Maybe he’s trying to surprise you with something.
I wouldn’t be upset. We’ve been married for almost 16yrs though, I would be upset if he didn’t bring me back a soda or a snack though 
plus, I’m out the door like a bat at of hell when I get the chance too so I don’t blame him.
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I would be annoyed, but my husband was in a huge bike wreck before. We have a rule about saying bye.
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I guess the question is do you trust him?
Naw imma cut my phone off and take a peaceful nap 
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If it happens after an argument I fully understand why he does it. If not after an argument I would be a bit worried
My hubby does that its a little irritating but no big deal hes just a little forgetful and after 20 years im used to it.
Find my iPhone app…just saying
He should at least have the common courtesy to set hey I’m going … See you later. I mean at the very least
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as long as he takes our child i dont care what he does
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For leaving the house, no. For not answering calls, yes.
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I mean idk…he wouldnt be on a leash and shouldnt have to tell me where he goes…but there is a respect thing…like hey babe im off to fleet farm…the not answering is an issue…and if yall got kids thats a whole nother issue
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My husband and I have been married for 15 years and yes, I would be upset. We never leave the house without the other knowing. We’re life partners, not roommates.
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Trust- wise I wouldn’t care, but just because I worry about him I would. I don’t necessarily care where he’s going, I just want to know he’s safe, ya know?
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It seems odd to me, but my husband & I talk quite a bit. He tells me where he’s going, even if it’s a “running to kwik trip brb”. For me it sounds like a trust & respect issue. You don’t trust him & he doesn’t respect you. Good luck!
Leaving the house? No. Not answering phone? I would be pissed in the moment depending on if why I was calling was really important but if he had a good reason after the fact then it’s all good. He’s a husband not an employee. He doesn’t need to punch a time card. A courtesy hey I’m going out would be nice sure but not required.
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I do that too though, I also don’t answer my phone if I’m driving so it’s usually on silent. Granted i rarely ever answer my phone so there really isn’t a point in calling. It’s kind of whatever to me though because I really just don’t like feeling like I have to tell someone my every move
I dont think it’s weird if he ran somewhere without asking lol but if hes gone all day with no explanation and wont awnser then that’s weird. Is there a reason your worried?
I would probably be upset. I’ve never dealt with that with my husband
I think it’s disrespectful he can’t even give you a heads up he’s leaving especially if y’all have kids. My husband and I argued thru this for a few months because he would always just jump in the car and take off to go do random crap, leaving me with all the kids and responsibilities. I didn’t care he needed to go somewhere nor was I concerned he was cheating, but it’s mildly inconvenient when you have a full household and go to ask your husband to take a kid to practice or we need an item for dinner and I have to pack up every kid.
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that’s weird tbh. i never leave the house without telling someone unless literally no one is home. and even then i usually get a “where are you?” message when they return to which i reply asap.
when you’re in a relationship, when someone is home that cares about you, you owe them a brief explanation of your whereabouts.
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I would be upset, but only because I would be worried with not answering the phone. I 100% trust my husband but I’ve got anxiety and I would be freaking out something was wrong if I had no idea where he went/why and couldn’t reach him.
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Sometimes we need time, if it was an altercation first I wouldn’t be upset
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Depends on your relationship. If mine leaves or I leave we ALWAYS tell each other where we are going. But it’s a respect thing for us. Some people don’t do that. 
If you feel the right to be upset then be upset. But listen to the reasoning of why he didnt answer, where he went, and how long he was gone without answering.
No one can tell you if you can be upset or not. It’s your relationship
Common courtesy would at least be “hey, im going blah blah blah! Love you!” I usually just text him. But if he did just leave without saying anything, I’d call to make sure he was ok… if he didn’t answer, I’d send a text… but we have been together 12 years and we have never just left without saying anything at all… thats rude and disrespectful 
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Have you talked to him about it?
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Mine sometimes just leaves the house. I normally don’t call to ask where he’s going unless it’s been a a good min but he never avoids my calls. I hope yours isn’t doing something fishy
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Mine has done that… usually when he is in a bad mood 
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My husband used to do that all the time and it drove me insane. He didn’t avoid my calls though 
he’d be like “oh sorry I thought I said bye” LOL NOPE dumb dumb ya didn’t!
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No, you’re his wife not his mother. Controlling isn’t cute.
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I feel there is more to this than him just leaving. If all was good in the house then yes, I’d be upset.
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Yes I would be upset! Because we have respect for each other; if he’s leaving the house he’s telling me where he’s going just like I do when I leave. My fiancé even texts me when he arrives and I do the same.
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My whole thing is mainly about just knowing in case something happens. It’s a safety concern.
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How long is he gone for without telling you. If my sons dad left house and didn’t answer I’d assume he’s headed to work or the store etc. I would only worry if I couldn’t get ahold of him for a longer period of time.
This clearly isn’t you’re only marital issue. I have a healthy marriage, so no. I wouldn’t be upset. 
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I would be upset, even more so at the ignored calls. Definitely talk to him, not yell or accuse him, about it.
We usually say, oh I’ll be back in a few. If the other is gone for a while, ask if they’re okay, and we mention where we are at. No big deal on our end, fiancé has anger issues and tends to bottle his emotions from a rough upbringing. Sometimes he just needs to breathe and leave for a few hours. But that’s where we are at, no trust issues as we trust each other
I wonder how he would feel if she did the same thing? Leave, don’t say anything and, don’t answers his calls If he is not okay with that, then his actions are not okay 
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Lol. No. I m not his keeper
Like… As a safety concern, yeah. I’d be pissed. And when he gets home I’d chew him out because I was worried sick that something happened to him and the least he can do is shoot me a text saying “I’m alive. Don’t feel like talking. Be back at ____.”
is it possible he’s cheating ?
Is this a serious question? Of course you have the right to be upset especially if calls or texts aren’t answered. You’re married, you’re a partnership. You are a team. You need to have good communication to have a good marriage. Just up and leaving no explanations or answers to questions is batchelor/batchelorette lifestyle. Not married lifestyle.
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Hell ya! Because I guarantee if you did that he would be pissed.
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Yes I’d be upset. Very rightfully so because I want to make sure wherever he went he got there safely. It’s common courtesy and respect.
Yes but not because I think hes out doing something he shouldn’t…I’d be more worried if he got hurt or something happened to him.
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Absolutely 100% right to be upset. One your human two for every action is a reaction .three this little thing called respect. Four even when upset and trying to watch what you say a quick I will be back text can be sent without further response. Regardless of the reason it’s not the season to be disrespectful to anyone.
Definitely, yes.
Safety reasons for one thing. But for another, that’s a common “pissed off” thing to do, and I don’t do temper tantrums. Talk about the issue.
Then there’s the issue of complete lack of communication. This is the type of thing you communicate. “Hey, I’m going to help my friend for a couple hours. He’s moving” or something like that.
There’s also the chance that he’s being suspicious and doing something he shouldn’t be doing.
Regardless of the reasoning, I’d be confronting my fiance and we’d have a problem
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That sounds dysfunctional
Def need more info…
Seriously…It is not uncommon for my husband to leave home and run into town to get something or go to a neighbor’s house for something. Now, I don’t mean just get up and walk out on a convo. But if he’s in the shop working on something, he will leave for parts or whatever. I don’t worry unless it’s hours and I haven’t heard from him. It’s a 30 minute drive into town for us, it takes a minute to get anywhere.
We’re y’all arguing and he stormed out ?
Mine would never do that.
We both do it. No worries here!
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Oh absolutely. If my husband left and didn’t tell me he was leaving or where he was going and didn’t answer his phone, I’d be pissed. We have a baby I NEED to know where he is and to be able to get a hold of him in the event that something happens. It’s also about respect. You need to have enough respect for your partner to make sure that there’s nothing that they need to worry about. It should be, “Hey hunny I’m going to this place I’ll be back in a while. Call me if you need me. Love you”
“OK sweetie I’ll see you when you get back. I love you too.” Also if you’re leaving and not telling your significant other and you don’t answer your phone. Makes you seem pretty suspicious.
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Yeah I’d be upset. Communication is a key part to any relationship, and I’ll be dammed if he leaves me alone with these kids with out letting me know first
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Uhhhh YES. Who wouldn’t be upset?! I mean unless y’all had a prior argument or something else happened before he left. There’s got to be more to this story…
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Its close to mothersday. Maybe its part of a surprise.
My own insecurities ruined an absolutely beautiful surprise. I’ll never do that again.
Unless y’all have other issues, trust your husband. You married him. You must trust him. Whether it’s him leaving to cool off, leaving to visit friends and family, leaving to get you a surprise, whatever.
Unless there are other issues that needs fixing, or hes been gone a questionable amount of time I wouldnt even worry about it.
My man leaves whenever he wants for whatever he wants. I dont question him, because we have a healthy relationship and I trust his motives and intentions. I also appreciate the freedom to do what I want without getting permission or having to give him the who what when where and why.
Our communication is amazing, but we are 2 separate entities. We live for each other and we live for ourselves
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Upset??? No. My husband is not a child that needs to constantly update me of his whereabouts just like I don’t need to report my every move to him. We don’t blow each other up either. Then again we don’t have trust issues
His shit would be on the front lawn and every knock or ring on the doorbell would be ever so conveniently and ironically avoided.
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The fact that he’s not answering would piss me off because I would automatically be worrying about him. I don’t have to deal with this but just saying! My husband never leaves the houses without a kiss and he usually tells me the day before if he has plans!
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Absolutely…yes you do. That disrespectful and irresponsible. What it something happened to him. You would have no idea where to look. He should be single if he wants to act that way.
Depends on context of the situation lol. If you were arguing, I’d be upset too. If you’re both just living your normal daily lives, no I don’t see a reason to be bothered by it.
There is mo respect or trust in the relationship.
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Try commumicate with him to find out what issues are from each of you. A man doesnt look if he is happylike there is no relationship quite honestly. If you want to fix it, tell him and find out if he wants the same.
Ima leave my house when I want. I ain’t gotta tell nobody shit. Same goes for him. I’m not his boss and he ain’t mine.
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Next time he should just shout ma I’m going out to play and run 
Nah…just dont tell him your going next time.
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No hes an adult he can do what he wants.
You’re his wife not his mommy
I’d be more concerned than pissed of to be fair
Uh yeah. That’s just considerate. Unless I’m in my migraine coma. Then I just call.
I need more info
Has he stormed out after a fight
Has he just stood up mid conversation and walked out
Has he got up for the day to go to work
My partner usually tells me his plans but if I woke up one morning and he wasn’t there and I didn’t think he was at work and then didn’t answer the phone I’d be annoyed at him for worrying me. It’s common courtesy to say “I’ve got a job on/I’m nipping a mates/I’m going out on my bike I’ll be back at such a time”
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I think it’s inconsiderate, which comes down to respect.
No respect? No relationship.
Basic communication should not be considered high maintenance.
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Depends on the situation. If you had a fight and he left I’d be upset but at least I’d know why he left. The not answering would piss me off no matter what. You don’t ignore the person you love. That’s how you lose the person you love. If he just randomly took off, not telling you where he’s going and didnt answer I’d be concerned. You’re supposed to be a team. Can’t be a team if one person is hiding things and doing shady stuff.
My husband and I always tell each other where we are going, I just find it respectful… I think its weird not to tell ppl where you’re going, what if something happens like an accident and no one knows where you are…
We just do it out of habit, not answering calls is also disrespectful.
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It is disrespectful. He’s clearly lacking respect. Yeah he’s a grown man and can do what he wants as you can do the same but out of respect I would always just be like he I’m leaving see you later. If he respected you he would of said something before he left.
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I’ve been in a relationship with a man who did that to me. We are no longer together. It’s called RESPECT. “Hey babe, I’m heading over to so-and-so’s house. Be back in a bit. Do you need me to grab anything from the store while I’m out?” That’s respectful. Just walking out of the house without a word? And leaving me with the kids knowing damn good and well that I could/would NEVER just walk out this house and leave him with the kids and not tell him where I’m going or when I should be back? Naw. That doesn’t fly with me. My man leaves the house, he’s giving me some information and a kiss 
There’s plenty of things a “grown man” could do, but that doesn’t mean they should. If you feel disrespected, then his behavior is disrespectful. 
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I think leaving without saying anything would just make me worry. Not answering would make me worry too but I don’t think I’d be mad. Obviously it would be different if there’s a reason to be upset like past cheating, in that case why are you together if you still can’t trust him?
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I’d be upset because we are partners of the household. We have kids. Communication is very important
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Yes I would be mad. With mine I would be just worried but pissed that there was no communication and not sure what’s going on if he doesn’t answer. But in other relationship and different I would be suspicious that something is going on.
Your partner should at least tell you they are leaving the house out of respect, so you aren’t calling them in the house for help with something. If they don’t answer your phone calls or texts after 1 or 2 tried yes I would start to be worried first, then I would start to get angry…
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I’d tell a roommate I was leaving and bye even.
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This has nothing to do with trust… if my husband just left without saying anything and not answer my calls I’d be more worried than mad. I wouldn’t think he’s out “cheating” or being scandalous, Id think i did something wrong and he got mad and left lol
Just because your partner tells you where they’re going doesn’t mean they’re asking for “consent”. They’re just letting you know where they will be if anything happens.
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I’m pretty sure you already know the answer to that question. I’d personally be very upset and, quiet honestly, I think I would be questioning where he actually went. I expect that if I have a significant other and we are in the same place, that they would care and respect me enough to give me a heads up and to answer my calls if possible or text that they cannot talk or are busy. I don’t want to spend 100% of my time with my partner and doing things separately and having alone time by yourself is important. But that behavior is just pure disrespect.
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I wouldn’t think cheating. We’ve both done it. We both tell the other but try not to wake to much. One wakes up and forget they talked to the other cause we stayed asleep. Aren’t always able to get to the phone if it were to last a few hours I’d worry. Now we try to message so when the other wakes up it won’t be so weird
How would he feel if when he came back, you had gone out, and not told him where. Then you acted mysterious when you returned…how would he be, what would he say.
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I wouldn’t be upset about the leaving part but definitely the not answering my calls part.
Yes, common courtesy to at least let you know he’s leaving somewhere
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I don’t know the situation, only you do but it could be a few things. Perhaps he’s going through something and needs to deal with it first. Is this something that happens frequently? Or just a one time thing?
We all need alone time on occasion but its entirely another matter if it happens alot.
Leaving without saying anything is one thing but to avoid calls and texts…ya not so much! I’d be pissed. Especially because I would never even think to do this.
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My husband randomly leaves the house and doesn’t answer the phone all the time. It irritates me but he just forgets to. Usually he is at the gas station or lumberyard.
I do agree that letting someone know is the courteous thing to do though, but to be truly angry about it seems to be a bit much.
My main reason for being upset is what if a fire broke out and you thought he was in the house or what if an emergency happen and he don’t answer the phone sounds to me someone needs to grow up and not only think of himself
Oh for goodness sake you don’t own him, why does he need your permission to walk out of his own damn house? Maybe his family called with an emergency and he just went straight out to help them, if someone’s dying I wouldn’t answer my phone to a control freak either.
Mine has done this!!! I hate it and don’t like it but as he puts it…he needs his alone time and often goes off to home depot or Walmart
Yes. It’s basic respect to let the other person know you’re leaving and what time to expect you back. Avoiding phone calls is even worse.
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Yes especially if there was an emergency!
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I think I’d text and say take your timing coming home because you have a lot of explaining to do. So hell to pay
I just think accidents happen all the time and it would be nice to know where to look if something happens .
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I wouldn’t be as upset with the leaving, but ignoring my calls…yes…That just makes it suspicious when he wouldn’t answer
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I would think he was kidnapped or saw someone was dying across the street or something. Be with someone that kisses you good bye. Good luck.
My husband always tells me if hes leaving and where hes going same with me alot of the times hell ask if he can cuz i have medical problems that sometimes makes it hard to take care of my 4 littles by myself i would worry if he took of like that like if there was an emergency with no time to explain ir something but not be pissed off