It depends as a blended family , our kids sometimes have to share due to lack of space my husbands girls are 18,13 my son 16 , we have been blended for 13 years , they love crashing out ( my son on the settee ) the girls on an air bed , too many people few it in a sexual way , when they just see each other as brother & sisters
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absolutely not. they arenât related. even the foster care system wouldnât allow them to share if that was the case. too close in age and thatâs not a good thing when theyâre brand new to each other âŚ
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Nope, bloodâŚor grown up together is one thing, something brand new, it would have to be very supervisedâŚa few movie night pallets on the living room floor kinda thing. However, everyone has to understand that life is complicated, and sometimes options are limited
My opinion⌠No.
If it was her blood brother that she is growing up with then It would be ok.
A boy she doesnât know, absolutely not.
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Umm no just no. PROTECT YOUR BABY AT ANY AND ALL COST. My great grandma always said prevention is better than cure. Could be harmless but you never know.
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I would say no because she doesnât know this boy and kids theses days see things that they shouldnât see. My 2 girls and my son shared a room when my mother stayed with us for a couple of months and he was the oldest and I believe he was 9 and after my mom moved out we wouldnât let anyone stay with us if the kids had to give up there rooms.
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No. I have boys that age and they are going through puberty. Crap even 9 year old girls are going through puberty. I donât think itâs appropriate given the ages, they are not related and the time that your ex has known this girlfriend and her son.
The exâs girlfriend of one month shouldnât even be staying over when sheâs there, so NO on the room sharing.
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No. Boy or girl, if youâve known this child for less than a month. A mother willing to move in with a man after one month of dating isnât exactly a good influence.
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Nope! Nope! Nope! Any court would make it mandatory for each child to have their own rooms! Donât sit back and do nothing. You can file an ex parte and something like this will be granted!
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Well for one, after school age, kids of different genders arenât supposed to share rooms anymore. Two, I feel like that should have been something that was discussed. Three, I need to know why they would even be okay??
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Not nowadays!!! Kids unfortunately know waaaaay more and are waaaaay more curious than they should be at these ages. In most states itâs not legally allowed. Protect your family and relationship⌠separate rooms.
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Depends really. But itâs not illegal. Thereâs just a recommendation that kids have their own room by a certain age
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Okay it does not really matter what any of us think or even what mom or dad think. If she drags her ex into court a Judge is likely to tell her itâs none of her business as itâs not her parenting time and as long as they have separate beds thereâs not much you can doâŚ
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Nope! Nope! NO! For one theyâve only been together A MONTH for TWO Ten year old boys get curious (Iâm the big sister of four the third child is my little brother he was that way at ten) SO NO!
NoâŚboys and girls shouldnât be sharing a room⌠maybe if they were younger like 1-5yrs old⌠but they need their space and privacy
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While in the United States there is no law in any state stating that siblings of opposite sex canât share a room. His gfs son isnât a sibling and I wouldnât feel my daughter would be safe
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So for people saying they have only known each other a month how do you know? They could have known each other for YEARS and have just been dating for a monthâ:person_shrugging:. Also who care if they live together after a month my husband and I were together for 2 weeks and got engaged we have been married 5 years⌠But thats not hear or there. So my answer to the post I think it all depends on the maturity of the kids I of course wouldnt let them change in the room with each other and would keep the bedroom open at night. Just because they are 9 and 10 does not mean they are going to do anything wrong. But I would also have one sleep on the couch (what ever child is just visiting). My cousins and i used to have boy girl sleep overs and we would all sleep in the same room 
just depends every situation is different.
Absolutely not. She would not go back until that situation was fixed. He can file with the courts all he wants, any judge will be like wtf.
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No, and they do not feel like siblings at this age and may not ever feel that way. Itâs just asking for ill will or more.
Nope! I wouldnât be okay with it if they were twins. That age needs space and privacy.
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no. 100% no. Even in cases of full siblings i say boy and girl need their own room. At that age theyâre curious about what the other gender has.
Rooming a girl & boy sibling of those ages is illegal in Idaho.(babies & toddlers are a bit different) CPS would have a hay day with that one!! And I would say my daughter is absolutely not sharing a room with a strange boy!
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No. This is exactly the kind of situation that leads to molestation. Not to say he is like that, but why take the chance? Parents having bad judgement puts children at risk. Itâs already concerning heâs moving in with a GF he has been dating for a month. BAD JUDGEMENT. No decent woman would move a child in with a man after only a month.
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I had a friend as a teen that had friends that were 12 and having sex⌠You donât know what the other personâs son has been around or seen. Iâm gonna say not a good idea. But at age 10 he is probably harmless. I would ask my daughter a million questions about the boy. If you have any further concerns have someone call CPS. Just remember CPS will investigate you too so make sure you are doing things right too.
Boys and girls cant share rooms, you can,lose your kid over that. I had a friend when i was younger who lost her kids they were twins and someone turned them in
I wouldnât even be ok with my daughter meeting a new partner of one month never mind sharing a room with her son.
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NOPE!! You just donât know how other people raise their kids. That is a risk I wouldnât take!
Definitely not even though young they barely know each other. Very bad decision.
I only have boys and wonât let them share a room with girls unless it is with family or friends kids, then they can make family beds.
No. No. No!
Me and my dadâs girlfriends son had to share a room for a summer, I was 12 and he was 13. Guess who tired to put his tiny dick in my face in the middle of the night? Told my dad the next morning and he beat his ass. I shouldnât have been put in that situation to begin with.
You never know what other peopleâs kids have been exposed to.
Definitely not .Girls love their space and hate sharing with any Male if it was female yes but not male especially if they are not from the same family like biological.
No. Boys and Girls do not share rooms after a certain age. They both need their privacy.
Absolutely not! The little boy can sleep out on the couch because a boy and a girl in the same room is not OK.
In my opinion I donât think itâs the best decision. But then again itâs up to you. Go with your gut. If you think itâs inappropriate then make other arrangements.
No, I dont care the maturity of the child. Kids now days know a lot more than they used too when we were kids. Curiosity will get the best of them
Not at all. At 9 or 10 I wasnât comfortable with my son and daughter sharing a room.
If they are using at different time timeâŚopposite weekendsâŚthen I would say its fine. But if at same time not just no but HELL F**KING NO.
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Absolutely not, and if it a case of âjoint custodyâ you need to get him back in court. UNACCEPTABLE.
No. Make better arrangements. Never put your child in this kind of situation ever!!
No they are both to old to be sharing even if they were siblings and 1 month is way to soonâŚ
Nope. No reason to open a door that doesnât need to be opened. Kids get curious. Especially as they near adolescence.
Definitely not. They are both older and need their own spaces.
Absolutely not. They can spend fun time in 3ach others rooms but when itâs bedtime they need their own rooms and privacy.
Call dhr or cps report it as an unstable environment boys and girls should have separate rooms. Any home evaluation requires a separate room for male and female siblings much less a stranger your child just met.
Social service would be all over that even brothers and sisters canât share a room your husband would lose custody to you if he allowed it
Depending on the state Iâm pretty sure itâs not legal for different sexed children to share a bedroom.
Iâm pretty certain it isnât legal in some states actually.
NoâŚnoâŚand no again! In my opinion the child(ren) should not even have overnight visitation at 1 month into a relationship!?
Hell no!! I would hold my child until a judge can tell him that itâs not ok.
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No!! Usually laws against that once the kids reach a certain age
NO. These kids are basically strangers. Heck,
the father and his girlfriend are still basically strangers.
Definitely out of the question. No sleep overs with people you know very little about.
No! And depending on the state, thatâs illegal at their age. Even if they were biological siblings, itâs still illegal.
Not that soon, and really, they are too old if they havenât grown up together a while.
Ummm noâŚyou never know what these kids are into or what theyâre watching these days!
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No theyâve only known this kid a month. 
seems sus to me ⌠As a mother thats a hard no from me sis. Especially at that ageâŚ
No! Absolutely not!
Not even if they were related would this be ok!
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Absolute not. That isnât even legal as far as I believe.
Thatâs too old for sharing imo. They need their own room and space.
No, if they were younger then maybe, but the age is borderline for inappropriate
Absolutely not. Also, pretty sure thats illegal. It is in my state anyway. No children of opposite sexes can sleep in the same room after 5.
Nope 
At this age they need to each have their own rooms.
Look. My kids are brother and sister. 12 and 4. My kids do not share a room. Nor would I ever allow it. I donât think itâs fair to either of them. Though my daughter is younger, not fair to her brother on privacy.
No no and again no. And our own family we donât even let girls and boys stay in the same Room
From experience, no!!! I understand they seem young still, but no! Experimenting will start happening and boys and girls need space away from one another.
Nope! And most states will say after 5 years of age they need to be in separate rooms!
If they are not blood siblings, they should NOT be sharing a room.
No. Never, take chances. They are young but kids know too much nowadays. Protect your lil girl
Depends on the laws for each state. Ohio after a certain age I think 6/7 they canât share a room with another child of opposite sex
No I wouldnât be ok with my child sharing a room with any child I dont know. Male or female.
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Are brothers and sisters allowed to share a room?
Except for special and/or extreme circumstances, there are no laws specifying how siblings share a room, even siblings with different genders.
Nope not ok and dcfs doesnt allow it either. It can get you in trouble so be careful
Nope 
. At that age they are beginning to become sexual curious about the difference in their bodies. Plus u donât know what this other child has been exposed to.
No way would I let my daughter sleep in a room with a boy over the age of 6âŚ
You should already know the answer to that without asking. No. No way.
Absolutely not. Take her away from that legally if you have to.
Nope! If they were toddlers maybe but they are too old
Itâs that or the couch. As long as they arenât in the same bed, itâs ok. Itâs for sleeping, the room is for sleeping. Stop over sexualizing children.
Not just no, but hell no! Not under any circumstances!
No where I live in Jersey I was told boys and girls canât share after 7 years old
No. That us too soon. One month ? Awkward fir the kids. They dint know each other.
Um⌠probably not! I can understand some people donât think things all the way through. Some peoples minds donât go straight to the what could happen. Some people have never gone through trauma of being molested or raped. Some people are clueless.
Maybe itâs just for short term. Who knows?
Not every kid is a deviant.
Not every kid thinks about sex at 10. Just putting that all out there.
If they were 4 and 5 years old, yeah, no problem. 9 and 10 years old, almost at puberty? Definitely not.
No unless circumstances absolutely call for it then absolutely not
First part of the question is fine, but no not if its a gfs son. Thats not ok.
Arenât there laws about this sort of thing? Child services had told me that after 5 or 6 years old, they canât be in the same room.
I donât have an issue with sharing a room but sharing a bed is a no for me.
CPS would say no to that. Boys and girls at those ages need their own rooms.
No way! Even same gender not a chance in hell.
I actually think itâs illegal in the state that I live in even if theyâre full siblings which is ridiculous. But I would not have my daughter sharing a room with their step brother that was unrelated.
It is illegal in at least my state in the US for anyone age 10 or older to share a room with the opposite sexâŚ
If you have to ask, then you already know the right answer for you.
No itâs not ok and cps/dfs can be called and they will be mad with separate them. Even the courts wonât allow it
Nope they either get their own room or Iâd be taking that to court
No
And only biological siblings can sleep in same room of different genders up to 12 years old. That is how it is in Virginia anyways
Absolutely not! She can sleep on the couch or the floor for all I care.
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You MUST be kidding! In the courts they donât allow that.
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NO WAY!
And the better questionâŚwhy is the exes new ONE MONTH girlfriend living there?
Thatâs actually against the law in some places.
No way! Do not let that happen at all cost, please!