Your husband left the house and didn’t tell you where he was going and then avoided every call you made… do you have a right to be upset?!?
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Bloody oath.
Communication is the key to trust and a respectful relationship.
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No because im not his keeper.
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Its respect letting each other know for sure!
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i have gotten upset that he left with out telling me especially if in shower and doesnt tell me . but id really be upset iif trying to call see where he is and doesnt answer. and he knows it .
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Um maybe he was mad about something.
I do it all the time
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When he comes home smelling like perfume then question it 
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Sounds like a surprise is coming
would be upset but would also allow him to explain why–if he had a valid reason why he didn’t answer phone calls immediately and why he left – would depend on whether or not you still have right to be upset. i get it–in this day, we expect everyone to answer their phones immediately, but sometimes you simply can’t.
Everyone’s relationship is different and expect different kinds of respect. I would be worried if my husband left without telling me because that’s not typical of him. I as well always go find him if he’s outside somewhere to let him know I’ll be back. You need to decide if that’s something that upsets you or not and deal with it with your husband and make clear what you expect.
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Depends on how long he’s gone
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No I don’t want to be anyone’s probation officer. He is a grown adult. But out of respect we usually do if it’s going to be along time.
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Yes! It’s pure respect to communicate.
So much to unpack in this. You need a counselor.
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I’m pretty sure you already know
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If he didn’t kiss me goodbye, HELL YEAH IMA BE MAD.
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Top 3 reasons relationships break down: sex, money, and communication problems.
If he doesn’t know how to communicate, or he avoids it because you don’t communicate rationally in response, it will never work – and there’s no point in finding a new partner until those issues are corrected.
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Meh, my wife goes out without telling me quite often. Sometimes she doesn’t come back until the wee morning hours. She is usually visiting relatives.
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Its disrespectful. No disregard for how you feel.
Shiiiit, i even tell my puppers bye and ill be back soon😬
Upset yes kinda because God forbid something happen you have no idea where he is. No fight or anything but I’d mention the safety part of it.
But pissed when ignored because that’s shady.
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I mean I leave without telling my husband where I am going. And he doesn’t feel the need to call me unless I’ve been gone for a long time. I’d be annoyed if he called me constantly while I was gone.
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If he knows you’d be upset and is literally doing the behavior to upset you more then it’s emotional abuse
If you trust him. You shouldn’t need to know his every move.
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Merely polite to let you know he is headed out.
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I would be worried if he wasn’t answering the calls. As for him not telling u maybe he forgot or was trying to do something to surprise you.
Nope. He probably left his phone home somewhere and he’s down at the neighbors drinking a beer.
If you can’t trust your husband why are you even married? Relax.
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It’s called respect to let each other know when you are going somewhere.
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Umm its pretty rude to do that. We let eachother know when and wear we are out of respect. That’s what builds trust and healthy relationships.
It’s also about safety to know when you will be home and even a rout to check incase you can’t get a hold of them if they are super later then expected.
In 22 years we have never had to question eachothers loyaly because we leave no room for doubt on eaither side.
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I would definitely be upset. Wondering if there was a disagreement before he left or does he just do this all the time. Maybe start doing it to him and he will see how it feels.
It’s out of respect my husband and I tell each other where we’re going. Sometimes he’ll just say “I’ll be back” but usually tells me when he’s back where he was.
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Yes lack of consideration and communication, lack of respect .
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Bye not at all. Im not your mom n i refuse to keep tabs. As long as your their when i need ya. Then peace out homie. I do the same. I peace out on weekends with our daughter especially when he’s working no explanations needed
Mine hates technology so he rarely answers his personal n leaves his work cell here on weekends.
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Were you home at the time? If yes, I’d be annnoyed, unless I knew he was going to pick up a kid, if no, who cares.
Wow um that’s a bit odd. Def red flags
Life 360 for safety reasons, if he declines then divorce
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It depends how long he’s gone for. Sometimes im napping and he leaves without telling to the store (he knows not to wake me up).
If you were home and he just upped and left and did not answer when your tried to call… maybe a little bit, but more so for me in the sense bc im a worry wort and would think he was kidnapped or laying it a ditch dead!
But not that he was cheating on me, there’s got to be a level of trust In a marriage. If you ligit thought he was cheating on you then that’s a whole other convo as to why your married to someone that you don’t trust. With that said, yeah it’s the respectful thing to do, letting your spouse know your going here or there. Or when they call to let them know whats up. I tell my husband and majority of the time tells me. Abt the only time he leaves and doesn’t tell me is if I’m sleeping and he does not want to wake me but he will text me that he stepped out or he will answer the phone when I call him.
It’s not abt control, it’s abt respect. 
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If it was once in a while I wouldnt think much of it. If it was a habit, yeah it’s an issue.
My hubby this all the time his very not considerate
What were you doing when he left? It makes a difference. If my dude is sleeping I will disappear occasionally but I’m not far. My parents are right next door lol.
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My SO does that. And it’s rude, not to mention it just breaks communication and trust. I would never just walk out.
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Do the same to him
Dammm right,I’ll be pissed too
If be worried first… then I’d be upset
We all have different types of relationship s. I agree don’t keep tabs but when it in a relationship it’s consideration and respect to let one another know where u at and in case they need to be found you’ll know the last place to look if they go missing.
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I mean unless you have trust issues.
Wait until he gets home to start investigating why he did that. Maybe your nagging him too much🤷♀️
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I’d just be worried because that’s so out of character. He lets me know when he makes it to work every night and if he’s going to be late the next morning because I legitimately worry about him.
Like I don’t think he’s doing something he shouldn’t, I think he’s in a ditch 
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That’s just weird. Obviously a new thing. Just ask him outright if he’s being dodgey
My man always let me know…he also wouldn’t dare to not answer my call 
Confront him on this
Yeap I’d Spazz TF out because if it was the other way around he would spazz too. “ don’t do to me what you don’t want me to do to you” is my moto
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Depends on your relationship. In mine…that would absolutely not fly AT ALL!!!
No, he ain’t your property
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How is this a question?
Would it be rude to change the locks LOL
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It’s called respect. I would not be happy
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Change the locks while he is gone🤷🏻♀️
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I would make sure he couldn’t get back in but I’m petty like that. My husband isn’t dumb enough to do this cause I can be a tad bit crazy
Move out while he’s gone.
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Nah I wouldn’t worry unless he has given you probable cause. For all you know he could be right back with roses. Ya never know. Dont freak. Just wait.
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Jokes on him we have smarttags on our keys & car. So i always know where he’s at. 
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I wouldn’t be upset, but I would be worried because my husband never does that because he locks all the doors when he leaves so he always makes sure I know I’m locked in (autistic son who likes to escape) in case of an emergency, even if he just yells out that he needs to go to get petrol or something. Maybe if your upset by it, talk to your husband and let him know that leaving without saying something and then ignoring you has upset you.
Do the same thing to him. See how he likes it.
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Yes you do. Too much is happening in this world and someone knowing your location is important. You would be the first person of contact. It’s not even about infidelity all the time. 
Safety and when you’ll be back is all asked.
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Me and my husband don’t have to answer to each other, but we respect each other enough to let each other know when we are leaving somewhere and where we are going or at least about when we will be back. He doesn’t say when where or what I can do and vice versa, but we trust each other and communicate about what we are doing.
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Its common respect to say hey I am going here or there or out . I don’t ask and neither does my BF but we do check in and communicate. My BF rides a motorcycle so he goes out and abt alot on rides he always tells me his route and texts any last minute change, I dont request it he just does it . Unless your man is getting a suprise together for you it seems rude and suspicious.
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Are you his mother or his wife? A man can leave his own home without a permission slip, as well as you 
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I would be pissed. It’s common respect to let your partner know where you are going
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The leaving would upset me, sure. Avoiding my calls (of genuine concern), would PISS ME OFF
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No… I trust him and have no issues with him leaving. Just bring me back an iced coffee or there will be hell to pay.
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He does not have to tell me if he wants to head out for a bit, but I would be upset if he did not get back to me if I was worried and called/messaged.
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It would irritate me for safety reasons more than anything. Like now I think you left real quick without it telling me then you died in an accident.
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I have no issue with it
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Is there a back story or were you just sitting there and he walked out?
If him and I were arguing and he walked out and avoided my calls, I would assume he was just trying to cool down.
If I was just sitting there with no inclination that anything was wrong at all then I would find it weird af and I’d be extremely upset.
Not sure. I can’t get my husband to leave the house… ever
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Absolutely! If he can leave and not answer his phone shows no respect for you. No reason not to answer.
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I think it’s a respect thing. I wouldn’t just leave without letting my husband know and he wouldn’t leave without letting me know.
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He’s prolly trying to get away from your controlling ass
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No, I do it all the time and so does he. He isn’t my dad and I’m not his mom. We are grown adults. Only time we run it by each other is if the kids have to be watched.
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I’d be upset alright, especially because I’d be featured on wives with knives once he returns… 
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It would definitely depend on what was happening before he just left? Maybe he was sneaking out to buy a mom gift ? Or surprise me with coffee? Maybe there was an emergency? Maybe we were arguing and he had to cool off?
Need more information before I can say I would get mad or not. Also would need to know if he came back
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Last time my husband did this he came home with a 175 dollar ring i fell inlove with 
if you know hes a good loyal partner dont flip and freak out- hes probably planning something for you or something happened that he has to focus on right now:person_shrugging:
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I feel it’s not a trust issue but just pure respect to tell your spouse I’m leaving be back in a few.
There should be no reason as to why I would leave and not say see you later
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Oh Lord, imagine having to stress yourself out just bc someone leaves without telling you. That’s cray. Him Ignoring my calls would worry me, bc that never happens, so if it did, I would think something had happened.
It’s about the mutual respect. I don’t expect to keep tabs on anyone and I don’t want anyone keeping tabs on me. We are adults that trust eachother, so we don’t have to be tripping on that. Now, if he gets food and doesn’t bring me any… we’re about to fight
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The leaving wouldn’t bother me. But the ignoring phone calls would.
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Yes. Had to deal
With that shit. I told him straight up that I need him to communicate with me. Just tell me if he wants to be left alone and needs space but don’t just up
And disappear to who knows where. Let’s be adults here
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Idc if he randomly leaves. But he ignores my calls/messages? Ahh, hell no. You can have the common decency to respond with something.
Are you asking permission to be upset? Because no one can take your personal right to your feelings away…what you feel is what you feel. When your husband gets home, talk to him, his response to your feelings is probably what will determine if there is an issue or not.
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I wouldn’t be mad that he left but that’s a lack of respect. “Hey babe I’m going to go ________” takes .5 seconds. Not doing so is intentional … avoiding your calls is also intentional. If something were to happen to him, you’d have no idea where he was or how long he was supposed to have been there, etc.
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Yes, I definitely would be. Me n my bf always let each other know if were leaving. If he didn’t I would be pretty upset about it
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If it was you, would he be mad? Probably. If not than I would be mad for him ignoring my calls for sure.
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You already know the answer or you wouldn’t be asking.
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It would bug me because he always lets me know he is going some where and we say goodbye/I love you to each other. It has been like this since we got together about 6 yrs ago so if all of a sudden he just left it would be super weird and I would think he is mad at me or something🙁
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Who wouldn’t be upset. That’s extremely disrespectful!
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yeah I’m cussing him out soon as I hear that key turn in the lock cause you’re not about to ignore me
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You mean EX HUSBAND?
lmao kidding I wouldn’t care but I would wanna know where he is so I know he’s okay lol
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It’s not controlling to wanting to know where your husband is going. Especially when you have children. You both share 100% responsibility in taking care of your children.
If husbands get upset when the wife leaves without letting them no where they’re going there is no difference.
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Depends what he was doing before he left.
If he expects the same respect, he should give it.
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