that money on a couple of outfits or a couple of pairs of shoes at his age it may wear those shoes for 2 or 3 months while u can get him a few really cute outfits to wear however in the same boat you are the gifter and you chose how to spend your money just keep in mind that if you have and want a good relationship with her keep open communication. I think your thoughtfulness and generosity is very very sweet and caring and she should be very grateful to have a sister in law that thinks about her and her child in such a caring way. Bless your heart
Iād give it to him thatās what family is for to give those little extra kinda gifts.
As a mom I wouldnāt be mad, itās very thoughtful of you to want to gift thatā¦ BUUUTTTT those are some expensive ass shoes he will grow out of within the next 3 months. At that age I think maybe a more practical gift like a gift card for swim lessons or a ride on toy or something he will get more use out of and save the Badass shoes for when he is 3 or 4 and can appreciate them and last a bit longer
Girl buy them shoes Iām a mom of 3 anytime anyone else can do sumn for my kids itās a blessing
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He will grow out of them in 3 months. I think she might appreciate a gift card to get some groceries for them.
I would just ask her straight up if it would upset her, tell her you got a deal or something. No one needs to know how much you really paid. But I would appreciate any gift for my child from 25 cents to $2500
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If you want to gift the shoes and mom is ok with the gift then do it. Imo hes 1 and wont understand his mom canāt afford them.
Ask his mom. She may really be struggling and with what youād spend on that one pair of shoes (I have no doubt theyāre super cute) you could buy his whole summer wardrobe.
I would say if sheās going through a difficult time with her expensive divorce maybe get more practical items! Diapers, wipes and then some things for fun!
Honestly, I would gift them to him anyways! I am a single mother and have been for all of my sons 5 years of life and I cant always afford expensive things, I mean I make sure I do for his birthday and Christmas, but I cant always get expensive things (we have nice things and everything we need dont get me wrong) but after bills and food theres not much left, and I love when other people get him things I cannot or dont think to getā¦like my dad always spoils himā¦he bought him a $500 4 wheeler just because a couple years ago and a $700 go kart last Christmas and I was more than ok with it because even though I couldnt afford those things they made my son happy and thatās all that should matter! I say go for it!
Everyone is different, but if it was me, I wouldnāt be offended! Itās for her son and they are cute!
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How is your relationship with her? Are you guys like sisters? Cool with each other? Do you have any idea how she would take it? If you guys are close and she knows u mean well she probably wont be offended. I personally would love it!
My husband and I couldnāt afford things like that for our kids. My brother and sister-in-law did not have kids and would buy expensive things for our kids, it never bothered me at all. I was glad they could have things they wanted and I knew they did not do it to āshow us upā, it was something they wanted to do for them.
Get her a gift card in that amount to a store she frequently visits
It may help more then shoes he wonāt really use
Kudos to you for wanting to give him a gift. Regardless of the cost or the gift, I always accepted, cause the gift wasnāt meant for me and I would never put a price on love and attention given to my children, family or not.
It would depend on the mum. Weāre financially sound but I donāt agree with designer goods for my kids. Our money for them goes into an account to put them through uni and pay a deposit on their first house. Every parent has different priorities. I would see the shoes as such a waste of money but I have friends who would love them and I would buy similar for them.
I literally send my kids to his aunt to get Gucci shoes 
my sister doesnāt have kids and works three jobs so she can afford to buy him impracticable things and take him on vacation so Iām always like here go with your aunt oh and you know I want him to have a loving relationship with her as he gets older
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In all honesty, I would maybe gift them an activity instead of a pair of shoes that 1) he will outgrow in a few and 2) hardly ever keep on his feet. Something that would give them time together or time with you like a zoo trip. That would get mommyās mind of the divorce and let them spend quality time together. The child might start having some memories of the zoo trip over a pair of shoes. Just a thought. Good luck!
Get a whole bunch of outfits for him and an inexpensive pair of shoes. Then your spending the same amount of money and heās getting more. She might appreciate thatā¦
Really depends on how the family thinks. Everyone is different. Iād ask him what he felt you could do to help.
Why buy an expensive pair of Gucci sneakers for a baby who will out grow them quickly? My daughter out grew her toddler clothes and sneakers quickly. Kids that young grow of clothes quickly so my husband and I always bought clothes from Walmart even now we still do but we go to old navy for their clothes now since both my kids are teens now.
Who buys a 1 yr old Gucci shoes, just for them to be outgrown in a couple months. Lol. Honestly though, neither of you are wrong. I do get his perspective though. And really, a 1 yr old would rather have character shoes that light up. If itās something you really want to do then Iād ask the mom first. She just may not be into all that material high end name brand stuff for a 1 yr old.
Sometimes status symbol gifts or designer though well meant just do not hit the spot intended. My son was given a pair of designer collectible tennis shoes. It was before he was injured in a accident and got a TBI. Did he ever wear them? No . They sat in a box and when he came to live with me as his Guardian and his Caregiver they stayed in the box. He died of a seizure 4/20. That gift though well meaning did nothing but sit in a box so it was a waste of the gift givers money. And yes you could have her just shaking her head and wondering what you were thinking.
Personally i would just buy them thata what your heart is saying. The kid has nothing to do with his parents divorce and it would probably take his mind off of whatās going on. Thatās just how i feelā¦
Why something so high end for a 1 year old? They grow so quickly heāll be out of them before you know it. Something a little more sensible would be better.
Gucci shoes for a baby is wasted money as they grow very quickly!!! Use that money to buy the child a few sets of clothes perhaps or toys that will last a while, or nappies,giftcards.
itās a nice gesture but when money is tight an expensive gift like that could be too much , the intention is good but may be something to distract the boy like a push car or a less expensive gift
Its a definite no from me, save them for when he will appreciate them and his feet have grown to size. For now id go for a gift card and a toy xc
Your heart is in the right place.
I disagree with your husband about giving gifts that parents canāt afford. Thatās daft!
As a single mom, in retrospect, I wish gifts for my 1 year old were deposits into a college fund, and perhaps a small simple toy. 1 year olds donāt care about Gucci, and heāll grow out of them in 2 heartbeats. Itās a waste of money that could accrue over time and help a great deal later.
Weāre saddling your nephewās generation with at least 30 TRILLION in debt. Todayās generation and a couple before are still paying off student loans. Expenses are going up. Your nephew will benefit most from contributing to a college fund.
Youāre a sweet aunt with great taste. When heās a teen, then spoil him with clothes. But now is the time to invest in his future.
Your nephew is blessed to have you in his life.
I disagree with your husband. Give him th shoes!! My family is well off and while I am not hurting, they have mor available cash than I do. They enjoy being able to buy things for my girls that I canāt afford. It DID bother me at first but I quickly got over it 
Ask her.
We can give you advice until we are blue in the face.
However, we do not know his mother, or the situation. Some people would have a problem with it and some wouldnāt. Thereās no way to know without asking herā¦bet theyāre cute though.
Go ahead and gift them to him. He can rock emā while they fit. Since baby feetsies grow fast Mom can sell them and make some money in a month lolš.
I think you should consider getting them matching style shoes. Youāre not showing her up, youāre helping her show out with her son!
Gucci shoes for a one year old is such a waste of money! Iām sure a gift card to Walmart or Target would be such a better idea. He will outgrow those shoes in a few months.
The only reason i wouldnt say ask the sister is because she may say āof course thats fineā not wanting to be rude, but her feelings may not match that. I just really doubt she would say no even if she was feeling no.
I always have appreciated it when people gift my kids and grandkids with things I could never afford
Maybe she may prefer the money if she is going through a divorceā¦uncertain times for herā¦plus babies grow soooo quicklyā¦
I say get him the shoes and an outfit or a couple of them so no one will be in their feelings about you only buying him expensive shoes. I donāt just buy shoes without an outfit to go with them or a couple of them it would make the gift better just my opinion.
I agree with the husband and it is important to value his opinion since it is his sister. It is important to keep the love and peace in the family.
If they were married and just going through a hard time, I could see that maybe being an issue if pride. However, she will probably appreciate the gesture while sheās trying to do what she needs to finalize the divorce.
I think your hubby is right, dont outdo the parents. And besides that, itās such a waste at 1 year old. I think.
In my opinion a one year old doesnāt need Gucci shoes. Like whatās the point, heās going to outgrow them in 2 seconds. Iād say get your sister something nice instead. Sheās the one whoās going through the emotional turmoil. She could use a pick me up.
If your SIL is going through a divorce she most likely needs every penny she can get. For you to give a 1 year old such expensive shoes is a slap in the face for more than one reason. First, you are showing her that you can afford the shoes while she most likely cannot. Second, no I year old needs such expensive shoes - and there are many other, less expensive shoes you can get. Third, why donāt you gift her that money to help her get through this rough time. Sorry if Iām giving you a negative post, but what you want to do is really offensive for you to do at this stage of her life.
I think itās totally fine! U do whatās in ur heart. I mean if they NEED something like socks, diapers, underwear or food maybe include a gifts card to Walmart but if u can and want to I see nothing wrong with itā¦on the other hand, kids his age grow out of clothes/shoes so fast he wonāt get much use out of them but thatās y itās better as a gift bc mom/dad certainly wouldnāt spend that much money on something theyāll outgrow so quickly
As a parent myself I would appreciate any gift somebody would buy my kid
Why the heck not? On the other hand, the money could be used on an item that is longer lasting, and more helpful than designer shoes for a childā¦just a thoughtā¦
Kids feet grow so fast when they are young. He wouldnt be able to wear them for long. I mean, if you wanna ask mom firstā¦but I wouldnt
I would give her a gift card so she can get things she will need. They wonāt fit after 2 months
I would just ask the mom before buying or doing anything like that. See how she feels first.
I say do it, nothing wrong. She might be happy because itās for her son and she didnāt have to buy them.
Honestly. It is a wonderful gesture but if sheās struggling financially she may prefer something else.
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My brother and wife get my girls more expensive stuff than I would, itās lovely they want to spoil them. Nothing wrong with it 
A one year old is not going to realize the shoes you got are more expensive then the parents gifts. I mean shoes are shoes and the boy is probably going to outgrow them in a couple months, so it seems like a bit of a waste. Ultimately yea the parents maybe jealous but at the end of they day they are just a pair of shoes.
I think supporting them with things they may need more at this time, but a fun Christmas or Holiday spurge
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If money is tough, she should probably ask what he really needs. There might be something that would be much more helpful.
Get a cute pair of less expensive shoes and a more useful gift card. The baby will grow out of the shoes in a minute anyway.
I canāt help but comment. Gucci shoes for a one year old who is just learning to walk is beyond the pale of ludicrous. The child will be out of those shoes in no time at all. Spend your money on sister-in-law. A spa day while you babysit nephew. Nephew will never remember the shoes. Sister-in-law though will always remember spa day. Just my opinion.
No. Donāt buy them. The baby wonāt even notice themā¦baby would rather play with the box and paper wrapping the gift. Donāt out gift the parents.
Just make sure the soles are plyable. Our grandson got a hairline fracture called a toddler fracture from stiff sole shoes
Really to be honest the kid is 1. Prob wonāt even wear them much. If wait for the child to be old enough to appreciate those things.
Girl give that baby those shoes. I donāt think you are trying to show anyone up and until you have some of your own whatās wrong with spoiling your nephew.
My sister in law bought both my kids their first pairs of expensive shoes. They make more money than we do. I feel like anyone who wants to show my children love is more than welcome. Unless I mention im getting something and they go gift it first then Iām upset.
Iām sure the money could go towards something more important tbh like the fact the divorce is expensive sheās probably struggling with bills. I have two kids and could buy them a whole season of clothes to fill two wardrobes with the price of a pair of Gucci shoes that will last all of a few weeks on a one year old. Tbh Iāve never herd anything so ridiculous.
I wouldnāt spend my own money on those but if someone wanted to gift them to my child I would be ok with it.
I am sure she would really appreciate you doing that. Itās always to know people care.
It will make her feel bad, coming from a divorcĆ©e who couldnāt afford food at the time.
I think itās a gift. For your nephew and that is fineā¦ Does he NEED them no. But, you are auntie- you can spoil him if you want
It would suck if they rubbed his feet wrongā¦ My babies have fat feet and i had to make sure the fit was rightā¦ Best to ask if its ok and have mom go on a girls day withā¦ It could actually be very therapeutic honestlyā¦
Shoes for a 1 yr old no matter the designer should never be this big of a deal. From how the post is written money must be used in ugly ways near you. Buying or wearing Gucci shoes does not signify doing well and doing well is not signified by buying or wearing Gucci shoes. To say that you would be showing up the parents is an ugly mindset. Gifts no matter the size or cost given out of love ususlly reciprocate more love.
Maybe just a pair of shoes. One-year-olds tend to grow so fast that heās not going to wear that size for long.
Because shes a grandparent. And its her business. Im sure her kids know she can afford it.
Gucci shoes for a 1 year old is a waste of money. Just cause you can doesnāt mean you should.
I love when people buy my kids gifts I canāt afford. I say go for it.
Save that money and give it to her via food or paying a bill. The baby needs food over designer shoes
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Maybe you could get her a gift card for the amount of the shoes. To somewhere practical . She could get things he may NEED .
I think itās so kind of you, but I also see hubbies point, a tricky one, personally if anyone bought my kids Gucci shoes Iād be rapt!
Itās a gift. Nothing wrong with it. If you can afford it, why not? Yes, get the baby the shoes. My kids have gotten very expensive things and hundreds upon hundreds of dollars as gifts from family. I never had a problem with it. Iām grateful for any gift regardless of price.
Tell the mom you want to buy him a gift and take her with you to pick it out
At that age kids feet grow so fast it wouldnāt be financially practical. If you donāt care about that, go for it.
Heck yes sister send the shoes! Something to save in keepsakes.
Why anyone would spend that much on a pair of shoes that the kid will grow out of soon is beyond me, but give it to him.
Those are a waste of money. The kid wonāt even be able to wear them a whole year because the grow so fast.
I donāt know how much the shoes cost but maybe you could give her the money towards the divorce.
it depends on what kind of people they are. i donāt care if people buy my kids expensive things I canāt afford, but some people are wierd about it and considering it is his sister and he feels that way, his sister might be the same
I find it hard to believe that you refer to her as āyour husbands sisterā not āyour sister or sister in-lawā. I mean ā¦do even like her?? To refer to her as āyour husbands sisterā thats sad, what kinda Karen are you! Canāt you just say your nephew?! Also buy him something heāll get years of use out of.
Start him a college fund insteadā¦ he may wear those shoes 1 timeā¦ an education will last forever!
Why spend an insane amount of money on a pair of shoes that they are only going to be able to wear for a few short months? Iād find other ways she could use that money
There is no reason what so ever to buy a 1 year old Gucci shoes.
Why would you give a 1 year old Gucci shoes? Heās gonna outgrow them in a month if thatā¦ Heās not gonna remember them. Ask her what he NEEDS.
Because Gucci shoes is what a child needs while his parents are getting a divorce ā¦ what about a toy to keep his mind busy?
Not to mention itās beyond rude to dangle money in front of someoneās face when they are facing hardships especially when itās not particularly helpful.
If your so good for a pair of Gucci shoes thatāll be ruined( waste of money) Iām sure you would be good to help with expenses if need be. Maybe offer.
My opinion is a gift card and maybe a sis day out with a spa day or something for her.
If a parent gets mad bc someone buys their child something they cant afford they should be ashamed of theirself for being so selfish. Just wow.
Give the money to the mom . Why buy a pair of Gucci shoes for a 1 year old that INSANE , they grow out of shoes in a very fast time . Plus what one year will leave the shoes on . Not ever one year old can walk .
Present the shoe to the parentā¦if they are ok with it then you have nothing to worry aboutā¦and yesā¦giving kids expensive gifts that their parent/parents cant buy can possibly marginalize them in the kids eyesā¦