My child came home from school and told me the boy that sits behind her called her the B word and was kicking the back of her seat and I am livid…i will NOT stand for someone calling my child such a derogorty word and the school has DONE NOTHING about this since they “dont have proof” i dont even get why kids think its okay to use such language and I am at my wits end the school is doing nothing to prevent it…what can I do?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. A child on the bus called my daughter a bad word: What can I do?
Call the bus barn and ask her seat to be moved.
Go to the school, talk to someone until u are heard.
Are you going to react every time your child gets called a name?
Teach your child to deal with mean kids because it’s going to happen whether we as parents like it or not.
You are not going to be able to prevent it. If its not one kid, it’ll be another. If you don’t want her hearing it then I suggest taking her to and from school.
School buses have cameras with audio. Your best bet is to threaten the school with a lawsuit. If you do end up having to go through with it, get the courts to subpoena to school for the video
You don’t wanna know what I would do lol cause I have no problem throwing Hands with a kid
I had to delete each thing I wrote in response to this… grow up yourself and be a mother
You can talk to the principal, go higher up then him or talk to the bus driver
All school buses are required to have cameras. Yeah?
Tell the school his name and have them speak to his parent’s. That’s disgusting
Bully behaviour. Name calling and kicking someone’s chair is also a form domestic / violence
Weather it be physical or mental or both it’s not ON!!!
Smdh…. It will
Continue to happen. Put your big girl britches on and just talk to her about it. Welcome to parenthood
Wait at the loading zone and pull the kid to the side. Tell him next time he speaks to your daughter like that… well you know the rest.
I am so confused. Why do you think you can control someone else’s behavior? There is not a single person alive who hasn’t been called names. And girl I know has been called the b word. If it isn’t this child doing it, another one will. Teach your daughter how to stick up for herself
I would go or call parents then flip out if they are not willing to do what he needs!
You will never be able to stop everything bad in the world from coming in contact with your kid. As a parent you need to tell your kids there are bad and horrible.people in the world that won’t like them. Be the bigger person walk away and not let it get to you.
Don’t put her in a box and don’t let her be self conscious about it. Be bigger and smarter about it.
Lol females get called bitches ALL the time. Stop wrapping ya kid in cotton wool and teach her to be resilient. You ain’t guna be around forever to protect her…
Kids are not always nice. It’s part of life. If it is repeated and turns into bullying then that’s a different story
Let your child know it’s a reflection of him; not her. Teach her this early and give her tools for her tool box so she can navigate this fd up world.
Talk the the bus driver
Tell your child to call them a worse name. You know nothing of reality among these vicious children. You want your child to survive public school? Make them tough and enhance their backbone. The worst thing you can do is include yourself in every little situation.
Sticks and stones.
But me personally, if it were physical I would be calling the school the bus people and talking to the parents. Yes words can be harsh. And all kids are raised different. Either turn the cheek stick up for herself or move seats.
If you have issues with school, GO to the district! Works wonders usually
Sticks and stones, my dear.
How old? I would have said that’s Ms. B to you
Look that little girl could’ve started something with that kid in pretty sure every MOM here has been called a bitch
You don’t know what she did to that kid she could be picking on that kid with her friends for all you know
You can call the bus lot where they park them and report it or let her or you give the bus driver a note telling him.I think it’s under county bus shop
Yes, schools don’t give a fuck about bullying until it’s too late.
Wait at the bus stop and handle it yourself then
Talk to the bus driver.
There’s nothing that can be done
He’s kickin the seat not your child
As far as the word…it js hear say unless someone else heard it
Prepare her cause I can almost bet it won’t be the last time
Some of y’all are silly… Instead of prepping your kids to verbally, physically or emotionally defend themselves you’d get yourselves banned, arrested or even jailed over a simple childhood quarrel.
Demand his seat be moved. Stay away from the abusive student and know how not to be towards others.
What is the school supposed to do?
How old is your kid?
You should be more concerned with her learning that anal play is normal and encourage in some elementary’s. Now that’s a whopper.
You have to tell us the age in order to know the seriousness LOL
But here’s a good lesson why A) we need to build their confidence so high that some little dipshit on the bus can’t phase them and B-don’t give cuss words so much power.
Wow!!! These comments! Y’all don’t help guide your kids and stand up for them? You just say get over it? LOL no wonder kids have so many issues nowadays. Checked out and neglectful parents. Way to advocate for your child and be their biggest supporter!!!
If the school doesn’t do anything about it just call the district they will have no choice but to investigate and take care of the problem all schools now a days have a zero tolerance for bullying
Talk to her about how those interacts are not a reflection of her. And that when it happens she needs to tell an adult right away
Kids are ass holes I understand your frustration and completely get it. But I don’t know how much can be done now that it’s done and over with. Teach your daughter to stand up for herself and that kids are mean. How old are they??
Speak to the bus company and see if he can sit else where away from your daughter
She should call him D word. Sometimes there’s no other way
learn you child to stand up for her self put that child on his place life not easy if she or he not going to stand up for them self life going to be very hard for them bullies wil know that
I would go to the class and discuss this with the teacher directly! Bullies have to be put in their place! Before it escalates!
Tell the kid to move.
Most parents have conditioned their kids to sit and stay after sitting. The kids do NOT have to sit and take it. But now you have to teach this to them.
Most of the responses here are to basically sit and take it / ignore it / tell someone… but noone remembers they can MOVE
You gonna go raise hell over every insult your child receives? Empower your child on how to deal with it herself. This low level of name calling doesn’t need raising hell at school like some kind of monster Karen. Now if he called her a cøck juggling thunder cünt I might agree with you. Everyone gets called a bitćh though, teach her how to deal with it like the rest of us. Personally I go with thanking people for calling me a bitćh. Seems to always get them to shut up and go away.
Lol good luck. My daughter got smacked in the face by A BOY on the bus. I made them pull footage. Kid didn’t get in ANY TROUBLE. They told my daughter she shouldn’t have sat in the back of the bus. She also got pulled into a bathroom by a girl and got her hair pulled before she got away and the girl got in no trouble, they all “talked it out with a counselor”… Regardless to say that was her last week going to school. These schools don’t give no shits.
Get on the bus with your daughter and have a conversation with him let’s go back to your home and you can tell mum all about the words you said to my daughter
Watch him scorwm
With fear no you can’t come to my house mum won’t let you bla bla
That’s how I’d handle it.
Nah I’m not sitting back and chalking this up to children will be children. if the school won’t handle it go find the parents and see if maybe you can work something out with them. if a child called a grown woman a bitch it’d be a different story, why???
Oh, he gonna be a problem, I suggest self defense classes and we she is ready, let her back at that mean boy.
The music industry nowadays with their disrespectful lyrics towards women, certainly doesn’t help. Plus so many kids nowadays do not have a good role model, with all these babies daddies! If you can’t love, provide, care, afford, and if you’re not interested, DON’T HAVE KIDS!!!￼￼￼￼
You’re teaching her to try to control her environment when she needs to know she cant control what others do your anger is bigger than the issue
If someone is that obscene to her she needs to know their hate comes from hate in their own lives, look them dead in the eye and tell them it must be hard being so hateful
Teach her strength that not everyone is her friend as well as the difference between feeling disrespected and being disrespected
Peoples accepting attitudes of this kind of behaviour that blows me away. You all will be the first to say there’s no difference between public and semi private or private. This post is a good reason why you’re wrong. Things happen at the catholic schools sure!! But things like this would be dealt with. Not brushed under the carpet.
Take it to the principal see how they can help
Tell your kid to tell the kid to fuck off and live will be much easier
Not much the school can do about it as there isn’t proof
I would speak to the bus driver about it
Kids are gonna be kids and can each other names
She will get called a lot worse as she gets older
Teach her to ignore them
I’m sorry, but I totally disagree with these comments to just let it go.
Always have your kids’ back. Teach her to stand up for herself. If someone starts saying that stuff to your kid, bullying is not acceptable. Teach your kids that if someone hits them, or whatever, they have your permission to stand up for themselves.
If this kid keeps picking on her, go find his parents and tell them to get their kid to knock it off or you will.
I will have zero tolerance for anyone messing with my kid. Too many young children take their lives from bullying. Do not let it go on, do something about it yourself.
Not much to do really ,
I will just talk to the driver and tell her to sit somewhere else
You can always do a Madea but warning you my Son wouldn’t speak to me for a week and him only being 5 years old made it even more awkward
Call the transportation department and ask the bus driver to assign a seat to your child away from the bully
Tell her, to tell him he gonna see a real B if he keeps messing with her
Similar situations have happened to my kids on their bus… i usually wait at the bus stop the following morning and explain to the bus driver the situation and follow that by a call to the front office
I once waited at the school gate and had a chat to a kid who was harrassing my son because the school did nothing about it. I told him I’d break every finger on his hand if he ever came near my boy again. Did I get called to the principal office? Yes. But did he never go near my son again? Also yes.
Teach her to stand up for herself!! I was bullied all through school and they didn’t leave me alone until I talked sh*t back!!
How old are these kids? What exactly do you suggest they do to “punish” this other child? Do you know what this other child’s home life is like?
There’s a child who nearly every other kid in my daughter’s grade has a problem with. At first, I was mad too. Then I found out the child’s mother abandoned him and his father just doesn’t give a crap. The school can only do so much. With the father refusing to enforce good behaviors, we all are stuck while the system handles this, which because absolute basic needs are met, nothing will be done.
It’s not always the child’s fault, especially when they’re not being taught right from wrong at home.
I told my kids…
1st tell the person to stop
2nd if they still continue, tell the adult in charge (bus driver, teacher, whoever is watching them)
3rd if nothing is done still… stand up for theirselves however they see fit (according to the situation) … I will have thier back… they might get in trouble at school, but they won’t at home
It has worked for my kids… & bullies won’t mess with them now because they know they won’t just sit & take it
It’s just a word. Either she can stand up for herself or let it go, it’s not like this changes when we get older. I ask my daughter “does it physically hurt you?” No…”does it affect anything in your life like school or sports or how you can do something?” No…”Do you know who you are as a person and treat people the way you want to be treated?” Yes….”ok then who f’ing cares what they say or think?!”
There will ALWAYS be someone, no matter what age you are that doesn’t like you or get along with you, say “mean” things or call names for whatever reason. The second you give them power over you and your emotions is the second you have lost yourself.
Also, I was raised that you have to give respect to get it, and teach her the same, but very few kids and even adults have any sort of respect these days. It’s a reflection of that person, not me.
If this became a consistent bullying situation then I would step in, but otherwise, we have to teach our kids how to handle things themselves.
Talk to the bus driver. Ask her if she has heard anything. If the child is screaming at yours they will hear. If they say they heard nothing ask them about procedures about this and where to go with complaints. First step is reporting it. Even if there is no proof,it is still a complaint that can go on record.
Not sure what state your in. When it happened to one of mine. I called the school and they sent me to bus transportation. Once I spoke with them and explained what was going on they suspended him off the bus for a week for the first offense! They Assured me if the Bulling happened again he would be off the bus for the rest of the year . It’s not ok ￼￼
All y’all that are laughing, are just dicks. It’s not ok for kids to be cussing at anyone. And all y’all saying to tell the little girl to just get use to it, I bet it’s y’all’s kids that are little dicks just like y’all. I hope a bird poops on ur head and you don’t notice all day till!
Can you ride with your child to assess the situation?
I may be the only one but I’d be hitting up this kids mom and having a “talk” with her… the dad can catch some too if he wants
Hop on that bus in the morning . And just qke an announcement. Sounds like a rugged thing to do, bit you are your babies voice and she has come to you with this problem that she cant resolve herself. Hope you figure it out mama xxx
speak to the parents , most probably coming from some adult
I woukd be going to talk to that little boy mumma and let her know that her son is a bully
Let kids be kids. If it becomes bullying, then 100% become involved and check out what’s going on. Other than that don’t become involved. It’s not your fight. It’s kid shit.
Nothing will be done by the school since it is not on school grounds
See if the buses have cameras and mics…If so, call the bus yard and let them know about the harassment…They can pull the tapes and make a complaint with the school…
Nothing…get over it! This is just the beginning…
I DESPISE children like this.
I’d follow that bus in my car and wait for him to get off … then I’d have a little “chat” with him… if his mama was there, I’d have a little “chat” with her too.
Simply tell your daughter to say “your mama’s a B word,” and see how he likes that.
Yes, I’m petty.
So they’re saying your childs words not proof?? Bloody hell! Talk to the kid yourself or its parents.
Teach your child to stand up for themselves. That’s all we can do because schools don’t do shit for bullying.
Call the department of transportation. They have the authority to ban kids from the bus for bad behavior.
My kids never won at this game. Whenever they tried to stick up for themselves, they were always punished.
Calm down and then go to the board of education and express your concern. I see where they say there’s no proof - that very much so could be a problem. Kids are going to say things that they hear in the home, on tv etc. As the adults we have to set a good example and advocate for our children. Sometimes things can’t be prevented and only addressed or corrected. If the child is old enough to have a phone, like majority of children do now, have her record her bus ride home from now on and get your proof. Ultimately, you need to be calm and give your daughter the example of how to remain cool, calm and collected while addressing life situations.
Sticks and stones lady!
As a school bus driver, ask the driver to please have your daughter sit away from this kid. Assuming you don’t have cameras inside the bus, it’s hard to hear everything that goes on.
Call his mother! This is so very wrong, and unfair to you daughter. Who I’m sure does absolutely nothing to deserve such treatment. Kids can be so bullish, and need to be taught. They only grow into bigger monsters. I know. I’ve was bullied all my school years. That I hated school so much. Please don’t let this brat have another chance to make your daughter feel bad. She deserves to enjoy going to school. I wish you much luck!
Doesnt your bus have cameras? I’m a bis driver in Montana not sure where you live but we have cameras thankfully I’ve had some crazy stuff happen. Yes the school can take care of it but the bis company should write the kid up and pull cameras.
Do not get on the bus at all it is nationally illegal for you to do something like that.
First thing to do is call the bus company they can move her or him they can discipline. It’s hard I have a really rough group of kids this year and as a driver we are responsible for these kids but so is the school they are supposed to work together on everything
Did you consider maybe the child has impulse reactions or autism or maybe another diagnosis?
My now adult children when younger is jump the ball like this but still find out if there’s something behind this or even if parents are notified or the bus company has been contacted ?
Now with 3 younger children and the 8 and 5 yr olds are ADHD and one with autism as well I’m a bit more understanding and guaranteed for parents with children that can be like this(or me anyways) it’s embarrassing and I get mortified at things my children can say and do.They do not understand feelings and emotions of others let alone there own or understand the NO straight away.They understand things in different ways and need to be approached in different ways.Confronting a young child to me has always been a big NO,NO!
This child could already have other personal issues and you could make them worse.Also teach your daughter how to ignore and walk or move away from a situation she doesn’t want to be in or near as the child could be wanting a reaction.I’m not excusing the Behavior at all but there’s ways to deal and ways to not when we don’t k ow a whole situation.
Take the matter higher
Tell your child to just ignore those types of people.
There isn’t really much else you can do
At the risk of being slated, but unfortunately there isn’t much you can do about name calling. You may not like the word and may not like people calling your child it, but at the end if the day kids are going to be kids and will continue to do so. You can ask for your child to be moved away, that will stop the kicking of course it will, but the name calling won’t. Some kids just don’t learn.
I was bullied every day on the school bus. The school would do nothing. She sat behind me with a pair of scissors and threatened to cut my hair and was called every name under the sun. She threw me across the room and badly banged my head in school and I got excluded. Couldn’t wait to leave school.
Ok so… Tell your daughter to call him a son of a bitch
Girls gotta be fierce nowadays. And shut this shit down.
Ok I’m a bitch and you’re a son of a BITCH
Then when that mom has something to say be like teach your son how to talk to girls
I got 3 boys biologically but 1 bonus daughter and I’ll be damned if they treat women with any less respect than I expect her to be treated
Lol. …welcome to school, welcome to the rest of your child’s school years. Get used to it. Teach your child to defend themselves asap and get a grip on yourself because this is the least of your worries regarding school. Trust that.
Give her a bottle of sanitiser. He does it again - she mists him. Dog train the rude child
These are the times now , nothing will be done it happens everyday to some children … Tell your child not to listen i know its hard But thats the school years now… Alll the best long way to go …
Actually teach her coping skills and learn to not care what others say bc honestly a lot of adults are bullies
Teach your child this is not okay. You will never be able to parent any one else’s kids. And in a public school environment that is going to happen. May need to look into privet schooling if you want the kids your child is surrounded with to actually have standards in their behavior. The teachers pay a lot more attention with smaller groups of kids.