Would you be okay with your husband going to a strip club?

Would you be okay with your husband going to the strip club with his work friends? my husband asked me if he could go this weekend but i dont know how to feel about it

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would you be okay with your husband going to a strip club?

If you don’t have trust then you don’t have a marriage

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Yep…he goes, i go,sometimes we go together…he eats his meal at home

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He will be fine, the girls there Should be Professonal and not touch him to much during a lap dance?

Nope. :woman_shrugging: just my opinion tho

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I wouldn’t care. Those women are just working and don’t want someone else’s man. They just want the money. I went with my bf once and got free drinks because I applauded the girls so much lol

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I used to let my hubby cause I trust him he doesn’t go now cause it’s too far away

Tell him he can go as long as you can go to one :rofl: Me personally I wouldn’t mind but I also trust my husband. He doesn’t go to strip clubs though but if he did I wouldn’t mind, but if you don’t feel comfortable with him going then just tell him that. He considered your feelings because he did ask you if he could go rather than not coming home from work and going anyway without telling you about it.

In this economy? He better make them dollars rain on your booty instead :rofl:

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If my husband wants to go to a strip club so badly I’m going on a separate occasion to be a dancer :slightly_smiling_face:

If he wants to go he can. It’s his life, his choice. No one should have to ask permission from their spouse to do something. Making the spouse aware of pending plans is as far as it needs to go.

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I’m going to be 100% honest here, I feel like women who aren’t okay with their man going to a strip club are crazy… Like for real it’s not like he can do anything with the women there, all he gets to do is look and maybe get a lap dance like it’s not a huge deal, it’d be no different to him watching porn or something like that as far as I’m concerned… So if it were my man I’d just let him go, what’s the worst that’s gunna happen :woman_shrugging:t3:

I mean you already answered your own question. Seems like a No . If he can’t respect that he shouldn’t be in a relationship

Yeah, it would be okay. I might feel uncomfortable with lap dances and stuff, but that’s my own insecurity :woman_shrugging:

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Doesn’t bother me. I have trust in my partner. Besides these woman don’t want your man lol. They want your man’s money and nothing more. They want to pay their rent. If you have trust in your partner then why do you worry? Same as you watching 50 shades lol

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Go have fun. Just remember where your coming home 2 and putting that D :laughing:. But if us girls go to thunder down under you Bess shut your mouth lol :laughing:

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Uh yes why the hell not! He ain’t going to perv alone he’s going with friends in a guys night he a grown ass man come on now

Doesn’t matter how I feel about it. It’s not place to tell him where he can and cannot go. As long as he’s not having sex with Anyone else we don’t really have the right to say anything

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Nope. But we all have our own boundaries & reasons

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Strip clubs have never bother me; I actually would prefer my significant other going there where the girls are working and not necessarily interested in other peoples men, than a bar with a bunch of single girls drinking. It really comes down to trust, if you trust him you’ve got nothing to worry about if he’s gonna cheat he could do it at the grocery store and a strip club doesn’t make the difference.

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Me and my girlfriend you know what’s funny she don’t care if I look at other girls as long as I don’t cheat on her and I don’t care if she looks the other guys she wants to go to the strip joint I know she’s not going to cheat on me and she says the same thing to me we trust each other that’s where you got to start do you trust him if not then you need to leave the marriage if there’s no trust there’s nothing

I’d go with. Get me a lap dance. :grin:

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Nah its disrespectful af

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If you’re uncomfortable that’s reason enough for a no. He asked so it seems like he’d be willing to respect your boundaries.

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I would just be bummed that I couldn’t go with him. If he’s telling using there’s some level of trust. I wouldn’t stress it. I can understand that it may give and off putting feeling but he’s looking not touching.

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Honestly it’s disrespectful and it makes you look like a fool to everyone else so :person_shrugging:

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Of course. I mean he’s a grown ass man ffs

No but my husband wouldn’t wanna go anyway :woman_shrugging:

Hell yeah! My wife and I went together and spend our wedding night there :rofl::metal:t3:

no lol tho he did go cause his friend wanted him to. he texted me whole time n talked shit on the strippers lol so it wasn that bad :laughing:

Yes for sure, I even go with him!

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Least he talked to you first lol.

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How nice of him to ask.

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If you are the jealous type dont go, He will be looking. Personally Ive always wanted to go to one just for the experience.

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What’s wrong with that? He’s going with work mates. Mates who are probably partnered/married themselves. Honestly, says a lot about your marriage if you can’t trust your husband to not cheat on you.

I think I’d be more jealous that I wasn’t going since I’ve never been to one but have always wanted to go lol. In all seriousness though, I wouldn’t care as long as I could have time with friends when I wanted it too.

I’ve never cared less about strip clubs, porn, etc. and it’s never caused an issue. He actually drives me insane with all of his attention and affection half the time.

Yes. My husband and I went to together a couple times

Haaaahaaaaahaaaa my what???
Boyfriends are strip club material….
Husbands ……you go with and then get your [email protected]?! On when you get home :smiling_imp:
So I mean unless his question about going was a invite on the low … I’d say NO to his question and award him staying home by giving him a show all for his eyes only !! :sunglasses::peace_symbol::crossed_fingers:
#thatswhatiwoulddo

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It might make you feel “some type of way” but I would just try to stay neutral about it because it’s just one night, he’s probably not going to like it much anyways, and it’ll show that you do trust him.

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Personally that is a big no for me

I definitely wouldn’t let myself get worked up enough to be jealous about it bc it’s just not like that with strippers. If he’s willing to talk to you about it beforehand, that’s a sign he respects you. It’s really just about entertainment for them.
But as a Christian, I don’t agree with exposing ourselves to stuff like that. It would have to be my husbands choice and I wouldn’t complain if he decided to go but I’d be praying that he realized why it’s not good to be exposed to stuff like that

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It is exploitation of women but that aside how would he feel if you went? What’s okay for him is also okay for you.

Ask him if he’d be okay with you going to male strip bars with your friends. There’s your answer.

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I go with my husband and his work buddies :woman_shrugging: I always have a blast! :rofl:

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We either are going together or he is not going :rofl::rofl:

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I dont care. But don’t let these other comments that are talking down to you because you don’t like that. I know lots of females who don’t like that in their relationship and that’s OK.

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He asked you if he could go? I feel like that speaks volumes. Instead of saying this is what I’m doing.
Personally. If my husband wants to go, we’re going together.

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Honestly, I feel like I wouldn’t care too much. At the end of the day, he comes home to me.
And like a few others have stated, I would probably go with him :joy:

Most of these ladies that strip like women more than the men. I’d go with them, I’ve went & they strip for me because they know women tip better😁

Totally fine with it

Yes, totally fine. But I’m secure in my relationship.

Yeah I wouldn’t mind at all but he won’t go cuz he is too bashful…

I don’t care. My husband was out of town for work and their intention was to go play paint ball or go karts. They couldn’t find paint hall or go karts in their area. One of the other guys suggested the strip club, so they went to the strip club. He told me, it didn’t bother me. It’s not an every weekend thing and he doesn’t prioritize going out over his family, so no big deal.

With that said though, your relationship isn’t like everyone else’s. You need to express to him if you’re okay with it or if you’re not and why. Don’t get mad at him, just communicate.

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Its really up to you to decide :woman_shrugging:t2: I mean, as you can tell, everyone has different views on it. You should be asking this question to yourself and trust your feelings enough to just talk to him about it. Do you feel comfortable with it or not?..either way, talk to him about it.

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As long as he doesn’t care about me doing the same… I don’t do the double standards

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That would be a no for me. If you dont like it then it shouldn’t be a thing, out of respect.

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No. People saying aT lEaSt He AsKeD, he didn’t ask because he respects her or her boundaries, he asked so that way when he tells his friends he can’t go he can blame her.

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Nope no need for all that ifs he’s got a wife at home … jst askn for trouble mine wouldn’t be going.

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At least he asked bless him

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To each their own, but I wouldn’t care if my husband went or not. Hell, I’ve gone to strip clubs with him. At the end of the day, I’m the one he comes home to. He doesn’t go to strip clubs regularly at all, so it isn’t an issue to me if he goes. If you don’t like it or don’t want him to go, that’s a different story. You have to decide what’s best for you and what you are/aren’t ok with.

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That’s a hard no in my relationship. Some people have different boundaries set for theirs though. If you didn’t set the boundary then you need to talk about it with ur partner.

He asked and didn’t lie about the place he was going to, that speaks volumes that he respects you and wants a trustful relationship. I would let my hubby go cause I trust him to not do anything, just hang and watch and have a few drinks.

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Honestly, it depends on your man, your relationship and whether or not you truly trust him. I’ve dated guys that I would trust and other guys that I wouldn’t trust.

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Yes as long as it doesn’t turn in to an every week thing he was honest with you and asked permission so that shows respect for you

I would not be ok with it at all, to me it’s very disrespectful to want to look at other women while you’re married or in a serious relationship. I personally think strip clubs are for single men.

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Personally, I don’t have a problem with it at all. But that’s something I’m okay with. If I didn’t feel comfortable with it, I would expect my partner to respect that.
Boundaries are boundaries for a reason.

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If it’s this one occasion and he’s asking, I don’t think I’d be too bothered. It sounds like a novelty thing. Same as if I wanted to go for a girls night to a male revue. If it were all the time and he were being sneaky, or it started to become regular I’d have a problem.

I have seen male strippers before so why can’t my husband, trust, commitment and honest if you don’t have these your relationship is fucked!!

That wouldn’t sit well with me. I never understood the need for someone in a relationship go to watch another person take their clothes off and dance seductively. Spend the money on your wife/gf that you’re literally throwing at a stripper. It just seems weird for a bunch of guys to voluntarily hang out just to have woodies together. :woman_shrugging:t2:

My husband has asked I said I don’t care but he refuses to go.

NO…if you’re asking the question you already know the answer.

You strip for him…

You entertain the sacred bed…

You honor the marital vows…

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I’d be jealous he wasn’t taking me.

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Hun you asked about it it clearly bothers you just say no and let him make a decision
Let him know why you feel its wrong and thats as far as that coversation should go anymore is unecessary

I’d say yes but don’t make it a regular thing :woman_shrugging: if you trust him then why not? I guess I personally would not be able to say “oh I trust my man butttttt he can’t go justttt in case”
If he has done something before that makes you question him then yeah say that to him but if not then I don’t see the problem.

Your boundaries/opinions are just that—yours. Personally, and at my ripe ol’ age, living through plenty of life and experiences, I find it disrespectful to your marriage. But again, that’s just me.
It’s definitely good he talked to you about it beforehand though, so clearly and calmly communicate your thoughts about it. Hopefully, he understands and respects them. :blue_heart:

No but then again strip clubs make him extremely uncomfortable. Even before we got together when he was single a friend of his dragged him to one and he said he was very uncomfortable. Now if I were going with him then fine but I wouldn’t be comfortable with him going without me.

Sure he should know right from wrong

In my opinion, if you have no reason to not trust him, why couldn’t he go? He actually asked you and didn’t try to hide it. I would encourage my man to go, to get him out of the house. What’s he gonna do? But then again I have no issues in my relationship and 100% trust my SO. :person_shrugging:

If it was for a bachelor party or something I’d be okay with it, but probably not just for some after hours entertainment. He has declined an offer in the past, he would probably do the same now unless it was me and him going.

Yes! I know my hu and trust that he will always come home to me! And besides that they are not wanting anything from them girls!

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Well how would he feel if you went to a male strip club with your girlfriends? And no it wouldn’t bother me.

You can’t ask strangers what your relationship boundaries should be. Personally I think it’s for single men not people who are married or in relationships but only you know what you want out of your own relationship.

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I’d ask if I can go too!

Why the hell not?
Why do people act like strip clubs are full of man stealing strippers?
They don’t want your man they just want to make money :joy:
If you don’t trust your husband why are you with him?

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It doesn’t matter what other people would do it depends on your own feelings and boundaries. What some people are ok with some are not so it’s a question for only yourself

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Maybe I am just confused but how would you not know how to feel about it? Your husband asked if he could go out with some friends to the strip club–he’s not hiding it from you, he’s not being sneaky, he’s being very fair by keeping you informed. Strip clubs are nothing to be jealous of. The girls working their aren’t flirting with the men because they want to hook up off the side of the dumpster in a dark alley; they just want a few extra dollars. Not to mention, have you ever actually been to a strip club? They are not what you expect and are not like the ones in the movies. Tell your husband to go and have a good time with his friends. Show your husband that you trust him and besides, if you are worried about girls dancing for money on a stage in front of a handful of people, you have deeper issues to worry about in your marriage.

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I can assure you, those women do not give a damn about your man…… you should definitely let him go and have a good time and trust in your heart that your husband loves you and would never do anything to betray the union that you have! 

Absolutely!!! I have no issues with that at all! And to put it in perspective, I would prefer him going to a strip club over a bar! The women in a bar will hit on them… even more so if they see a ring🤦🏻‍♀️. The women in a strip club are working, most have specific rules in place, and honestly most of them have a partner waiting on them to get off of work. Secondly, and I am going to be blunt here, they come home “horney” and you get the benefits.

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No. It obviously bothers you talk to him

We would be divorced because that’s cheating.

It’s okay to have an extreme feeling about something.

My bf understands my feelings about this. So if he decided to go, he would know that I consider it cheating. That’s his choice.
But, it’s my choice to leave and he can’t even be mad because he knows this about me. And knows what he’s doing to me.

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At least he asked first. I wouldn’t have a problem as long as it was just the one night and didn’t become a regular thing

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WHY ? does he even have to ask.what are you his mom.

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No. Neither of us go to stop clubs or bars.or even drink with out each other

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I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him going but that’s just me. I’m not into that kind of stuff. Would he be ok with u going with ur friends to a male strip club?

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