Mandatory skin to skin 
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Your story sounds a little strange if it is true keep kids away move far away
Nope. Protect your kids from all toxic people.
My husband counts and my kids not any body else
He needs to stand up to his mom and defend you.
Nope!!! Either learn to like me or PRETEND TO or NO!!!
I say bye boo but I really mean the other âBâ word
This is not the place to ask for family advise!
You need a new husband.
Sheâs a narcissist, stay awayâŚfar, far away!
I had the same problem with my mil she was evil
Nope. Bye Felicia. Act like an adult and see your grandkids. Act like an a$$, and see the door.
You need to understand this is spiritual.
Forgive her and go on a 7 day water fast and pray at midnight
Pray 51:10 over her heart
Cancelled the word curses⌠google prayer against Jezebel spirit/witchcraft manipulation
I can help you set up an one on one
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Yes itâs called payback
Dig in and stand your ground.
Nope and hell nope 
I mean the way I said it 
Nope she sounds toxic for everyone
Tell her to kiss off & ur husband to go live with her take the kids & leave
Drop her from your life and your childrens
Tell your husband to be a man and husband or hit the road.
Tell your husband to go find his balls
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Tell him to grow some balls or get out.
Mother in law sounds mentalâŚHusband needs to sit her down and straighten her outâŚas in if you donât get along with my wifeâŚYou wonât be seeing us at all.
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HELL NO. Dont let that woman anywhere near your kids. Cut all contact with her. To hell with your husband.
Yes, let the children see her. Be the bigger person. Take it to the Lord, pray about and watch God. Your husband should have your back but since he doesnât you can kill his mother with kinds. I hope things work out better for you and your family.
WowâŚi would insist she come to your home to see thmâŚwhat an awful, horrible grandmotherâŚeven if I didnt agree or like the grandsâ mom i would NEVER say anything to or in front of thmâŚthey are babies and cant help what stupid adults do!!
Your husband needs to grow balls, hes allowing this behavior by listening to her. He needs to tell her straight up âdo not disrespect my wifeâ
Keep your kids away from her and she trying to break up your marriageâŚ
Fasting, praying warfare prayer and etc
Psalm 91
No!!! No brainer!!!
JD J.D. Dawkins this might be worth a read
Heâs in the market for a new mom. Sheâs a stone cold bitch. My X was about as miserable a person as you could find but I never said negative things to our son about him. I let him form his own opinion as he got older. Hopefully these kids will listen to mom and dad and still be respectful to the old bat. Good luck because it wonât be easy.
I wouldnât let that old bitch anywhere near my kids. And if your husband wonât stand up for you, kick his ass to the curb too.
Prayers for peace in a very difficult situation God be with you all
Hell to the no let her have them tell mother n law to kiss your ass
Itâs time for you to say act right or go. Youâre not having her shit around the kids. Theyâre mine, so my rules!
Iâd fucking tell your husband to grow some balls and tell his mom to back off or he can go because heâs not being a man by any means if he doesnât stand up for you and your kids with all the negativity sheâs throwing around
Thatâs his mom. Let him handle that
Then let him live with mommy dearest
Tell her to kiss ur butt
My (now ex) husband, MIL and his young daughter would all talk shit about me behind my back and around our son. My ex-husband would often whisper into our sons ear even as an infant and would say, âyour mommy doesnât love you, only I love youâ. I would ask and beg him not to do that and he would respond with, âhe doesnt understandâ. When my son was 4 he walked up to his 14 year old sister and asked her why she didnât like me. My ex-husband snapped at our son and said, âdonât say thatâ. I told my ex husband that he reacted incorrectly and he didnât understand. His 14 year old then decided she was no longer coming over every other week, âas long as I was thereâ. My ex-husband called me at work the next day and told me what his daughter said and then said he wanted a divorce! I had it put in our divorce decree that none of them can talk about me when my son is around. Doesnât really mean much but I am glad I at least have it on record.
Check out the grandparents rights for your state, if you deny her seeing them she can get the courts involved and depending on your state they could force you to let her have visitation. But if theres nothing for your state then I would sit down with her and your husband and tell them both if they cant act like adults and put their bullshit feelings aside then she cant be involved. Youâre not going to out your kids in a situation where they arent comfortable and hearing grandma talk shit about mommy would make them uncomfortable. They definitely wouldnt be around her without me present if it was me and if she didnt like it then shes the one missing out.
Tell your husband to grow a pair and tell his mommy that if she canât get along with his wife, she isnât welcome. Hes a mommas boy and needs to stop being a pussy. Tell her if she wants to see your children, she has to grow up and deal with you being there.
Um no and no way, good bye
She is 100% emotionally manipulating your husband which is total bullshit. He needs to put his foot down. Until he stops playing both sides, it isnât gonna end. I stopped letting my FIL walk all over me for this very reason as well. Then told my husband that he needed to stop playing both sides. All that ever did was make my husband mad, and automatically made me the scapegoat to blame, even though we made all the decisions together. It was an easy out for my husband, but he was still mad about being in the middle. I told him you playing both sides and not putting your foot down is the root of the problem here. All it was doing was creating animosity towards me, and I was fed up with always being the one that got blamed. One day he got so pissed at his dad for blaming me, he drove to his dadâs house and let him have it. It stopped instantly after that.
Who gives a crap that itâd his mom toxic is toxic you definitely donât want that woman around you child because you know for sure that she is going to bad mother you and arranging "fun outings " things to do with the kids without asking you first making you look like bad guy
She hates you more than she loves those kids. Tell her to knock it off or learn to be alone because sheâs hurting your babies.
Sorry if I think wrong but if your husband cant tell his mom that you are his wife and the mother of his children and it doesnât really matter if she hates you or not YOU ARE FUCKING THERE then hes just as disrespectful as his mom.
F@#$ that, mother or not, respect my family as a whole or not at all. Time for Dad to have a serious talk with Mom.
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My husband cut ties with his entire family because of this same thing. It was his choice. He said anyone who tries to hurt me is also trying to hurt our kids and thatâs unacceptable.
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Iâm in same boat,but my MIL lives with us. However,my husband is on my side about her starting crap with me and her talking crap about me to our kids. He helps me out her back in her place when she does this. She pouts about it like a kid for a week,then acts normal again for a few days,then starts it again. Be glad when she can move out to her own place.
Sheâs toxic.
Sheâs abusive.
Itâs your job to protect your children (and yourself) from both.
You know what you need to do. Put on your big girl panties and stand your ground. Stay strong.
Used to be like that. Over time she knew I wasnât going anywhere so now weâve worked it out
No. My partnerâs best friend hates me. I wonât get involved in their relationship but he canât see our daughter (with the support of my partner.) He technically could see her if he came to our house but since he wonât he doesnât see her. I wonât let my kid go somewhere Iâm not welcome.
I was going through something very similar,but mine was my entire in law family. I cut them out,and since itâs been great. Me and my husband very rarely ever fight and my daughter quit acting out and hitting me. Also, a big difference in mine was they tried saying that the baby Iâm currently pregnant with wasnât my husbands. Iâve always kept my husbands decisions up to him but we sat down talked and both agreed until they grow up then they donât need apart of anything.
NopeâŚshe can say bye to your kidsâŚand if she were to see themâŚits only with youâŚsoâŚyou are able to correct her shitty behavior.
Nope⌠she could fuck right offâŚ
No, I would not! In my opinion, if you hate me, you hate my child. Plain and simple!
Itâs a no for me. Iâm sorry but if she feels that way about you and it only gets worse, then I would be worried about her saying things to your children about you in the near future. I would be worrisome about a woman like her around my kidâs
Family discussion, grow up grandmaâŚitâs not at all cool to speak badly about anybodys parents at anytime, itâs their mother, itâs gonna put a wedge between her and her grandkidsâŚI say let her, the kids will learn to hate who berates their mother constantly. Defended my mother way too much to others!!!golden rule!!!
Definitely not. People like that do not need to be in your childrens lives. All she will do is teach them that same negative behavior. Your husband needs to have a very serious talk with his mother. Those kids do not belong around her until she can learn to respect you. And she should never be around them alone. I know from perspective of a child what kind of stress it puts on kids when their parent(s) are hated by other members of the family. You are his wife, you deserve the support of your husband, and it isnât anything you should have to ask for, even in defense from his mother.
My kids dad dated this woman who couldnât stand me to the point where she ACTUALLY left me multiple long ass rambling messages while I was pregnant where she hoped I would fall down stairs and lose my baby. She hoped my baby was born dead or deformed. I showed him and he played it off as no big deal. Just jealousy. I saved all the messages and sent them to my family just in case ANYTHING happened to me or mine. I donât allow my kids to his place if sheâs anywhere around. I donât play around with that kind of nonsense. Insult to injury shes a mother so she should know better!
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I told my inlaws âŚafter similar circumstancesâŚthat if they couldnât respect me and at least be civil they wouldnt see my kids until they were 18 as I wouldnât subject them to negativity and hatred. they got it together for a few years and them it all came crashing back when my ex and I got divorced⌠so make a stand because it will poison your children
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Husband needs to cut the apron strings himselfâŚyou and the kids are his family now and he needs to make sure that his mother understands that you and the kids come first alwaysâŚno contestâŚand then show her by his words and actionsâŚ
If that doesnât do it, he needs to take steps to severely limit his interaction with herâŚshes using himâŚwhat kind of mother does that?
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Make a compromise with your husband and tell him that you guys should do a trail run, that every time sheâs around the moment she makes a comment you guys say nope not doing this and leave or have her go! Giving into the fights gives her the attention she wants, she will learn to shut her mouth when she realizes that thatâs whatâs making her alone
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She sounds awful and needy. The only hope is if your husband is a strong enough man to say look thatâs my wife and the mother of my children you are taking about and if you cannot treat her with respect and kindness then you have chosen to not be around me or her or our children. He has to shut her down and end her manipulation and demand an apology to both of you. If she canât manage that then she makes her own choice. If your man doesnât stand up for you then that tells you something too. Good luck sorry!
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People that are hurting, hurt others! Keep showing her love and praying! The word says when you leave your mother and father you are to Cleve to your wife and you two become one! So continue to love her together as one! I believe once she sees that you are united and consistent together she will stop! love is a weapon that cannot be destroyed! I will pray for you and your situation!
Stay as far away from her as possible. Your husband should talk to his mother about her attitude. When he married you he made a commitment to you and now your children. If possible donât let your kids around her unless you are there. Maybe she has early onset dementia, or mental issuesâŚbe very careful, and God bless you.
Been there and I lived right next store. Just keep your distance from her as much as possible. No matter who he is with they will never be good enough.
Mother in law is so toxic, nobody should be around her. This is her sonâs problem and he needs to fix it, not tomorrow or the next day. TODAY! He is married and his wife and children come first no matter what. She needs to get a life and find someone else to degrade. 
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Cut her off completely, your husband too. Dont take her calls, dont go there, dont see them until she changes her attitude. If she doesnt say bye bye. I had to teach a mother in law the same thing.He is your husband and now closer to you than his mother she should be next in line not you .
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You need to have a serious talk with your husband and he needs to have one with his mom. It is wrong of her to do that even if you were a bad person! Demand that he tell her to stop it or she would be denied the chance to see her Grandkids!â
It sounds like sheâs manipulating your husband. He needs to stand up to her and set some boundaries. If she canât refrain from disrespecting you in front of others she will be trying to manipulate those grandchildren too. I really hope your husband backs you up on this. Otherwise, itâs going to take a toll on your relationship with him. Best wishes.
Hell NO!. As a young person growing up, my dad kept us home and didnât even want us into our neighbourâs yard. Unlike us, our neighbourâs children were free as birds and would go out and come home anytime of the day without any questions or reprimand. Thereâs a bid difference between us today and our neighbourâs kids. We went further in schooling and are independent than the neighbourâs kids. One thing I remember my dad telling us was " not everyone is going to like me; if my enemy wanted me dead, but canât get close to me, the easiest way to get to me will be through my children. If they poisoned and killed one of my children, that will be getting to me and killing me." Now that I am older, I fully understand what my late father meant. I Thank you, Papa so much; and may your soul continue to rest in Godâs perfect peace. Miss you so much.
No maâam. Keep her away from them, unless you are there. Kids should never be involved in adult issues. They do not need to learn hate. Stay strong. They are YOUR babies not hers. Prayers for you in this difficult situation. Your hubs, needs to stand up to her and support you.
I always went with my dad to visit my grandfather and step-grandmother. My mom never went, but I didnât question anything. Never once did she say anything bad about them to me, and never once did they say anything bad about her. It wasnât until my grandfather passed that I found out they didnât get along. If they are able to keep their feelings from the kids, it shouldnât be an issue with them visiting with their father present.
Do not let your kids around her without you, she will poison them against you, I would give my husband an ultimatum, is either mom or you and your kids, is not good for anybody a situation like this, the best thing is cutting all bad things from your lives even if that means living her out
My mother in law didnât like me at first. But we get a long great now. I would be afraid of your mother in law talking bad about you to your kids when youâre not there. Maybe the 3 of you need to sit down and talk this out. First, he married you. He loves you. You are the mother of her grandkids and needs to accept that. Do you know why she doesnât like you? That also needs to be addressed and find what her problem is to see if that could be worked out. Youâre all adults here. Your husband also needs to be on your side to get his mother to see why he loves you and married you.
After all that and you still arenât welcome, then Iâd say the kids arenât welcome either. You and your kids do not need that negativity in your life. If you show your husband how you want to try and work this out and she doesnât maybe it will open his eyes to see that his mother is the only problem. Good luck.
I canât believe that this woman would profess to love her son and treat the woman that he married this way. But regardless, your husband should tell his Mother that all of you are adults and the two of you can deal with her behavior. But, you teach your children to respect everyone and you will not allow her to act in a way that interferes with morals and kind of behavior that you are trying to instill in your children. He should tell her this and demand that in front of your children she always show respect to anyone that they witness her interactions with. If she canât he will not allow the children to be exposed to that negative influence.
hubby is between a rock and a hard place but on the other hand if she sees you make him (her son) happy, why canât he tell her to get over it, he loves both of you but will choose you, over her, if she forces him to
My messages to my kids was always: She has a disease called negativism. I hope you never get it
just no way. if your husband sees this behaviour and does not nip it in the bud? shame on him. he should grow a pair and defend you to the bitter end. that is what partners do.
Hubby needs to nip that in the bud. Itâs ok for her to not like you. It isnât ok for her to talk crap about you in front of your kids.
I dont know hate is a strong emotion. I think she couldnt have a healthy relationship with her grandchildren if she hates you. As her feelings about you will be portrayed onto the children. Maybe try therapy with you and her before you let her alone with your children. Then atleast she is making a positive effort.
And your his wife! Itâs not up to her to make any rules. She hates you, then she stays away from you AND your kids. If your husband objects, just tell him you donât want your children exposed to such hate and why isnât he protecting his wife. I had a mother-in-law like that. I always treated her with respect regardless of what she said or did until my husband finally told her if she spoke badly about me once more, she would never see him or his family again. End of problem. Ask your husband why he isnât standing up for the mother of his children?
He doesnât stand up for you so donât dare give his mother another thought. Seek help for domestic abuse.
There is a verse in the bible,about how the man leaves his mother to seek his wife.
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No way. If she isnât going to show me respect me she isnât going to see my children
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He either stands up to his mom or she sees none of you including her son. Donât let this go on any longer.
Tell him itâs his Mom or you. This is toxic for you & your children! She wants him so bad, tell her she can have him!!
But hell, so heâs okay with mom treating you so disrespectfully and to hell with your feelings. MIL will turn your kids against you if given the chance.
She treats you like this because your husband ALLOWS it! Until your husband can have your back and stand up to her, I wouldnât leave them alone.
No not unless at least your husband is there to monitor her
Iâd flat out say no. She will not be around my children. Period.
Your children are more important than âbut its my momâ
I think Iâd have a talk with her. Iâd explain to her that you know she dosenât like you. Then make it very clear the six year old is picking up on her hatred. If this continues she wonât be allowed to see the grandchildren.
How can she love the kids but hate you, when the kids are part of you. No way would she be around my children at all.
Your mother in law needs to grow up.
If she is abusive toward you to your face what will she do when your back is turned. She sounds toxic and I personally would cut all ties until she learns to controll herself
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She sees the kids at your house when youâre homeâŚher choice if she decides not to
He should choose you over her. He lives in the home you two have made. I would not let my children be around her! In fact, I had the same issue with my MIL. She, to this day does bot see our children. They grew up just fine without her and her negative BS!
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He needs to cut the apron strings.