Hey guys question… If your BABY DADS is NOT RESPONSIBLE with your baby… Even if he’s in child support but still he’s just not responsible would you STILL LET his family sees the baby? Everybody’s gonna have different opinions about this thats why I ask you guys would you let his family see the baby… ? My personal opinion about this is why would I let my baby dads see the baby if the dad is NOT providing for him?
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would you let your childs fathers family see baby?
Absolutely. Whether the guy is in your kids life or not, that’s still your kids family. And if they’re genuinely good people, all you’re doing is hurting your child by keeping them away.
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If his family isn’t toxic to you or your child I don’t see why not, it’s good for your child to know his other side of the family regardless if his dads in the picture or not
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Yes, you should allow dad’s family to see the baby if they want to
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YES if they are responsible. You don’t wanna push away people who would love your baby and possibly be there to help you.
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I would. As long as his family respected my wishes and listen to whatever rules I had. Just because the dad is irresponsible doesn’t mean his whole family should miss out.
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Yea i would. If they want to and they reach out.
Yes 
you should, if the dads family are making the effort to be involved., then your little one should have that, kids should have as much family around them as possible x
Why would you purposely keep your child’s family from him? If they’re asking to see him, it doesn’t matter the situation with the dad.
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Yep , baby didn’t do anything wrong to not be in his family’s life.
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Why should his family suffer because of his stupidity?
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If they are willing and wanting to, I don’t even know why that is a question?
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The dad’s family is still your child’s family. They should be able to see the baby regardless if the father is active or on CS.
SMH - his family can’t control him any better then you can. Your child has a whole ass family outside of you and if that family isn’t dangerous and wants to be apart of your child’s life why would you even question allowing it.
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Yes everyone is an individual and would def never punish others based on the actions of one fkwit
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My x husband has had nothing to do with my kids pretty much since the divorce, but his mom, sister and other family members are still a huge part of thier lives.
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Don’t let your child miss out on his other side of the family. If the father isn’t responsible enough to be alone with the kids, allow them to be at the aunt’s house or grandmas. That’s just being bitter, I’m thinking.
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Remember you could be a grandparent one day begging to see a grandchild….the tables could turn on you!
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Absolutely
You can never have too much family/ if people are willing to step up into that role then the more the merrier !
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Of course they should.
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I would. I never kept my daughter from her other family no matter how much of a pos her sperm donar is
There’s different ways of providing and if they are safe a kid can never have enough of people that care and it’s easier to show care and support by knowing you and the child.
I wouldn’t walk in all umm sideways they know him no need to bring him up much than maybe if he can see the kid with them or not at this time. You never know what some grace might do.

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His family isn’t the one that created that baby so it’s not fair to keep extended family away for the dads doings that’s so unfair to your child
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Why are u punishing the babies family because the baby daddy doesn’t provide? It’s not there fault or the babies
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Yes absolutely! Not their fault he’s being a douche
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Unless his family is total trash, his family shouldn’t be held responsible for him being a dead beat dad. Your child should know both sides of its family unless that family isn’t safe for the child to be around.
The other family shouldn’t be punished from seeing the child regardless. That’s not fair to them or the child.
As long as they’re good to you and your baby, absolutely. It’s not their fault things didn’t work out well for you two. Your baby deserves to know it’s family and be surrounded by people who love them.
I would invite them over to see the baby. I wouldn’t let the baby out of my sight though. I have a wild overprotective streak.
Absolutely, if they are safe and responsible, they can’t dictate what an adult does or doesn’t do. As long as they respect you and don’t condone the "father’s " irresponsibility
If his family hasn’t done anything toxic or harmful to you or the baby then why deny them a relationship with their family just because your bd sucks?
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I would. My son’s father has never even called to check on him from birth. His family has never knowledge him. But if they want to know him I would be happy with it. A child can never have to many people care and love for him.
What does the dad have to do with the baby’s extended family seeing them? It’s not their fault the dad sucks and it’s still their family member. And in some places they can even go to court for visitation.
I’m so thankful that I get so see mine
But she’s got a great mother
Yes absolutely
I would loved for my daughter’s father family to grow up together.
He’s a deadbeat an I absolute would have let them if they would have asked me. Now that she’s 12 an her dad is MIA they try to but she don’t feel comfortable going… cause they never never reached out to me an asked for her when she was younger. I wish they would I would have loved for her to have her dad’s family side in her life.
I let ours still still the family. It’s not up to me to withhold him from his other side who’s done nothing to harm him.
Yes because they are the child family
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Shouldn’t punish the rest of his family for his actions. Absolutely would.
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What’s the problem with having more family that loves your child?
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I am in this exact situation. My husband and I have been separated for over two years and he does not help monetarily. He doesn’t even really talk to his child. Nor does he really care to. However I have never not once cut his family out of her life because he is irresponsible and not capable of caring about anything but himself. His family are my family. They are amazing people and my child and l love them just like my parents. Maybe give them a chance? If you can trust them then l would try.
I say if they love the baby. ABSOLUTELY let them. Your baby should have as many people in their life that love and support them
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If they WANT to & initiate the visits then yes. A child can’t have too many people to love them in their life! Especially todays times💞
My daughters dad is not involved in any way. Doesn’t even pay child support… I allow his parents and children to see my daughter. Her dad is not allowed to see her via order of protection.
No question about it as long as they are responsible why hold his actions against them or your child
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Comes fown to… How do they treat you amd if you are comfortable with them caring for your child
That’s his family. Dads mistakes aren’t theirs……
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You arent emotionally mature enough to have a child please do not risk it by having sex.
I feel like if that father wants to see his baby I would definitely let him even if he’s not providing. As long as it’s not a safety issue. I mean I think he should be helping but some don’t ever grow up. You never want to get in the middle of a bond that the child would have with his father. As for the family same. If there is no safety issues and they are reaching out I don’t see why not. Children don’t understand about the money or care. It’s all about the relationship they have together
Yes I would. Money don’t replace love. Yes, he should be supporting his child financially but IMO that don’t mean your child has to be without his dad or his other family in his life.
I see my dad’s family and he wasn’t in my life much. I am much closer with his mom (my granny) and my cousin than any of his other family members. I also have a younger half sister by him that I enjoy talking to and seeing when I do! 
my mom didn’t want me to have a relationship with him and I didn’t for a while but I am glad I got a chance to know my sister and see her grow up.
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The child has the right to know their family, i split with my boys,dad 2 years ago and they still see their dads family. Maybe having his family involved may encourage him to be part of the babies life. Just a thought 
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My child’s father has never had much to do with her but his family has been one of the biggest blessings of my life. Super supportive. Having more people to love your child is never a bad thing.
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Yes they can see her but they have made no effort to 
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Yes my kids father had nothing to do with our kids but I NEVER kept his family away from our kids
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If they reached out I would but-on conditions and they would have to agree that I have boundaries and they are to respect them
Those people are the baby’s family. You can never change that. I would never deny my child love from their family, especially if they’ve never done anything wrong to the child.
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It takes two to tango, why deny the child a family because the dad is irresponsible?
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Yes because even know he not being responsible that is not on them they might be able to help more than him by see the child it does more family is everything for most so not letting them see the child is not fair to them or the child that is like punishing them for the wrong doing on the dad part not their fault 
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You are punishing your child for their dads actions.
Have fun explaining that to a 20 year old
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My son’s bio dad didn’t want anything to do with him but his family did so they woukd keep him on weekends and summers and part of Christmas break
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If you’re seriously asking this question, you have a lot of growing up to do, for your child’s sake 
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My oldest’s father is a pos. Hasn’t spoken to her or seen her in 10 years. She goes to his moms house one weekend a month to spend time with her. They are her family 
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Do you let your family see the baby? His family has as much rights to see the baby as yours does. You know who the toxic one’s are, govern their visits
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Yes! If his family wants to be involved, why keep the baby away? That’s the child’s family. Now, if they don’t want anything to do with the child, that’s a whole different story.
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Yes . Why punish the family because of the father ?
Lol my best friend’s baby daddy is the lowest of low. His family though send gifts and call checking on my niece. Don’t burn bridges because you’re bitter. They still family
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Regardless, that is family to the child. If they are safe and responsible, keeping them away will do more harm then good. It took a long time for me to get over emotional immaturity of its not my job. My kids are my job and my entire world. There is nothing in this world I won’t do. So I talk to my ex Iaws. I send pictures, game schedules, school functions and events. They can do with that what they want. At the end of the day my children see me making that effort for them. Withholding children out of bitterness will only ensure that exact behavior and emotional depth in the child’s future.
Time to swallow the pride and work through the madness to stop the generational trauma and neglect.
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Your baby daddy pays child support yet doesnt support the child. Hello thats what the child support is for . To help you. And no. Alienation is never the answer.
If his family are decent and want to see the baby, I would let them…the dad shouldn’t be kept away, either, simply for not giving you more money, unless he is a crackhead, or abusive, or something.
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Yes the father’s side of the family should see the child. Unless they weren’t allowed to be around kids then thats when i will put my foot down. The father’s side of the family have no part of the father’s responsibility at all.
The family has nothing to do with what your bd does or doesn’t do why keep the child away from its family
I sure hope you will. My theory is there can never be too many family embers to love my chi
Most definitely. My daughter has the best relationship in the world with her father’s family (who also happen to be my family now) even with him not being involved for the last 8 years. If they want to love your child let them!
if you a bitter baby mama, just say that!
yes, he should be helping with expenses & providing, but if he can’t/won’t, that doesn’t mean deprive the child of relationships with dad & dad’s family.
now if there’s abuse, that’s different.
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You can not take that away from the family just because hes not responsible. Thats like giving someone trouble for something they didn’t do. 
Yes. It’s not their fault. Why deny your child love from their family if it’s a healthy environment.
If they’re good people, yes. I wouldn’t LEAVE baby with them unless theyre trustworthy, but they deserve to see baby if they still want to.
It would definitely depend on what type of relationship the baby’s father and I had before, whether I even knew his family. Assuming I know his family and they respect me and are decent people, they can come to me to see baby. I’m not sending a baby anywhere though. My husband and I do not do that with ours until they’re older so they wouldn’t be “allowed” to take my baby because I wouldn’t have my own family doing that either. If I don’t know his family at all? No. If his family members are bad people or treat me badly? No. Regardless of what you choose to do, I do not feel it is the mother’s duty or responsibility to facilitate a relationship with the dad’s family and her baby. That’s his thing.
Absolutely… Why not allow them to see and spend time with your child just because baby Daddy isn’t capable of fulfilling his duties… That child deserves all the love from all family members… Dont punish bubs or the family for his ways… In saying that, it would also depend on the relationship you had with them and how they treat you, with or without baby Daddy around
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Why is this even a question?
You like a witch.
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If the family is good to him why can’t they be a part of his life, they aren’t the ones financially responsible for your child.
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the to have nothing to do with each other and any judge or court will tell you that. yes I would.
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Yes, because they have a right to know who they are and build a relationship with them BUT I’m not reaching out to them. If they want to see them, they can call and ask me. It’s no problem at all but I refuse to waste time and energy trying to facilitate or force a relationship. If they want it, they’ll put the effort in. Same with the dad.
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Yes. But I got a couple of them that I would keep a close eye on and “proceed with caution” in and throughout. Two of 'em I don’t trust any more than I trust him. But I do believe children should know their family.
My daughter’s dad does absolutely nothing extra for her, he pays child support and thinks that is enough, he doesn’t see her hardly at all but his parents are great people so I have always made sure my daughter maintains a relationship with them, they are amazing grandparents and love my child. I wouldn’t want her to miss out on that
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It’s not the baby’s fault 
Unless there’s a reason why then yes you should let his side of the family know that child forsure. Not that child’s fault nor is it the family
Because it’s not his parents fault that he became a shitty father…
That is punishing the grandma and grandpa aunts unless and cousins for one person not doing what they are suppose to do… I have a total of 5 childern 2 of the dad have absolutely nothing to do with them but I still let them have a relationship with there family…
So he’s paying child support but not providing for the baby do u even know what child support is for 
it’s for the baby.
Just because he isn’t responsible enough for the the baby doesn’t mean the grand parents should miss out on seeing their grand child unless they are bad people.
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Um?? Yes. If they are making an effort hell yes. Just because baby daddy doesn’t want anything to do with your baby right now doesn’t mean his family doesn’t. They’re still the baby’s family too. If they aren’t undermining you in anyway and are genuinely nice don’t be petty cause of him. If they are trying to mess with your head by all means do not.
Yes as long as they are responsible and not bad people they should see the baby they are family and its not their fault or the child’s fault ad to how the father acts
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You can’t put him on CS and say he doesn’t support the kid at all. He may not be active or involved or even good at the whole dad thing but he’s on CS so yes he does help support his kid. If his family is half decent why not? Why not have all the ppl willing and able to love and care for the kid be around?
You seem kinda resentful and petty tbh
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Just because your baby daddy is a douche , doesn’t mean his family is .
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Baby daddy may never be responsible, may never end up providing but why punish the child further more by not allowing them to see their own family and have their family apart of their life as they grow up?
As long as his family isn’t harmful or toxic there’s nothing wrong with supervised visits. Invite his parents to dance reicdels and soccer games, invite his siblings and their children birthday parties and family events.
Just because he/babydaddy made the decision to not be apart of his child’s life dosnt mean his family feels the same way (if they do that’s their choice and they don’t have to be apart of your child’s life)
If the family is making the effort……OF COURSE
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Unless there’s a reason you don’t like them, why not? The more people to love your baby, the better.
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He’s not providing for him? Didn’t you say he’s on child support? 
And why punish the family and even the baby because baby dad isn’t around? You sound selfish. You want that child support money but won’t let the baby have time with their family.
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You know what! I’m so tired of this crap. You laid down got pregnant you knew he wasn’t shit. Now you wanna hold the baby from FAMILY. Stop making bad choices. He was good enough to make a baby but not good enough to see the baby. Gtfoh! Money don’t make memories. Time does!