Yes! It will grow back. The pictures last forever.
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Your son doesnât need to be part of the ceremony period! As you can see it means a lot to him, if you give in, your relationship will never be the same. Stick up for your son and tell your friend to take a hike! Your babyâs feelings should come before some ridiculous demands from a bridezilla
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This is coming from a mom who has a little boy who had a mohawk for over 7 years. From age 7-14+. I dyed his hair every color of the rainbow. He chose the colors and I dyed it!
DO NOT CHANGE HIS HAIR!!! No ifs, ands or buts!!! If your son says no change than the bride needs to deal with it! She knew his hair style when she asked him to be in the wedding! Continue to support your son and allow him to pick his hair color and style!
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Nope. She knew he had a mowhawk. Why wait til 2 days out to cause a fuss
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Nope. Not happening. Heck no⌠itâs your son. She wants you to change YOUR sons hair over one day. Not even a full day. How freaking selfish. Your kid is more important then any friend. Period!!
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I simply would not go to the wedding.
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Um, absolutely not. That is your son, he should come before any friend. She also doesnât sound like much of a friend giving such an ultimatum. Maybe he could just slick it back for the day but if thatâs not ok then I would just tell her your son loves his hair, itâs part of him and you canât force him to change that for her. Sorry but no.
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Iâd be telling her to find herself a new ring bearer
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Nope. Tell her to find another child bc you wont force your child to change in order to participate.
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Donât force him to change. She can deal with it. She obviously thinks sheâs special and all of you are allowing her to bully everyone, donât let her do it to your son.
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Option 3 donât be in the wedding
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Have him wear a formal hat?
Itâs hair. It isnât the end of the world. I let my kids express themselves, too, but itâs someone elseâs wedding. Doesnât matter if you agree with it or not. It isnât your wedding.
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A wedding is like a theatrical performance, the costumes , hair, make up, the set location, the actors , music âŚ
Everything is carefully planned out, orchestrated and rehearsed
The bride is the director.
The director has a vision of how she wants her performance to be presented to the audience
(wedding guests)
The director has decided a ring bearer with a red mohawk isnât what she has envisioned for this performance.
The current actor for the ring bearer isnât able to modify his appearance and a replacement will need to be found
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She should have said this from the start. I understand that she is the bride and it is her day but I think she is being a lil much. When she asked for him to be in the wedding if she didnât mention that he would have to do this then I would say if he doesnât want to do it no and he doesnât need to be in the wedding.
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If he wants it let him keep it. If she canât handle it doesnât need to be a part of it. Itâs ridiculous that she would even ask!
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Kids come first, fuck her wedding tbh.
So a childâs hairstyle the bride knew he had when asking him to be part of her wedding is going to spoil her wedding day?? She has give you 2 days notice of this and having a break down over it? I actually feel sorry for the man she is marrying if this is how she reacts over the littlest of things. I wouldnât force my child to do anything, might of been different if there was more notice and my child had more time to think it over ect shes being ridiculous in my eyes 
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I donât blame her for not wanting that in her wedding pictures. I would let him keep the mowhawk, but itâs not hurting anybody to change the color to black for 24 hours.
This is typical in a wedding. Bridesmaid wear hair a certain way and dresses they typically donât like. When you accept the invitation to be in a wedding you have to do what the bride wants.
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NopeâŚtell her to find a new ring bearer in 2 days. Your son will be a guest but not in wedding party.
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Iâd be telling her to look for a new ring bearer
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Iâd pull out of the wedding entirely. Iâm not forcing my child to do some thing they donât want to to please someone else, when it causes them so much distress. Itâs hair, how is it going to ruin anything? Sheâs missing the point of a marriage if she feels this way
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Nope the so called friend can get stuffed rather her hate you then your own child. Like is it really that important to your son to be the ring bearer? Maybe ask him that.
He is only 8 years old a little child and your child he and his feelings comes first no matter what.
She is forgetting that when she looks back in years to come it will be a precious memory! Let the son decide. Donât force him!
NO
Doesnât matter
Itâs WHO he is and should not matter
Mine wouldnât have hair like it anywayâŚ
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Hell no dont make him change the bride must of known your sons hair style before she asked him so she needs to pull her head in
Absolutely do not go⌠I be looking my absolute sh#t no way would I cut my childâs hair or colour it, or cut the colour off ect. Temporarily spray colour you can buy cheap in clairs assessories if it comes to it.
Could he maybe comb it down for the ring duties then style How he would afterwards. I totally donât agree with her demands though. Once back up
You can get beautiful pics of your family how you all actually look that you can cherish.
You tell your friend your son doesnât want to change his hair and if he doesnât want to go to the wedding at all anymore because of this, also tell her that; and let her know she can use her backup ring bearer.
Oh she doesnât have a backup ring bearer, then say heâs happy to do it with his mohawk.
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Donât make that baby cut his hair for YOUR friends wedding.
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Nope. My child decides for himself and will not adjust for a shechild bridezilla. She better check her attitude for breaking down over a kidâs hairdo. I felt pitty for the groom.
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She waited until 2 days before to tell you she has an issue with a hairstyle and colour heâs had over a year⌠no, I would not be touching his hair
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I wouldnât go. I would not upset my son over something that is going to last 1 day. He loves his hair and that bridge should not be that nit picky.
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If your child had his hair like that when she asked for him to be the ring bearer then why is she just now saying something the way I see it. She knew his hair style she still asked and well she can get over it. Your child should be comfortable and not be unhappy because he was forced to change for someone else. Also I would not want my child thinking that just because someone wants you to change that you have to. A person should be free to be who they are especially a child
Nope she was suppised to talk earlier , anyway tell her to find someone else
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Iâd tell her use the back up ring bearer and not go because sheâs being a bridezilla she knew what hairstyle/color he had before asking.
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Why did she wait until two days before the weeding knowing heâs in it to start complaining about it?
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Itâs her wedding. She is having photos done etc. She has a requirement. Itâs up to you now on whether you want to abide by that. If your son doesnât want to change his hair. He simply canât be in wedding.
Our kids come first before anyone. She knew what his hair looked like when or before she asked for your child to be a ring bearer. Iâm interested to hear what happened ? Did yâall end up going to the wedding?
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No I would not change his hair!
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Nope not a chance . If she asked him be in the weeding she knew what he looked like before hand âŚâŚ not a chance Iâd shave it off unless he asked for it to be shaved off . Sorry not sorry find a new ring bearer then .
Not really a friend in my eyes, if her hubby to be had a mohawk would she ask him to shave it off, well actually she probably would. Your lil lad keeps his hair and how he wants it or she gets a new ring bearer
Uhmmm id say screw her wedding? Sheâs not your childâs mother therfore its really not her choice at all⌠if she is trying to force something on him then he doesnât need to be there or apart of it ? So called friends dont worry about tiny things like that⌠bad case od bridezilla
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Absolutely not. Tell ol girl she can find another ring bearer. Maybe lay it down and donât style it into the mohawk, but a wedding is one day. His self esteem and character is everything. By changing who he wants to be will teach him heâs not accepted as he is and that itâs okay to fold to meet the needs of others. Issa no go
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DO NOT SHAVE THAT CHILDS HAIR. At best use a temporary spray, nothing more.
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Nope. I wouldnât change a thing about my sonâs hair. If it were my son and I in this situation, he just wouldnât be the ring bearer. She can carry her own rings. Heâs has this hair for a while, so thereâs a chance he had this hair when she asked for him to be in the wedding. Controlling makeup and everything else, including for the bridal shower⌠your friend is a bridezilla! His happiness and comfort is more important than whatever she thinks she gets out of his hair being taken from him. Please, choose your son in this situation.
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Honestly I wouldnât do eaither option she wants the wedding to go will then she needs make a compromise. Changing his hair isnât gonna effect her day regardless if she likes it or not. He likes it then leave it. If she tells u u canât be in wedding cuz of hair then she the one with the problem she needs get over his hairďżź
No. What message are you sending him if you make him alter because she doesnât like it. Be true to your child stand up for him. It will go a long way later in life
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Tell her to find another kid and stay home. She canât except him the way he is that is her loss.
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Nope nope nope. She knew going into this what his hair looked like. Shame on her for the last minute ultimatum.
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Nope. My step son had one for our wedding and it was faded pink. I also requested my husband have a Mohawk for our wedding and he had one when I met him.
Tell her her very nicely to. Piss off xx
Nope, if he doesnât want to change his hair and she feels so strongly about it, she should start looking for another ring bearer.
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Iâd tell her that my child will no longer be in the wedding party. 1 that is extremely last minute to demand and 2 to require hair cuts for a wedding is nuts. How would she like it if she were in your wedding party and you required all women to get a Bob haircut? Clothes I get. Hair styles for updos I get. Cut and color? No. If she backs down fine. If she demands it, then bue bye. My kids are more important than someoneâs opinion.
She either has him in the wedding the way he is or he isnât in it. Her choice. She knew what he looked like when she invited him to be in the wedding.
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Yeah, itâs gonna be a no. She asked him to be in the wedding, and I have to assume she knew he had his own unique hair style. Then she waited until just a few days before the wedding to demand you change it?
The most Iâd be willing to do would be e temporary color. I wouldnât make my child shave off his Mohawk for a 6 hour event because my friend suddenly decided she was want ok with it.
fuck that she can deal with his hair how he wants it or find a new ring bearer. she has absolutely NO RIGHT to tell anyone how to have their hair
And sheâs being dramatic, a mental break down over a childâs hair!?!? 
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She better be finding a new ring Bear cause Iâd be going somewhere with my son and not that wedding
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Absolutely not !!
That is the style he has chosen well before this occasion. And for an adult to have these options for a child because Iâm my opinion , they donât want it in pictures is absolutely disgusting.
This is who he is at this time in his life.
Donât change for anybody sweetheart
Adults really need to look in the mirror. How shallow they are.
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Why do people do this! She knew what his hairstyle was when she asked him to be rung bearer! Can you style it down for the day? I
Its her wedding but hes your child.d9nt force him to do something he loves just for her.tell her to get another ringbearer
Tell her to find a new ring bearer.
First thing that came to mind. Did he have the Mohawk when she asked him to be in the wedding? If he did then I donât think he should have to change his hair then, she knew the style he had and asked him to be in the wedding anyways
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Sorry but keep him out of the wedding and let him keep his hair. Itâs her wedding day and she does get to decide what she wants just like he gets to decide he wants to keep his hair as is
When I had my wedding - I didnât give a hoot what you wore, how you looked or any of that. I was happy that you CHOSE to share the day with me. I was not aware of every second of all my guests were doing. Itâs madness to dictate everyoneâs everything for a wedding.
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Donât do anything to your childâs hair. If she is petty enough to exclude him from the wedding g party, then she can find another ring bearer 2 days before her wedding. Your friend is dumb.
Not a chance. She asked him to be ring bearer knowing his hair was like that. I would tell Bridezilla the options are either it stays and you keep your thoughts to yourself or my kid isnât in your wedding. If you are in the wedding I would add that too. How dare she dictate what you or your son look like. Either he is in it with the hair or neither of you are and Iâd think twice about attending after she insulted my son.
We wouldnât be participating in that wedding if it were me and my kid 
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Your friend sounds like a controlling snob and honestly if thatâs how she views people with fun hair Iâd be ending the friendship. Sounds like a bridezilla.
Not only that but itâs only red? I feel like bright red is so common, itâs not even green or blue or any other color. Itâs freaking red. My kids get vivid colored hair each summer (they attend private school during the year so I canât do it then or Iâd continue it). We are a typical suburban family and I see nothing wrong with his hair. If I was a bride Iâd laugh and say okay red Mohawk it is!
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I would absolutely NOT shave his head or change his color. If she doesnât effing like it, then thatâs too bad! Iâd be HAPPY to have an 8 year old with a mohawk with red tips as my ring bearer. Sheâs being ridiculous. I would have her find a new ring bearer if sheâs that particular about it. Your son wonât have a good time and youâll be resentful if you end up doing it. IMHO.
I mean itâs her wedding, so either change the hair or let her know so she can get a new ring bearer in time
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Hell no! She is being ridiculous! You canât demand someone shave their hair or change the color regardless of what day it is. She should have said that was her preference when she asked him to be in the wedding, so he could decline or agree. Sheâs being a brat and no wedding/marriage has ever been made or ruined bc of someoneâs hair style.
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Iâd tell my friend to find a new ring bearer 
bridezilla
Screw that wedding then. Kids happiness comes first
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NO ONE is controlling my childâs self expression and right to their own body. If he says no itâs NO! I hate people that ask others to change their body for 1 event. His mohawk wonât ruin it, she will.
Never. Sure, itâs âjust hairâ, but it makes him proud and happy; donât force him to give that up for anything. Your friend is not only an adult, but has had more than 2 days to talk to you about her feelings and, quite frankly, your son is more important than her attitude.
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She knew he had a colored mohawk when she asked him to be in the weddingâŚI would say no way.
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I would go with option 3 and tell her she needs to find another ring bearer. She asked him to be in the wedding and I assume she already had seen his hair. It is ridiculous to have him change itâŚwhy ask him to begin with? If sheâs having a mental breakdown because of his hair then she needs to get over herself. I wouldnât even go to the wedding if it were meâŚ.the momma bear in me wouldnât let me go deal with that mess. It wouldnât be worth the drama and she doesnât sound like a very great friend to begin with.
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Nope.
She needs to get over herself, itâs not her body 
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He can go as is and she can photoshop the pictures and change his hair color⌠
I wouldnât be altering my child and their hair for a 1 day event⌠she can kick rocks
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Donât change his hair. Obviously your son loves his hair and get rid of that friend.
If sheâs your friend and knows he likes his hair a particular way then she shouldnât expect for him to change it 2 days before the wedding. If it was going to be an issue for her she should have never asked for him to be in the wedding.
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My opinion? Tell her to kiss your ass and find a new ring bearer.
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Nope. Let your kid be a kid. Do not make him change his hair to make one person happy for one day. Youâll do more damage. Especially long term to your kid if ypu make him do this.
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Did your son have his red Mohawk when she asked him to be the ring bearer? If so, then she knew what his hair looked like and asked him anyway. Do NOT cut or color your sons hair. All that is doing is telling him that he has to conform to what others want.
My son went through the colored Mohawk phase, around the same age. His hair was red, pink, blue, green etc. My mom always had a comment about it. Its his hair and his choice.
I would tell her youâre not coloring or cutting his hair. Iâd assume that she has been planning the wedding for a while and asked long ago for him to be apart of the wedding. Hair grows, so I also assume itâs been recolored, probably several times since he was asked to be a part of the wedding. She should have said something at the beginning, so his hair could have been colored a ânormalâ color prior to and then recolored after, not waited until a few days prior to the wedding.
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I wouldnât make him be in the wedding. Absolutely DO NOT make him shave it!!
Nope Mohawk stays it is who he is
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She knew his hair was like this when she asked for him to be in it. Donât do it
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Iâd tell her that he wonât be in her wedding. If it was such an issue, she shouldâve talked to you about it before.
- Do neither of those things, leave your sons hair alone and tell the bride to eff off
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Respectfully decline the position of ring bearer on his behalf.
Something like:
I recognize that it is your wedding and you want everything to be a certain way. (Son) really does not want to make any changes to his appearance that will affect him long term for one day. I support him in that decision and for that reason I feel itâs best for everyone that he not be in the position of ring bearer.
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I wouldnât change a thing for one day.
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I would not force my child to change his hair. I would politely request that heâs demoted to guest if she chooses not have allow his hair.
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Tell her find another ring bearer! Donât make your child change for someone else!
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Perhaps rethink this friendship.
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Absolutely do not get rid of his hair. He will remember you not standing is his corner for the rest of his life for something that is purely vanity. Looks like she needs a new ring bearer
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I for one definitely wouldnât shave his hair for 2 she has knows his hair was this for awhile she should have brought this up to you guys sooner my and also if you already tried suggesting a different color to him tell her look itâs his hair his choice I canât force him to change it (this is coming from a mom whoâs 5 year old has purple hair rn lol)
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No Iâd stand by my son and Iâd just simply not go, since your child canât be accepted how he is and it will " ruin" her wedding. Donât make him change to her expectations, she should have chosen someone else if she had a problem with it.
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Yes I would absolutely make my kid change it for a wedding. But I also wouldnât see myself letting my kid have that hairstyle for any length of time⌠maybe a month in the summer when school is out.
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