Yes I would and it depends what u mean resposiable
You only hurt the kids!!
You’ve got to learn to love you’re children more than you dislike ALL of their fathers. Your children didn’t pick them. You did. Make it work for the KIDS.
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Like don’t let them cause you drama, shame, inconvience or guilt… but ffs its your child’s family. Your child needs/deserves more than just you and how would you of felt never knowing your father’s family?
Well yeah. If they’re good to the kid and love them, where’s the problem?
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Absolutely if they want to be a part of the child’s life. 1. The child deserves all the family and love they can have. 2. You as a mom deserve all the support and help you have access too. 3. Just because he don’t want to be a dad doesn’t mean they dont want to be family.
You do what you ultimately think is best for you and your little one though.
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You should not be allowed to have possession of that child period. Shame on you. The more people to love and support your child will create a happier and healthier person. Especially to hopefully balance out your bitterness and vindictiveness. Please do not breed anymore.
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So. You sound bitter. You made the child with the man. If his parents / family are trying to be involved / help / love them child why are you denying your child the opportunity to be loved?
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Why would You not let the family see the kid because of him. That’s not cool at all. It’s not their fault he’s not involved.
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You are denying your child their family because the Dad won’t pay his child support…. Paying child support is important. But his family doesn’t owe that money. Why deny them and your child their relationship?
And having a Dad in your life is about more than support. Kids do not need to be aware of these adult issues. If the Dad wants to see his child and you can make that happen you aren’t rewarding your ex. You’re doing it for your kids! Go to court and keep trying to get support. Keep it separate from the time your kids spend with their father and his family.
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Depends how they are 
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Because that will always be his other side of the family that he never got to know, because you kept them seperated. Everyone should be able to know all thr family. Both sides. Maybe the baby daddy will eventually grow up.
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You would know them best .
Are they good people?
Would your child be safe ?
Are you leaving or visiting with the child ?
If you think there good safe people .
Then I personally don’t think it’s cool to keep loving dependable people away from him . It’s not thw families fault if the dad is MIA 
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So…take away the chance for what could be a very special relationship with grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc just because dad isn’t doing the right thing?? If they WANT to be involved, and you don’t have any real reasons that they shouldn’t be involved (real reasons, like drug abuse, not just that you don’t like their son), then why in the world would you say no?? You sound bitter (which might be understandable, especially if your new to this single parenting thing) and petty, and I’d encourage you to think long term and about what’s best for your kiddo - more family who loves him is never a bad thing. It sucks big time that his dad isn’t involved, but don’t take away half of his whole family because of one person.
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You’re only hurting the child. Not paying child support doesn’t make him a bad father.
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I let my son go to his Nana’s and his Pawpaw’s when he was younger. My rule was that he was not to go anywhere with his Dad unless of them were going to. His Dad was able to stay with either of his parents to see his son if he chose to. ( had some things happen and did not trust him alone)
I never kept my kids from their grandparents.That would just be so selfish and you would be hurting the child more than anyone.
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Yes I did unless they were in harms way. And after 12 years, they still love me and make a plate of food for me when my kids come home from a party.
My divorce and situation had nothing to do with the relationship my kids and their grandparents have.
Child support is to support the child support is for the child to be supported not to be used as leverage.
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It’s not their fault or the child’s you chose the wrong guy to be his daddy.
That’s still your childs family. You may need them one day but go ahead and keep playing petty. Smh
I chose wrong but my son still knows who his father’s side of the family is.
See a lawyer and find out state laws and draw something up. Protect you and them.
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As long as they are loving, caring and supportive, I’d feel comfortable letting them be a part of my child’s life. 
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Never deny a child loving family
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If that family is better than the father, let them in. The more people to love that child the better
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Wow I get that your not happy with the father of your child
But don’t take it out on the family or your child
They just want to love your child
The way any in laws
Would
Your child is their blood as well
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You should always welcome people who are loving into your childrens life as long as they’re also positive influences I moved and didn’t tell my children’s father where I lived for 2 years but some days wouldn’t have been possible without his mother’s help and she absolutely adores her grandkids and I know they’re always taken care of with her. Don’t hold them all accountable for his poor choices they can’t control. Just start small play dates, lunches, little things to test it out and then maybe short times unsupervised until you’re comfortable with them caring for your children.
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It takes a village to raise a child
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The father to my oldest has been in and out of prison since she was born barely saw or spoke to her. But his family has been by my side through everything. That is her family no matter what and they love and cherish her more then anything. His family shouldn’t not be able to see the child unless THEY have done wrong.
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Why would you punish the fathers family like that? That’s terrible.
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If they want to be involved, and respect your wishes to not include him due to his actions/inaction, then it’s your own hurt feelings/pettiness keeping him from having loving family and cherished memories.
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The way the post is wrote makes it sound like he pays his support. Either way, yes I would let the family see the baby because it isn’t their fault what he does…why deny their love to the baby?
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Yes. I would be in agreement that my children need their father and his family, just as much as my own.
They are the child’s family, not just the baby daddy’s family.
Please don’t deny them the opportunity to love your child, because they are your child’s grandparents/aunts/uncles, cousins, etc. Just because the daddy doesn’t act right doesn’t mean his family won’t act right.
Be the bigger person and accept these people into your child’s life.
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If the family is stable and trustworthy why should they not be able to be a support system for you and the child? Insaine q
Not their fault.They should get to be his family💜
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WOW!!! Would you really consider denying your child the love the other family can give??
If the grandparents are responsible, I don’t see the problem with visits. If it’s a back door to letting the irresponsible father have access to and do irresponsible things with the child, then no.
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The baby doesn’t care about the money the baby wants to know their family and if you can trust them then let the child see them. That child deserves all the love
If the family and I get alone then the child deserves to meet them and have them involved regardless of the dad paying or not. The child is the one who will be wondering why they don’t have a relationship.
My almost 6 yr old sees his dad’s side of his family all the time… in my opinion they didn’t lay down and make him then not take care of him his father did that so no need to punish the family that wants to be involved. I’ve even had his father’s side offer to buy things I need for him or send me money to get him what I need. His father’s 1 sister even tells me constantly if I need a break let her know and she will take him for a day or 2 for me. Now if any of the father’s side is toxic than no that family member would not be able to see him. But why keep your child from knowing their family no matter what’s going on between you and the father
Why punish the father’s family they haveny done wrong. My kids father’s aren’t in their lives but I have never stopped his family from seeing the kids…
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My son’s father never went out of his way in that department. But he did/does the most important thing which is be there for our son. He never missed any opportunities to spend time. This is all my son needed to see. My son has always been a part of his paternal side. I never would base any relationship on finance. My son will form his own opinion & I am not going to be the deciding factor on his relationship with any relatives. It shouldn’t be a “pay to see a kid.” Kids don’t get the concept. But they do get if they don’t see them & one day they will be old enough to know why (and you should be honest and say they didn’t see them because Dad didn’t pay financially.) The reason sounds petty though 
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Have been in this situation myself, and my answer is a huge YES! Don’t deprive the children from knowing their paternal grandparents, the children will make special memories with these people 
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This is an utterly stupid question just because the dad is not responsible does not mean he punished his side of the family because the father the a****** makes no sense
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Its not just the baby daddy’s family… it’s the child’s family too!!!
So yes. If they respect not bringing the child around the father when they have him/her bc he’s not fit then yes why block that relationship with the family. They can’t control the way the father is. Let that baby be loved from his/her family! Until they prove otherwise!
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The more love for your child, the better!!!
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YES , I WOULD why because the babies father at one time u did love him and baby is apart of him so yes i feel that i would allow the fathers family see the baby , as long as i was there when they wanted to see her/him!
bc it’s not about you or material items to have a relationship with the father.
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I learned really quick that my daughters bio dad wasn’t going to be there for her during our divorce process. He’s not been and it’s been 7 years now. Her grandma and aunt and uncle on bio dads side has literally been one of the biggest support to her with me through everything they have also taken in her brother as their own as well. He will never be made to feel different or know different then knowing they are also his nana aunt and uncle. If I would have kept her from them for her bio dads mistakes and choices that would have been so selfish. Children deserve all the love they can receive.
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If there is no reason to keep them from the baby, then no!! Why make them pay!?!?!
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It shouldn’t be all about money. If he wants to be there for his kids you let him. That’s just cruel to the child. Most women would beg for their bd to have any interest in their children
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So it’s tricky… let me tell you my side… I think that yes the child should be able to have a relationship with dads family… however, there are circumstances where it is not healthy. I let the dads mom be actively involved anytime she wanted my baby we always made it work. However, she was bad mouthing me and trying to force a relationship between her son and my child. My son would come home so angry sometimes. It was to the point that school teachers noticed his behavior change and advised counseling. He did counseling and that’s where I found out that grandma was making nasty comments about me and telling my son that my husband is not his dad, her son is the dad and that he needs to see his dad. This was a lot to bare for a kid his age. Anywho in counseling my son wrote gramma a letter, just laying out some ground rules about those kind of conversations but also sharing he loves to spend quality time with her. The grandma since then has voided my son out her life. So it’s hard to make a decision at first about whether or not they can see him. In my case I feel like it just hurt my child. But every situation is different. Maybe you can build a relationship with the family and set some boundaries
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Me and my sibling did growing up. If they are making an effort and not purposely ihmpring the xhild etc, then I don’t see why not
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If they are healthy and respectful yes.
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My daughter is 11 her dad isn’t always the most responsible man but I would never yak it out on his family they are so good with my daughter why should they suffer and not see the child because the dad doesn’t
And my sons 18 his dad was a total piece of shit but I still gave his family the option of seeing my son when he was born and getting to know him unfortunately they declined and my son hasn’t met any of em but at the end of the day its their loss
So if his family is wanting to see the child and the child’s in no harm with them I think its selfish not to let the family see the child
Of course at the end of the day they are still the babys family weather or not he is a responsible dad, the baby still has family ie gran parents aunts uncles cousins etc n it’s not the babys fault x
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Because what did his family do to the child if they did not harm or be disrespectful then why punishment them if he’s a shit bag that’s him not his family
Got nothing to do with the man and the woman more so the baby knowing his family and where they come from.
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Its about family not money
Because the courts view child support and being in a child’s life a two separate issues. Cutting off an entire side of the family over child support isn’t what is best for the child.
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If the family is willing to have a healthy, consistent, supportive, responsible relationship with your child and can communicate and be respectful of you, then I don’t really see why not.
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I let my sons family see her (on my terms), he wasn’t really interested. Started getting screamed at on the street and nasty messages on fb from some ramdom. Turns out he’d fake cry on new the girls shoulder telling her and anyone who would listen, that I was keeping his child away from him. She came up to me in town when I was out with his sister. Was told the truth with his sister backing me up. She apologised and later broke up with him
The child should definitely have an opportunity to be part of dad’s side of the family. However it’s not always a black and white issue. There are certain circumstances where it’s not in the child’s best interest but you won’t know until you try. I hope that makes sense x
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For the benefit of the child yes I would.
Only reason I’d decline would be if said family was unsafe.
If your child benefits, you benefit because of your child. The more the merrier 
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My sons dads was in the picture minimally and now not at all. We are still very close with his family. We go see them every chance we get. It’s not their fault or your child’s fault that he’s not the father he should be. Your child and the family shouldn’t suffer because of “dads” choices
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You can’t punish his family (also your babies family) just because of him. Is his family responsible are they going to look after baby and care for him. See him regular and be in his life? If so then the answer is simply yes you should still let his family see baby
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cuz ITS NOT ABOUT YOU!!! Are you kidding me? You are a special kind of CRUEL!!! Get the fuck over yourself and DO WHATS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN! Just because dad is a jerk dont mean his family has to pay the ultimate price you asshat…you and YOUR FAMILY are not the only family the child /children have…so who the f are you to deny your kids their family??? Im so sick of parents like this!!! Oh i hate daddy so ima make him AND his family pay!!!
Let him know his grandparents if the grandparents are legit. But only with you around of course🥰
Do not punish his family for his bad actions. My mother did that to me and I still resent her to this day that I didn’t have a relationship with my grandma until I was a teenage then my grandma died when I was 19. So many years I could have spent with her but couldn’t because my mom took it out on her
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If the family is respectful of you and your child and dont bring any drama around you and your child then why not, anything is worth a try moment drama starts or something is done which you have expressed you’re not comfortable with then cut ties atleast you tried.
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The more people that want real connections and truely love my kids the better for them.
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Yes, I would let the family see the child. The father is a grown man who decided not to step up and provide for his child. He is responsible for his own actions. The family should not be punished for it.
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Yes as the famolynisntnthe dad they love this child for who they are and want to be a part of that child’s life
If they treat you & baby with respect I would allow my child to know them. They are YOUR CHILD’S FAMILY. Why would you punish them & your child for the father’s actions?
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If they truly love your child and care, I don’t see a problem letting them see your kid on your terms.
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Don’t punish the family because the dads a dead beat!
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Why wouldn’t you want your child to have love and support? Baby’s dad is a whole ass adult and just because he’s not responsible doesn’t mean the child should be punished by having every other person his family pushed out. Sounds more like bitter baby mama drama to me.
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Don’t punish the family or the baby because the dad is a dead beat… It takes a village to raise a child 
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They should be allowed to see the baby.
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I opened the door to the family and they didnt accept and thats ok but they didnt walk away after creating this child… they were also mad at him for acting like a child not a 35 year old man. Id set some ground rules like he chose not to be involved so please dont send him pictures etc…he needs to ask me if he wants to know his child
A child is not an object that you use to bring about social pressure. Do you even give a damn what’s best for the kid or are you just worried about getting that money?
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I mean they are the babies family too. Don’t punish them for his behavior
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Who deemed him unfit? Is that your biased opinion or an actual fact?
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His dad is one thing his family is another his family didnt do anything nor make the bad decisions the dad did so there is no reason the family and your child shouldnt have a relationship unless you feel or no that there is a problem with them to. But in any which way they all have rights to see and know each other there is always supervised visitations if need be.
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I would. They havnt done anything wrong
I had contact with my nan for years after I stopped seeing my dad and my mum did everything she could to encourage and help our relationship with her.
Just bc my dad is a deadbeat doesn’t mean me OR her deserved to loose out on that relationship.
You are depriving your child of that too.
The more people who love him the better, its not their fault or the child’s fault, don’t punish them for his behaviour
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if he pays childsupport, well maybe.
Why does family need to suffer?
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Maybe they care even if he doesn’t
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I would, as long as they respect me and my child. Why punish them for bd actions?
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Been here and guess what I ADULTED and let the grandparents see their grandkids. Invited to birthdays and holidays. The child is NOT A PAWN in little kids think they adult games
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He’s providing the child support, so he is paying for stuff for the baby. Gosh let them see that baby, it is their family member also. 
People forget when you block out daddy, you have blocked out cousins, aunt’s, uncle’s, grandparents, and future nephew and neice. Those members will never know that little guy/gal.
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The more ppl that love ur child the better give him/her that big family with lots of love
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Look at it a different way… Why would you deprive your child of family? Why would you deprive your child of more people to love them?
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What about dead beat baby mamas family?
And when your child grows to resent you, you’ll know why.
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The woman who typed this is illiterate as all get out. Your personal opinion is a cow pie. The babies family from the fathers side is just as important as the baby’s family from your side. Trust me I’d know.
My childrens father is exactly the same way. His family claims they love our children and want to be in their lives. So I told them I won’t ever keep my babies from them. I’ve invited them to birthdays via ZOOM and even last year they said they were coming to our state to visit and wanted to see my babies. I made plans with them and everything. Well- they never showed up! And guess who is to blame?? Yup- me! Apparently- I told them they werent allowed to see my children and so they never followed up with me. I even called and text them asking where they were. So- at that moment. I made a choice- i wasnt going to make any effort for others to see my children. I will let them know that it’s ok and that they can see them while I’m around but they arent allowed to take them. They’re practically strangers, my children havent seen these people since they were 5 and 6. But now I’m the bad guy and they say I’m keeping them from seeing my babies. Smdh… I’ll always remember that day. I was so hurt for my babies but something told me not to tell my children, let their visit be a surprise. I’m glad I kept my mouth shut because my babies would’ve been so heart broken to know that they couldnt make a 30min drive to see them and they didnt tell me that they were only 30min away. I could’ve met up with them… oh well- things happen for a reason. So- if I were you, I’d leave the door open on allowing his family to see the kids. Chances are- they wont even show. But at least you gave them the opportunity to be in their lives. Just dont make any effort to keep that contact, let them make that contact and effort.
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If you are on good terms with them then do it. Be the bigger, better person and set an example for your child on respect. It is obvious the dad was never taught that.
My kids dad family saved my existence… when my ex walked out and left me with two kids and barely had anything to do with them except once a year his family stepped up. My kids probably have a better relationship with their dads grandma than my side of the family. They took over holiday visitation, they helped me when school supplies and clothes. They legit stepped up and played dad and I couldn’t be more grateful. As a mother it’s important to utilize all your strengths and allowing them to support you and help you is one of them. It comes in handy in an emergency comes up and baby daddy is no where to be found…
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My son sees his dad once in the last 6 years…his uncle and aunt has him almost every weekend and every holiday…it’s not their fault he’s a lowlife…
Now my oldest son’s family I tried to do the same thing- they were absolutely toxic
Depends on the situation
My son’s ex girlfriend keeps me involved with their child. She knows who I am & the ex girlfriend knows I’ll do almost anything for her & the baby. My situation is a little unique. I took her in when her parents threw her out when they found out she was pregnant at 16. I finished raising her, made sure she got her high school diploma, took care of her medical, dental, clothing, food, enrolled her into college. Regardless of what her & my son go through, she knows she can contact me with any problems or just to say hi. We are in separate states now & I love my video calls.
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