I’d ignore anyone who thought so negatively about me. Arrangements between you and your husband that you’re both happy with are none of her business.
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Nope. My husband took our girls and left so I could be at home alone 
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I don’t think that it’s really a black and white situation. We all have our own unique situations. I have 50/50 custody with my ex so half the time my babe isn’t here. So I would’ve loved to have that day with her but it didn’t work out that way this year. I remember when we were together feeling so burnt out despite having help, once a week I’d have him take her out to the park or something so I could have some alone time. So no, I don’t think you’re a bad mom. I think we all need some alone time. In some cases that alone time is forced/not by choice but that doesn’t invalidate your feelings or your situation.
Let me get this straight. After taking care of your kids daily for how many years you got some alone time to do something you like to do? No cooking? No cleaning? No taking care of everyone else but you for once?
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A BIG 
to your MIL, from me personally. How ridiculous and toxic.
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Your husband sent you out for a few hours for your mother’s day present. Don’t feel guilty. Her hateful comments are her being jealous, her husband probably never did something as nice for her. My granddaughter gets a spa day for Mother’s day from her husband. There’s nothing wrong with it. I hope you enjoyed your day.
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I spent Mother’s Day in Punta Cana … kids back in Canada … no regrets lol
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I spent the whole day at work. I left before the kids were even awake. Having a day to yourself sounds like a nice mothers day gift 
dont feel guilty
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It’s your day to do what you want! You made those kids not the other way around.
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Tell your mother in law to go pound rocks. It’s between you and your family. Not her
And what did your husband respond and say back to her… ? the only acceptable response would have been ok if that’s what you think it’s time to leave because as a mother yourself you know Dan well thats a sh!tty thing to say. 
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If your MIL is so perfect, why wasn’t her son spending time with her? She had to come to his house. She needs to mind her business.
Don’t listen to her this was your day to pamper yourself and relax, I hope you have a wonderful day
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She does need to stay out of their business. Her spouse should back her up and tell his Mom he would rather not talk about his wife.
you mother in law sound like a nosey @#$%& , giving yourself part of the day is not selfish sometimes us moms need to recharge our batteries , i think it makes us a better mom, you cant pour from a empty cup my friend , thats why on an airplane they tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your child, i hope your husband defended you to his mother
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Girl nawl!!! For real!! It took me til I was almost 40 and seeing a therapist who is trying to engrain in my head that “me time” is an absolute necessity and every one deserves it. It’s Mother’s Day, and if your hubby told you to do it, then thats ALL THE MORE REASON!! I once went fishing for sun up to sun down, in a boat, away from everybody bc it’s the one day no one had a right to say a damn thing!!!
Don’t mind her. You spent part of day with them. She is probably just jealous
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Ignore her, she mad cause her husband never said that, don’t let nobody tell you about your family, not even the mil
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Super weird to say a kid made you a mom… their daddy did that 
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Tell her to look in the mirror. If you’re a bad mom for not spending time with your kids why wasn’t she doing the same. If she has no words for that then she can shove it where the sun don’t shine.
No need to feel guilty. You deserved a day for yourself!
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your mother in law!! Do you for a day:heart:
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Oh wow…don’t feel quilts it was Mother’s day we are entitled to enjoy the day any way we want…that’s why it’s called Mothers Day. …are children usually have us every other day…
Your mother inlaw should mind her business…you deserve to pamper yourself your a full time mommy do not feel guilty
So… I took a trip to Austin, TX to see my lifetime best friend last Friday thru late last night. (I live in PA) I NEEDED this trip… For my own sanity. I thank God everyday for my kids … Not just once a year.
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It sounds like a perfect Mothers day to me. Its not like you went out early in the morning and didn’t see your kids, You spent the morning with them and then went and did what you wanted which is the way it should be. And you had dinner with them so well done, In my eyes you are a great mum as you spent time with the family and did what you wanted to do. Just Ignor the MIL.
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Your monster n law sounds horrible.
The way I see it Mother’s Day is supposed to be YOUR day. Your day to do what you want and if that means a day away from the kids and you can do it then good for you. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for that. We spend everyday with our kids and we shouldn’t have to feel bad for wanting to do something for ourselves one day a year.
You are not a bad mom for loving yourself enough to know you deserve self care. Your husband recognized that it’s something you needed and made it so you could do those things. That’s a beautiful thing that some partners don’t recognize.
Society has this major misconception that just because you’re a mom you have to sacrifice everything, your identity, your boundaries, and self worth. But the reality is you can’t be at your best for children and family unless you take care of yourself.
The fact that you care enough to be concerned that this is could be an issue shows your a good mom. Don’t let someone take that away from you 
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Mil can mind her business
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Sounds like you had a great day to me other than your mother in law making rude comments. You spent time with your kids & husband and you got to go out and pamper yourself! Enjoy what you got to do and forget the negative comment from your mother in law!
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You took a few hours to go out and get yourself some tlc we all need it sometimes
Don’t feel guilty
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I spent MOST of the entire day alone!
Daughter and youngest son spent the day playing at the park (check in every hour as we only live a couple blocks away and she has a phone) while the Hubby took my oldest boy around town to mow the yards he’s being paid to mow weekly (up to 5 so far)
I got to lay around, enjoy the peace and quiet, & watch MY guilty pleasure tv shows without having to hear complaints.
We ended the night with everyone helping to make dinner, everyone helped clean up, then we watched tv together.
Mom Guilt is the WORST… don’t beat yourself up beautiful…
And remind MIL that she done raised her kids, now let you raise yours 
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Shame on her for not helping with the kids more often to give you some alone time. We can only be the “best” mom when we are able to be our best self. Sometimes that means taking a time out for you.
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Old ladies don’t like our husbands helping out because theirs didn’t help them. They should be proud of the thoughtful sons they raised instead of trying to make us feel bad.
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Sounds wonderful!
You started and ended the day with your family, and took a little time out of the middle for yourself!
Your MIL is probably jealous 
Nope not a bad Mom and who is she to Judge … do you boo
Sounds like jealousy to me. Just because you & hubby made your sweet kids doesn’t mean you get no time off. It’s suppose to be our day.
I think it’s rude she even said that. Our society acts like being a mom has to be your only character trait. It’s not true.
It’s these posts that make me so grateful to have the mil I have. Your day sounds perfect and balanced with family and your “me time”. Every Sunday I’m gone all morning until about noon (my me time gym and seeing friends) then it’s family time, we need our time to stay mentally healthy. It’s ok that our lives can be more than our title of “mom”, it doesn’t mean we love our kids any less. 
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Tell her to live her life the way she wants and you will do the same! Besides, her son sent you out for your Mother’s Day gift…none of her damned business!
Do not feel guilty this was your husband way of giving you A Mother’s Day of pampering !
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Nope. I ordered tacos and drank mimosas and spent most the day chillin in my comfy bed watching whatever I wanted
You deserved a break!! Dont feel guilty at all!!
Tell mother in law to mind her own bussiness and not yours. No your not a bad mom
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Mother’s Day is how mom wants to spend it! So your mom should butt out! My mom wanted my kids to spend the weekend with her so I was alone on Mother’s Day it was my first time without them in 2 months. Moms need breaks & deserve to treat ourselves. Don’t feel guilty! It’s her opinion not a fact. Don’t let it get to you.
No, it is your day so you get to spend it how you want 
plus you started and ended the day with your family.
You are not a bad Mum! That’s so beautiful of your Hubby to suggest you have that alone time. I was away from my family doing what I love, crafting. I personally believe I come home a better Mum & Wife having that down time.
Typical response from a jealous MIL I’d say!
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Why do moms care what MIL says so much?
Seems ro me that what your house decided you needed for mother’s day was time with your kids in the morning and whatever that entails, followed by some alone time for momma to do the things momma likes, (meanwhile the kids got to spend quality time with dad who’s usually working…win-win) finished off with a mother’s day family dinner.
Sounds like a great day for all
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Hopefully hubby told her that it was his idea and to stay in her lane an but out.
You have nothing to feel bad about your husband gave you something special,have you hubby tell her it was his idea
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My rule on Mother’s Day is it’s MY DAY! I don’t even go visit my own mother on Mother’s Day I spend it how I WANT! It’s the only day I can put myself first since I give my everything to my kids. I don’t care if anyone judges me for wanting that one day where I wanna be selfish for myself….My boys came out of MY BODY!!! I sacrificed and continue to sacrifice for them daily so I don’t give a 
what anyone thinks…. It’s my day!
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You have nothing to feel guilty about ! It’s your day
No it doesn’t make u a bad mom
Your MIL could just be old fashioned. She needs to catch up with the times. Considering you still made time with your family and then wanted sometime for yourself which is necessary (self-care), sounds pretty perfect. Have you talked to your husband about this? If not I think you should. Your MIL stepped over the line. She needs to be put in her place by your husband. Don’t feel guilty. You sound like a pretty terrific mom and wife.
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The agreement was between you and your husband. You deserve it momma!! Do not feel bad. Your kids are taken care of and loved. She’s obviously jealous to speak of you that way. Time alone or treating yourself should not be frowned upon! I bet your babies were happy to see you happy.
Please do not feel guilty, as a mother who can’t get a break, I miss doing things for myself. It’s important! You need to take care of you in order to take care of them, it’s extremely difficult to pour from an empty cup girlfriend!
Hell no!!! You are there day in and day out. Mother’s Day isn’t “ spend time with your kids day “ it’s MOTHERS DAY which means spend it how ever the hell you want cuz it’s a day of appreciation of all the BS we go through everyday. So if that means spending the day doing what you love then that’s amazing!
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Don’t feel guilty at all you deserve that screw her for making you feel that way we are moms 24/7
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I can actually see both sides of the argument
As a Nan I would want to spend the day with my kids and my grand kids
But on the other hand
Is mom’s and nan’s need some my time
Sounds like MIL needs to mind her business in her own household. Don’t mind her maybe she’s envious she didn’t have the same opportunity during the raising of her children.
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Nope. You had every right to go out and they wanted you to go and enjoy yourself. Forget her opinions on you. She is just judgey
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Get out and have your fun.
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Not your mil’s business. I think it was absolutely lovely of your husband! I’ll bet every day is kid’s day at your house, and you are a better mom and wife for having this small break.
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I asked my kids to leave me alone this weekend… it’s our day to do with wut we please and if that happens to be without the kids, so be it
Hope you didn’t let your mother-in-law spoil your day. You spent time with your children and then your husband took some Dad time with the children. Works for you and him. Mother-in-law was out of line.
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Nah she’s an ass don’t listen to her
It’s mother’s day not children’s day
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No, you are not a bad Mom!
You are an excellent Mother!
Everything that you do for them day in and day out makes you a terrific Mom!
To take a day off and self soothe is highly recommended!
To heck with MIL!
Maybe forbid her to enter your home to visit for awhile.
There are no “Grandparents Law.”
I would not allow her to see the children.
Then she will not Judge you anymore.
My own Mother never cared for us children.
I also would never leave my children with her!
I am not going to argue with you all.
My opinion is based on my experience.
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She just jealous. I would have loved to have the day to myself.
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Never feel Quilty for having timeout, you were you b4 a wife/partner/mum
Ummm
No way silly
Mothers Day is for celebrating it however you want
She’s a bad mom for making a mom feel bad on Mother’s Day
Don’t question it for another minute
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As a mother and a mother in law, I feel she’s way out of line. Mothers Day is a day of appreciation. Seeing as your kids are still young and living in your home, and you see them everyday, do all the mom things, then your reward should be to get out of the house, and get some alone time.
When your children are gone from the home, then a day spent with them would probably be more suited to your wants. Not saying that you don’t like spending everyday with your kids. But your wants change over time. You want need that break anymore when they’re moved out.
Sorry for such a long comment.
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You are not a bad mom!! She sounds so toxic. Don’t pay any mind to her, just do you. You are doing a good job with those kids and you deserved having a day doing what you want/love.
Do what you want to do on mother’s day.
This is why I’m glad my in laws are not in our life🤦🏼♀️
You have nothing to be ashamed of ! You spent time with them but as a mom how many days do you ever get to do what you did. She needs to mind her own bet she didn’t spend every minute of the day with her kids 
It’s your life not hers. Ignore her suggestions. You know what’s right. If your family is happy you’ve done your job.
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Ummm no mothers day is a day if you can you need to take some you time. She can kick rocks
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Hahah you probably spend every single day with the kids…. You do what you want to do 
it’s your day, mil is probably jealous she never got to do those things
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Not a bad mum, you had some personal day. 1 out of how many
Omg it’s celebrating YOU not mean you have to be with kids. Honestly if I could have I would left the entire day to do things I love spending morning and evening is a great thing. Don’t listen to her.
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She’s probably just mad cause she doesn’t get to do it!! Don’t feel guilty! You definitely deserve it! Us moms need a little me time at some point! Your a great mom!
What did your husband say to his mom when she said that? That’s what I want to know!
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Girl if you don’t go and live your best life 
what MIL talkin about!!!
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Everyday is Mother’s Day, we get one day a year to do what we want imo. Don’t feel bad, sounds like you had a great day. Let your MIL do her Mother’s day her way. I’m proud of you for taking care of you!!
Lmao well did she spend ALL day with ALL her kids from the moment she woke up to the moment she lied down for bed too? Seems like she’s the only one who cares.
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Na. It’s your day.
You spent every other 364 days with them.
Tell her to shush
I’m glad you enjoyed your day! But wondered where you could get a manicure on Sunday!
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Wow!!! She’s rude AF!!! 
no! Do not feel bad! It’s your mother’s day. Spend it how ever you please. Judgy much MIL! Tell her to kick rocks and go home! She’s obviously a miserable human and is trying to spread her yuck. Don’t buy into it! If your happy that’s all that’s important.
Sounds like your mil needs to keep her business to herself. Did she really say it though?
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Girl tell her Joan Cleaver ass to shut up
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Mother’s Day. The ('s) means possession. So breaking it down it’s your day. If it’s your day then you have the right to do as you please. Tell her to find her some business.
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A mother that takes care of herself is not a bad mom. Your mil can shove it up her a** and shut her mouth. She wouldn’t be welcome back in my house for calling me a bad mother for taking a damn day to myself.
Na mumma you’re aloud to have fun. And do self care IT’S WHAT KEEPS US SANE. 
& Just a quick tip .
You don’t DO NOT need toxic people like that in you’re life.!!!
Take a step back from her or she will really reap havoc on you’re mental health.
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Tell your mother in law to mind her own bissnus . Tell her to go back to her own house and stay there . Everyone does different things on mothers day its your day and you have the right to spend your day doing what ever you feel like .
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She sucks! Mothers Day is your time!
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First things first you must take care of you
It’s your day & your business.
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You were celebrating you so she mad she’ll get over it I hope you had a real good time
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