A Classmate Hurt My Daughter So Severely I Had to Take Her to the ER: What Should I Do?

QUESTION:

"On Wednesday, 8-7-2020, during recess 12:45, My daughter In kindergarten was kicked in her private area by a male classmate. He was in time out for most of recess, and the incident occurred about 5 minutes before recess was over.

She cried. The teacher asked if she was ok after a few minutes of crying. She was fine. She went on about her day. Later she was asked to sit crisscross, and she said it hurt when she did but didn’t say anything.

My mom, her grandma, picked her up @ 3:30. When they got home, she went to the restroom, and my mom saw a bunch of dry blood in her underwear. She immediately called me, and I left work. I asked her what happened, and she told me.

I took her to the ER, and she ended up having to be put under anesthesia and have a procedure where she ended up needing a couple of stitches. I’ve spoken to the principal, the assistant, and counselor, and the only thing I’ve asked for was for either the school or the child’s parents to be responsible for paying for medical bills and the child to be removed from that classroom. They will not do either.

They gave me the option to remove MY child, which I refuse too. Why should I move her and mess up her schedule? It’s already been tough not ending pre-K like a normal school year, and having to do remote learning. She’s already used to her teacher and classmates.

I’m at a loss. Should I just give in and move her classrooms? Should I withdrawal her from school? Should I fight it legally? Btw we live in Texas. I also don’t have any information in regards to the little boy; I only have his first name. They will not disclose ANY information."

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“I think I’d contact the police and file legal charges against the little boy. Then I’d sue the the school and the parents of the child for medical and pain & suffering expenses. The police will gather the information needed on the child. I’d then go for a restraining order against the child forcing the child to be moved from the classroom.”

“I would file a police report if it was my child. That is completely unacceptable and the fact that the school is being kind of nonchalant about it would make me fume!”

“Um I would personally be calling the district office and speaking to the superintendent. If they didn’t rectify the problem I would be getting a lawyer and suing the school district because they failed to protect your daughter. I would also be calling child services on the school for it (yes, you can do that!). Your child was assaulted at school which resulted in her female reproductive organs being damaged and needing medically repaired. I say sue them for the costs of medical expenses and I would go for extra money to cover the pain and suffering of your child also. She needs to know that she is going to be safe no matter what.”

“I’d file a police report and contact a lawyer.”

“Press charges on the little boy. He injured your daughter, and resulted in her having to have a surgical procedure. As long as you have documentation of the incident and hospital visit, it should be no problem. Also, you should be able to sue the parents for the amount of the medical bills.”

“ANY child that has that much rage to kick another child with enough force to make them bleed, needs HELP. Something isn’t right at home, and the parents should be held responsible for their kid’s behavior.”

“You can report it to the police so they have a file, then take the file to small claims court and sue the parents for medical bills and emotional distress.”

“That’s absolutely shocking, the kindergarten should be more responsible and the parents of the other child should be held responsible as well because that kid must have kicked your little girl with some force that is not normal behaviour. I’d get them reported and if necessary take legal action. Your child should not be put in a position where she is vulnerable at her own kindergarten and can’t feel safe.”

“I’d definitely file a police report. I mean I’m sure it was an accident. They are little. And kids don’t know how serious things like that are. But the school and or parents should be paying for that…”

“I’m sure your daughter knows who this boy is. Have her point him out and I’d be waiting at the school for this boy’s parents.”

“Definitely file a police report! And threaten to sue for medical expenses if they refuse to. Also, I would definitely be fighting with the school to get that kid out of the class!”

“It sounds as if you need legal advice. If the principal refuses to handle this I would go to the superintendent or maybe call children’s protective services. Don’t let it go find out the boy’s parents name and talk with them. Be persistent.”

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I would file a police report

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I would file a police report if it was my child. That is completely unacceptable and the fact that the school is being kind of nonchalant about it would make me fume!

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I’d file police report and contact a lawyer.

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Omg thats horrendous! Poor little love. Go to the Police about it I think. Id remove her from the school altogether to keep her safe…they clearly don’t care for her safety! Xx

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I wish u luck my daughters gtube was purposely pulled put by another student. Snd I was told it was my fault for sending her with a gtube. None of our medical bills were paid for and we eventually had to pull her out of school and home school cause they couldn’t keep the kids from messing with her and they were never punished for do anything. Hopefully u can find a lawyer

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File a report and go to the parents and take them to court for her medical bulls

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Go to the police. Protect your child.

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I’d definitely file a police report. I mean I’m sure it was an accident. They are little. And kids don’t know how serious things like that are. But the school and or parents should be paying for that…

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Definitely file a police report! And threaten to sue for medical expenses if they refuse to. Also I would definitely be fighting with the school to get that kid out of the class!

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Police and local news.

I will kill the child who hurt mine if I was the mom😡sorry the mom blood in me is boiling while reading this

That’s absolutely shocking, the kindergarten should be more responsible and the parents of the other child should be held responsible as well because that kid must have kicked your little girl with some force that is not normal behaviour. I’d get them reported and if necessary take legal action. Your child should not be put in a position where she is vulnerable at her own kindergarten and can’t feel safe.

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Things happen at school. I don’t know enough about the situation but calling the police on a 5 yr old is NUTS especially when the child didn’t say she was hurt If she had said my private parts hurt action Would have been taken. I feel bad for the little girl but sounds like the school took the appropriate action at the time.

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I would go straight to the parents and let them know that what their child did caused damage and surgery. I would start with the parents first and then if they act like it’s no big deal file a police report and sue

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File a police report and contact a lawyer.

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Call the police and get a lawyer

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File a police report and get a lawyer. The school should protect your child

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File the police report sue the boys parents

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It sounds as if you need legal advise. If the
Principal refuses to handle this I would go to the superintendent or maybe call children’s protective services. Don’t let it go find out the boy’s
Parents name and talk with them. Be
Persistent

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Oh screw that! File a police report, go to the superintendent, do not them let penalize your child! Omg! I would be freaking out! Good luck mama.

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You need to talk to the School board. If they don’t do anything then go to the law enforcement.

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Get a lawyer ASAP! Fight for your baby!!! He could’ve done an insane amount of damage!!

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I would go back and see what you signed at the beginning of the year, there was probably something about liability. If my child was pushed and broke their arm, I wouldn’t expect the other parent to pay for it. Unless the child has done this a bunch of times, he is 5 and was probably just randomly kicking. You don’t say anything that makes it sound malicious.

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File a police report and have copy sent to the school administer as well every member on the school board with a notice of a pending lawsuit. Tell other parents and attend the school board meeting!

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My daughter last year had a child hit n push her so hard this child hard enough to break her wrist n the school wouldn’t do anything about it!!

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Police immediately and an attorney.

That could be considered sexual assault

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Go to the school and let them know you will be hiring a lawyer and file a police report. As a matter of fact I would have a police officer escort you to the school so they can get statements from teachers, principals etc. Let the school know you are not backing down. My son was tackled at school and had to have xrays on his ribs bc the school nurse thought they were broken. They were just bruised. The school wouldn’t even set up a meeting with the other parents. Its pathetic

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Go above them and say the other kid assaulted your child and your child needed SURGERY to fix what he did to her on her VAGINA. Make a police report aswell because I initial reports will help to make official dates of when this problem began

Get a lawyer. A lawyer can file suit against the school and the parents. Do not wait any longer

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Totally unacceptable! I’m sure if the school isn’t giving out information about the child I’m sure they won’t either about the parents…maybe you need to take legal action I would

Email, don’t call, the superintendent. If that doesn’t get you anywhere get an attorney. This is totally unacceptable.

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I would call the police. Then ask what the options i could have.

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They should have an intervention with a little boy and your daughter and his mom and you and find out what happened so what doesn’t happen again

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Take there ass to court immediately!

Oh hell no! Id be suing them and taking them for everything they have! Me personally, id just find somewhere else to take her. If you do get a lawyer and fight it, that kid might make it hard on her. You def wouldnt want her getting bullied. Kids are mean nowadays.

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GET A LAWYER! There is so much wrong with the situation that I don’t even know where to start. I would’ve snapped the hell out of this happened to my child. It’s time to let the law handle this and not the school. That was assault and the little boy should be removed. PERIOD.

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1 make sure school has a record of what had happened … 2 go to the board of Ed … 3 lawyer up

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Terrible get you a very good lawyer

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Hire a Lawyer and sue the school and teacher for not getting ahold of you. And not working with you on this problem. They need to pay medical expenses and make the boys parents pay up also. The parents should actually pay for medical expenses

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File a fucking charge with the police department

I would get a lawyer! You’re poor girl :disappointed:

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Start paper trail. Email back and forth, medical records. Make a police report

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Police report, take her to the er and then lawsuit for both school and parents

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I’m sorry this happened to your lil girl. That must be very traumatic for her. However, I highly doubt the other child meant to cause that much damage and it wasn’t until the child’s grandmother observed her using the restroom that ANYONE realized the extent of the injury. It seems as though the school handled it to the best of their ability by placing the child in timeout and checking on your daughters well being— she said she was fine, right? I understand wanting/expecting the other family or the school to cover medical expenses but unfortunately that’s just not how it works. I was pushed off the jungle gym at recess and broke my arm when I was younger and my parents were responsible for my hospital bills. Unless you can prove negligence on the schools part, I don’t think there is much more that can be done. It’s unfortunate and again my heart goes out to your lil one, but kids that young play rough and do things that us as adults know are damaging— but kids do not. I’m sure the school has spoken to the boys parents and the kicking issue is being addressed at home. If your kid likes the school and the teacher and her classmates, take her feelings into consideration. You could end up pulling her and placing her in a place where she isn’t happy, in a sense punishing her for something she didn’t do.

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Call the cops. Go to the superintendent and make them fix it. Shit, call your newspaper.

Get a lawyer and fight it and tell the school you will be getting a lawyer.
I went thru something similar with my daughter and they said to move my child and I told them that’s fine i will get a lawyer and the school decided to do the right thing.

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Sue! Call a lawyer get the cops involved if this was my kid the school would be shut down!

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I would go to the school district head honcho . Gets some butts fired. the sd

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My son was 14 and 3 18 year old juice after school beat him up and I made the school give me the parents address and I went and talked to the parents

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Definitely get a lawyer. That is absolutely ridiculous and the school should be taking it so much more serious! And the parents of the male student NEED to do something or be held accountable.

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Personally I’d call the local news and make a BIG deal out of it since the school doesn’t give af lets see if they care when their names out there :woman_shrugging:

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You better fight like hell mama! Schools will push you around if they know they can. The squeaky wheel gets the grease as my mom always told me. Make noise & make it a big deal & they’ll wanna do whatever to keep you quiet. Threaten to take it to the media because this shit will rip them up. That’s unacceptable! She needed stitches for Christ sake, it wasn’t a simple shove to the ground or something petty. So I’d be at the school losing my shit & refusing to leave until it’s handled or I’d be telling them I’ll see you on the 5 o’clock news with my lawyer & we will see how shit gets handled then.

& if I’m just being honest here… I have a temper over my kids. I would have probably found out who the boy was & showed up at his house & beat his moms ass over it if she didn’t take over the medical bills & force her son to apologize. I know I’d end up in some sort of trouble because this would have SET ME OFFFFF. I’m pissed off for YOUR daughter let alone if it happened to my own. You fight for her mama. Do not give in. SHE isn’t the problem & doesn’t need moved period. HE clearly is a little asshole whose parents didn’t teach him not to hit girls let alone not to fucking kick someone there. My kids are little & they all know better. They know if they’re in DANGER, & someone wants to hurt you THEN you aim there. But you NEVER intentionally for no real reason kick or hit someone there EVER. & had it been my son who did it, I’d more than gladly take responsibility & he would be giving the most sincere apology to your daughter AND to you. That wouldn’t get pushed under a rug as “typical kid behavior” my son would learn from that because it wouldn’t happen again & id be making sure he knew that.

Police report and lawyer up . That’s horrible

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Omg my heart ! File a report so the police can get involved! They can get the information!

I wouldn’t back down! And I wouldn’t remove her, she didn’t ask to be kicked. I understand stuff happens but this was major

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Make sure that you have the medical documents with you. Make copies for your legal council.

I would file a police report and take legal action

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Take it up with the court system, hold him and the school accountable.

Hire an attorney and file a lawsuit against the school system. It happened on their property. They are responsible.

Flie a police report. The file a small claims court case for any of your out of pocket expenses. I would also reach out to lawyer that’s assault and schools are supposed to have zero tolerance for violence. That child should be removed from the school. Don’t let it go just because they school isn’t taking action. Call the local news do whatever it takes to get this issue addressed. I hope your daughter is doing well. Good luck and stand your ground!!

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Keep all medical documents, go to the superintendent of your school district, and raise absolute hell about it

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First off, why are you asking people on Facebook? I’m sure there is a school board or entity over all of the schools. I had Anne patience with a teacher humiliating my 3rd grade daughter. I made calls, went to the school, and handled it. Problem solved. She was moved to another classroom.
If it hadn’t been handled, I would have made a police report

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Absolutely complete a police report. Go to the Superintendent and advise you will 100% make this public knowledge and threaten to go to every media outlet you can if they dont handle this accordingly.

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Oh hell the fuck no. I’d be talking to police and taking it to the school board and demanding they remove the child who assaulted your daughter.

Lawyer and media involved

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Fight it…that is so wrong he and his parents need to pay for what he has done to your innoscent little girl

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This is why my children will never be in public school. Unfortunately, it’s pretty normal for public schools to not do anything when things like this happen and try to sweep things under the rug.

I would consult a lawyer and get advice from them about what you should do.

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Lawyer up
They hate that.

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File a police report and lawyer up

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Sue the school, and the parents.

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First check the beginning of the year paperwork as schools have loop
Holes. I’m a teacher. Call the superintendent, Then File a report…

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:flushed::face_with_hand_over_mouth: This is an awful story. I’d be horrified. Sorry to read this. Seems like the school should show more concern. I can’t imagine her sitting at school for the rest of the day bleeding like that :flushed::face_with_hand_over_mouth::cry:

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Schools can’t do that. You have to go to court

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Definitely don’t let this go, what if she had issues later or it happens to someone else. The schools do nothing because the issues aren’t pressed. You need to be persistent and I would most definitely fill out a police report, talk to a lawyer and the school board.

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Sue those assholes big time!

If she takes this to court you are looking at an insane amount of stress. Like people are saying, reports, call police, provide school records, health records, etc… Then you have the other side, the defense. The girl said she was fine. Time went by. They will say this could have happened after the fact. That since the girl said she was fine that something else happened. The mother does have a right to sue but she better make sure that money is worth causing her child and family and herself that extra stress. That’s just how the system works.

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Go to your local news and raise hell.

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If you have your lawyer call and also sue the parents

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Sue the school! For incompetence and sue the parents for medical and insist that child has counseling he is too young to be that aggressive he needs a behavioral evaluation I work in special education so I know the signs

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This makes me so :rage: the schools response is disgusting!
Maybe go over the schools head, school board or something. Really hope your little one is ok xx

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Yes get s lawyer your child was hurt at school , somebody needs to be responsible for this keep all papers call the police nobody needs to get hurt like that and sue the school for not helping you in this matter, …

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Press charges. File a police report.

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Hire an attorney and go after the school and parents. That little boy is not stable

Definitely contact superintendent and if nothing gets done there be sure to let him know you will be contacting a lawyer asap! Thats is BS!

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Time to lawyer up and tell the school. They’ll be singing a different tune.

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Lawyer up for sure. I’d sue the shit out of those parents for raising a disrespectful son who thinks its ok to hurt a female!

File a police report and press charges.

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I would involve the police and file a report. Get yourself a lawyer and sue

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This is freaking KINDERGARTEN!!!
That means that another little boy your daughters age hurt your daughter.
It wasn’t a grown up, it wasn’t assault. It’s not a freaking crime.
Children are children. Accidents happen. And they happen even in the most prestigious school.
Why are you gonna sue the school? Are you expecting them to shadow every single child?, to shadow every one of their moves?
Why do you want the parents to be responsible?
Where they there rooting for their son to beat your daughter up?
If you want your daughter to be 100% safe, keep her at home. Where no one can touch her.
I cringe every time I see parents like you.
I bet you would feel a lot more understanding if it was your daughter the one with the issue.
TEACH YOUR DAUGHTER GO BE FORGIVING AND THAT ACCIDENTS DO HAPPEN.
Instead of going all Karen in everyone.

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Ummmmm call the school and get the police involved that is so not ok and did you take her for x-rays???

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Get a lawyer and press charges against the school if they won’t give you the parents names

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Why should you move your child when it was another child that did it to her. That’s ridiculous! That’s punishing the wrong person in the situation. And the person definitely need to pay the medical bills, as well as teach their son better actions. I’m sorry this happened to your daughter !

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Sounds to me like you need legal help

I would take them to court and involve the police, file a report on the situation.

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A student fractured my ribs and what the school told you is exactly what my school told my dad. My dad didn’t fight it. The principal just made the student tell me she was sorry. It took years for my ribs to heal as there’s nothing they could do about it. You can go above the principle. That’s what a school board is for. But yes, if you think your daughter is in further danger from this child, take your daughter out. Her used to the teacher and her schedule doesn’t take president over your daughters safety. Talk to a lawyer to find out your rights.

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Fight it. The boy and his parents should be responsible. The boy cause her to have to have stitches, it’s not like the boy and her was playing and then he accidentally kicked her, and even if they was playing together there shouldn’t be a reason that the private area be kicked maybe a leg but not privates. He could do it to other kids just as well so they need to do something about that as well.

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This stuff happens at school all the time with kids. You can try and sue the school or the parents but I dont think you will win. This was a Accident move on…You cant keep her on a bubble.

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Make them pay. Parents and school system. Seek legal counsel.

File a police report

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