That’s a tough situation, but I think Hubby is right. The kids that stay full time should have their own space. The ones who come for short/intermittent stays can share space while still having their own areas.
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my ex has 3 step kids and our 2 the oldest shares a room with my oldest because they aren’t there all the time giving her girls their own room when mine are home. maybe try something like that
I would have the 8 y/o have the room that would share with the older girls when they are there. Then 75% of the time she gets her own space and the times they are there she has room mates.
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Why can’t she share a room with the Older step daughters?? If your 8 year old doesn’t want to share a room with the babies I wouldnt think they would be too happy about being moved into a room with toddlers either. If the room is too small then switch rooms. No I personally would not take away the only private space the step kids have in your home. I also understand your 8 year olds need for some privacy and time away from the little kids. I think moving your daughter into the older girls room is a better solution and all will be happier. That way your daughter gets her space most of the time and she isn’t looking like she’s special to the step kids because trust me that is what they will think if she has a room to herself while 7 or 8 other kids are forced to share bedrooms with other kids. They are only there once in awhile so she will in all reality have her own bedroom 90% of the time. Why don’t you ask the older kids about it. Ask if they’d rather share a room with the babies or the 8 year old and BEFORE you move anyone’s beds makes sure to sit them down and get their thoughts and explain to them why it’s needed. You may think they don’t care after the fact one day they come to dad’s house and find their shots been all moved without them knowing but what else are they gonna say lol. Definitely tell them and talk to them before you do anything so they don’t feel like your kids are more important than they are.
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I love that you are just as concerned about your step kids as your bio kids. That’s how it should be, and unfortunately we don’t see enough of that. I think your husband is right, my step mom moved our rooms around a few times, it never bothered any of us, we were only there twice a week, we had other bedrooms at our other home
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If could I would build another room for her.
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I would definitely make sure you include the older girls in the decision! I remember always feeling left out as a kid when my step parent and sister would make room decisions with out me and I was there every weekend😊
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I would be fine with it cuz they dont live there full time but if its really getting to you you could try privacy curtains or room dividers
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Move the 8 year old with the 15 and 13 year old girls…
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I say move the older girls in with your little ones. It’s not like they have to be there all the time… definitely dont move the boys in with the girls… but I agree with your husband
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Move her step kids arent permanent. Let your daughter have her own space
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Can she maybe fit with the “big” girls
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Maybe put the 8 year old in with the bigger girls. She would pretty much have her own room except when they come over.
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My kids and bonus kids share rooms. My bonus daughter is 17 and my daughter is 7. My bonus sons are 13 and my son is 7. We don’t have anyone full time as we have shared custody. No one really minds about the sharing tho.
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Can u make the 8 year olds room with the two older girls ?
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Makes more sense to move the 8 yr old in with the older two girls
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Put the 8 year old in the room with the 2 older girls.
She will have her own space generally, & will have sleepovers when the older sisters come.
They will just have to understand the 8 year old has more in common with them than the 3&4 year olds
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I agree with the above comments, move her into the older girls rooms since they are there every other weekend, But before this happens, sit them all down & discuss this with them to see if they agree, & fully understands. If they all get along, there really should be no problems,
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Talk it over with all the kids and explain why you want to.
I’d move 8 year old in with big sisters!
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Yeah, kids there full time deserve a bit more space than kids there part time.
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Personally if I were taking a kid out of a bedroom because the kids are such a bother to their roommate I wouldn’t want to put another kid in there to be bothered too, I don’t think THAT is fair. If you have to move her, move her in with the older girls, and leave the 2 little ones in a room alone together.
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I’d just have a conversation with the kids and see how they feel about it then proceed from there.
Why dont you move the 8 year old in with the older girls? So then she has her own room when they are not there and when they are there at least they wont be bothering her all the time!! Growing up my dad and mom split and my dad married a woman who had 3 kids. All of the girls slept in the finished basement. It was me my 2 sisters and our stepsister until she moved out. We didnt mind it at all.
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Give your 8 yr old her own room. The step kids are there temporarily and she’s there full time. When the girls come over you can also let them stay in the room with your 8yr old or put them somewhere else.
Move the 10, 13, and 8 year old into the bigger room together and move the two younger girls in the smaller room together. Not about picking favorites, it’s just about finding a good fit with growing and maturing children.
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My only advice as someone who shared a room with sisters almost all her life…get them lockers or some sort of cabinet that locks to keep their private stuff private and make sure that the 8 year old knows that just because she’s in there alone most of the times doesn’t give her free reign of the other sisters stuff. That can cause a lot of drama with the older girls and grief for you.
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Your dam if you do and dam if you don’t.biut your daughter is there with you guys so l think she needs her one room.
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Protect the child who feels invaded. They all need to feel welcome and it’s their home. Is there a dining room that could be converted to a BR?
What about a partition to make boundaries?
Put her in the older ones room problem solved
Why not put the 8yr old in with the older girls like two of them in bunk beds. And one in a single or a triple bunk or something so at least she has her own space or is in with the older girls
There’s no use in having an empty room during the week when it can be utilized. Move the 8 year old into the older girls’ room. I’m sure they can handle it 8 days out of the month.
Move your daughter in with her bonus sisters. She gets a room by herself when they aren’t there. And, when they are she gets peace and quiet.
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You are such an amazing parent 
is the big room large enough to put up a wall and make it into two smaller rooms? I’ve seen people do this with garage spaces for more rooms.
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The first problem is His kids vs Your kids. If the parents are married one could consider the Children Our kids.